You know, most of the time I am very open minded, but
Posted By: They said what on 2009-02-19
In Reply to: If you understood their culture... - sm
I really have a few things to say about that.
I don't expect people to give up their culture when they come here, but they shouldn't be allowed to FORCE it on everyone else.
I have my own culture and so do the rest of you. Comments like that trying to sound so PC upset me because we are expected to give up our culture to pander to those who cannot adapt and overcome.
We live in the USA. It has a nickname. It is called the "Great American Melting Pot". Hello? Do we not know what that means? Yes, every race in religion in the world has been welcomed here. What happens to stuff when you put it in a pot and boil it? It blends together and turns into something different. How can it be a melting pot when everyone wants to retain every single aspect of their former life? That was not the intention of the founders of our country.
That said, I will tell you WHY it is wrong to expect someone to understand another person's culture. My great grandparents came here from Ireland and Germany. From the time they got here, they were expected to obey the laws here, regardless of their religion or what they did back in their old country. They were expected to learn English--and they did those things. It is an insult to my ancestors when I see people come here and EXPECT to be catered to. My ancestors worked very hard. They only got what they worked for all their lives. No one provided them with an interpreter every time they went to the store, the bank, the post office or the doctor. They also had holidays others didn't understand and had native languages that others didn't understand. It was reserved for home use.
Do I usually complain about ESLs? NOPE. If they are actually trying I give them a break. Some of them that I have been transcribing for years have actually improved tremendously. Others, you can tell don't care if you can understand them and they have continued with the same issues for years.
I would not go to a foreign country and expect them to understand my culture, my religion, my customs or my language. I would expect to learn theirs.
Being politically correct is a lie. If it looks like a duck, acts like a duck and quacks like a duck--it must be a duck! I will not call it something else to make someone more comfortable.
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Others might see it as straddling the fence. If you are an adult and don't know where you stand on the question of god/spirituality/religion, then you should not respond to postings and criticize others' beliefs. If you truly were open minded, you would read, learn, think, decide, and respect others' rights to do the same.
You might have to copy and paste to open this, as I tried a few times and it does not open. SM
It is worth looking at and warms your heart.
you are close-minded...sm
What about these other dogs such as German shepards and Rotties, and even some of the little ones like my sister's boston terrier that tried to attack my son? I didn't get angry. I just said you know I know she is sweet with ya'll but she has to stay outside when I go over because she is aggressive towards other people. I have had a poodle try to bite me. I don't ever get mad at the owners cause I know these dogs are gentle and kind with them, but I am not familiar and it is doing what its instincts are, which is to protect its territory and owners. My beagle does not like other female dogs. She will try to bite. If you knew this sweet little beagle you would say no way would she try to bite but with another female dog yes she will. ANY dog can bite. ANY dog can be dog aggressive. ANY dog can be people aggressive. But lets face it, the pit is prejudiced becaues it is a pit. It is a big muscular scary looking dog. So therefore it has no right to share the instincts most dogs have? It isn't a pit thing, it's a dog thing. Banning dogs is unfair. If we are gonna ban dogs then lets be fair and ban ANY aggressive dog. If that was the case and we banned all breeds who showed any aggression we wouldn't have any breeds left because all dogs can be aggressive.
Sounds quite narrow-minded to me.
Just asked my DD how many pregnant girls she knows of and she answered 0. I guess there could be some in the circles that she doesn't run in, because she really is a "Good Girl".
Closed-minded people..
Did you ever think that perhaps she was using birth control pills, and perhaps even condoms?? You should know that neither of these methods are 100% effective, being in this field. And she is able to take responsibility for her child because she has the finances to do so..she isn't one of these women popping out child after child and living off of the government. I wish people would get off of their high horse and stop scoffing at the girl just because she ended up pregnant at 16. Sure, it might have been a mistake for her, but I don't see why everyone should come down on her when she is obviously doing the right thing. I would hate to see your daughter get pregnant at 16. But I can hear your reply now: My daughter wouldn't be having sex at 16. Or so you think.
