You have no idea how everyone around you who does not smoke SM
Posted By: WONDERFUL! on 2007-10-23
In Reply to: Trying to stop smoking - country MT
will appreciate what you are doing. Pretty soon you will be intolerant of it, too. You rock! You can do this. It is the best decision you will make for your health and others!!!!  (CLAPPPING FOR YOU)
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I don't smoke and so I don't need it, but
I work for a doc that often prescribes it and it seems to work for everyone that has tried it. Some seem to stop taking it too soon and go back to smoking, but he has had at least a 90% success rate with his patients. Good Luck!
If it were me, and I am exactly like you are regarding smoke -
I would show up when I believe the cake and singing might be happening with a big smile on my face and well wishes. Stay for a short time, as long as you can stand it. I do not think you should miss her special day. I feel for you with being exposed to smoke and can feel my eyes burning and hair stinking just thinking of it. However, your friend would want you there, at least for a short time. Good luck! :-)
second-hand smoke
With any luck the weather will be good and the party will be held outdoors....If not, take her out to lunch or make a special lunch/dinner at your house just for the 2 of you....perhaps get your hair and nails done together or just piddle around in the consignment shops...do something that the 2 of you enjoy. If you've known her since Jr. High or thereabouts, she knows how you feel about smoking and I don't think she would be offended. The 1-on-1 time together would proabably the best present she gets....and you get to catch up everything without interruption.
I know, I did it yesterday...Made chicken and dumplings from scratch and sauteed squash and a light fruit salad, watched a video slide show that my friend made on a Mac laptop of renovation of the log cabin that her mother was born in (narration, music and all).....Her daugter's wedding is coming up in 3 weeks and the young lady wants it to be at the cabin. Then we tried on mother-of-the-bride outfits she'd brought over, we critiqued, exchanged jewelry that would match. We talked for about 3 hours non-stop and coulda gone on for another coupla days just reminiscing and trying to work out the kinks of the wedding and chowin' down on comfort food.
Just an idea....Hope this helps.
In all fairness now - do ya smoke?
I can't figure out why you posted that you are thin and have always been thin. How is that supportive a person who would like to lose weight? I'm guess I am missing something.
Where there is smoke, there is fire...
Someone said consider the source. So let's consider the source...
You don't know her and she doesn't know you. Why would she seek you out to lie to you?
Apparently your husband does know her and was going to warn you beforehand that she might try to stir up trouble. Why would she pick your marriage to stir up trouble in? What bone of contention does she have with your husband? What is his relationship with her?
And if there is nothing to what she says as your husband suggests and that she is just trying to "stir up trouble" then why did he feel he needed to warn you?
Sounds to me like he's covering his bases. Personally, I think you husband has a lot of explaining to do and this advice of "keep quiet and take notes" is bunk. Don't be the victim. Listen to what your gut is telling you. Something smells in your situation and I bet it's coming from hubbie.
Trust me when I say, men can look their wives in the eye and lie without batting an eye and when caught in a lie, they will practically hurt themselves trying to rationalize and justify. Whatever is going on with your husband, you cannot deny that there are rumors out there that your husband feels he needs to squelch. That's troublesome by itself. Why would someone make up rumors about him?
Don't excuse him, don't treat him with kid gloves. Confront him and find the truth. You'll know it when you hear it.
My husband and I both smoke!
This January we have decided will be it. It is no longer socially acceptable. My excuse has always been that I am afraid to gain a lot of weight.
My brother quit after 15 years (early 30s) and he used Chantix. He was a 3-pack a day smoker. Let me tell you, he is so much better. No coughing. After 6 years of trying to have a baby and failing in vitro; they have just had a baby this November. They both smoked/him worse. They are now both nonsmokers for over a year, have gained weight, but have such a blessing. He swears it was the smoking that caused the infertility. This pregnancy was the natural way and she's beautiful/such a blessing for them. We are all elated.
I am especially proud of him and feel like such a wimp to continue to smoke knowing it is killing me. It makes me feel inferior to others. Thank God my brother is an encouraging soul and not one of those horrible ex-smokers who just won't let up or are worse than just plain nonsmokers.
To the OP: These poster above is absolutely correct. My brother will vouge that everything in life is better now that he is a nonsmoker (i'm assuming including the sex since they now have the baby). He says the Chantix worked and he is by no means a pill-taker at all.
