You are totally correct and it was inappropriate.
Posted By: sm on 2006-12-01
In Reply to: What would you do? Sexual Harassment?- - violated
Don't listen to the obviously ignorant posters. First of all, this is a bra were are talking about. He went out of his way to come over to make that comment to you. He later told you he thought you were pretty and may have been "overly friendly" to you. And even the girl at the counter said, "he's weird, why would he ask you that", totally confirming the fact that it was indeed inappropriate and uncomfortable. I don't know if I would do anything about it, but just know some of us do not think you are overreacting or seeking attention and you are 100% right in your feelings of being violated. Some of the others probably can only wish this happened to them if you get my drift.
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Totally inappropriate.
He sounds like he's good at his job and also at flirting. He is interested in getting to know you better? Why doesn't he just come out and say - hey baby, how about a roll in the hay? Keep us posted if you pursue this. I'd like to know how things go. Believe me, he knows he's good looking. Good Luck and be careful.
Totally inappropriate, but I think I would probably ignore it.
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Amen Sister! She is totally unrealistic! Totally. Loved your post! sm
My grandparents (from VT), will tell you that my grandfather began farming at 6-7 under the supervision of his 10 year old brother. haha No major incidents - his mother tended the home and ran a nursery and she did have the siblings watch over each other. I didn't even think about all of this until you mentioned the farming post. I loved it!
I, for one, need plenty of sleep - so I must work during the day while they are here...Oops, I gottah go! My 2 year old just fell off the kitchen table.
just kidding
No, I think that is inappropriate SM
Even worse my son's first grade teacher told me son, "Angels aren't real." Fine...she doesn't believe (whatever), but she most certainly did NOT have to tell my son that Angels are not real!! We happen to practice a Christian faith, and we believe...and for her--an authority figure in his life and someone he would believe without question--to tell my son otherwise infuriated me. This was also the school that would not sing "We wish you a Merry Christmas" at their "winter program" and instead sang, "We Wish you a Merry Winter Solstice." Ohmygosh! Better to leave the song OUT of their program than to turn it into something pagan (sorry to offend those of you who are pagan, but I imagine if the situation were opposite and we changed one of your songs you wouldn't like it either).
Oh well...I guess all you can do is just openly speak to your kids and explain that some kids (and adults) believe and some don't. My 3rd grade son believes in Santa about 50 percent I would say...leaning toward not believing...but it is just something fun for kids, ya know?
I'm sorry about this!
Chickadee
Inappropriate??!!???
That 911 operator needs to be *#%@* fired, yesterday!
tell the guy it's inappropriate; do not allow it again.
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Is it inappropriate to ask someone (sm)
I have been seeing a man for a little over a year. During this time he has had financial issues and I have given him money without expecting it to be returned. Recently his financial issues got worse and I was not in a position to help. Now he is telling me that he "has money coming to" him but he doesn't say from where. It is almost like he is specifically avoiding saying from where. Normally I would not ask anyone about their finances, but he has never had a problem with telling me he had financial problems and taking money from me, but now that I could not help him, he is getting it from somewhere and not saying where. It makes me wonder if it is from another woman. Am I being paranoid? Should I come right out and ask or is it just none of my business?
That's inappropriate.
How about when you are pregnant and tell them you don't want to know the gender - then they proceed to say "she" throughout the rest of visit when referencing your baby.
What's inappropriate to some...
is dead on the money for others. Some become uncomfortable when posts hit close to home, resulting in bashing of others. In a nutshell, we don't live above our means, we have a very nice lifestyle and we live debt free by choice. I think that is the American dream, not working at a job you hate, being in debt up to your eyeballs with no way out and still buying things you just gotta have now and living hand to mouth. There are others out there who agree with me, believe it or not. A lot of you here just wallow in your self-pity and poor me attitudes. No wonder the other board is so much better, there are positive attitudes over there.