How can some people be so absent-minded in their young age???!!sm
Make a long story short, I have a "best" friend who is so scatterbrained I'm about sick of it. I have 3 small children. She has 3 kids, youngest is 10. She works from home, the other 2 are older, out of the house. She calls me a few times a week and we'll talk for about 30 minutes. She will go on and on and then I will go on and on and she NEVER remembers anything I tell her! I'll say, "well, I have to go pack for this weekend," and she'll say, "This weekend?? Why are you packing for this weekend?!" When we could have had 5 conversations about my anniversary coming up and going away for the weekend. Thank God she wasn't the one keeping our kids or something. She NEVER, EVER remembers birthday parties, parties, dinner parties, etc., even though I will send her an invite and talk to her on the phone about it!! I ALWAYS go to her parties, ALWAYS. She only lives 10 minutes away. Fast forward. My son's 5 year old birthday party is this weekend. Guess what? I called her today to see if she is coming and bringing her daughter and she says, "What?! It's tomorrow?? What time?" I got so mad I almost hung up. I sent the invitations 2 weeks ago AND she told me she received it. We just talked about his party earlier in the week. This is it. Seriously. I'm not calling her anymore. This is ridiculous.
A true friend should remember important dates and just have a little common courtesy of actually listening if they are going to talk with you. I could go on and on, but I won't.
If you go to her house stuff is just everwhere. She has 3 different phones (home, work, cell), all ringing at the same time, mail everywhere, and just totally unorganized. I'm not saying all of my ducks are in a row, but jeez, it stresses me out just thinking about being so scatterbrained - It wouldn't bother me too much if she didn't claim me to be one of her closest friends. As hard as this is to swallow, I don't think she really does consider me a close friend. A close friend should at least show they care...........
sounds immature and simple minded; treat him as such.
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nothing is open
I would take her to gynecologist...seriously.
yo, please open up your brain.....
 
I don't see why you would have to open a separate--sm
account just to deposit that check. Once the bank cashes the check, you get the money. If there are not sufficient funds, that will go against HIM, not YOU. He will have to pay the extra fees, etc. to have the check clear. You get your money, either way. They cannot take it away from you if there is not enough money in HIS account.
Thanks for the suggestions! Am definitely open to others. nm
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....here. Maybe the windows will be open if it's
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I was reluctant to open this...
for fear of the unimaginable...Thanks for posting this adorable guy! AWWWW
I had open RNY in May...Best thing I ever did.
Happy, sexy, healthy! Merry Christmas to me~!!
Actually he can open the refrigerator-
so what is the answer now? He is a smart one, gets out what he likes, the ham, the chicken and just has a feast. Next answer.....
OMG! Get a dictionary and open it up
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i would open the dialogue
ask lots of questions and listen. Personally i have seen such things. I have had dreams that gave me information in a supernatural way. but what he is saying could be as he says it is, or it could arise out of fear or some other emotion. so again, let him talk and listen. I would not make it into more than it is, or minimize it either.
Never had enough to open a store...sm
But have bought and sold on ebay for over 10 years. Love it.
If the store is still open....
If you have a big platter or can get a throw-away one, make a nice cheese and cracker platter and put a bowl of grapes in the middle, that way you'll still have something to munch on while playing cards, or before dinner as it sounds like dinner is going to be sparse. Throw a couple of boxes of cornbread muffin mix (quick) into a large baking dish and bring corn bread. Everyone loves corn bread. Monkey bread is easy to make with a couple of rolls of those prepaid biscuits and recipes are all over the net for it, simple. Or a fruit platter with a dip in the middle. My brain is tired and the stores are closing. Unless you want to bring a ham but you'd be taking a chance on ruining her menu, after all,you are the DIL! Good luck with it, drink some Slim Fast first! Happy Day! While you're playing cards, something simple is "Scoops" with salsa. Just happen to have them in your trunk. Hurry up, it's getting late, maybe the drug store is open or a 711.
