You are wise and a very good person (sm)
Posted By: single mom x 15 years on 2007-01-20
In Reply to: I could write a book about this, but I'll - try to keep it simple
Your daughter and granddaughter are very lucky to have you, especially your granddaughter.
Everything you said is true.
The best thing I ever did for my kids after divorce was never to say an unkind word about their father, never put them in the middle, and the parade of frogs was a definite no-no!
Your advice was excellent. You SHOULD write a book!! As many divorces as there are any more, you would think this issue would have more emphasis in some form of media.
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You sound like a very wise person and I a glad to that
he did understand. Over-the-top is never good. Not for an adult and certainly not for a child. A gift with meaning and purpose is more cherished than a trunk load of junk and will be remembered, not thrown away.
Your aunt is a wise woman, and she is a strong person
for being a Pastor's wife. For some reason, Pastors seem to be the most difficult to understand about how to be sensitive to people, when it is their job to do so. No offense to pastors and to my husband. But when I loved him best when he delivered pizza and Sunday mornings I still feel put off. And those are the mornings I am probably the most up in arms about this control issue. I dont think that is what the Bible meant either. Thanks for your comment. Your aunt also sounds like she was a great example to women and men alike as the pastor's wife. :)
A wise old sage said: Beans, beans, are good for the heart ....
(you know the rest!) :)
My MIL is really a good person sm
She raised her son to be a wonderul husband and father. She is a fabulous grandmother. She has rarely tried to tell me how to raise my children, usually she just makes innocent suggestions. I really like her but she is a dingbat. A very lovable dingbat. Even my DH agrees. She just called me to ask about a gift for my daughter and while on the phone her other line rang. She said good-bye and then put me on hold. Now when I try to use my phone I hear music. I have no signal on my cell right now (typical on a cloudy day) so I can't call to tell her. ARRRRGGGGHHHH!
My father not a good person at all
some girls are lucky but I lost out on having a decent one. Like I said, best man have ever met is my hubs, hands down.
Gracie has been adopted with a good person
Dobermans are misunderstood. They love their people, they are protective and noble. They love to follow you around the house and be with you. They need patience in training. They love to run. Please, if anyone knows of an abusive case, get invovled. Visit Doberman Rescue.
What a good person you are and I'm glad Bones found you. He will be a great pet for somebody afte
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Are you a night person or a morning person?
Just curious . . .
And cost wise?
Read all the above and thanks so much. Now in the midst of trying to get my yard in shape after the grubs set in and do not want to spend an arm and a leg on flooring. Thanks again.
Cost wise?
Heard sodding expensive.
very wise advice about how to go about
It keeps it from looking like a competition or disapproval, and more about the longterm effects of treating a child over-the-top and how they might interpret that as they are "damaged." A+ advice!
She may be able to work her way up job-wise
xx
Its wise to stay away
I had a C-section and had planned to stay at my mom's for a week or so to recuperate. As soon as I got there, I put the baby in the cradle in the living room and started to put some things away in the bedroom. I could hear my step-dad saying "get 'im, get 'im" to his dog....I went out there and he was actually encouraging his schnauzer to mess with the baby! I came real close to braining him with a can of tomatoes over it. I left and refused to bring the baby to their house as long as he was in it. My mom, too, chose the step-dad over her kids. Now he's dead and her relationship with her kids is rocky, and she regrets it.
What a wise looking face.
I'm sorry about your husband's death. You must both miss him very much. 
Wise ol' soul
I really do, especially around this time of year. But, I ws lucky to have him as long as i did.
And, Silver has always been a wise ol' soul. He is a great comfort. But, unfortunately Silver has cancer and is getting really thin. So, I think he will be with my husband before too long.
That picture was taken a few years ago.
I like those words - very very wise
Going to remember that one.
What would you do - survival wise
Thinking about the storm Gustave (sorry, don't know how to spell it or want to open up new window to find correct spelling), but it brings me to another question I wanted to ask. If you knew an impending storm (or some other disaster) was heading your way, and you would be out of power for 30 days (no refrigeration or electricity/gas) and was stuck in your home and could not leave (roads blocked or whatever reason) and you had time to prepare ahead of time. What kinds of foods would you have on hand in your "emergency stash" and what types of things would you eat.
