You did what you felt you had to do at the time SM
Posted By: Thinking of you on 2008-04-23
In Reply to: I could use some collective psychic support - sm - NYMT
and I wish the very best for you and your family now. I think you did the right thing by reaching out. I am sure in so many ways he misses you as well. It may take some time, but I think this will have a happy ending. Try to take it one day at a time and rest assured in what you have done by reaching out.
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I agree...not selfish at all..we have all felt like that at one time or another..
although some of us probably don't want to admit that...glad she vented to us and not her mother...
Well I too have been there,felt that, got OUT : )
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I know how she felt!
I keep looking behind blinds and checking the windows, etc. I think I will keep looking over my shoulder for quite some time. I just wish I knew how it got in! My step-father got a chuckle out of it, but understands. I asked him tonight if it will ever happen again. He smiled and said, maybe. I said when? He smiled and said . . maybe tonight!!
I felt the same way!
I though the ending was very disappointing! I hope he goes on to write more books about these characters because that will make it worth my while. I read this when it first came out in September. After reading The Quickie, this You've Been Warned left a lot to be desired for sure.
Ha! Most of us have felt that way before, (sm)
but I think there are solutions for everything a dog does.
Cats are the really tricky pets IMO. :oD
How I felt when my Dad did it to me
I will not tell how many years ago this has been, but believe me it has been quite a few. My father believed in spanking, using a hairbrush and using the belt. I had three brothers and we all got a dose of each of this method of discipline, and today it still bothers me and brings me to tears when I think about it. I was not a bad kid, just the opposite, but my younger brother and I did not agree a lot of the time. It is bad enough when any child has that kind of punishment, but when you use this on a girl, I believe it does carry an emotional scar for the rest of your life, and I believe it does not teach your children anything in the way of how to handle problems, and how it must feel when a person in authority in their lives can carry out this inhumane act and it is okay, but let a child rebel in this manner toward someone else and they wonder what is wrong with the child, well we are teaching them this is perfectly acceptable to do, and there is nothing a child can do about it. This is the ultimate form of humiliation for a child, and nothing can justify to me that it is right. I know when my father took a hairbrush and belt to my brother and I, I never felt worse in my life. I felt anger, humiliation and just felt like the most unloved person in this world,and being the age I was I did not think it was appropriate that my father treat me this way, and not especially in front of my brother, who I felt terrible for also. Those chldren also depend on their parents for protection, and when a stranger can be given authority to do this, your child is devastated. Discipline, I believe, belongs at home, and there is a better way than this.
I too felt as you did.
I wanted to address the part about being a hypocrite and eating meat. I felt the same way as you do about this. I was a huge carnivore until I was 38, but always dreamed of being animal flesh free. I then went to an animal rights conference and forced myself to watch the undercover videos of the slaughter houses and that is what it took for me to stop. It was hard but so worth it.
I once heard Alicia Silverstone say something to the effect if you can only eliminate one meat at a time that would be a way to start. But if you can't then you try to help the animals in other ways such as fostering as you tried. Fosterers are heros, I can't do it as I have huge issues about letting them go too like your daughter. We all just need to do what we can do. I haven't given up wearing leather shoes, though want to, but I say I am doing my part and when I can I will. I also still do dairy and hope to one day be totally vegan. Just know that if you are trying and helping to be a voice for the animals that is all you can do and try to move towards a more humane way of life in all areas of your life as you are able.
When people say to me, well the dairy cows are the most cruely treated, why are you eating dairy, I say "I am doing what I can for them at this moment, in the future when I can do more I will, but I am doing my part by eliminating meat. Good luck to you Trose, and thanks for helping the animals.
I felt the same way -- sm
What Harrison (#92) did was wrong. He should have been ejected from the game. Most of my family and friends are Steelers fans and we all felt the same way. I'm happy for the rest of the Steelers. Ben's just a phenomenal QB. I hope Harrison receives some sort of penalty to his wallet for that one.
I must say, though, from the getgo my heart was torn between the 2 teams. I was never a Cardinals fan, but then I read Warner's (QB) story and he just seems like a great guy. I hope he hangs in there for another year. It was reported last night that win or lose he would be contemplating retirement.
I also felt like someone was behind me
and I could not turn to see them. I just knew I was awake, knew 1 time on the couch and even to make myself know I was awake tried counting something, threads in the couch, cracks in the ceiling, who knows, years ago but this is without a doubt the most horrifying thing. I knew a monster was behind me, could not turn to see, could not speak, I hope it never happens again.