I'd pop it open and get a fork. nm
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I'm an OWL - I always sleep with one eye open
ROFL!
go in with open mind
that is what i did with my first....I couldn't decide if i wanted one or not....after about two hrs of contractions i knew i wanted one but since it was a small hospital had to wait until 8 hours later but still got one. I have had more children since then and i defintely had the epidural....so my suggestion is go in open minded and decided then...no need to make a full decision now
If you have no choice to open up the door - sm
just say that now is not a good time for a visit and to call before coming next time (because you work from home and cannot just drop everything when someone pops by)(add that on if you chose to). They may not like hearing any of it but tough cookies. If you are out of sight, just don't answer the door, if it happens often enough maybe they will think to call first next time and you can again say no, or to nip the visits in the bud say you are quiting that church and to please stop calling you. I am in the boonies and get the occasional church groupie visits of various faiths, I just tell them "not interested" and they go on their merry way without a fight for the most part. Good luck.
Surely you dont think they would open themselves up for
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PS: How to open image gallery - sm
The webside is kind of jumbled & a little hard to read.
1) Click on one of the thumbnil photos displayed below the title near the top of the page.
2) A new page & larger photo will appear. You can bring up different years, camps, etc. by typing them in, or just click on the little black 'GO' box to bring up a pageful of thumbnails.
3) Then click on any thumbnail you wish to zoom in on.
Nuts..wouldn''t open for me. nm
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oh, and open windows to air out home...
gotta change that air sometime........LOL
and when windows are opened, central a/c is off....
gotta be careful with mold/mildew.....which thankfully have never had in 30 years in s. fla....
have been for 30 years - tho do open windows
to listen to the birds before the world arises...but now we don't have to - they're chirping at 2 a.m.
LOL
I got a card at Christmas that I did not open
and put in a drawer- so no not everyone wants a card. The poster needs to mind her business and cool it. I would be totally put off by a popping in to see me, taking a dinner over for me, etc. etc. I think the mother said new mother does not WANT to be bothered. What is so hard to understand about that? Lots of people are worn out after giving birth and want time to recuperate. The poster made to do about her friend not accepting calls while hubby home and she does, and so? The new mother in her own home makes her own rules and the rule she has for right now is not seeing any people or talking on the phone, her wishes.
I open up my checkbook and look at the Ɔ' balance --
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And if you open it up for her to teach them her way, then you are opening it up to all (sm)
That means people who are homophobic or racist can also teach children their point of view? There has to be a line drawn somewhere.
You need to read this and with an open mind
Some important points from the article:
1. Circumcision is not a benign surgery.
2. The U.S. is the only Western nation that surgically alters its males.
3. Genitally-intact Europeans are often very amused to hear the notions circumcised Americans have about the normal human penis.
4. The European medical community condemns the U.S. for a practice they call a barbaric violation of human rights.
5. Europeans believe that males have a basic human right to an intact penis, a right to keep the body they were born with, and a right to body ownership and autonomy. For them it is a question of respect and dignity.
6. The foreskin plays a large role in sexual function. When sexually aroused, its lips expand and unroll over the glans. The glans stimulates the foreskin, and the foreskin stimulates the glans.
7. The foreskin has glands that produce a natural moisturizer and lubricant called smegma. Smegma serves the same purpose as tears do in the eye: it keeps everything moist, clean, and lubricated.
http://www.menweb.org/histcirc.htm
I could not open the link, so I post this......
Q: What is the safest kind of fish to eat?
Farmed trout,
wild salmon,
summer floundern,
blue crab
are the fish with the absolute lowest mercury content. The most dangerous?
Shark,
swordfish,
king mackerel,
tilefish,
tuna.
Most doctors I know prefer women that are open....sm
and not trying to act like someone they aren't. Just treat him like a regular person and hopefully you'll have a great time.