Wow, ya'll are so wise -- thanks
Appreciate any comments/advice. Keep it up! Thanks a lot.
Age wise, I am 10 years
older than DH.
Personality wise? I am probably most like Blanche! LOL
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your grandmother=wise woman..saying comes from
Woman
was made from the rib of man, she was not created from his head-to top him, nor from his feet-to be stepped upon.
She was made from his side, to be equal to him; from beneath his arm-to be protected by him; near his heart-to be loved by him.
From The Talmud
Wise words, I second the rec. for the above post
Excellent points all.
I think that is a wise choice. So glad
you brought dad into this! It is just too much for one - I know because I was the only one.
Please forgive the double post. Wise NM
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LOL- she sounds wise beyond her years. She's lucky to have you. nm
xx
A wise 1st grade teacher told us...
"If you won't believe that I was mean to your kids, I won't believe that you had dog food for dinner last night."
Wise words, bright side....
I had a mini-meltdown several months ago when the work pretty much dried up for awhile. My SO was so very supportive and reminded me that no matter what happened, even if we ended up living in a cardboard box, we would have each other and no one could take that away from us.
I'd always been extremely strong and independent before I met him, and would struggle through things alone and silently, always hiding behind the "everything is just fine" facade to everyone I knew.
It's so nice to have someone to love and trust and turn to for support when things get rough.
Knowing that someone is waiting right there to catch you if you start to fall off the edge is something no amount of money can buy.
Hang in there, backwardstypist...Things will work out for you and your DH.
what a wise, insightful and compassionate comment.
I wish you all the best and that you come out as a winner because you deserve it.
Percentage-wise, shoplifting is a more likely source of
I was horrified, what - a year ago? - to watch an episode of Oprah where three teenage girls AND THEIR MOTHERS were guests saying in front of God and the world that the girls engage in oral sex, how common it was, etc.
There was some point in this country when we decided that "shame" was bad (the oxymoronic suggestion being that we should be ashamed of shame!) - and nothing good has come out of this ridiculous 'progressive humanist' idea or its twin - the notion that outcomes should be the same for everyone regardless of their ability or effort.
Let's get the notion of shame back on stage - front and center. There ARE things that humans do that SHOULD make them feel shame and guilt. When we lose our ability to experience guilt, we have...let's see now, what do we have again? Oh yes, now I remember - we have Bernie Madoff and his $50 billion scam, television you can no longer watch with your children, teachers seducing their students, and a whole lot of other very unpleasant consequences.
It probably varies from person to person (sm)
With me, first child I was out of the bed seriously within 5 minutes of having him. I didn't tear or have to be cut, he was 7 pounds, 3 ounces. The doctor did some type of vaginal massage on me though while I was in labor and that was supposed to help loosen the vaginal wall?
Second child, same experience. She was 8 pounds, 1 ounce and within 5 minutes of having her, while they took her to the nursery to get cleaned up and all, I walked downstairs with my husband to the cafeteria to get a drink and stretch my legs. I had already put my regular clothes back on as well. My doctor who delivered her was walking in my room as I was walking in and he was stunned a second and said he thought I was a visitor, LOL, not the patient.
I don't think you have to have bed rest in normal cases. With my son I went home within 24 hours with him and with my daughter we went home in only 20 hours.
No, I am not that person...sm
Nor am I trying to be ugly...I think YOU come first in this situation. If not, you'll get in deep trouble with your health, then what? Your family needs you...take care of yourself, and make your husband pitch in...that's all I'm sayin'
Who is this person?
I have no clue who this person is.
I saw a person having 1 of those 1 day
and they could do like all the other people around, just ignored it. I was in a public building, guy down and frothing at the mouth, not a good scene but totally ignored.
What do you think causes a person to be --sm
unable to show feelings/compassion for anyone else? I have a friend?? who shows no emotion at all. Says it is the way she was brought up and her family are not talkers. I shared some devastating news about my son with her last night and she has shown more sympathy to her dog after it was spayed than she did to me. Just do not understand how someone can see a person as broken as I was last night and offer absolutely no comfort.
I think that person needs more than just a
xx
Perhaps you could help me tell if this person is just like you or not?
If not that is fine, but you could probably use your "talent" to help others, like a PI or something.
