You don't have to respond, just food for thought
Posted By: DW on 2007-10-09
In Reply to: He is both a smoker and a loser... - you ladies...sm
Did I detect possibly the real reason that this is upsetting you so much? Did you have something happen in your life that you regret? Perhaps sex too early or with the wrong person?
Is your daughter responsible in the other aspects of her life? Good grades/work/etc.?
Unfortunately, as teenagers we don't always make the best decisions - I made some not-so-smart ones myself - but it is from those decisions that we learn more about ourselves. I know it's hard to watch someone you love going full speed ahead into a train wreck, but sometimes we have to. Unfortunately, I can't give you the secret to how to "detach with love" (I've found, like the poster above, that Al-Anon meetings really fit with every aspect of life, and this is something they say often). Again, I don't know how to tell you to do it. Once I realized I could not control my loved ones or their choices, it just kind of happened. Maybe just really think about why you are so disappointed and, if it has to do with a personal experience, maybe you should share that with your daughter. It may help her understand you better and vise versa. Best wishes.
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how do you respond
A few times I've met someone from the same city I grew up in and I say I am from xyz area. They always say something like you are really nice or I can't believe that or something kind of degrading. How do you respond? I kind of get flustered and do not know what to say! 
I've met people from xyz area and we joke about living there. It's commenting on the conditions, not our personal character. It's not the same type of degrading comments like above.
This isn't a big deal but I would like to learn how respond!  I could just keep my mouth shut and think before I speak!  The first time it happened I was not expecting that comment. I was very off guard. I never knew people would judge someone based on where they were born/raised.
Would never respond to my son
the way you did. I don't want this to turn into a fight. I just think that everyone is different and I wouldn't assume something about that way I choose raise my daughter is such a bad idea. Being a mother is the most underappreciated job there is. What is wrong with a little support/ or at least not thinking I am worried about my daughter getting pregnant?
I would have had to respond to her.
It's not like your friend or the daughters are world class athletes, so in the grand scheme of things, missing 1-2 classes isn't a big deal. Some people take things WAY too seriously. Yeah, I've got kids in sports and the coaches act like they're going to be kicked out of the Olympics if they miss a practice. Be there or be benched. Never mind if the kids are sick. Spread germs all over the place, but don't miss practice. And the coaches act as if the sports are more important than my other kids and my job. Little coach dude with the big mouth, I make way more money than you do! LOL Tell your friend that some things are more important than athletics, like FAMILY and ILLNESS. Some people have really messed up priorities. I don't know why they're having practice on a holiday week anyway. We've got games and practice all week. What if we had wanted to leave town to visit relatives?
Always respond regardless that the response is
Unfortunately, many people think if they don't respond you are supposed to take that as a "No". That is just bad manners. I once responded to a candle party with a "Yes" and the hostess even said, well I just put that on their. You didn't really have to call. Go figure.
We only respond to what you post.
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I disagree with you, won't blast you, but will respond...
In my opinion, the largest selling holiday of the year is Christmas...period. If these businesses want to peddle their products, then they ought not pull Christmas out of their advertising. That stinks. I don't think it was ever mentioned that ONLY Christmas be advertised. BOTH, Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays could be advertised together. But, on the Christian side of things, I think that they went too far when they tried to lump every other religious holiday together to try to be politically correct and remove Merry Christmas, which is a greeting that has been used for many, many years. Also, Christians don't try to push Santa Claus out of Christmas. Not every religious holiday falls on December 25th, so that in itself seems inproper.
Thanks for taking time to respond.
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okay. Willl not respond anymore. Thanks. Nm
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i meant to respond to you about the 2 year old
YEA TRUE STORY
those are the victims
it's really naieve of you to think that the only thing that happens when you smoke pot is you get hungry. it was a funny joke but overall certain situations are not funny
Amen! I was biting my tongue not to respond,
as it probably would have been in anger. And to have such a hostile spirit and then go quoting scripture. Whew. Does not give a good testimony, but you sure did. Thanks for saying it so eloquently and lovingly. The sinner in me also can't help but mention that the devil could quote scripture just as well as Christ. He was -- well versed --
yep, w/email today, no excuse not to respond!!
what channel, what time? I want to respond to that host in a negative manner
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It's nice, but food prices insane and food is really bad,
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My cat only eats dog food and won't eat cat food or even tuna.