To the OP again: If you'd like to quit when I do in January, e-mail me, and we can support one another. You are worth it! You can still smoke the first week on Chantix, but then the cravings will disappear. Believe me, I also enjoy the cigarette especially after eating but smoke a lot more when I'm stressed to the point that I wheeze. I'm only 38 and have 2 kids. I hate the habit, but I love the cigarettes. See what I mean? It's a hard habit to break, but I think together we can do it! Whaddya say? E-mail me!
To the Poster Above: Thank you for your kind comments as you've also just made me decide that quitting is the best and only option at this point.
I had an aunt that died of ovarian cancer and never smoked or drank a day in her life. She was thin, always health conscious. Not all cancers including lung come from smoking. Keep that in mind as you strive to quit.
Your choice is to walk through the smoke.
People are made to smoke outside the store, can't smoke inside. Smoking is not against the law. I think people with body odor/bad breath smell way worse than people smoking.
don't have a *choice* to walk through smoke--sm
if you want to get out of or into the store. If someone HAS to smoke...go to your own car where it does not infringe upon someone else's right to not have to breathe it in and contract lung cancer. Body odor and bad breath do not inflict death and are easily taken care of with personal hygiene. Second hand smoke is just plain inconsiderate of others' health, but then why would you care about that. right?
Juliet said that she knew about the smoke
monster after the fact and said that she didn't know what it was but that they were aware of it and that it didn't like the fence. I really have to stay glued to the show or I miss little things - and apparently I still miss a lot.
all LV hotels that have casino have the smoke
even in Florida - the casinos you can smoke at - at least in certain areas like the bingo.........not the dealer tables at the Seminoles but at every other casino locally in S. Florida, there is smoking allowed.....Hard Rock Resort and Casino - smoking allowed.
In Las Vegas, if there are casinos in the hotel - you will be dealing with smoke.
However, there are plenty of smokeless, casino-less places......enjoy!
Is there a way to remove cigarette smoke - sm
from something without washing it? I have a baby blanket my mom crocheted that is for a friend of mine who's expecting. Like everything in my mom's house, it has a bit of a cigarette smell, and I don't think a new mother would want to use a blanket that smells of cigarettes for a new baby! So far I've just hung it up on a hanger in the hallway at my place. (I don't smoke.) Any ideas? I thought about something like "Febreze", but that might not be good for a new baby to breathe, either.........
My mom used to smoke the "roll your owns"
If you buy your tobacco product in a can or bag you can put it in the freezer for a time and it will still be good - if you haven't opened it yet.
My DH puts his carton in the door of the freezer by the way because of the same reason.
I heard about the prices going up, but nothing has really been said about it here where I am. There are many smokers here in my part of the country. In fact, they only just passed the ban on not smoking in restaurants about a year ago here in town and are just now considering it for state wide.
machine to remove cigarette smoke?
my husband's smoking is almost intolerable to me anymore. He won't smoke outside for me. Does anyone know first-hand of a machine that effectively gets all or most of the smoke/smell out of the room being smoked in? thanks.
followup on machine to remove cig smoke
First, thanks again to those who tried to be helpful/supportive. Secondly, i may (!)have made a breakthrough this morning, Praise God!! Sparing the details, after another fit of mine over trying to eat in a 'cloud', i put it to him this way: Saying, "i've been looking into air cleaners to remove the smoke smell from the house, and they will cost from $700 to $1000. So which is it going to be -- will you quit smoking, smoke outside the house or do we invest in these expensive air cleaners? I just can't tolerate it like i used to."
I let him ponder awhile and asked again for the answer. I about fell off my feet when he said he'd try harder to quit smoking and that he might start smoking outside the house, and might even consider a prescription to help...Good Golly Miss Molly!!
Wonders truly never cease!!
I used to smoke and NEVER smoked inside the house. nm
No message.
Smoke 'sickers' through the AC, the cracks, up the pipes...
she can smell it in her apartment! It affects her also, second-hand smoke and it 'stinks!'
But:
This LL does not have a no-smoking policy.
Did you move in knowing this?
Then you cannot do anything.
You accepted the apartment 'as is.'
You can only hope that the smoking lady moves out or you move out.
Learned to smoke, drink, cut classes
Graduated in the 70s. Took dancing lessons and big big big into disco. Almost entered in the show Disco Fever. I was a little overweight, certainly not popular in the "cliques". Had friends from grammar school, scouts & 4H I hung around with (those are still my friends today). I was shy and stuttered when having to speak in front of groups (still do). I wasn't a "studier" - received mostly Cs (failed science, gym & history - or barely passed). No boyfriends. Pretty boring overall, but I'd trade everything in now and do it all again.
