You don't need a proposal; you've already accepted. Go to a jeweler and pick one out together
Posted By: and then celebrate! nm Sheesh on 2007-02-27
In Reply to: what do you think about choosing your own ring - ???
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I could not be accepted by MIL
as she died before we married but I wish I had known her- if she was anything like the man she raised, I would have loved her as much as I love her son. I see the rest of his family here and there but everyone is out of town but all on good terms.
Definitely accepted
I love my in-laws. My husband is one of 10 (some step) and we all get along really well. I don't have a sister, so my sister-in-law and I are very close and I consider her my sister. I don't know what I'd do if they didn't like me. I can't imagine being married to someone and not being able to get along with their family.
Accepted - but my MIL drives
So I keep my distance. She's a martyr at times and very gossipy so you have to watch what you say around her. SIL takes advantage of her all the time. I try to remain cordial and let DH worry and deal with her.
Totally accepted
I was totally accepted. My MIL is one of my best friends, even after the divorce. Still talk with the brothers and wifes although not as much as before but I still feel accepted but now because I am me and not his wife. So there are nice in-laws out there. Can also say that my family has always accepted spouses into the family, may not be our best friends but have always been accepted and treated well. My brother sure put this to the test with his six wives but we liked all of them and probably more than him. Still in contact with several as he had children and my mother when she was alive never lost contact with any of the grandchildren or even step-grandchildren when it came to birthdays, Christmas or whatever when there was a divorce. Anyway, there are good in-laws or ex in-laws out there. Patti
Totally accepted
My FIL was a better father to me than my own dad. My MIL said she learned more about her son's life from me than she ever did from him (that's true).
And after my MIL passed away, my FIL remarried a few years later, and I was fortunate enough to get another SUPER MIL who has been not only my friend but the best grandmother I could ever ask for to my son.
Am I lucky, or what? I feel very, very blessed.
Absolutely accepted!
I love my in-laws! They're really great. My husband wasn't very close with his family growing up, but is now that I love being around his family. He's also close with my family, so we are very lucky to have both sides of our family to be friends with and we love having everyone over for bbq's during the summer. Then again, I'm the kind of person that gets along with everyone and I like to think that everyone has at least some good in them and I think this definitely helps with being accepted into other peoples' families.
Totally accepted
I was immediately accepted by everyone in his family, and they all loved me right off. His mother is constantly buying me things, even though I don't exactly like all of the things that she gets me!
Accepted in the family that you married into?
How many people are REALLY accepted into the family that they married into? I don't just mean the EXTREME cases of, "You STOLE my son, you brazen hussy!" but the more subtle stuff too.
Accepted for who we are and not for what people perceive us to be. sm
Looking at most of my relationships now that are bitter or no more, this seems to be the case. My 2 SILs hate me with everything in their being and I've never been anything but myself around them. This is a very hard pill to swallow. To not be accepted for who you are.
Thank God I found Joyce Meyer. She's ON MY SIDE! I love it!
Totally accepted by DH's fam but not by my own family
Hubbies mom, sis and brothers make myself, our child and my children from a previous marriage feel so comfortable (I will not bring up their jealous spiteful wives) however my own mother, father, brother and sister make myself, DH and our kids feel like outsiders.
Your apology is accepted, Ella...sm
I've never had a person apologize on here to me. :)
I was totally accepted by my 1st husband's family but
when I married my second husband, I was never accepted by his mother. Of course, she didn't even like my husband. The rest of his family accepted me and that was all that mattered.
The funny thing is...when she was dying, she asked me to forgive her for all the nasty things she did to me and of course, I did. It wasn't her fault she was like that. Life made her that way.
Between the 2 MIL's, I'd take the first hubby's mother any time. We spoke and visited even after the divorce, even invited them to parties we (2nd husband and I) because he liked them too. . . and they always came. I miss them.