I felt the same way about it...sm
I was hoping for something outrageously goofy yet touching, like that musical episode they had a few seasons back.
I felt nauseous until about 1 p.m. every day (sm)
and that lasted about the first three months. What really helped me was sucking on peppermints. I did this with both pregnancies and it was the only thing that made me feel better.
Congratulations and good luck to you!
been there, felt that, got counseling
We had been married about 15 years when I began to feel that way about my husband. We do not have kids, so let me tell you that I had little motivation to even want to try to work on things. Hubby suggested counseling (both group and just the two of us). After about a month of this and reading a few books at home I felt 100% better and those feelings of nearly hating him for no apparent reason went away. We worked hard on communication, which we had let slip over the years, during which time I harbored all kinds of hurts and resentments for things he had no clue were even making me upset, mad, disgusted, you name it. We will be celebrating our 24th anniversary this year and cannot be happier, so it CAN be done with hard work. You have first got to put your relationship as priority 1! Please do not just walk away without first trying everything you can!
When I had trouble, it felt like a really...sm
sharp, hard pinch along my sternum. I was given Motrin. I did have a workup first before the doctor decided on costochondritis - EKG, treadmill, echo. I do have mitral valve prolapse.
Well I'm sure she'd do the cooking if she felt up to it.
We can't decide for others when they are going to throw a party, though she seems to be thrusting one on you!
Poor kid.... I felt bad for him
I agree that he surely didn't measure up vocally to the others. He seems like a nice kid, though, and even most adults couldn't take being talked about the way he has been. I really felt for him up there. I hope he has a lot of fun when they're on tour. I think he's going to be getting the biggest reaction from the crowds.
Yeah, I felt bad for him too.
I think his tears showed just how much pressure he's been under all these weeks. He never did anything wrong. It was the judges who let him through that started this mess. He is just a kid after all wanting like all the other contestants to win. While I'm glad he's gone, I still don't wish him any ill will. Just those idiots at Vote for the Worst. They've got to go!
The ONLY one I have ever felt for in their case is....
Years of therapy due to what both of her parents have done. THEY have done it - nobody else - and the child is COMPLETELY innocent at 11....
In these cases, it's only the children who suffer...and these 2 nutcases should definitely know better, not like they are ill-educated and/or ignorant throughout the life.
Evidently they both need parenting classes and anger management classes....they have both created a very bad emotional situation for their daughter and personally she should probably be removed from their homes (possibly placed with a grandparent or some other relative) until these 2 nutcases CHOOSE to get themselves together.
LOL! I felt the same way. I thought SM
there for a minute she was gonna fall off that
HOT TAMALE TRAIN!!!!! 
Wow -- after that post -- I actually felt
like I just got a massage. My hubs bought me a GC for a massage this past spring but I haven't used it yet. I'm waiting until a little closer to the holidays when I'll probably need it the most. At least now, I don't feel so funny about getting it.
I felt the same way about Rose.
She got stuck with a crappy group and had to pay for it. I liked voice and her a lot.
I have long felt
that all of these things should be legalized and controlled but available. The drugs should be available through drug outlets (so the safety could be controlled), prostitution should be licensed (so that health can be safe-guarded), all should be taxed and produced by licensed manufacturers (to ensure save procedures).
Laws should prohibit driving or performing any critical function while under the influence (many drug-users would have to accept that it takes longer to get past those affects than it does for alcohol (according to current research), minors must still be restricted from their use. At least some of the money realized from the taxes and the license fees should be devoted to helping people to stop using any of these things and an educational program should be undertaken to truthfully explain the hazards of usage.
I don't enjoy drugs (including marajuana and alcohal) and would never look forward to not being in complete control of my actions. I don't want my friends to use them either. But to forbid it is not reasonable and only encourages those who are determined, to break the law and undulge in practices that are even MORE unsafe because there is no one to oversee that they are properly done.
I feel pretty darned good, all on my own and perfer to handle that end myself.
I moved from CA to WA and I felt very...
welcome. Maybe it is more perception than anything, but I miss my Washington neighbors very much since I left. They were great people.
