You don't have clue what passive-aggressive even means...
Posted By: Observer on 2007-04-01
In Reply to: you *sound* like a passive-aggressive - assume away....u sound like a huge nutjob!
although I feel certain you should know what nutjob means. I should have known you can't talk to someone who uses words like "ur" and "u" rather than taking the time to use words. How old are you? 12? Cya. I am going where I can have conversations with adults or at least mature 12-year-olds.
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only IF the passive aggressive wants help.........
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you *sound* like a passive-aggressive
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Passive-aggressive people -
Does anyone have to deal with passive-aggressive people in their lives, and how do you do it? Quick example of my sister:
Sister calls many times a day with histrionics asking for advice.
I give my advice, sister does the opposite.
Things do not work out.
Sister blames me for things not working out as I was not supportive enough.
That is my vicious circle that I deal with all the time and want to stop. Am thinking of "breaking up" with my sister, but that seems extreme. Any ideas?
That's a lil too passive-aggressive in this case
Seems like the 2 of you have a great friendship and enjoy one another's company. I'm more inclined with Robin's advice. I'm so flipping busy. Between working 10-14 hours a day, spending time with my husband, trying to find 'me' time to relax and unwind, I'm a total slacker when it comes to returning calls or initiating get-togethers. I'm pretty decent about checking my email, but only because I spend so much time in front of the computer working anyway. I always kind of figure everyone I care about who cares about me know where I am and how to reach me. I realize this probably makes me a total social retard but I just seriously rarely think to pick up the phone and call someone.
I'd keep going with things as they are. Maybe when it's just the two of you having lunch or something, you can talk to her more about the situation and make sure you don't feel like you're intruding on her time or anything.
Research passive-aggressive behavior. (sm)
Do you feel you are always at emotional crossroads and everything you decide to do together is handled like warring nations, not like loving partners?
Living with a passive-aggressive behavior spouse creates a daily emotional roller coaster. One is "stressed on an almost constant basis" and feel as if caring for an unresponsible teenager.
The passive-aggressive personality pretend not to listen, "forget on purpose," and purposefully do not complete tasks they agree to accomplish. Sullenness is also a characteristic of the behavior. The passsive-aggressive behavior can "rob" another one from a beautiful relationship. They cannot always see themselves and have a tendency to blame others (especially spouse) for their behavior. They sometimes display "revenge."
To rule out other serious medical conditions, encourage your husband to schedule an appointment with his primary care physician for "preventive care" only, letting him think nothing is wrong. The physician should order lab testing, and ask for thyroid function studies, etc.
Wishing you the best!!
I think what a passive/aggressive manipulative jerk!.
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Passive-aggressives
As with good sound advice that gets no one in trouble, is to tell her she needs to empower herself. She and she alone is the director of her life, and must take responsibility for decisions she makes. Treating yourself well means weighing out options, considering the repercussions of your decisions, and taking RESPONSILBITY for your decisions. There's real power in that. No one is responsible but ourselves for our decisions, and their results.
she may have a passive personality, is all.
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What got into you? Why so aggressive? Watch your language...nm
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The passive aggression on here is mind boggling. nm
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it was allowed because its passive (unlike alcohol) and
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Well, my significant other and I went away today and I was driving. Now he is a very aggressive
driver and I am much more cautious so it did not go well. I just dont pass everything in site with one foot on the gas and one on the brake. What a pain to have a passenger like that in the car telling you this and that and I would have been way up there by nowetc. Not much fun. I dont like to drive by the seat of my pants.
Actually, was thinkin with aggressive scratching wood ones
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Dear Owners of Aggressive Pit Bull:
I've already called animal control on you once and reported him for cornering, and then trying to bite me.
Well guess what. I bought mace. Not the wimpy dog-park spray, either. This is law-enforcement grade. It's the real deal.
The next time that sorry, un-neutered son-of-a-biotch comes anywhere near me, he's getting not just a warning squirt, he's getting the entire bottle in his face, maybe enough to close up his throat and kill him. I sure hope it does.
The Aggressive Black Shoe for Spring
The description tickled me! 
That's a good idea - something productively aggressive LOL - My stressor is (sm)
My "dad" is being sent home from the hospital to live with me. He has nowhere else to go. He is actually my stepdad. I think highly enough of him to help him out when he needs it, not let him live on the street or do without anything, but now it seems I am going to have to take care of im physically for several months while we are on a waiting list for an assisted living facility. He can barely walk and cannot tend to his lower hygiene needs. He and my mother were married from the time I was 3 until 8. He was very mean to us during that time. My mom divorced him, but he had adopted us and given us his last name. He got visitation rights once a month, and was very nice during that time, paid child support for a while but then in my teen years stopped paying it. Later I heard from him about once a year from the time I was about 21 to 39. He lived with my brother (his biological son) for a while when he was healthy. Now that he is ill they have shipped him three states up to me. I have two little children at home, a marriage that is on the rocks, and I work full-time. I also have some health problems of my own. Right now I am having extremely bad PMS and tomorrow morning I have to bring him home to my house. In addition, he curses all the time and is very loud and annoying, and I don't have a bedroom for him, so one of my kids is going to have to give up their room. Whew!! I feel better just spitting it all out!!