Are you the same person who
posted a month or so ago having sent an e-mail to your husband's family regarding your husband's brother who is in jail and the father's apparent favortism? Just curious if this is the same family we are talking about. I remember that husband was bipolar and alcoholic.
I don't know the legalities of the situation but you might have to go through the garbage of calling the police, the dramatics and the ER one last and final time. But then be done with it. He's not choosing to get better and you can't make him. Change the locks.
Be strong. Hugs to you. 
Mom of 3 you are one nasty person...
I hope your children dont take after you. Teaching them responsibility is one thing but pure nastiness is another.....
What a Wonderful Person
I wish I knew more people like you. It's too bad that some people are like this, but unfortunately the world is so much different thatit used to be. Keep doing what makes you happy.
The person who last had our number...sm
still uses it, so we get calls for her all the time! We got this number over a year ago when we moved and constantly get calls for her. We always tell them this is not her number anymore, but I guess lately she's been using it to give to loan places because they told us this. They apologize but it still stinks. She has a lot of debt out there, especially for school loans. We don't want to change it, though, and go through the same thing again and having to tell everyone our new number for nothing. We're also signed up at the Do Not Call website.
how condescending can a person be?
After I had a surgery 2 years ago, I gained an incredible amount of weight - not water. Last May I started going to the pool and doing water aerobics every single day for 2 months and changed to a low-fat diet. I did not lose weight, but I was replacing fat with muscle, which is the first step with the amount of weight I was dealing with. Then I started getting one URI and sinus infection/ear infection after another. All that exercise kicked my GI tract into hyperdrive. Now I have IBS and colitis. I can't exercise because I have to battle real and exhausting pain for the next 2 hours. I have pain every single day. I no longer have hunger pains as normal people do, so I really do have problems knowing when it is appropriate for me to eat. I've been with 2 different GI's during this time, failed 5 or 6 different medicines, and still can't lose weight, diet or exercise. My pay has been cut in half. I had to quit my second job and only work part time now instead of full time - all because I wanted to get healthy and in shape again.
The next time you think having extra weight is a choice, let me invite you to pay the $600/month I pay for medicines to control my GI tract issues. 
I usually tip 15% because I also tip the shampoo person.,,,,
But if the hairdresser does it all, including the shampoo, etc., I tip closer to 20%.
I would say either try a contact person where the
contact may be someone in the Social Services for your state. Maybe even the Division of Child Welfare. I would look in the phonebook under government agencies. I bet a social worker may be able to help or guide you in the right direction. I knew someone who had a child with cerebral palsy that took the insurance offered from the employer, but was able to get Medicaid for the child as a supplement for things the primary did not cover. I am not sure if this is state-by-state though. Hope this helps. Good luck to you and your daughter as her children do need health insurance.
To The Person Who E-mailed Me
The calling card is yours if you want, but I didn't receive a reply address; the "From" field was blank for some reason. If you could resend, that would be great!
I think it depends on the person....
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It seems to me the person should be talking
to the person they are having dinner with and not someone on a phone. And as posted below, they usually have to talk rather loud and I do find that annoying.
To the person who e-mailed me...
Thanks so much for the information about BioSpot. I had no idea and I should have done my research beforehand. I have already ordered it but will be sending it back. I finally figured out that the Zodiac has been making my dog very itchy, so much so she has a hot spot now. Used it before but did not put two and two together. I think I will try the Frontline.
Thanks again for the warning! Hope your cat is doing better now.
Take it seriously and report to the person
you would think would be most instrumental in getting the assistance she seems to need.
U must be a wonderful person....
to have two such beautiful people in your life. Sounds like you have a great family!
This person is not a friend
You could use all kinds of psychological terms like "codependent" and "enabling" but the fact is, she is a mooch and you are a sucker.
Harsh, I know, because you were trying to be nice and help someone. But there are some people you just can't be "nice" to. They will walk all over you. Obviously, she is one of those people.
If you're angry at anyone, you should be angry at yourself for taking so long to figure this out.
But that would be a waste of time. Chalk it up to experience and move on. Cut your ties with this person as much as possible, and if on occasion you have to see her for whatever reason, practice saying "No. No. NO."
I think that person is just a LURKER, trying to
Not a person worth taking seriously, wouldn't you say?
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