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Posted By: new-at-this job-but notMTing on 2009-01-08
In Reply to: Thank you - Tired, worn out, and exhausted

Well, you could do what I did before I got the bracelet. You yourself could put a rubber band on your own wrist. Dont tell him what it is. Just for you. A secret! Every time he bugs you and you say something back when he addresses something negative or you get that knot in your stomach switch your bracelet. Then, secretly say something or do something kind for yourself to block out his negative manner. Once you stop reacting to his negative comments, he will have to go complain to someone else, he will give up on you probably thinking you've lost it. LOL. But seriously. Do it for you. Not that you are complaining but that you are practicing for yourself peace of mind. When he is positive then perhaps you dont move the bracelet and engage in conversation but the minute he starts, bracelet. See if you and he can go 30 days without your moving the bracelet. If not, by then you are used to being kind to yourself and ignoring his negativity and perhaps even forgiving him.
The book is by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer called Change your Thoughts, Change your life. He has a web site and I think he has free advice there. Pretty much the jist of the matter is to get away from the stress and materialism of the world which drives us and our loved ones crazy (your DH worrying etc) and to stop and listen to the trees blowing in the wind, take a walk and observe how nature does not worry, and how our nature could be like that. Then, it suggests how we can forgive even our enemies, with strategies on how to avoid the negativity. Well, I won't bore you much longer. But I can say that I was in the same boat as you, perhaps worse. I have dealt with my dad for over 48 years, he is now going on 95 and he is the most negative person ever! If I did not stop listening to him long ago and start treating myself correctly, I'd be in the looney bin, no joke. www.Dr.WayneDyer.com. Have fun finding peace of mind, perhaps your DH will soon follow!

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