I guess Walter is pretty passive compared to your guy! Gets you going though, doesn't it? nm
Just ONE more clue....
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No clue (sm)
I don't have any idea what she may like so I'm looking for ideas that pretty much any 18-year-old gilr would like. Thanks for the ideas.
Another clue
I wondered...was I the only one that caught the remark about Tom bringing up the fact that Sam did not cook anything and how this was a cooking competition? The only thing Marcel cooked was the fried taro chip. Woo Woo. As for the pineapple poi, it looked like something dripped on the plate while moving the spoon to the rest. Heck who knew, I could be top chef!
Yea I saw that and you have no clue
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You are right, have no clue about
your post. I have done the mothering thing, the working thing together so I am stating what I saw with the hardworking mothers mostly all at the playground stating how many hrs they put in a week and what they are worth. I surely do not understand where they would estimate the worth of a stay at home mom at $183,000 plus a year- do you get that working or even half of that? Don’t think so.
I do not have a clue what OP
means?
I had no clue either !! NM
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Just a clue of what it is about??? sm
Looking for Christmas gifts, don't want to be inappropriate, no clue.
That would be my first clue not to
I have never stayed anywhere that they do not have 24-hour front desk. Find another hotel to stay at.
My husband, who has no clue as to...
who either one is, said the same thing, that Beyonce sounded like an amateur. I too was concerned about the breasts popping out of Jennifer's dress!
lol, totally NO CLUE..
I'm sure all the neighbors talk about that nut job around the corner who breastfed her very large baby at the ball park! C'mon now...can't even give the kid a juice box or something at baseball time? Something wrong with this picture. I seriously hope she's joking.
dont have a clue
Well said!
ooh thanks for the explanation, I had NO CLUE!!!
"get a clue?" That was mean
This woman is hurting about some very serious issues here and you sign yourself with some glib catch phrase. You really should be a little more compassionate. Remember the golden rule "treat others as you would be treated."
no clue what I was trying to type- sm
under influence of cold meds......think I was trying to type "I was born in 1965".
This will give her no clue. Sure he will
accept her invitation and DVD, again, it does not cost him anything.
Haven't a clue, sorry...
... I was invited by a friend who went to the original tea party locally. I expect it's the same folks, but I am not entirely sure. You might try the tea party sites. Or it could be just a local "take" on the tea party movement, with a slight name change to indicate that we're even more "teed off" now than we were a few months ago. Or something.
Another day, another billion dollars or three....
Don't have a clue, never relied on a pacifer
for my children, no rocking chair either to rock them to sleep and so glad a friend of mine with child my same age came to visit overnight. She rocked and rocked and rocked and my child went to bed and to sleep, no problem.
I don't have a clue. It is my opinion and mine
alone. Of course, they would like to make more money for what they do, just as I would, but I don't consider myself highly underpaid either.
I have no clue as to what type the flowers are
just know they are a beautiful shade of purple, hopefully still are. I just brought some English ivy back from his home and plan on planting that in something containable because would not put outside to run. Also, get this, I will have flowers galore when I finish. I am going to get some of his purple iris when they lose their bloom (which is July or the next 2 months) but I have places to put those out at my home. Just wish I could bring 1 of his big ole magnolia trees home. By the way south Georgia but do not know my zone- have seen on a planting map before but just not sure right now. My hydrangea, by the way, has bloomed big at the bottom of the plant but last years limbs are just dead- is this what they normally do? I really babied this plant, put covers over it when had some early frost so have really tried with it.
This guy has to get a clue. He isn't a pastor. He has no church. If he did sm
he'd have members. This guy thinks he's leading, but he's only taking a walk.
I kind of feel sorry for him, though. I am in the ministry. If the people don't support you, you have no ministry. This guy has no support. If he did he wouldn't have had to do what he did. He probably didn't bother telling anyone because these people aren't committed to attending his "church" anyway.
If it were me, I'd cut my losses, pray for him and move on. Don't call the police, just move on.
One of the biggest problems facing the church today is bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness between believers.
Probably Doesn't have animals or a clue
You'd think somebody that doesn't have them would at least know they do have nerve endings and can feel pain and suffering. I cannot get over the selfishness of this person. Makes me ashamed to be a member of the human race, and hopefully a day will come someone who does something this unconscionable will be able to be charged with leaving the scene of an accident. The courts are moving closer and closer to protecting animals in situations like this.
And to whoever said not to call the humane society, for God's sake, WHY? Why NOT call somebody who would help?
No clue but my DH does this sort of stuff too - sm
though he does not help with any school projects, I do all that stuff. But he will grill them relentlessly over something that is either really stoopid or totally irrelevant and get them crying, etc. generally shortly before bedtime, and unless I totally prove him wrong he does not apologize to them. I just tell him to back off and leave them alone, it does take a while for him to actually do this though. Though he has been improving lately, maybe because I keep drilling into him that he is going to lose what communication he has with the girls in a few years (they are 7 and 9) if he does not knock it off. You might want to stress that your girls will soon be tuning him out on a permanent basis if he does not stop and stop now. If he needs to schedule in time to help them with something then maybe keep an appt. calendar on the fridge and have them write down their project due dates (in big red letters) and have him write what day/time he can help them and then keep to it. This may help him with his own organization and if he weasles out of helping, make a note of it too on the calendar (and "reschedule" the appt as well) so later he can't say, well you never asked me for help, etc. He should not be waking them up, they need their rest and and he can wait until morning to make himself feel better. Why are men such total jerkks at times? Genetics?
