You did your rant, laughed your ___ off and wrote off your Mom and Grandmom!
Posted By: BT *been there" on 2008-12-17
In Reply to: A: (answer) Yes! - BT *been there"
You have a lot to learn. When they are dead, you will realize it didn't really mean a thing except that you "wrote them off" and laughed your A@@ off at any suggestion that you should make peace with your Mom at Christmas. You only have one Mom, you came from her loins, no one else's. Too bad you can't realize how wrong you are to judge. No one said you have to see her every day but she's a human being and human beings make mistakes. Glad you are perfect and your kid is perfect. Hope you always remain "perfect." Merry Christmas! Sounds like you have a lot of people backing you up, so you think you're right in ditching your Mom and Grandmom. People in my family have done horrible things to me but I rise above it, send them a Christmas card and wish them a Merry Christmas and a Happy and Healthy New Year. I am not God. Perhaps you don't see your Mom's tears, but believe me, one day you will be sorry and it will be too late. Get a heart! You are telling your son in effect, "These are bad people, write them off!" Bad advice methinks. You are hearing only what you want to hear, so go ahead and laugh your a@@ off if it makes you happy. Watch out you are not that "Mom" one day, you've set the scene and have written the script, to "write Moms off."
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You can see my grandmom on YouTube
With all the talk about grandparents, I wanted to share a video of mine. My cousin just recently posted a home movie of our grandmom on YouTube. Her cole slaw was the best, and she's making it in this video. It's not a terribly interesting video unless you knew her, but I wanted to share it. She died a few years ago at the age of 94. The video is about 20 years old. She was an amazing, tiny tower of power. When she was 10, her mother died, and as she was oldest of four children, she became the mom in the house... at the age of 10. She raised her own four children during the depression, and she wouldn't waste anything. You can see her in the video getting every shred of carrot off her grater. She was full of wisdom, but she dispensed it very practically. She was as likely to tell you flat out that you were being stoopid as she was to give you yummy cookies... both when deserved. I was her only daughter's only daughter, so I had a special place in her family, which "ran to boys". I was the only one she taught to make the cole slaw! And when I was in college, I lived with her in her tiny three room apartment and for four years slept on the sofa bed in the living room. She was my college roommate. I really miss her. If you want to see my grandmom, you can check it out: http://youtube.com/watch?v=JTq3KYZth3E
Your grandmom was very fortunate to have you too! (sm)
how many grandchildren would live with their grandparent through college and still talk about them with so much love years later? That is so sweet and wonderful that you both had such a good relationship with each other!
My grandmom was Jerome Panty
I worked in Medicare for a while doing editing and for a year, I had to keep sending requests in to change her gender to female! Her dad wanted boys soooo badly...but she had 7 sisters..."There go the 8 Panty girls!" What a hoot in the early 1900s!
Later in life, I heard of a female patient named....Golden Body. I never met her (both of these women are now deceased). I don't know if Golden married into the Body family or if it was a maiden name, but I always thought if I retired to a beach, that is what I'm changing my name to!!
Even sadder, more infuriating...on CNN,grandmom has announced she is "abandoning her daughter, sh
This grandmother needs big time help herself. Where the heck was she when she "enabled" her daugher to live with her, support her, and have the six previous children, let alone the IVF which resulted in these tiny innocent sweet babies??? NOW she wants to walk away because people are asking for her accountability in allowing this to happen in her house with her daughter?????? WHAT??? This is such a sick, dysfunctional family, I pray that everyone out there prays for these little infants, and the six little siblings at home, they are facing such a messed up, contentious, painful future because of their mother's/grandparents incomprehensible choices. Wow.
My little rant...
