You don't sound dumb at all, only like
Posted By: sm on 2008-12-17
In Reply to: I know it sounds dumb, but this is the truth (sm) - anon
a typical woman who has been living in an abusive situation for an extended period of time. I can relate, especially to the part about being intelligent about everything EXCEPT this one thing.
The chance is there for the taking. Right now, you're just spinning your wheels, and revving up your hot rod for the main event. If I am understanding you correctly, it seems that your main issue has to do with the custody arrangement and your feeling the need to prove the abuse in the court to influence the outcome. Bottom line is this. That situation is NOT in your control. All you can do is your best. You stress to your attorney your concerns about unsupervised visitation and testify to that in no uncertain terms should you end up in a hearing. Then you hope and pray for the best. Beyond that, you accept the courts ruling and deal with it THEN, not now. It is not a foregone conclusion that your kids will become his target once you remove yourself from the mix. Hopefully, anger mgmt will be part of any sane custody arrangement and I think it is highly unlikely that he will be getting joint custody.
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This may sound dumb...
but it's driving me crazy. Does anyone remember a Jewish actress, around 60-ish now, with very short dark red hair, very prominent features, large nose. I think she played in a sitcom maybe as someone's mom. We saw her tonight in New York and all recognized her but none of us can remember what show she was on! Just wondering if anyone might be able to help us figure this out.
Okay, this is going to sound like a dumb question -
but what are Crocs? I just started having this heel pain about a week ago. It's been hard to bear weight, and I'm limping badly after doing the grocery shopping. Same thing - my pedal foot. I even had it on an ice pack while I was working a few days ago! I've been transcribing for nineteen years, and it just started. Are crocs and orthosis?
It doesn't sound dumb...
...at all. I miss my Noni girl every single day. She was the light of my life, my soulmate who happened to be a different species. I have gotten 2 new dogs, but my heart will never feel the same.
I know this will sound so dumb, but, do you cook the stuffing before using it in this dish? Thanks!
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I think it's dumb too . . .
it was a joke on my part.
He's dumb as a fox......sm
The lyrics to a song by Nashville's Cornbread Mafia. I do not like country music, but they are right on the money.
http://www.burtonharvey.com/cornbreadmafia/
He acts real dumb but the act isn't fooling me
He gets things done to destroy our sovereignty
He's a servant of the globalists from foreign lands
Our leader is a traitor with blood on his hands
Traitor...Dare call it treason
Traitor...Dare call it treason
Some see a failure; I see a big success
Using our terror to undermine the whole U.S.
When the towers came down, and everybody froze
Bush and Giuliani came up smelling like a rose
Traitor...Dare call it treason
Traitor...Dare call it treason
It's election time again, and everybody's ready to vote
If both candidates are owned, brother tell me where is the hope?
Hillary and Huckabee are waiting there in line
I guess we'll get a Democrat traitor this time
Traitor...Dare call it treason
Traitor...Dare call it treason
They want a fascist planet with the superwealthy ruling it all
Since we're too independent, America must be led to fall
When our credit's been exhausted to subdue the Middle East,
They'll install our debtor nation in the body of The Beast
Traitor...Dare call it treason
Traitor...Dare call it treason
This song is almost over, but I have one thing further to say
I'll ask you for a favor when the agents come to take me away
Disseminate this anthem over cyberspace,
And shout this accusation in every bought-off leader's face:
Traitor...Dare call it treason
Traitor...Dare call it treason
sorry for dumb
How do you check the history?
Don't be dumb. I'm sure others got what I meant ;)
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Dumb question from me
Why do you need to get your husband off to work? You should be in bed sleepng - you need uninterrupted sleep, not 3-hour and 4 hour-long naps.
Sorry, but your husband is an adult and should get himself going.
OK, sorry if this is a dumb question...sm
I noticed on some movies set in the 60s and 70s that if there were doctors in them, they always seemed to have their black bag at the ready. Is that something docs do nowadays or did that go the way of the housecall with the advent of the malpractice suit? Just curious.
Dumb question? sm
My brother and his wife just graduated from medical school (YEAH!) . My SIL has kept her maiden name. When addressing a letter to them how should it look?
Dr. April Cox and Dr. Jonathan Grant
or
Dr. April Cox
Dr. Jonathan Grant
Forgive my ignorance
I have what probably is a dumb question (sm)
We live in a not so great house on a piece of land on the water that has been going up in value. The appraisal value of the house is $65,000, market value $250,000 with the land. People are always looking to buy property out here. My question is, when we do decide to sell, what would we probably get? Or even ask for? Chances are they would tear the house down anyway and build a new one.
dumb me - probably San Diego.
will keep you in my prayers.