Yeah, if they are old enough to tell you to open your blouse because they are hungry
they are DONE with breastfeeding. Really odd.
search for *open-ended* MRI places
Open-ended MRI imaging centers is what you need to look for. We have plenty here where I live (Florida)...but MANY people cannot stand the long narrow tube to lay in for hour(s)....just like me! So, keep on searching for open-ended MRI centers!! *S*
Hey Jan - You can also open a free account with photobucket.com
You can upload any pictures to that and then change the size. After that you can copy it onto the avatar secton here.
Hugs sue-ellen
Still keeping the windows open, even at night
Here in So. Indiana, we are finally past the heat wave and really having some enjoyable weather.. but are still desperate for some rain. Won't even thinking about burning any wood in the stove until December.
45 here; heat on or windows open today? (nm)
My family takes pictures of the open
casket. When my dad was still living and someone was showing these pictures, he would go through and take them out for me because he knew I could not stand looking at them. When he died, my mom had pictures made and had a copy made for me. That was 12 yeras ago and to this day she still has those copies, I really don't want them. She even had us stand by the casket and had pictures made (her, my sister, and me).
At 9 months old, the baby can't open doors, so...
what we did with my son in my house was close all doors to contain him in the living areas, thus, away from bathrooms and other potential hazards. Then, all you have to do is baby proof the main areas.
If you're talking about the open letter
to MDI & other companies using VR, it is the 3rd flame down on the company board . . . should've been on the comedy stop board if you ask me . . . LOL!
Question: Why would she leave the garage open?......
Isn't that dangerous?
You mean that her husband can get to his stuff without ringing the doorbell?
Nah....
Anybody's hubby went through Open Heart Surgery and can't get out of depression?
I seem to be having a big problem with mine. He wasn't too bad after surgery, but since then, there have been a lot of house problems. i.e., water , septic system problems, roof leaking, my car not passing inspection so down to 1 vehicle, etc., etc.
He feels he cannot handle it anymore. He'll sit in our garage for hours on end doing nothing, but knowing he should be doing something. Yet, everything he does lately, does not solve a problem and he winds up doing something else for the same problem. It never bothered him before except ot get him mad he didn't do it right the first time (does anybody understand what I'm saying here?). He's feeling very "old" and incompetent but nothing I do or say is getting him out of this depression.
I'm afraid for him but don't tell me to make an appointment with a psychologist or psychiatrist...he would never go. He's losing interest in eating, too, and even fixing his favorite foods depresses him because he thinks it's not made the same.
Anybody have any suggestions? I don't know what else to do lately. Thanks fo the help.
open faced roast beef sandwiches
Not so great for dieters, but heck, every now and then a little diet cheating is good. Toast up some bread, shred the roast over it, top with mashed potatoes (the real ones!), douse in brown gravy - instant comfort food.
Is it okay for your in-laws to come to your house and open your door without first knocking?
My in-laws did this the other day and I just find it very rude...They do this all the time...we tell them to please call before they come over (just in case the baby is sleeping or we are doing something) but they never listen...anyone else have this problem???
I would rather have my door open on a nice day, then live in fear...
That is not a way to live your life...and that is not living in la-la land...
Open for suggestions on dealing with a defiant child...sm
Our 3rd grader has been really giving us a hard time this school year with not behaving at home and at school. Some of the defiance is things she's picking up from other kids at school, i.e. talking back, but she's getting into trouble at school more often for not following instructions. So far talking to her, giving her restrictions and setting goals isn't helping turn this around.
So.... for you parents who have dealt with this, what things did you try to get your kid to "get it" on how to behave appropriately?
Cut back on food. Not like kitty can open fridge and
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Refusing to open a bill doesn't make it not yours. nm
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Also look into putting in a "credit freeze" which wouldn't allow anyone to open anything in
Go to Suze Orman's website. Good luck.
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