But wait! Act now and I will throw in one for free! Check or M.O. accepted. nm
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But this is not a school-wide accepted teaching practice, it is individual (nm)
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Can't pick just one . . . sm
Dances with Wolves, original Rocky, Bladerunner, A River Runs Through It, The Way We Were and The Notebook are my faves
I can't pick just one either...
I like lighthearted stuff mostly - How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, Lucky Seven, Wedding Date, Wedding Planner, Never Been Kissed.
But, also really liked Contact and U-571 and A Time to Kill (see the Matthew McConaughey pattern emerging?) And Dead Poets Society is also one of my favorites (I cry at the end every time - My Captain, my Captain!  ) Oh, and It's A Wonderful Life - I watch it every Christmas by myself because no one else will watch it with me.
Good question.
They always pick someone..... sm
I would immediately have a discussion with her about this and if she continues to be this way towards you and your daughter I would take it to the principal of the school. My son had a teacher last year that kept him after constantly and he was only in the second grade. I asked her to keep him in at recess instead of after school as I have someone picking him up daily who cannot wait on him and she did not so I took it over her head. There is not a teacher alive that is going to pick me or my child to be "the chosen one" for that year to pick on.
Thanks Dillybug! I will have to pick one up!
Anything to make the job easier as I hate to clean the tub!
my dog would try to help me pick strawberries,
eating them off the plant as i picked. But i saw a list in my vet's office about all the foods toxic to dogs/cats. It is generally best just not to feed people food to animals.
Pick your poison
I figure you can do one of two things:
First, buy the Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus books and learn how to talk like a man. You know - short, sweet and to the point or maybe just a couple of grunts. No blow-by-blow descriptions. None of that emotional/feelings garbage. Don't use him as a sounding board for ideas - ask his opinion only if you want him to fix the problem. All that [insert your expletive here] stuff.
Second, and the one I would prefer, is to go out and buy a T-shirt that says *If I'm Talking You Should Be Taking Notes*. Actually, I'd get several in various colors, one for every day of the week.
And I wonder why I'm not married! (she grins)
Sisters . . can't pick em
As the oldest of 10, 2 brothers, one passed on quite young, and 6 sisters, it's bittersweet. Sometimes I think I am the odd one as I don't think like my sisters, and therein lies the problem. Our parents died young. Three of us married sisters took in two younger ones each, and did a relatively good job, not great, but they were loved, cared for, included in everything, and I truly enjoyed and relished their company. Now we are all adult women, and I hardly see them because they are too weird. I have always praised them, and have always been proud of them. They all educated themselves, have masters and bachelor degrees in the medical field. What they have in education they lack in common sense or the ability to gain insight. It amazes me and floors me that they hate my mother's family. My sisters target them for neglect and abandonment, when in reality we had lousy, abusive parents who did not take care of themselves, which is in part why they died so young. My sisters focus their hurt on our mother's family. My sisters are narcissistic, antisocial, and completely paranoid of me because I do get along with my mother's family. My sisters do not include me in any of the holiday functions. Oh well, I say, I am the lucky one because I can be objective, look at painful situations, hold no one accountable for my lot in life, gain insight and grow from my past, and love being around people and socializing. What hurts me is that I have finally figured out why they are so distant with me - pretty much without saying it clearly, this summer, the sister I was the closed to, had a talk with me and pretty much feels that it would have been better if they had been adopted out!! Unbelievable. That is so easy to say because it did not happen that way. Now, I think the only sad part is that they all have such beautiful children, and what a loss that they do not allow me to have a relationship with them. I would love to have a relationship with my nieces and nephews, take them out, have them over for sleep overs, and cookie baking. Life is so funny sometimes. In spite of it all, I think that I am the one truly blessed and pretty lucky.
HMR is better - and you can pick and choose
My mother got NutriSystem and most of the meals are unpalatable and I can eat about anything (some were okay). HMR is actually good. Difference is breakfast consists of shakes/cereal.