Anyone know how to get cigarette smoke smell out of books? I bought several
reference books and they just stink. Any ideas?
Time. That's all it takes. I took in a recliner full of smoke and a few years later sm
looks brand new and smells like my own home now. It was really bad with smoke. Same with books. It just takes time. It will eventually go away. Unfortunately, nothing I know works for that without ruining the books.
BAD idea! Terribly BAD idea!
This could not be worse of any idea. People need to worry about their own bodies, not what other women do! This is supposed to be the land of the free, but people are trying to turn it into the "the land of the free as long as you agree with me." It's a medical procedure and no one else's business period! For some women, it's a hard enough decision to make without having other people tell them how they should do it!
If you do not believe in abortion...great, don't have one, but mind your own business and leave other people alone that need/want to have one! Again, it's none of your business what someone else does.
I don't have any children and don't want any. While I always use birth control, that's not 100%, and if it failed, I certainly would get an abortion without hesitation. I much rather have women get abortions than bring a child into the world that they don't want and mistreat or that they can't pay for and stick ME with paying for it! There are enough leaches out there having kid after kid they can't pay for, and we tax payers are footing the bill. Enough is enough already!
How about all you people that but your nose into other people's business and don't want these women to have abortions pay my share of taxes too since you don't mind paying for all of these unwanted children!
One more idea...
I had a friend whose father got her a diamond ring. It was a heart made out of diamonds, from Daddy to daughter. She treasured that. It was her first "real" jewelry as far as something with precious stones, and it meant a lot that it was from her Dad. If you're a Christian family, as this family was, it could also have the same meaning it had for this family, which was basically a promise from the father to be there for his daughter and a promise from the daughter to remain sexually pure. I don't remember exactly how they did this, I know they took her out to dinner just the mom and the dad and the Sweet Sixteen-er, but she talked about it for years.
I just remember thinking my dad would NEVER have done something so sweet. But I digress.
My son's idea
He wants to make fry bread and call it Native American fry bread so that it would be an N food.
Still searching for something fun with a Thanksgiving theme.
Another idea...
We have 3 golden retrievers, 2 of which are female that we bred. We used to use (dogs are now fixed) little girls underwear and cut a hole for their tail. We then used regular panty liners inside those. It was much cheaper and actually worked better than the things you buy at the pet stores. Both dogs got used to them and usually managed to keep them on most of the time. My human daughters also got a kick out of picking out the underwear..lol.
Word of warning though...don't ever keep her outside when she is in heat if you don't want puppies. We had a Rotweiller go through 2 fences and and a shed door to get to our female.
Good luck!
Here's an idea......sm
My husband cannot stand light when sleeping....it all started really in collge when he would put a pillow over his face to block out roommates being up, etc. After watching him put a pillow over his eyes for 20 years, I finally made him get an eye mask...which he now has been wearing for a number of years and likes it a lot. They are soft, doesn't bother him to wear, and now I can read with the light on and not watch him nearly smother himself with a pillow!!
I like this idea...
Just a thin board I can prop on the sill and attach a hook at the top to keep it flush (so no dreaded light comes through). Plus I can just keep it under the curtain and no need to attach fabric since the curtain is dark enough (of course) not to show through.
And you're welcome with yours. That's why I decided to ask you guys - more people, more ideas.
An idea:-)
Can he go on line and track his banking that way so he doesn't have that problem again? I check my account every day, especially before and after going to the store for anything, to see where I am plus use Quicken software to see my budget for the weeks ahead. That way he will always know what's in there, what was taken out, and keep better track of it. He can add in his Quicken or MS Money on what day his cable company takes their money out for every month and will see how much that leaves him that week. That's terrible how much money he lost on that. Sorry to hear that!
My DH has no idea how I can even do it - sm
he knows it is hard, though he does complain I don't make enough, but that is another issue (I goof off too much--procrastinating). Sit your husband down, put headphones on him and tell him, okay, so you do it and let me know how you do. He will shut up really fast!
Here's an idea. Why not something other than a K then!
I just always hated that, all names with the same letter or that rhyme. Ugh.
It's an idea, but...