I don't have a clue how much my brother owes
for his children, but at this point he will never catch up. My parents (who are defintely able to do this) payed my ex-SIL instead. My brother just says they are just giving them his inheritance. My parents bypassed him in their wills long ago and set up trust funds for his children. This is while he was still married. As soon as he finally got a job his ex let it be known and money is witheld from every paycheck. At least he is trying a little now and things are starting to look up, but.... I really hate it for all of those who don't have anyone else to step in and help and I really admire the ones that do it all on their own.
No, NIck has not appeared, no clue what will happen there. sm
Jill is planning to go with Jimin (sp) on his trip, Catherine is totally against it, she does not trust Jimin since he is associated with Jack's business. Victoria and Brad have made amends, vowing to never cheat on each other again. Sharon is questioning Jack's integrity and his trust of her. JT was missing his PDA and found it at Crimson Lights only after Kevin had retieved information from it for Colleen (she thinks he exposed her relationship with Corbel), not sure what he got though. That's all I remember.
Do you know that Y&R comes on at 10/11 p.m. on Soapnet? Until last week you could have seen it at 5/6 p.m. as well, but they hae changed the TV schedule...
Person sending email to me has no clue
I got an email saying I never loved my brother and I should share what my father gave me with my SIL. I do not owe her 1 red cent. When my brother died in the early 70s she got a settlement then of between $350,000 and $400,000. Do you realize how much money that was then? My mother tried really hard to have the courts set up some kind of guardenship for their 2 minor children (her son's children) so they would have something to live on in later years. Being as my mother was only the grandmother, the courts would not allow this. The money gotten in the settlement was literally squandered. Just for the record, the 3 g'children she spoke of the other day included 2 of her's and 1 being mine. The really bottom line on this was the g'children would have never been able to keep the property because between the 3 of them they basically did not have 1 nickel to rub amongst them. I was paying and had paid prior to my father's death the insurance on the property and the property taxes also. The 3 g'children could not have done it. It takes a lot to keep a property up. My aunt told me is that is water under the bridge, a done deal. Before emailing you should have your facts straight.
They resent anybody on aid, especially food stamps, and have no clue what it takes to get them.
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It means...
I don't care for organized religion. I believe there are some truths in most religions - the Golden Rule, live a life of moderation, try to make the world a better place. I believe there are spiritual aspects to our existence, that we are not just bones and skin and blood, we are something more. As to exactly what that "more" consists of - I read, I study, I learn, I experience....maybe one day I'll figure it out. Or maybe not.
Don't know if this answers your question, but it's the best I can do.
perhaps? That means maybe...
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So that means don't put his name in
the hat for gift exchange or expect him to help decorate or attend a party. I think the amount the company spends per employee on any parties (if they are the ones paying) could simply be given to him as a check. Other employees could be told they have this option also. Maybe there is somebody else who thinks it's a lot of nonsense but just kept their mouth shut, but now they have the option of getting a check.
That's what I'd do if I were the OM or giving ideas to the OM. I'd still decorate if the majority want to, but avoid using real greenery for a completely different reason - a lot of people are now extremely allergic to Christmas trees or boughs that have been treated with some chemical to extend their life.
what it means
When he calls you that name, it means he has contempt for you. When he projects everything to be your fault, he also holds you in contempt. This is verbal and emotional abuse. As far as punching the wall, the wall is the stand in for what he would like to do to you and he may eventually punch you. Take it from me, who was called every dirty name ever invented by my spouse and whose doors and walls had holes and dents.
I would put your well-being and that of your child first and seek therapy. It would be great if he went, but he sees you as the problem, and he may refuse to go. You can't fix him. He needs to fix himself.
As much as you may not want to hear this, leaving him may be the best thing for your own sanity and self-preservation and also so your child doesn't have to grow up in that environment.
If you can't afford therapy, there may be a battered woman's group in your area that can give you information and advice. I utilized my local group and found it very helpful.
The only regret that I have about my marriage is that I stayed in it far too long.
means.
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I think she means
that with unstable dry sand, or even with sand of a wetter consistency, if a hole is too deep (over a child's head)it is possible for them to be in the hole and the sides collapse in on top of them. Just inform your kids that they cannot dig over a foot or so deep; make whatever limit you feel safe with. There's nothing to fear if they keep it shallow.
This happened to a man I knew years ago with dirt, not sand, but I agree it would be possible in sand and probably easier done. He was working in a ditch deeper than he was tall, and when it collapsed on top of him, it killed him. I do believe that is what 'SM' is warning against.
And that means?
Marriage is mostly a gamble. Some turn out alright, some don’t. I think it has nothing to do with the fact of the friend spilling her soul to a daughter.
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