LOL
I am using Angel Food Network for help with food (sm)
Being much more careful not to waste food. No more fast food. Soda only if bought in a two-liter bottle, not singles or fountain. Most of my money waste was spent on food.
Pet food recall -- dog food and cat food
http://us.iams.com/iams/en_US/jsp/IAMS_Page.jsp?pageID=PCA&articleID=300003
My dog loves coconut oil right off the spoon. Try the health food store. Sometimes in food store,
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Puppy eating cat food, cats eating puppy food...
So I have three cats and a five month old puppy.
Cats eat Felidae, Puppy eats Canidae... or at least that is how it is supposed to be.
Both species eat mainly dry, but puppy gets wet at night when she is in "her room" (kitties do not go in puppy's room at night).
I cannot keep kitties out of Candiae and I cannot keep puppy out of Felidae
Can I relax or is this going to hurt either of them?
Advice very much appreciated!
TIA
cat food
My dog eats the cat food all the time, no problems. I was actually told that when dogs are sick and won't eat it is good to give them cat food because it is so tasty to them. My cat also will eat the moist dog food with no problem. I wouldn't worry about it.
dry cat food
Please please educate yourself on your animal companion's needs when it comes to diet and nutrition, please read below article for some exceptional insight into our cats and their food requirements. This is only one site, but there are many more that support these facts.
http://www.felinefuture.com/nutrition/bpo_ch4.php
I don't put anything on my food....
except maybe a little salt and butter on my veggies. No ketchup, no mustard, no mayo, no syrup on my pancakes, just a tiny bit of salad dressing to taste. Been that way my entire life.
Sorry. I was only looking for the food rec
and didn't see the sad stuff.
Red food dye #5 in the food. sm
Most dog foods have red food dye in them and many labs and lab mixes are allergic to red food dye. Try finding a food without the red food dye and give it a couple of weeks. You'll probably see a HUGE difference.
pet food
Iams is giving away free pet food if you register at
iamspromise.com thought I would share for all you pet lovers
Cat food
Has anyone fed their cat Science Diet's CD dry food for FUS? My 8-year-old male, Sam, has been on this for about 5 years with no recurrence of FUS. To keep him away from any other type of food, I have fed the other two the same; however, we now are up to 6 cats, 4 males/2females, and it is getting too expensive. Thinking I could feed all of them a very good dry food and add some CD to Sam's, but cannot decide what would be a good choice.
Thank you.
I never put pet food out just to put out but
I was going to try to feed the Great Dane (she ran off before I could get outside). I am not really in country, have close neighbors but woods behind our homes and see deer and such in the neighborhood (out in my yard twice since 2004). There is a wildlife preserve a few streets away where the other animals seen including geese, deer and the coyotes. I just try to feed all animals who come in the yard-if they act friendly enough.
Food
Fish.....baked, fried, broiled, grilled....
Always have food with him.
I haven't been there since the 1980s, and even then the cheapest food we could find in a restaurant was about a $9 hamburger!
What is it with the food?
We got very nice gifts this year but also ended up with more food items than usual; Harry and David Moose Munch, Hickory Farms fudge, Harry and David truffles, Harry and David double chocolate cashews, homemade cookies, and a homemade carrot cake loaf! It is all really good, but I have a belly ache from eating all of this stuff. Not to mention I will surely pack on the pounds if I keep eating it. LOL
NS food sm
I thought most of the food was fine. You can choose what you'd like by going to their website. It's very easy, it keeps track of what you have and need to get still (like how many desserts, or lunches, etc) Believe it or not, their hambergers (IMO) were delicious!!! Good luck!! You will find yourself not able to eat all of what you are supposed. I liked NS, but it just got expensive for me (not really that bad, but I have a hubby and two kids and still needed to do grocercy shopping trips for them).