I just typed a report on a child with fetal alcohol syndrome who just had 9 teeth pulled, due to dental caries. She is still with her mother. If abusing the baby before she was born--and I do think it is abuse--wasn't enough, this mother is allowed to neglect her into having surgery to remove half of her teeth. What bothers me the most is that caring parents lose their children for spanking, while mothers like this are given chance after chance. If you can't quite drinking while you are pregnant, I think that you should never get to take that baby home. There are plenty of people who want children and cannot conceive. Why do people get chance after chance, all the while screwing up their kids even more?
Sorry about my rant - sm
Obvioulsy I don't have such great memories of those years, but I think a lot of it depended on where you lived. Small town costal Oregon at that time was horrible. They had shut down most of the logging, the mills, fishing, etc. I believe that the west coast was harder hit than the rest of the country from what I've read.
We survived and we will survive today as well - we'll never be able to retire, but we'll survive!
Now the 60's I remember fondly, although I was a little young to be involved in all the strife going on at the time. The 70's were decent. For my family the 90s were the best. Oh heck, I think I was really meant to have been born about 1400 or something. LOL
laughed again....was on AFV
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I was on a rant and about a mess....
and yelled 'pick up your toys and put them away, dammit!"
She - then 4 - started to do so, but turned back and looked me right in the eye and said,
"don't call me dammit!"
had to laugh.
This old lady has to rant about a rather SM
unimportant detail noted on AOL, among all the other unimportant details. I know this isn't important, people might mock me, call me names, say haven't I got more important things to worry about, what with our economy in trouble, violence in the Middle East, that crazy woman with the 14 babies, but....
THEY ARE REMAKING BONNIE AND CLYDE, ONLY ONE OF THE BEST MOVIES EVER MADE, AND THEY ARE MAKING IT WITH HILARY DUFF AS BONNIE!!!!! HILARY DUFF!!!!!!
I suppose Clyde will be played by Justin Timberlake, although from what I have seen from Justin, that might not be bad choice.
I laughed when you talked about FIL
but tell me, what is his behavior since he forgets his filter between brain and mouth? Is he foul mouthed, crude, cruel ???
Laughed out loud sm
When I was in high school I workd at a Dairy Queen and we got soooo sick of people saying they wanted their order to go while at the drive-thru. One night (it was winter so we were quite slow) we were bored and decided to ask every customer if they wanted their order to go. We thought is was hysterical but some of the customers failed to see the humor. Not only a lot of sarcastic responses, but a couple of customers used a few words I can't repeat, which made it even funnier to us.
Rant about survey takers. sm
My electric bill is sky high, so I called the electric company to obtain a free survey and to ask questions to help lower the bill. A nice gentleman came to my home and offered good advice.
Today, I received a phone call asking about my experience with their service. I was happy with the service and told them that, however, it was a survey taker and every minute portion of my experience from requesting this service to practically what the guy was wearing was asked of me. I was on the phone for ten minutes, asking when this survey would end, and she said a few more questions, until it was 15 minutes and I hung up on her. I told her several times I was working and could not speak for long. I just needed to rant.
Felt same way, but laughed out loud when
she grabbed her one ankle and put her hand behind her head...she was really funny but not a dance for a competition!
my husband and i laughed til we cried!
i actually laughed out loud when i read that...
because it sounds so much like something I could do but i try to use a little bit of self control
pinewood derby races - rant
My son was in a pinewood derby race at church. There is so much for kids to learn about the car design, ect.
Here is my rant. Why don't they have rules about what the fathers can/can't help with! The cars that the father's obviously did won first place for every single grade. It was ridiculous I've never seen so many 8-year-old boys in tears. I think these men are sick that winning against a kid gets them off.
Except for sawing the car and nailing the axels it should be hands off for the dad! It was so obvious between a car that a man designed/traced and painted vs. a kid. They even had an adult category the men could have entered into.
Has anyone experienced this? 
rant! who's owed the most child support?
mine is currently in arrears in the amount of $23,775 --- he inherited MILLIONS when his father died -- he refuses to work, he's never paid me a dime.... my case worker is attempting to put a lien on his $1/2-million home in Vegas.. Blessed with this child, but sure would like some support, maybe not have to work two jobs...