Why would you do that? I don't understand it. I saw it and think its dumb. nm
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dumb...sorry for the typo. nm
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ok, that was dumb. how about two-seater/SUV?
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Don't feel dumb
I may be way off base. And I have a just turned 14 year old so I know what you mean.
And how DUMB were they to film themselves in the act? -n/m-
dumb ? but would the dry cake sm
mixture recipe work with canned pumpkin pie mix? Love pumpkin, have cans of one-pie and a can of crushed pineapple w/the cake mix. Sounds like it would be very "mush". Just thought I'd ask!
dumb ? but would the dry cake sm
mixture recipe work with canned pumpkin pie mix? Love pumpkin, have cans of one-pie and a can of crushed pineapple w/the cake mix. Sounds like it would be very "mush". Just thought I'd ask!
not a dumb question IF it was a new poster....
Is it just me, or is this show getting dumb!? It was always so good.
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Oh, I agree it's dumb, but I just want to see Stephanie GET IT!
This may be a dumb question so please be nice.
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Ohhh. Feeling a little dumb now...
I have a preteen....so my definition of gamer was, well...playing those darn games every chance they get.
Addendum to Dumb Question #1 ! -sm
It SHOULD say,"... or do you first start the power, and then turn on the WATER?"
(..not the "machine" as I typed above. I need more coffee..................)
I don't understand how people were dumb enough
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I know it sounds dumb, but this is the truth (sm)
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Teenagers - so smart, yet so dumb
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dumb blonde question
I have never used liquid laundry detergents. At what point do you add the detergent to the laundry? Being a somewhat scatterbrained person at times, I am afraid I would end up forgetting to add the detergent!!!!
Thanks,
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My Poor Dumb Dogs
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Let's share dumb things we have done.......here's mine
You know those automatic shower cleaners that hang from your shower and you press the button and the liquid automatically blasts itself around in a circle? Okay....it is not advisable to actually "watch" this happen, unless, of course, you have some strange desire to have cleaner sprayed in your eyes!
Just did this and after overcoming the initial sting and cleansing of the eyes, just had to share, as now I can laugh at how logic simply escapes me at times!!!
Dumb, dumb, dumb!!! 
not dumb, stuff happens, silly dilly *lol*
Can women pass it to men? Sorry if that sounds dumb.
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Dumb me! I just saw how your recipe does not call for cheese. I am SO sorry about that! sm
The cheese is not overpowering in my recipe and so I was thinking you were looking for this recipe.
In any event, I hope someone enjoys the recipe I gave you! Good luck!
This new guest book thing is dumb anyway
something else to add to the list of a gazilion ways to fawn all over the couple! Gag. Who really cares? Can you believe people are so full of themselves these days? It's truly mind boggling. And with the divorce rate being 50% or higher, why do they even bother?
I'd definitely be there in my red dress for sure, would maybe even stuff my bra so my cleavage popped out!
Anything to get out of the dumb guest book thing!
It's actually insulting, you too are supposed to be a guest :)
Let us know what happens!!!
beauty fades, dumb is forever
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honestly, I would risk it and play dumb. sm
I can only say that because this is anonymous. I can't do that in my case because what I have will not go away. However, I think she was haphazardly diagnosed and I would not just accept the consequences of someone else's negligence. I would skip listing that doc and list my prior doc and if it ever came up I would say I didn't know I was diagnosed with it.
An inheritance is not an "achievement," it's dumb luck. nm
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explain to young girls how dumb and useless these celebs are.
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The scariest part is realizing how many truly dumb people live among us in this world....
They are up to 12,000 or more; so people are giving! I'm now trying to come up with one myself. hehe
Wow, you sound like
someone with real compassion for animals - NOT.
I personally would rather have my tax money go for this cause as opposed to going to cover welfare and disability incomes of people who are perfectly capable of working and just choose not to because they can. But that's just my opinion.
You know what? If it were me, and I know this may sound sm
way off to some people, but I would treat this young boy with love! Invite him over, talk to him, show him that someone truly loves him. I would invite him to church and pray for him. I know, totally unconventional. He acts that way because of his parents. He needs good, godly role models in his life. I would try my best to be that person.