No, not really dense, she said felt sorry for my neighbors. the ones who
are nice, quiet, have a sense of wanting to live in a nice community, wanting to have something in life. So, now my deah, DUH to you because she said she felt sorry for the neighbors and the above fits mine to a T. I guess you can take some people out of the country but you will never take the country out of some people. Read again, she is sorry for having nice neighbors such as the doctors, lawyers, judges and the like where I live. Yeh, makes a lot of sense to me. NOT.
Thanks - could you elaborate on how you feel/felt? (sm)
How do you feel normally and how was it different on the med? I have low blood pressure so hopefully it wouldn't raise mine much. Did you get more done? Did you feel better?
Felt same way, but laughed out loud when
she grabbed her one ankle and put her hand behind her head...she was really funny but not a dance for a competition!
what did I miss - have to admit I felt
the whole season was a little boring and they have drawn out everything so long I watch another show in between actual dances- but last I heard they had put the engagement off until after the show - is there other news?
I felt the earthquake in Indiana sm
It was really scary. My daughter was upstairs while I was downstairs working. It woke her up and scared her to death.
that's what i thought at first. i felt like she gave up on us sm
we live out in the country, no kids out here to play with. he loves the woods. we have five acres. he goes out in the woods alot. i have a 7 y/o son. they love each other and my 7 y/o is total opposite of my 10 y/o. he's outgoing, can make friends anywhere he goes, will talk to people. i don't worry about him. i'm in the process of trying to find another psychologist/psychiatrist. a lot of them are not taking patients any more. these are pediatric psychs. i'm evening looking stuff up about them on the internet to see what i can find out about them. one of the docs i found got "best doctor award thingy" in 2008.
thank you for trying to understand. my son has also talked about dying a few times recently and in the past. i don't take that lightly at all. yes, he is a hypersensitive kid. he takes things very personally. he is a very good boy, though and very smart.
I made that comment yesterday and felt bad ever since.
amy
use felt and stitch witchery or glue
make a pattern out of newspaper and just do it until you get it right or use one you already have for template.
You can glue rick-rack, pom-poms, gems - go to craft store and look around. You can write names with permanent markers - or spell them out with gems, pearls, beads. Wish I could do it with you!!
I loved the idea about the felt backing
I will look for those, sounds like a good way to save the table. That is the route I will take this year and let the wood shine thru.
I also lost a child, and this post describes exactly how I felt. nm
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I am in west central Illinois and felt the earthquake.
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It was scary. Felt like it lasted FOREVER. Heard
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The day I felt repulsed by my husband's advances was the day I decided to leave.
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Too many people felt sorry for Jane & Marie and gave them votes ..
so they wouldn't be eliminated, figuring the other dancers were too good to be eliminated. I agree it's too much of a popularity contest and not a dancing competition. On "Skating with the Stars" I think it was Kristy Swanson who fell in love with her teacher/partner, and he left his wife for her and now the two have a baby together.
I'm so concerned. Last night around 3 in the morning I rolled over in bed and felt so dizzy. sm
Fell back asleep, didn't think much about it. A little bit lethargic today. Took a nap after a long day (mom of 3 kids - 33 year old) and when I was in bed it happened again (severe vertigo) whenever I rolled my head from side to side.
Woke up nauseated. Didn't throw up. I don't feel weak anywhere. Just dizzy. Looked it up. Sounds like BPPV or Meniere's disease? I have no idea! I have to be healthy for my boys and myself! I have NEVER had ear problems in my life. I've never even had an ear infection before. This is so strange and concerning to me. I can't see doc until some time this week. Does anyone have vertigo, sudden onset, who can share a little with me? Help.  
I totall agree too. I have a 15yo daughter and i would never snoop unless i felt there was reason.
trust is trust. she has build up my trust and given me no reason not to trust her. i'm sorry but i think reading through emails and snooping just goes too far unless you have reason to suspect something. i do glance through myspace occasionally, but would never read every email. i don't even know her passwords. i think if you are at the point you need to read through every email your child does, you need to reevaluate your relationship and parenting skills. bash me if you wish, but don't be too strict or you can push your children the opposite way to where they will never talk to you and have an open relationship with you. trust is simply trust and should be earned. look at an adult relationship. it isn't a very well relationship if you can't have trust. should be the same with children.
I felt it here in NE Indiana for about 10-15 seconds, rattled the windows and shook the couch. nm
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No! That sounds too desperate. TIME. Just give it TIME. If it is real, then sm
something will definitely evolve. If you like him, flirt back! Don't act desperate because if he DOES like you, then the suspense will just make him want to get to know you more. Trust me on this.