I'm so glad you're all here for ranting.... thanks, friends.
My rant: I agree cheating on one's spouse is never SM
acceptable. The one thing that REALLY bothers me, is that men claim that they have to cheat, since sex with their wives is no longer exciting and that their wife won't do what paid companions will and my thought is always the same "Did you ASK her?". If they ask nicely, I'm sure loving wives would be more than willing to comply. Within reason, of course.
Braces...Warning...there's a rant a'commin
I HATE THEM!!! I'm about to call the orthodontist and tell him I've given up, my teeth are just fine now and I WANT THEM OFF!!! I'm so sick of worrying about staining my teeth. I've become "obsessive" about brushing. I hate the fact that I'm constantly "tonguing" them and worried about having stuff stuck in them. I don't smile anymore. I don't like to go in public. HATE pictures cuz I don't smile with my teeth and I look like a moron when I smile with my mouth shut. I miss my baby carrots and broccoli. Sandwiches are absolutely impossible. Just all in all a horrible experience and I wish I never would have gotten them...
Sorry and thank you for your time...lol
HAHA! LOL! OMG! This is hysterical. I laughed at both, but yours made me cry. nm
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Okay, I have actucally laughed out loud today. Thanks! nm
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I sorta laughed at the place where you said your husband
would never cheat, and you keep him happy as well. Lady, please, you do know don’t you a man can be pleased as punch but that does not stop all from having affairs. It happens all the time. My goodness!
I laughed when I saw that privacy and cell phones, my goodness
out in public those 2 just do not go together. Unless I get a call (which I seldom do on my cell) I do not make those obnoxious calls that lets everyone else around me or a block away listen to all my conversation. I am so put off by those I usually try to walk away from the person who is doing this. By the way, if I am tracked they will find me 99.9% of the time in my own home.
LOL! OMG! I laughed out loud for the 1st time on this site - ever! hahahaha nm
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Amen. Well said...whoever wrote this. thx. nm
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could have wrote you note but sm
I have a daughter that is a sophmore.Wamted this certain college. Could not convince to stay in state. It costs her 10,000 dollars more being out of state. She goes from wanting to b there to not wanting to be there to liking it it to hating it It depends on what day you talk to her. Joined the band dropped out, had problem with boyfriend moved across the campus, than they started dating again, then he ends it. She gets upset wants to come home. I get a phone call every night. Everytime we decide to have her transfer or come home she decides to stay. Has changed her major three times. What worries me is she is on Student loans that she will be responsible to pay when she graduates. If she leaves college she will have to start paying immediately, where she would have 10 years if the stays in college. This month she is already over 80 minutes on the cell phone and there is two weeks more to go. She spends hours talking to the ex-boyfriend and they are on the same campus. My husband and I are going to talk to a therapist about this because I want to do tough love. Hang up when she calls crying at 11 p.m. Telling her if she does not get her act together she will have no choice to leave etc. He is the softy. Nothing makes her happy.
By any chance is your son going to a college in New England.
Wrote down the info...thanks. nm
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First off, I was very upset when I wrote
the original post. Sending my son to a boys' home is obviously a last resort. I don't mean an orphanage or foster care. I mean a facility that can help to retrain him if I can't. I love my son very much. I would rather suffer the pains and guilt of having to send him to a reformity, then to watch him grow up into someone who would hurt someone else and ruin the rest of his life. I love all of my children equally.
Secondly, when I took my child to the child psychologist, I had several visits with him first to see if there was something I was doing wrong. I continued to attend each session with my child, including private sessions for myself after his meeting with my son.
Thirdly, your comments were not helpful, just nasty, and that's not the kind of help I was looking for. Anyone who's ever been in this situation already feels inadequate as a parent and doesn't need someone else to slam them. Thanks for taking the time out of your busy day to do just that.
