You are so right, it did itch at first

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We have been married for 10 years.  Lately when he gets mad I am reduced to being called a *itch.  When we don't make love, it is because I don't want him. Does not matter what I might do, not cook for him, not turn on the heater this morning when I am supposed to be working. 

I am an MT working at home.  I have to work a schedule, which I fail to do, so I have to be more stern about what I can and cannot do because I want my job.  Being called a *itch---what does that really mean.  I do not view myself as a *itch but then no one does.  I have read that it is a woman who is extremely disliked, spiteful, overbearing, and I am reduced to this name calling because it is something he wants to call me only because I did not do what he wanted and it made him mad. 

He says that he is not in the mental state he should be regarding me working as at home as it is --just not working--   Yes, for years it seems I always work as I try to be with the family and as a result I get behind and have to work every spare moment I get and even then do not make my commitment.  Okay, I do get fatigued, maybe depressed, but I love working at home and I know that I have to stick to my schedule.  maybe 70% of that is my fault but a lot is from him as well wanting me to do things for him that he can do for himself. like wash his clothes for work, sometimes he does and sometimes he doesn't. 

Well the reason for all that is to ask.... does my husband really hate me so much to call me a *itch.  What really does he mean?  I am not overbearing.  I let him do whatever he wants.  He did not have to work for years.  Now he finally gets a job and he is all high and mighty about me and what I do and don't do.  He can improve on things just as much as I can.  does that mean you have to yell, scream, rant, and rave because he don't get his way. 

He says the way to a man's heart is his stomach.  Yeah, I have heard all that but does that mean you have to take it so literal.  If we don't make love, it is because I don't want him and then he throws a big hissy.  I am a man.  My testerone levels get too high!  he start punching the wall!  okay, maybe we don't have time, maybe I am trying to get caught up on work and trying to balance all things, cooking, cleaning, being with my 1 child and husband and work. 

Yes, I am reduced to yelling right back at him.  Everyday I think I am not going to yell, but I do anyway. 

Sorry, any advice.  I feel we havea  shallow relationship now.  He gets mad and then I am a *itch.  I try to get along with him and watch our shows together, then, later I get yelled at because I made time to watch TV.  We make love, I think we are getting closer, and something else sets him off.  I realize we have deep issues we have to work out, but I also think getting mad making the other person miserable is not the answer. 

What does he really mean when he says I am a *itch now.  helpless....