I worked in the medical records department of a hospital when I was single and dated a few co-workers in my early 30s. It was fun. Nothing serious came about any of the relationships.
This sounds like fun - the beginning of maybe something to come....Keep us informed.
Totally agree, get these from time to time since teens...sm
It's a neuro condition, it does not mean there is anything at all wrong with you, it is actually related to narcolepsy, hypnagogic (sp? I just got up!) hallucinations, etc. And I HATE when I get these, it is always freaky, my siblings get this too, at times. I can "go away" for years and years before you get another episodes, so don't worry! I heard that when you are under a lot of stress or are very busy with things that this happens more??? Take care!!
It's time to stop when you or the kid(s) feel it is time, and no sooner. sm
My grandmother (who passed away at the young age of 107 back in the mid 1990s) was STILL celebrating every little holiday for all of her many kids and grandkids, and she would STILL give me a chocolate bunny every Easter, as she had since I was a toddler and even though I was 40ish at the time (and I still delighted in biting its head off in front of her, as I had also done since I was a toddler, which always met with mock disapproval from her).
Don't let anyone dampen your joy in celebrating your traditions.
I remember those days too, but these days they don't want make any child felt left out. They wan
to make each of them feel special and that they have accomplished something. My 8-year-old brings a certificate of some kind during the day, accelerated reader award, trustworthy award, jr. achievement award, etc. I guess in a way, no one kid is pointed out as the "teacher's pet" or have the other kids being jealous of him/her for getting this or that award. 
The very 1st time he talked about killing you, was the time
The guy sounds like a psycho.
Rachael Ray has a segment from time to time
on using the bottom of the bottle receipes (i.e. bar-be-q sauce, peanut butter, maple syrup) and I have used many of her ideas and been amazed at how far you can stretch a dollar that way. Go to her website, it will give you many ideas.
Oh Amy, surely there was a man who "kept" you from time to time..
or you were at least married and had access to money!
It was a great time - I just hate the time we are in now
I liked your post. Thanks for replying It's nice to know other people were raised like me. We seem to appreciate the things we have. Oh I should've also said we didn't have A/C growing up. My parents idea of A/C was having my sister and I wave a piece of cardboard in front of them. HA HA HA.
I just couldn't stand the 90s and 2000s are even worse. I hate all the politics going on today, the world events, the bleak future. The degenerates running around, listening to kids talk back to their parents, girls gone wild, etc, etc. I'm grateful my grandparents and mom are not alive anymore to have to go through this with us.
I love watching old movies and the music of the 40s/50s. If I was alive back then I would've been doing the jitterbug and all those other fun dances. Life seemed simpler and cleaner (even though I've got a mouth like a sailer - guess I got that from my Army days).
I wouldn't mind the turn of the century either. I love the clothing and the simple life. Those are the times when the husband took care of the wife. If I could be transported back to the 1800s I surely would in a second.
Time out and then spanking if time out
If we are out in public however, we do not go home. Spanking right there and then and the kids learn REAL QUICK mom means business. I do not mess around and I have a 17-year-old now that has enlisted in the military and THANKS me for his tough upgrowing. It helped him through basic training.
Well, I have questioned myself from time to time.
I figured this was typical. DD has lots of friends but two real close friends. I guess this is all part of building social skills. I am glad I did okay then.
Same thing happens to me from time to time - sm
if I roll over too quickly. I have positional vertigo. There is not too much you can do about it except try not to move or get up too quickly from a supine position. I have never had an earache in my life either so that has nothing to do with it. I don't ever feel sick from it though, just more of a nuisance for me every now and then. If it keeps happening obviously get checked out, you may have a more severe case, though again there really not much you can do about it, all it is is some particles in your ear breaking loose and that causes the dizziness, etc.
If I had not asked time and time again
for the daughter to ask me are you upset- are you angry- are you in a bad mood- People can think what they want- She is a very intelligent person and my asking to please should be enough. Gest of the posting. Selfish, OMG, that is really a laugh. I have and do take care of others well before my needs- I have given of myself, my time, my finances, the whole thing until, now this will sound selfish- it is my time now. I take care of me now- this is selfish but this is the truth. I raised my family, did all I could (still do for the daughter if she needs assistance which she never asks for but I offer)and now in golden years, me time.
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