You must be my twin because you just wrote
everything about me to a T!!! I've been in a quandry for quite some time about what I should do.
I was one who wrote below about finding SM
love after divorce. I believe there are good men out there, but they are hard to find, especially the older one gets. I think the key is letting him find you, but it doesn't mean you can't put yourself out there.
OK. What I think about problem men have in marriages. I'm speaking about my own here. I was the only girl he ever dated. He asked me to marry him and I said yes. He knew it was mistake, but was devout Catholic and just stayed married, but decided he would still like to be single, so he began cheating on me. As for me, I loved him for a long, long time. When I see him at family events, I wonder why! LOL!!!!
hih? truth? whose? Men who wrote Bibles?
I have not read but others wrote yet but you just need to stop - sm
you have done all you can do and have bent over backwards to help. Your guilt will be your downfall. I don't know how to tell you to stop feeling guilty, but you really have nothing to feel guilty about. You have done way too much for her and she has just taken advantage. She is 19 more than old enough to take care of herself. She wants to be homeless and can adapt as you say to any situation, then let her. I would just tell her the gravy train stops now and she has to learn how to take care of herself. Get some names of some shelters to give her, the YWCA, etc. and if she really wants to help herself she can start there but she is going to have to do it on her own now. If the worsed happens you know you have done all that one person can possibly do; but if she does not want to help herself (and it is obvious she does not) then there really is nothing you or anyone else can do. You need to steel yourself not to give in and basically cut off all contact until she proves w/o a doubt that she has cleaned up her act which will take at least 6 months if not more I would think. If you don't have caller ID then get it, otherwise let your answering machine answer all calls and just don't take hers or return her calls either. Good luck.
That wife you wrote about sounds like me! LOL! SM
I was married to a man who cheated for years. I was in total denial. After close to 30 years, I up and left. Best thing I ever did.
Just want to acknowledge point that men don't leave. If they are in a long marriage, and have been getting away with cheating for a long time, AND there is a lot of money involved, what with houses, pensions, savings, etc., THEY DON'T LEAVE.
I admire both your honesty. Good luck.
just wrote a long reply`
put stu@pid in it and it said I used bad language and to go back and it deleated my whole darn thing, will write back soon, behind in work, but have some comments to make later. Good to see you back Hayseed.
No when I originally wrote the check
The check was a voided check to Wal-Mart and the Loan company, CNH Capital, knew that and cashed it anyway. I thought it was illegal for someone cash a check that did not belong to them.
I can't believe you just wrote it's not okay for your kids to make mistakes.
"Just becuase UGU all forget things and make mistakes does not mean that my children need to be raised to think it's ok to do so."
Good god, I hope I never meet you or anyone else with your twisted sense of right and wrong.
no, nobody knows but the bank, they will cover checks you wrote
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Totally disagree with one thing you wrote. sm
You Wrote:
Yes, there are bad breeders, but there are far more good ones. In my 18 years in the cat fancy, I have seen some bad ones, *but the good ones far outweigh the bad.*
If only that were true. *sigh* Maybe you're talking about in the show world. It probably is true there, but that is such a teeny, tiny part of the whole picture.
In reality, outside of the show world, there are far, far, far more BAD 'breeders' out there, though I'm using the word 'breeder' loosely, to include backyard breeders (type that into Google if you're not familiar w/the term - I don't mean you, gd1, as I'm sure you know all about it!), puppy mills, and pet stores, and that is were the majority of the pet overpopulation problem comes from.
I wish only the reputable, ethical 'show breeders' of dogs and cats were the only ones doing any breeding. If that were the case, there would be little to no problem, as they are the caretakers of their breeds and are concerned with bettering the breed, only breeding animals with excellent health, conformation, and temperament - not just $$$ by cranking out puppies/kittens, or letting their dog/cat have a litter for the kids to see or because 'everyone wants one of her puppies/kittens!' or whatever.