How do we pick a charity
I am wondering how to we pick a charity. Is there a list somewhere or do I have to find the local website? I would love to donate to animal shelters in my community, but not sure how to select it so funds would go to them.
4+ for me. Everyone has time to pick up a bit! nm..
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He helped me pick it out!
I tried it on in front of him, too.
Here's a couple for you -- you pick!
1) I was on the phone with my boyfriend sitting on a no-back barstool. I was rocking back and forth against the wall when the barstool went out from under me. It not only went under me, the leg came back to jam me up the rectum. Of course I dropped the phone and immediately started yelling, IT HURTS, IT HURTS!! My boyfriend stayed on the phone all that time and my mom had to pick it up and tell him I'd have to call him back later I just gave myself an impromptu colonoscopy. Talk about red!! My butt hurt for like a week. I couldn't even poop for 2 days after that.
2) My boyfriend (now husband) and I were making out in an orchard one night. Afterwards, he took me home and the next morning I awoke to find my entire backside covered with poison ivy. I also noticed I was missing about $60 I had shoved into my pockets the night before. I immediately called my boyfriend and explained that it must have fallen out of my pocket in the orchard. Since $60 was a lot of money to me then (now it barely fills up my tank), I asked him to go back and look for it. Lucky for me he found it and I used it to buy some Calamine lotion. Man, did my butt itch for a week. We still laugh about this one. 
He would be my pick, but both very talented. NM
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Not sure of websites, but pick a
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I'm sure the kids will pick
out something perfect for them. I heard of a youth group name the other day and it is kind of cheesy but it stuck with me for some reason.
God Squad!
Don't cancel. When you pick it up again
if there are any "pre-existing conditions" then they can be excluded. I wnet for a little bit before getting insurance as I could not afford Cobra before my new job's insurance clicked in and then my daughter who had had an ovarian cyst 5 years ago was excluded for that and, of course, she had to go to the ER for another one 1 month before the new kicked in and we had a $4000 ER bill. DO NOT CANCEL>
I try to pick and chose- sm
in the Fall I usually have 4 going on at various times. Nuts for GS, candles for dance, flags/magazines for school and frozen cookied dough for school...the two school ones do not overlap but are only a few weeks apart from each other. The nuts and candles overlap the school ones though. Obviously I try not to bug my neighbors too much. We hit everyone up for GS, but for dance I just make a donation, and school we may ask a few people on the flag/magazine one, the cookied dough one I don't bother anyone, it is gross, and I still have stuff in my freezer from 2007 (which I have to chuck). Kids just brought home another one a few days ago for St. Judes (from school). I give to our local Children's Hospital and Make-A-Wish, and ASK (raises funds for MCV's Pediatric Oncology Dept.)so St. Jude's is out of luck there. I just do cash donations now if I want to donate that is, otherwise I do not go to the trouble to bother every soul I know to buy something, and never ask family except for the grandparents.
OP surely knows on herself that she has to pick
herself up and get going.
She is just down and wants to vent and looks for some compassion and support.
This forum is also a 'venting' forum for all our various frustrations.....
There should be a 'venting' Board with 'no bashing' allowed.
Where? I wanna go pick 'em myself.
Ponchatoula?
DH played the lottery, Pick 4, hit it
straight. What got me was he only played 50 cents, but he still won 2500. I would've played at least a dollar!! What was funny was that he had a job number and a work number that were the same number. He said that never happened in 30 years of working. Told him he had to play those four numbers for a week. Three days later, my "cheap" husband hit! I still tease him about it! and still kicking myself that I didn't play it too!! You just never know :)
I pick at them until they come off. Cheaper than a dr visit
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If she stops meowing after you pick her up (sm)
she is probably not in pain. She would meow and may even lash out and bite if she were in pain. She wants lovins from her momma and some attention, it sounds like. Things to look for when it is the end (although not all animals are the same, of course): Sleeping/lethargy, not eating or drinking, urinating on self, etc. I know it's hard to hear *you'll know* but you really will. And if you are even questioning right now, it's probably not time and she just wants reassurance.
yes, you can practice by trying to pick up a towel (sm)
with your toes. Rather than doing the bending back and stretching, which I eventually started to think was actually aggravating my fasciitis, bend your toes under like you are going to pick something up with your foot.