Looking for inappropriate comments? I don't think so! (sm)
Okay......and thanks for your input. I am the OP and I just want for you to know that I think that your comment was a little on the ignorant side. "I am not soooo appalled." I was a little shocked that he cared so much to go out of his way to make sure I found the right size bra. (He walked away from his job to come over to the checkout counter that I was at and felt the need to ask that, even though I was being checked out by a female clerk that was fully capable of making sure that I found what I needed?) Even the female clerk looked at him and said "What are you talking about?" I told her about the bra I returned to his service desk an hour earlier and she said "He is weird. That is none of his business!"
For the record, I receive male attention frequently and I am not easily offended or overly prudish when comments are made to me. This on the other hand was a bit strange.
My intentions were to ask others if they would consider this question to be inappropriate or not if they had been asked the same question under the same circumstances. I am not playing 'poor victim' here as I consider this a minor incident (yet still inappropriate).
In my opinion, it sounds to me like you don't get many comments offered to you and perhaps you would welcome them if you did? (That's what I get from your comment anyways!)
"Did you find one that fit" is inappropriate? I don't think so.
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In some areas of the country it isn't really inappropriate sm
Not to be disagreeable but where I live a simple kiss on the cheek is pretty normal when meeting someone, etc. So perhaps it is a more common thing where that person is from and therefore there may have been no ulterior motive behind it. I recently went to my brother's wedding and quickly realized that not everyone wanted a kiss on the cheek when I gave them their lei at the luau party - though it is custom here.
I would do it right back, all the time in inappropriate - sm
situations. Give his crotch a grab and squeeze, or pinch his butt, etc.....and I would do it in front of others and see how he likes being treated as a piece of meat. Of course if you do this when no one is around he will take it as in invitation so this approach does have its down side. If he persists, then I would just slap him or his hands until he cuts it out.
your opinion is again inappropriate, as you do not support yourself.
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This is a very inappropriate and wrong comment, why do you say this?..nm
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That is just mean. I'm not defending inappropriate clothing sm
but your nasty little comment is mean for no reason at all. Don't overweight people face enough trials in their lives w/o someone like you making "big panties" comments?
thank you, anon. And this, Philly, is why your posts are inappropriate.
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Listen if small children tell you someone is inappropriate
The majority of the time- the majority- little children are not going to say someone touched them inappropriately or such thing sexual unless it is happening or has happened- they just do not. Listen and learn from the children.
it's not illegal, but it's inappropriate & he shouldn't be allowed to teach anymore
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Totally, totally agree.
You feel inadequate and no matter what you do - you feel like it is not enough - and that is depression. Get on some medication, or get some therapy and start taking time for yourself and enjoy life. Been there and done that myself - STOP FEELING GUILTY - you deserve better!!
You are correct...
except for one thing: It was never a war. It was and is an illegal invasion and occupation of a sovereign nation. Since the invasion was illegal (based on lies) Mr. Bush is guilty of war crimes. Hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqi's are dead - on Saddaam's worse day he never massacred like this...
And our news media WILL NOT tell you the truth on any day, but the numbers of US soldiers horribly wounded is astounding - all because of the many war profiteers - including mainstream media.
Everything you said is correct
The muslims are demanding foot baths in the airports so they can wash their feet. I think they might have gotten them somewhere, but not 100% sure. They are also the ones that threw the fit last Christmas about the Christmas decorations in an airport and none for whatever holiday they celebrate. AND THE CHRISTMAS DECORATIONS WERE TAKEN DOWN!! Now, I'm sorry, but something stinks here. I know this probably doesn't belong on this board and might be deleted, so I apologize in advance to the moderator, but I am so sick of the symbols of Christianity being shoved into a closet somewhere, especially at Christmas. I do not sent out holiday cards and I do not put up a holiday tree and my kids don't have winter break. I put Christmas in front of all of those words because that is the reason for the seaon, in my house at least!
Okay, stepping off my soapbox, bowing in apology to the moderator, and going about my business. Have a great day!
Oh, and to the OP, sorry you had to take YOUR decorations down, too. I just don't get it sometimes.