That would be punishing the kid for the dad's behavior.
idea
Hey Mammamt,
I love your idea and the way you were able to express the joy of your son coming into your lives....I've been planting trees for siimlar reasons for years. You're a loving and compassionate person.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7KLnCni68M
Cat
Had an idea
Kids were wanting to go to Blockbuster which got me started thinking. Obviously cannot give movies or movie cards but how about movie CANDY and popcorn (crunch and munch or cracker jack or those 3-flavors-in-a-tin so popular this time of year?)!! And I thought about hitting the dollar store - I get stuff for my kids there - the little simple games, notepads and pencils/pens... You guys have gotten me inspired. THANK!
You know, that's not such a bad idea.
business, and they do all right in regards to pay. I also have a friend that just does local (rich) or what I call (rich) people with big homes, and she gets to use their vacation homes for nothing. She does a great job and is a nice person. Word of mouth has been her way of getting new clients.
I am in agreement with the "in front of the computer" thing, but I need a few more years with the kids. However, I have thought of working part-time in a local healthcare facility and doing this part-time again from home when my kids are just a tad older. I'm almost there though.
Does anyone have any idea what happens
when you end up pregnant and are in-between insurances/jobs?? If you don't go to the doctor with your existing insurance that is running out in a month, will your new insurance pick you up, or better yet be obligated to pick you up, when it goes into effect, after you are 3 MO preg?? Curious, and surprised. We make too much $$ to go on any kind of state plan, and didn't know if any new insurance when a person is already 3 mo preg would consider it "preexisting." Any input appreciated!!!! 
Idea
If you are a walker or runner, you could completely fix this dog's boredom by making friends with the people and get permission to walk their dog. You could offer to do it for a fee if you think they have more $ than time. Or if you need an excuse so they won't feel like you are criticizing them, you could say it would make you feel safer to have a dog with you.
If you are not a walker, consider the huge benefits to your back and legs. It could make a huge positive impact on your health, too.
If the dog is a puller, the quickest fix I've found is a prong collar. Maybe they have one.
just trying to get a better idea
multiple marriages possibly? i THINK you mentioned you worked 3-4 jobs at a time that sort of thing, maybe he feels abandoned? when was the last time you talked to him? does he have contact with his father?
i realize they are adults but even adults have hurts that sometimes stem from their childhoods.
i know my mother, though in the same home, was totally absent emotionally. she worked several jobs at a time too and i suppose i still have some resentment about that... never having her to talk to. i had the materialistic things i needed but not the motherly love i needed. i try very hard to be there for my children... suppose that would be part of the reason i work from home...
i have a relationship with my mother and i will always love her but i will admit there are times when i'm short with her. sometimes i think she has selective memory as far as the facts of my childhood. i believe she thinks everything was perfect and she was the best. lol.
she has never apologized about ANYTHING..... suppose that would be part of her denial. just wondered if things may be similar between you and your children.
you may very well just have ungrateful children or maybe they have hurts that need healed. :)
i hope you made amends with your son. very sad to me.
I do not know if he is, still, have no idea
A mother does not deserve abuse from him or from anyone else. I do not have in my own home. I went to his home to give him a gold watch my father wanted him to have, a family Bible and had several watches I did not want and offered him those. I basically was ambushed and could not believe his anger. This was in 2005. I do not know if he is still on this, did not ask them, have not asked since. He is a grown man. He has a wife and grown children now. I do not tell him what to do nor do I try to put myself in their lives. If I were ashamed of my actions, I have no problem saying I was wrong. I hope for his family's sake he is off drugs. I talk with his wife occasionally - she called recently to say sorry for the loss of my longtime pet.
Just an idea....sm
Little league fund raiser...candy bars $1.00 ...What we did was stand inside the vestibule to the bank on Saturday morning...Ya know they're going in to get money and weren't gonna pass up 2 boys with mitts filled with candy and deny a contribuion to the home team.
Now, if we were in an office setting we'd all be selling each other wrapping paper, candles, candy or cookies on the behalf of our daughters or sons on a regular basis, or hit up your family and friends.
Who in their right mind would let their daughter or son walk up to a stranger's door in this day and age?
The good ol' days of 50 cent cookies (that I sold as well door-to-door), magazine sales, and the black and white TV are long gone.
Cat
Idea
"I do not think I would be able to get anyone for what I pay her . . . " Maybe she wouldn't have to steal if you paid her a decent wage, and why do you need a housekeeper if it is just you and hubs?
an idea that may help....