I don't know if mandatory spaying/neutering is the answer or not. I do know it's being seriously considered in my state (CA), and there would be exceptions for hobby/show breeders, breeders of service dogs, search and rescue dogs, etc.
But I have a feeling people would find some way around it, and I imagine disreputable people (gag) in neighboring states would start to crank up 'production' if there were any kind of 'shortage' here. Makes me ill...
I also don't know how mandatory spay/neut. could be enforced. Animal control here (huge county) admitted on the news that only about 25% of pets are licensed.
I think I'm in favor of it, overall though, at least to give it a try and with exceptions available for *some* breeders, as I mentioned above.
I did breed rescue for 6 years, and I've been to more shelters and seen more animals there than I care to recall. It's absolutely sickening the number of perfectly nice animals destroyed, simply for lack of a home. A shocking number (about 25-30%) are young, healthy purebreds that cost the original owner a pretty penny, so even that doesn't guarantee a home.
The poster wrote 4 sentences on an MT forum.
You don't know her, can't judge her. This place is getting so catty and ridiculous.
Obviously a man wrote that Good Wife Guide - sm
Boy that thing is amazing, hard to believe that that is how people thought and behaved back then, Stepford wives. Guess some men were sad when women finally woke up and smelled the coffee. ---I only remember a couple things though, but I was born in 1965--- drive-in movies and the metal ice trays, rabbit ears, the star/sun ray clock, and we had an old metal Pepsi cooler which had my dad kept would probably be worth a small fortune now.
If you exercised your right to vote and wrote to your congressmen/women,
passive people just sit back ,allow bad things happening, and then whine about it, while aggressive people actually DO SOMETHING about matters they disagree with.
Mitch Alboum wrote a book about this called
Boy, Hayseed..you just wrote my story..Today, it occured to me...
I'm going nuts doing this job. The longer I sit here every day the fruit-ier I am getting. I have to force myself to leave the house and when I get out there I have panic attacks. I'm freaked out by traffic, freaked out by too many people and I just want to run home and put my sweats back on. A few days ago was the topper, and it was at that point, that I started getting on the job search for a job OUTSIDE of home. Isolation is NOT good. My husband had just made dinner, we ate, then I went back to my office for about an hour, and I irritatingly came out of my office to ask my husband why he hadn't decided yet what he wanted for dinner as it was getting late. He looked at me with that WHAT THE BLEEP BLEEP!!! and I just knew it was time to get AWAY from the computer and socialize with real people. I truly feel this is NOT healthy. I have started wierding myself out by some of the stuff I'm doing. I have even started forgetting people's names and numbers that I swore I would never forget...AND I refuse to believe I'm getting older or that I have Alzheimers. It's something much deeper..WORK..LOL..Well, it's late and I need to get back to work so I can keep losing my mind..See ya. 
I wrote my local buffalo rock and they told me a
I will look for your Folger's Instant Straight up tomorrow when I go!
I wrote a $10 check to Wal-Mart and turned in to a $40 mistake so far.
Here is what happened. When you write a check at this Wal-Mart here, they have you sign something and give the check back. I stuck it back in my purse. They are supposed to void. I was cleaning at my purse that day and paying bills at the same time. I wrote a $250 to pay a loan. I really don't know how it happened but I must have torn that one up and sent the $10 voided check to the loan. A week later, i was looking at my acct online. I notice that that $10 I had written to Wal-Mart went through twice. I called the bank and asked why. They said, "oh, it looks like Wal-Mart double dipped." so I was refunded the money. I don't know who refunded the money, was it the bank, Wal-mart, I don't know. Anyway, I became concerned about why that 250 check didn't come in so I called that loan company. They said $10 was credit to my acct. I did not connect the 2 at the time. I thought, 10, I don't write $10 to this acct. The man told me he would look into it incase there was a mistake. He called back the day later and said that was a $10 originally written to Wal-Mart and we cashed it. So I called the bank and told them. They then had me go to wal-mart because they said I owed them $10 back. I go to wal-mart and they say no it is the Telecheck, company they use for this service and they thanked me for trying to clear it up and said Telecheck will be contacting me. So I get a letter in the mail saying I owe $40 plus I am not allowed to write checks anywhere that uses their service until I pay that $40 back.