You are correct in a way sm
There is definitely something wrong with her, that's why we have to help her, that's all I'm saying. It's been out of her hands for a long time and she has had so many young people follow her that she needs to straighten up and "fly right" as my Mom used to say, so that the younger ones who adored her can learn that there is hope in recovery let's just pray she recovers. Your decision to not do this is totally correct for what you believe in. My take is a little different, I want her to straighten out and become a spokesperson for those who have become addicted and try to show remorse and accountability, which is going to be almost impossible but at least she could try. If she dies from her bad behavior, she will be a "saint" to those who still believe in her rise to stardom. (i.e., Anna Nichol, Marilyn, etc.).and extreme behavior. The young are vulnerable. Those of us who have walked our talk know better. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I'm hoping for a turnaround, that's all. Expect a miracle! Her children would benefit much more from their Mom in recovery becoming a power of example than dying drunk or stoned. Some speak from their own childhood experiences. I'm thinking of her little ones now more than her. I guess I've heard too much in my life (or is that hurt)? IMHO
You are all correct and thanks...
Causing it I believe is my own guilt that I am not doing everything 100%, job 110%, kids 110%, house, etc. And yes, I am forgetting about myself.
I don't want to quit my job at all, I remember that I love it. I just need to balance really my mind and time better so I take the stress off myself.
And you are correct. I did pamper myself already a bit today. Went to a local store having a sale and got a pair of shoes. Maybe go get a manicure tomorrow. I also took a major step and joined Gold's gym where I can finally get out of the house anytime I want and go on the bikes and I signed up for tanning hoping that the sunlight will cheer me. My little boy went and is excited about the Wii and rock climbing wall he can play on there when I am working out. So, doing these things today and tomorrow will make me better for my job, and my family. And for me! At least I hope I am doing the right thing. Of course, I have to type more now that I just spent money on shoes and the gym, but maybe those phermones from working out will kick in as well. Anybody else have suggestions would be dearly appreciated. And thanks for your kindness.:)
correct
I had it so bad I could not sit at all for about four months without being in agony. I enrolled in a yoga class at the YMCA. It took several months, but it finally healed and I know the exercises to do when it flares up.
Correct.
Leave them open when you pay them off so it shows you have available credit.
I know a couple who wanted to buy a house. They paid off all their credit cards and closed the accounts thinking they would have a great credit score. Guess what? Nobody would give them a mortgage because they had NO credit at all. In this situation, you're da**ed if you do and da**ed if you don't.
Correct me if I am wrong
but I believe worms are hermaphrodites so the "males" would be able to get pregnant....
Now the correct sentence for her would
have been 30 years.
What is wrong with our system??
Yes, beliefs would be correct. Why would you sm
live your life like that - not being positive or certain about anything? I, for one, believe in God deeply and I take Him at His word and if He makes a promise I hold Him to it and He's yet to forsaken me. Unless you've been there I guess you can't understand what I mean.
I know things can happen. I've been through some extremely difficult times in my life (losing a child), but I do say words like refuse and I AM, or I WILL and then I do them. I don't leave my life up to chance. I don't say I hope to do this or that. If I want something bad enough I go after it and usually don't quit until I get it. Yes, it's in my beliefs. It's my core. It's who I am. I am very positive, despite the many setbacks I've had in life.
I wonder if that is a correct diagnosis
Her symptoms sound more like what a couple of people I know experienced with cardiac arrhythmia. I don't know the exact diagnosis, but one of them was treated with ablation and is doing well, and the other had a pacemaker and defibrillator implanted and is doing well. These women were both in their 30s when they started experiencing symptoms.
I was a military wife for a long time - there are some good doctors in the military but they can be few and far between. I hope your friend will ask to be referred to a non-military cardiologist.
You are precious. You are correct. I'm with you 100%, Jan. nm
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Being politically correct...