I am not sure if you can do this feasibly, but if you have been communicating with this person, the police can track his computer ID number and find out where he is. If you have any kind of conversation in an email, IM, or even through the site, they can track his computer.
Another suggestion may be to report this to craiglist, as this is where you found him and they will have info on him to give to the authorities.
I hope this helps you.
Another idea you might consider - sm
When my grandfather passed away, my grandmother was in the same situation as your dad.
Might sound crazy but this is what we did.
Gma and Gpa had a three bedroom home and I had two kids. I talked it over with Gma and we moved in with her temporarily. Her wishes were the same. She wanted to die in her home, her bed.
She was still fairly active but she did have some significant health issues and memory issues. Her safety was a big concern.
The kids weren't too thrilled at first but it was probably the best 2 years of their childhood. Gma always had a story or something to talk about and we all really re-connected.
After Gma passed, we moved back into our home. We did have an occasional home weekend when my aunt was in town to visit. That way they could have a more personal visit and we had a little time to ourselves too.
It worked out well for us. Might not be the same for everyone but I sure was glad we could give her what she wanted.
I have no idea.
I just went to elementary school with the girl and then she moved so I have no idea where she went from there. As far as I knew she was not under any treatment or anything. Most of the other kids just thought she was "weird." Aside from that I have only transcribed one report for such (several years ago) and it did not go into much detail. Sorry I do not have any more information for you.
I had no idea
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I have no idea whether the mom
had any issues with the fact that she was being deployed. There was nothing mentioned in the social history about caregiver issues, psychosocial stressors, etc. So, I'm not saying she wanted to stay and was denied. I guess I was just questioning what the maternity policy is in the service dept. I guess I just thought when you had a baby in the military, you were given the option of being discharged or being stationed in the USA. Since your hubs is in the Air Force (bless him by the way), could you tell me what the maternity policy is for female officers? Are they only allotted 6 or 12 weeks (for a healthy newborn delivery)? Can they request to be stationed in the USA for a period of time after that?
I have kids, and I just can't imagine being separated from them at such a young age. Of course, any age would be difficult, but an infant is so dependent on her mom. Wow - what an eye opener and definitely some food for thought today.
another idea
Actually according to top scientists the earth IS in a cooling age right now. He and other scientiest (many) say we're on our way to an ice age.
Anyway...I have another recipe....So so simple and so good.
1 reg size package of cream cheese and one can of chile (with or without beans - your choice).
Mix them and heat til hot and bubbly. MMMMMMMMMMM I can eat the whole thing by myself.
Another idea...
What if you took his favorite privileges away (video games, TV watching, bicycle, whatever) and told him he could not have them back until he could change/control his behavior. Then investigate ways to help him change his behavior for the better.
If you can do this without an argument and state it as matter of fact, then the onus is on him to change his behavior. If he wants his stuff back bad enough, he'll change.
I would like to point out it
definitely helps me if I don't argue and just maintain my position.
I had no idea
you could just call them up. I would have never ever thought to do that! Thanks for sharing!
where did you get the idea that you have to pay? nm
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Here's one idea SM
We always chipped in (each family) a few bucks toward a gift certificate at his favorite restaurant, or if you don't know his favorite place, pick a really nice place. If he's married then he and his wife can enjoy a night out. Of course there's always the idea of having all the kids sign a T-shirt or a soccer ball and presenting it to him as well.
Bad idea...
What about the overweight kids that get picked on...what about the "dorky" kids that get picked on... what are they to do? Put up with it? Get counseling? No, just because homosexuals get bullied doesn't mean they are that much more at risk for dropping out or other consequences as the other kids who get bullied. They can't segregate from the real world, and IMO, this world is much, much more tolerable toward homosexuals today than ever before. I won't go into the rest of my opinion regarding this subject cause I don't wanna open a can of worms, but in a nutshell....NO no gay-friendly high school! I'd be super upset if my tax dollars were going to pay for this!
I had no idea either! nm
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You definitely have the right idea
As long as it's done in moderation I don't see anything wrong with it. It definitely sounds like you have a system that works for you and your family. I guess I'm lucky in that I have daughters, the youngest one is pretty young for video systems, although she does have an educational V-Smile system, and the older one (14) has a Play Station 2 that got old really fast as she got older (we've had it for quite a few years). Now she's into all the girly stuff and has never wanted any of the other systems.
We almost got a Wii this Christmas for the whole family but decided against it because of the cost. Our friends have one and it really looks like a lot of fun.
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