I think too many people try to throw away bad kids. It's such a shame. They can be rehabilitated. 11 isn't that old. And I am not saying that is your responsibility because it's not! I understand that. But if I lived there, that is what I would do and see how that works. That saying, "love makes the world go round," is because love can turn a bad situation around. Bad always reaps bad.
I know because just this past Wed. I kept 5 kids at my house (I have 3 of my own!) and we stayed outside and played until 9 at night. I live out in the country and have a lot of land, animals, a pool, etc. The kids I had over has a dad serving in Iraq and I just wanted to give their mom a break. They don't have a yard where they live. They played until they collapsed. I ordered pizza and just loved on them. I see their mom struggling with them and I just wanted them to have a place where they could let loose and have a great time. One of them was a little ornery, but I would talk to her and be sweet and I really think I brought the best out in her. They brought their collie with them to play too and he ended up staying! So, we also have a new dog and we love him!
Good luck to you. I know this probably hasn't helped you much at all, but try not to be mad at him.
You sound
like a real taker and nasty, changing dirty diapers on a conference table?? I would have been finished with you then also. Gross. I have been at time share meetings before but a good answer is NO! Did not have to resort to a free this or that and I know how to get a point across without being offensive.
you sound like me
I have read people use timers to get themselves away from the computer when reading email on their working days. For me, I keep talking to myself and saying "just do it" especially when I feel the urge I want to begin and don't want to delay getting started any longer. I was more energetic when I was a SE.
Here's the sound for ya ...sm
 Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hBUO_1BPWU
How do you know who I am? You sound
xxx
That does sound a lot like us
I'm one of those tweeners size-wise; I'm not fat and not thin, wearing somewhere around a 10-12 jean, a 16 shirt, 5Ǝ", 170 pounds. But three children and breast-feeding have taken a toll, not to mention the varicose veins and a few randomly scattered keratoses. Like yours, mine claims (and acts) interested until it's actually bedtime, but then finds reasons not to come to bed. Like you also, the supposedly wanted advances have frequently been rejected (not outright, but more a 'not now' thing), so I've kinda quit putting myself out there, too. Fortunately, there are things that still say everything else is okay so I'm sticking it out, but with the price of batteries going up, we may have to find a better solution!
you sound like the big sis I need
Thanks for your note. I could be making more of this than what is really necessary. It is a horrible way to live (always planning for the worse and worrying about what's going on for things we can't control). I think he realized today that all the negative news and me having to work was really getting me down. I just feel myself getting heavier and heavier and I'm so exhausted right now I feel like I'm about to fall asleep and I have got to finish the rest of my work (about another 4 hours). The reason we don't celebrate holidays is actually an agreement we both have. We used to celebrate holidays but every year I found myself so depressed because I've been away from home for close to 30 years and it is still hard, and I cant just go home every year. And he does not like family rituals or whatever those things are called (can't think of the word), as in it's Thanksigiving so we eat Turkey because it's thanksgiving (family traditions - that's it). So over the years I found it easier to deal with the holidays by not celebrating them. If I do cook a turkey on Thanksgiving its because I feel like having turkey that day.
When I say I can't throw too much at him, he doesn't have health problems, but he just can't handle too much. We take one situation at a time. I learned that years and years ago. Me, I'll do 10 things at once, but I keep it simple for him otherwise, so he doesn't get too overwhelmed. Yes I know he's a big boy, but not all men act like it.
I may not be expressing myself too good at this point. I'm so exhausted and need to go lay down.
Thanks for listening. I liked your last line bout thinking his down and out feelings are more important than my well being. I will be thinking on that one more.
Thanks again.
you sound like me -
for the past couple of years, I have said, let's forget the gifts and just spend the day together at my mom's house -- but oh no, that would be horrible if we did not buy presents. This year, my sister's husband lost his job and now it's automatic, we are not going to be buying gifts.
I always wonder, why is it that one person in the family always seems to make the decisions for everybody else?
This is going to sound very mean, s/m
but I have three full grown cats and two of them won't leave the tree alone. We go through this every year. For the first two days, I do not plug the lights in but sit waiting with my squirt gun. Once they are in the tree, I shoot. They run. Normally after the first two days, they won't climb it again, but they will sit underneath it and bat at the balls on the lower part of the tree, which I make sure are plastic just for them. So far this has worked for me. Now if anyone can find a way to keep them off the counter, let me know! I have tried pepper, hot sauce, two sided tape and the squirt gun.
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