What scares me is that that check said VOID on it and that other bunch was still able to cash it and get their money, which I think was dishonest of them...also my bank let it go through. Now what if I were to loose a bunch of those type checks and someone cashes it AGAIN. Man I would be out a lot. Do you think any of this is right? TIA.
Sorry, I was upset at the time I wrote the original post
Basically, I sent a voided Wal-Mart check to a creditor by mistake and they cashed it and the bank let it go through both times. I called them on it. I was thinking that someone must have found that check and cashed it again. At the time, I did not realize my mistake. They then cancelled the payment to Wal-Mart, don't know why, and now Wal-Mart is treating it like I wrote a hot check. They added $30 to the original amount.
I read all the comments and I agree with the poster who wrote
'One has to teach people how to treat you' and one has to tell people what is imoportant to oneself.
It is inexcusable not to call or meet one's mother for mother's day and Christmas, etc.....
A cute little article/story my husband just wrote that I wanted to share!
Layoffs in the North Pole
Story by Bill Perkins
In a press release this morning Santa Claus announced the layoff of nearly 800,000 elf employees. The announcement was completely unexpected despite the current economic situation.
Due to the failing economy, and many companies cutting costs wherever they can, including advertising, Mr. Claus has lost several endorsement jobs.
Mr. Claus is seeking government aid, requesting his own bailout package from several different governments. However, he is meeting a great deal of resistance. Many toymakers and distributors, namely Walmart, Playskool, and the Chinese government, are lobbying against the bailout. They say Santa's "Free Toy for Every Child" program is a seasonal monopoly, and it generally takes four months to recover the losses sustained from his "good deeds."
Children across the globe will feel the impact this Christmas, particularly the naughty ones. Traditionally, naughty children receive lumps of coal from Santa on Christmas. Mr. Claus has no coal to give, though, as it was part of the elves' severance packages. It is Santa's hope that it will at least be enough to keep his former employees warm through the winter.
When asked if there was any hope of the elves returning to work next year, Santa replied, "It doesn't look very promising. The elves are like family to me; I love them all very dearly. Unfortunately, illegal immigrants work for a lot less, and I don't have to provide benefits, so that's probably what I'll have to do. It was a difficult decision to make, but it's necessary if I want to keep the business in operation."
The elves aren't the only ones hurting. The reindeer are suffering a great deal more. Mr. Claus has had to auction off much of his breeding stock just to stay operational until Christmas Eve. (See related story on page 5, "McDonald's Debuts new Christmas Menu.) It is questionable at this point how much longer Santa will be able to make his annual flight.
Could this be the beginning of the end of Santa Claus? Only time will tell for sure.
Anyone work in a dental office? Dental rant. SM
I have been going to the same dental office (father and daughter dentists), for over ten years. It is a private office, not a clinic. I have Delta Dental PPO.
There has never been a problem. I get my teeth cleaned every three months. I get x-rays taken twice a year and the dentist checks my teeth after each cleaning. Sounds good, right?
So at my last cleaning in January, I was told my teeth were in terrible shape and I needed five crowns placed. I then was subjected to a very hard sales pitch for these crowns, accompanied by gory videos of rotten teeth, with statements like "these could be YOUR teeth". They also went on to say that insurance will not cover this and I will have to pay out of pocket. The conservative price was $5000.
Well, I decided to have three crowns done. I paid $1000, (my tax refund), insurance did pay $1000 and I just paid another $600 out of pocket.
I have lost complete faith in this office. Why would I go there every three months, only to be told I need work that someone would need if they hadn't seen a dentist in 10 or more years?
Was I taken? I have no faith in them at all now.
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