Food
She could cook her host family a meal of foods common to America that they may be unfamiliar with.
This isn't as diverse but maybe as a reminder of her she could give them a state tree, state flower, or other from her hometown.
food
Pork Rinds
Tripe
Velveeta
Cheez Whiz
Prune Juice
dog food
You are correct, the grocery store pet food is all pretty poor quality filled with carcinogens and unhealthy carbs and anything else in the slaughter house not fit for human consumption. Someone opened my eyes to these ingredients about 5 years ago and I was horrified. Google commercial pet food ingredients. I feed all my animals human grade holistic pet food, yes more expensive, but they eat less and have a lot less health problems eliminating expensive vet visits so in the long run it is cost effective. Some great ones are New Balance, Wellness, Innova, California Natural, Solid Gold to name a few. I consider myself an expert on this subject after educating myself after my beloved collie died of cancer, could kick myself because it never occurred to me to wonder what was in her food, just figured it was good, NOT! If you have any questions, please feel free to ask. You are always so helpful in your tech answers, maybe I can help you in this one area. Good luck.
What food do you not like to eat?
This is the food that I refuse to eat:
Carbonated beverages
Mayo (Mayonnaise)
Tomatoes
Onion
Spicy Food
Jalapeños
Plain Milk (In cereal it is ok)
Bananas
Beer
champagne
soy milk
coffee
olives
hot peppers
green & red peppers
parmesan cheese
blue cheese salad dressing
raspberry vinaigrette salad dressing
spinach
coconut
mango
tofu
eggplant
yams
cottage cheese
artificial cheese (Mac & Cheese in a box)
cheese flavor gold fish crackers (Bad memory when I got sick as a kid from eating too many)
There is probably more, but this is what I can think of now.
Food Stamps
I just got back from the store and the lady in front of me had 2 small kids and paid with food stamps. When I was loading my groceries in my car, she was putting her children in car seats and driving a BRAND NEW CADILLIAC ESCALDE!! This thing was LOADED! Grrrrrrrr!
Maybe she was buying food for someone?
If your car is above a certain value, you don't qualify for food stamps.
She may have buying food for someone with their food stamps/food stamp card.
Ask your vet which food they ALL can eat. BTDT nm.
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food stamps
The thing is that some people do abuse the system and always will. But I do think there are people who really need help sometimes.
how about chewing food?
or worse yet, drinking (slurping) quite rude, I think!
I was at all inclusive but had the food out from
there and what I had was delicious. One side trip we took was a trip up the river and a BBQ dinner in a cleared out space. I did not stay exclusively in the all inclusive, too much to see in the shopping, restaurants, etc. I really would go back again. That is 1 trip that I really loved.
It is probably food related.
Have you switched foods lately? Most gas is food related in dogs and cats. High quality can still give the toots.
My cat is in the ICU due to poisoned food.
My cat is in the hospital with an IV due to kidney failure. I have tried twice to call Menu Foods to find out about filing a claim to cover the vet bill, but no one has called back. My poor cat is the innocent and has to suffer at the hands of whoever put the poison in the wheat gluten. Has anyone who is experiencing this with their pet been able to get through? I'm heartbroken that I may lose her. Even though I have two dogs, the house seems lonely.
Poisoned Food
My heart aches for you. I hope your cat pulls through and you get the vet bills paid by the people responsible. This is just horrible. I am lucky, my furkid didn't eat any of the brands that were in question. I was so scared until I had gone over the list. We rescued our baby girl 4 years ago and she is like the baby of our home now. We think of her as one of our children (she acts like one of our children) I don't know what in the world I would do if we lost her. I would be sick. You will be in my prayers. I pray it the outcome is good. Bless the furry ones. :)
? for you, if not worm food, then what? sm
How exactly are you going to avoid becoming worm food. Are you not going to be buried...cremated and kept in a jar is the only thing I can think of I guess unless you are going to stuffed and stuck in the living room as decoration. The poster above is indeed correct that we all become worm food (unless of course you go with my stuffing idea). Regardless of religious beliefs, if your buried, it's going to happen.
