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• Anyone have genetics testing after a miscarriage? sm - Inquiring one
  • We did after our miscarriage - lil'ol'me
    • You said we got pregnant, you and your - Jessie
      • yo, please open up your brain..... - God gave it to be STRETCHED for a reason...nm
      • My husband was the one who - lil'ol'me
        • pregnant WE... - sm
          • that's right - great post, hubby and I were preggers - it's all about ATTITUDE..........nm
        • Oh, my, did not know you included a male as being a pregnant - Jessie
          • when it is a family, the family tends to think - they are preggers since an addition is...s/m
          • I had a miscarriage before - Jessie
            • and someday, men WILL be having babies...n/m - they are preggers since an addition is...s/m
          • You failed to read my reply - lil'ol'me
            • What attitude? I just did not understand - Jessie
              • in families of SEAHORSES-males carry/give birth - they are preggers since an addition is...s/m
                • Correct me if I am wrong - lil'ol'me
                  • dunno-but I do know about seahorses and sarcasm - they are preggers since an addition is...s/m
              • You should search for the cause of your anger. It may be deeper - then you think or maybe you are just having a bad
                • day - cm
              • vacca foeda - lil'ol'me
                • Wow! Totally amazed again, first your hubby - Jessie
                  • sarcasm = *to tear flesh* - MUST YOU????? - they are preggers since an addition is...s/m
                  • Not the OP but are you trying to be ugly or - just not effective with writing your comedy?

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Yeah, I tried to attach pictures and I could never get it to work...someone has always bailed me out who knew how to do it.

You need an internet link to the picture--can't just directly upload from your own directory.  THEORETICALLY all you need to do is click on the little picture icon (if you hover over it with your mouse cursor it will say "insert picture") and simply insert the http address. 

Right now I just did it with my favoritest "photoshopped" picture of a baby skunk in my barn but it will probably show a red X because I can never seem to get it to work right.  (No preview button to verify if it worked before posting--always a bummer).

When all else fails, you can always ask admin.  

First, the facts.  My child has retinitis pigmentosa.  His vision is 20/200 without glasses and his best corrected vision is 20/70.  I have taken him to the specialists at the University of Michigan and the prognosis is not promising.  He is only 8 years old and I don't feel he needs to know the true extent of what his future might hold.  He inherited this through me, as my parents were both blind, and this is a congenital defect. 

He came home from school yesterday and informed me they were all tested by the Health Department with an eye exam, which, of course, he failed miserably.  He informed the technician that he could not see the chart, so she told him "just guess."  Then he was asked if his glasses were old, that he might need new ones, and he informed me that she would be sending me a letter stating he needs an official eye exam and new glasses.   

So, before I blew my top, I went to the school office this morning.  I asked to see my child's emergency contact sheet, which includes a section regarding existing medical conditions.  There it was, plain as day, stating all of his ophthamologic conditions.  I feel this information should have been checked by their staff before they administered and unnecessary test on my child.  I informed the principal that I did not want him subjected to any more visual testing (which they plan to repeat in two years).  They didn't seem to understand why I would not want this free testing.  I asked them if they would perform a hearing test on a child with a hearing aid -- then they finally got my point.  I think permission slips before testing might be appropriate. 

When my children were teenagers they did not drive at all.  Even tho I worked full time, I took then where they needed to go & picked up to return home.  Explained to them that if I could not take then, they did not need to go.  This included the prom....No discussion, no argument.  They understood that I am their parent, not a friend & besides, I was not going to pay insurance for teenagers.  My youngest twins graduated in 1986 and after their freshman year in college (no car) I had them take defensive driving.  They purchased their own vehicles.  The year they graduated high school, several schools in the surrounding communities lost, if I remember, around 10-12 teenagers in car accidents......The twins I am referring to are now 36 years old.

OK--number one, since no one knows me, you don't know that I am interfering, or will ever interfere, just came here to "vent," since this board is anonymous.  Have been nothing but supportive of my daughter and kept my feelings about the ex to myself--never say anything critical to my granddaughter.  Number two, Emily DID get an Easter basket from her mother--just not a huge one crammed with candy, toys, and unnecessary cr**.  My former son-in-law needs to pay his back child support before he buys this type of thing.  Number three, my GD's father is the one who has always spoiled her, and my daughter has HAD to be the disciplinarian and "heavy."  Finally, for those who said to be more conscientious with dental care, my daughter, who is self-employed, had to beg him to carry dental insurance with his company after Emily was born--he said it was "unnecessary," since he has false teeth and would never benefit from it personally.  This is the kind of father he was/is. 

Thank you to all who offered kind advice and sympathy.

I understand that it is a poor state.  It also has no state income tax.  I've done as much research as possible for discovery, but I certainly appreciate any and all input.  I'm told it's very beautiful.  He wanted to go where he could do cross-country skiing, etc.

While all divorces are different, if I mentioned his last name it would stand out big-time.  He comes from money, but has never been materialistic (but I was fortunate to have the same situation)..  I know he's a saver big-time, so that's my aim.  His mother bought a house for him for $130K, which he admitted.  It's not revenge, either. I wish him the best.  Like Donald Trump says, "It's nothing personal, it's just business."  Oh, survival, too!

The irony is that both our families are just about identical. My brother is paying for my $300 per hour lawyer.  Full disclosure here... 

Thanks for taking time to provide your 2 cents, when you could have been making huge bucks from the Q!

but it only comes from the fact that I'm there -- I know all about these things because I'm doing them.  I don't resent doing these things for my children.  The OP hit a real nerve with me because my parents are always on me about how we raise our kids.  We're just never good enough in their eyes, but they forget what they were like as parents.  My mom worked nights.  She wasn't there for me a lot of times when I felt I needed her.  She got home late from work (1 or 2 in the morning) and got up to get us kids off to school and then went back to sleep for a few hours in the morning.  All the while, my 4-year-old brother was home with her watching TV.  He knew to wake her up after a certain show was over, so she could get him lunch.  My mom was never a heavy sleeper, so I'm sure if he'd have gotten into something she would have known, but still.  My dad coached my brother's sports, but he also berated him at home for not being good enough.  My mom yelled at me one day because I brought McD's for the kids when I knew I wouldn't have time to make supper because of an appointment out of town.  It was 4:45, and she thought it was awful that I didn't have supper on the table by 4:00 and that I was giving them McD's.  My mom worked at McD's when I was growing up.  Many of nights, she gave us a frozen pizza for supper before heading to work and then brought us home leftover chicken nuggets and apple pies.  We lived for that stuff, but here she was berating me for giving it to my kids.  What she was really upset about was that my kids were hungry and they were asking her for something to eat, which she didn't feel like making.  She was watching them for me after school that day until I got home from my appointment.  But that's the price I pay for asking her to babysit. 

No one's perfect, but we try.  Criticizing others won't help the situation.  I just felt like the OP's criticisms weren't hurtful and not helpful.  My suggestions in my original post were meant to give the OP some insight into what the other shoe feels like.