Just like a potato chip, can't pick just one!
300, Forest Gump, Bram Stokers Dracula, 50 First Dates.
Those are probably my top ones that I never get sick of watching. I have a pretty huge movie collection and pretty much only buy ones that I really love though. I'm a fan of most all types of movies.
We let everyone pick one menu item
for Thanksgiving dinner. No one cares much for turkey, so we are having ham, sweet potatoes, mac & cheese, green beans, corn, homemade rolls, asparagus, bruschetta, pumpkin pie, cheesecake, and Rice Krispy treats.
It is not terribly traditional, but everyone always has something they will eat,and the kids have fun making their choices.
One year the kids picked lasagna,grilled cheese sandwiches, shrimp cocktail, Pizza Rolls, and Pop Tarts. It was interesting and fun. It also alleviates some of the stress of trying to create the "perfect" Thanksgiving dinner.
You must pick gross men in general...
Let's just call you stinky girl
haha, do you think I could pick up the accent?
or is it instilled in childhood??
haha
and i think i will be driving through there whenever i move back to Nevada!!
My son could pick out all letters at 18 months old...
We made it a game. Everywhere we went, we would point out letters for him to name- on signs, cereal boxes, menus, etc. Now, we have him tell us what the letters say and read small words. He can read many words and he is not 3 yet. We did NOT teach the alphabet song until after he knew each letter because I think that it is confusing. LMNOP all run together and as a kid, I thought that it was one word. At any rate, maybe try some kind of incentive, like carrying stickers or jellybeans or something in your purse and point out letters in the grocery store or wherever. If she gets them right, give her a treat. We also play with flash cards and for each correct answer, Clayton gets to keep the card. When he has all the cards, he wins. Just some things that have worked for me.
Outback Jack and his pick are still married. nm
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Please tell me...who did he pick? I had a sick little one and missed the whole thing ! nm
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Makes me wonder; is he the pick for *vote for the worst*???
I bet.
...they're cute! Or just pick a zoo somewhere. Cool
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Maybe with a pair of plyers and a pick-up truck?
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These are gorgeous! Now what to pick for my chipmunk-chasing
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Find a bored child and tell them not to pick at it.
;-)
Am I the only nut who LOVES to pick zits n' stuff?
This is totally gross but I love picking zits and ingrown hairs. If I see one on my husband's back, I almost salivate. So, anyway, now that my 'dirty little secret' is out, I just thought I'd share how I spent my lunch break....
I have this pet pig...she's a huge pink 'bacon' pig but she's a pet and is quite tame. Anyway, I go outside to snuggle with her because it's cold out but she found a nice pile of hay and was basking in the sun. I love to snuggle my piggy because well, truth be told, I'm slightly off. ;-)
So, while I'm out snugglin' my big fat piggy I'm checking her for ingrown hairs, which she inevitably has at least half a dozen on her belly. That's when I spotted the motherload. It was a HUGE nickle-sized cyst with this honkin' whitehead poking through one of the hair shafts. I pulled the hair out, applied a little pressure, and you should have seen the gunk just pipe on out of there like some nasty version of frosting! It was so totally awesome! I actually had to go inside and get a paper towel to clean it up with!
 Only a fellow zit buster would understand the odd sense of satisfaction from releasing such a monstrosity from it's prison.
My post meant, why pick just 1 show
to come down on? This is nothing new and did not start with DWTS. That is what I meant- trying to say happens everywhere and the business place probably takes first place. Watch your husbands!!
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