Ps. I have not been hit by a lightening bolt yet so don't worry, although you might get some of my anti-christ cooties if you're not careful ROLF!
Pet Food Update
Just saw this on my internet start page and would like to share:
By ANDREW BRIDGES - Associated Press Writer
WASHINGTON(AP) Recalled pet foods contained a chemical used to make plastics, but government tests failed to confirm the presence of rat poison, federal officials said Friday.
The Food and Drug Administration said it found melamine in samples of the Menu Foods pet food, as well as in wheat gluten used as an ingredient. Cornell University scientists also have found the chemical, also used as a fertilizer, in the urine of sick cats, as well as in the kidney of one cat that died after eating the company's wet food.
Menu Foods recalled 60 million containers of cat and dog food earlier this month after animals died of kidney failure after eating the Canadian company's products. It is not clear how many pets may have been poisoned by the apparently contaminated food, although anecdotal reports suggest hundreds if not thousands have died. The FDA alone has received more than 8,000 complaints.
The new finding comes a week after scientists at the New York State Food Laboratory identified a rat poison and cancer drug called aminopterin as the likely culprit. The FDA said it could not confirm that finding.
New York officials have detected melamine as well, though it's not clear how that chemical would have poisoned pets. It's typically used to produce plastic kitchen wares, though it's apparently used as a fertilizer in Asia, said Stephen F. Sundlof, director of the FDA's Center for Veterinary Medicine.
The recall involved nearly 100 brands of "cuts and gravy" style dog and cat food made by Menu Foods. The recall covered products carrying names of major brand-name and private-label products sold throughout North America.
The apparently melamine-contaminated wheat gluten also was shipped to an unnamed company that manufactures dry pet food. The FDA is attempting to determine if that product, imported from China, was used to make any pet food, Sundlof said.
Food should be passed to the right, or
counter-clockwise, For additional information on dining etiquette, please consult Manners 2000 Volume I Social Graces and Table Manners Video.
Unfortunately veterinarians are not pet food--sm
experts, and neither are pet care industry workers. They, like doctors, suggest nutrician primarily from those companies that sponsor them, just like the pharmaceutical companies do with human medications. Vets are not nutritionists and they do not know everything either. If they are given a break on the cost of pet foods, of course they are going to suggest it to their patients. Do some research and you will find that Iams and Science Diet has had many complaints against them in the past, and you can read some of them right here with this posting. You are entitled to your opinion, of course, but personally, I would not feed this food to anyone or anything.
Same here; especially Paula's food...
I say to my husband it's no wonder she looks like that - look what she's making now. lol. I don't care for all that fat either. I looked up her recipes and found chicken pot pie, fried bisquits, deep fried turkey, fried cream corn!, deep fried cheesecake!, macaroni and cheese, fried empanadas with cheese dip! Do people down south really eat like that? I probably eat stuff like that twice a year.
FOOD IS NEEDED!
I volunteer at a food cupboard twice a month. Today I went in to fill requests for families in need, and the shelves of our little interfaith cupboard were nearly empty. It was a struggle to get together some basic items for four families.
This is a problem with food cupboards all over the country. At holiday times, food drives are held and shelves are full. Even during the school year, more donations come in as school and youth groups run food drives to help those in need. But during summer, donations slow to a trickle as people are busy with summertime activities or away on vacation. Food drives are forgotten, but people still need your help.
If you can, please consider donating to your local food cupboard. Anything you can give would be appreciated. Even a couple boxes of cereal or a jar of peanut butter can make a difference!
Dog food ingredients..sm
One of my dogs has a corn allergy - causes sneezing, wheezing, coughing, skin welts with itching. I also stay away from meat and poultry by-products. I used to order his food from Drs Foster and Smith. After a long search, I finally found a dog food I can buy at Tractor Supply that meets his needs, and they have a weight management formula too - he is about 10 pounds overweight.
LOL!! Should be dog food (not foot!!!) nm
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