I don't want to cause any problems, commotions, arguments, or what have you - I just want opinions/advice on the following:
We are a small office of 6. Every year, we decorate for Christmas - put up a small tree, hang some ornaments from the ceiling tiles, wrapping paper on the door. This year, the newest member of the team is JV. Though he does not talk about it, push the subject, etc, he has very politely and quietly sent me emails regarding that he doesn't celebrate birthdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. SO, the question is... how do we decorate the office without offending anyone?
politically correct
I have been friends with a family who are JW. They never minded the holiday thing for everyone else, just quietly lived their own beliefs. My friend even brought my boys candy just before Christmas, stating it was not a Christmas present, just a little something. I wouldn't do anything different than you have always done. Don't put him in the gift exchange, but do include him in the food part. For ex., quietly take him some cake, cookies, whaterver, leaving out the mention of the occasion. They are really quite adaptic (is that a word?) to our ways. Forget politically correct. Follow your heart and basic common decency/courtesy. You won't find other religions asking you if they can do something. Knew a radiologist who always wore the Jewish think on his head to work - we learned a lot about the Jewish faith from him. Wasn't offended, thought it was pretty cool at the time.
You are abolutely correct
Sometimes it takes knocking me across the head more than once to wake me up. I am taking your advice. I've changed the channel from all the news garbage to the Food Network Channel - Love the show Drive-ins, diners, and dives - except that it makes me hungry :-) and BBC always has good programming. Better than the garbage on the other channels. Makes me think of that line from the movie ET "I am in complete control" :-) Thanks
Yes! You are correct & 1 day at a time :-) Thank you for the
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Both pronunciations are correct.....
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you are absolutely correct..
What organized religions see as divine revelation and holy books, most deists see as interpretations made by other humans, rather than as authoritative sources.
Yep - you're correct...sm
on the irs.gov website, it states if you owe taxes, child support that it will hold the balance from the rebate. For instance, we owe 1,500.00 and paid 100.00 with the first installment so with the stimulus, we'll get a whopping 100.00! :( Funny how they leave some things out of this "wonderful news"
you are correct - I never thought of it that way
Sometimes it takes a knock against the side of the head to face reality they have rights too. I just wish they'd be a little more courteous (like wait til after 8 am on the noise and after 8 pm keep the noise down. In Germany they did have a law tht you could not mow your lawn on Sundays or after 6 pm. It worked well for everyone.
Thank you for that. You are absolutely correct. I saw him SM
in an interview and he cried when they asked him what he misses most. He said he missed the ability to play the piano more than anything. Some years back they said that Estelle Getty had the same condition.
and don't correct my spelling...
I see my errors. LOL
Ewwwwww is correct,
If PETA thinks that Americans are going to start eating, drinking problems made from breast milk? They are dummber than they seem.
They say that do this taking the cows milk takes away from the baby (or what is meant for the baby), then isn't it the same that breast milk would take away from the baby.
If they were ever to consider this I think they would lose lots of business.
Correct about one thing
One can still be saved and not have to attend church but church should be a place where we can go to be with those who follow Christ and if we do it right, be there for one another in Christ.
I don't believe a person is sinful just because they don't attend a church but I know it would uplift them to belong to a good church and be a part of a church community. So many times people feel lonely and isolated and a good church family would be there for them.
I guess this one is correct, but
I hate it when people say, "on either side," meaning on both sides. I could see saying, "on each side," but either just doesn't make sense to me in this context.
The other poster is correct....
I think it was on What Not To Wear or one of those shows where I heard if you have that problem it is because the cup size is not big enough for you. With that size naturally I wouldn't think you would need a "push up" because those have a lot of extra padding to give the push. Maybe go to a store in the mall and talk to them. Surely they will have a suggestion for your size and style interest. Doesn't mean you have to buy it there, just get the idea and then go to Target or someplace and buy what you want a little less expensive.
Very correct about Club Med
There are only a handful of Club Meds that that cater to families. There are probably over 50 and there are some that are supposed to be quite wild.
anatomically correct. NM
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Whether using correct terminology or other,
a kid could still walk up and ask to see whatever anatomical part, what they call it makes no difference, it is the same. Pelvis is fine, or private parts. What is the hang-up? Each parent raises their child as they see fit.
You are correct..it was my computer...Thanks! (NM)
xm
poster below me is correct - water comes from
Choose the correct path
You are walking down a road and you encounter a fork in the road and you do not know the correct way to go. There are two men standing at the junction and both know the correct road. One man always lies, and the other man always tells the truth, but you do not know who is the liar and who is the one who tells the truth. You can only ask each man one question, but it must be the same question for both. What is the question that would allow you to get the information necessary to choose the correct path?
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