You are condoning rudeness, Ms. Jan
Posted By: Miss Manners on 2007-09-28
In Reply to: You cannot - JanSetzmt
Any person with just a smidgen of doing the right thing KNOWS you should always say thanks but most younger group these days are past teaching so I tried to teach mine the right way. It just shows a lack of not learning. Some of my gifts anonymous so there is no way then they say thanks. But, I will say bless your and their hearts…(we do that in the south for poor pitiful folks who just don’t know better).
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the door or tell them you're not interested.
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I want to share a conversation I had yesterday with a lady I had on the phone yesterday when she called to ask me to make a donation to a organization that I have made donations to for that past few years.
Her: Hi Mrs. X, we want to thank you for your past donations to X. We would like to send you another envelope for your donation.
Me: I would love to help, but I can only do $10.00 this year.
Her: Well, we do have an envelope that we can mail out for $12.50. I can get that out to you.
Me: I can only do $10.00.
Her: Well, thank you Mrs. X. Thank you for donating in the past. CLICK- end of call.
I couldn’t believe she ended the call so abruptly.
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Thanks for letting me vent…
Mrs. X
I was only giving you back your RUDENESS
you posting the whole evening against a woman who is in distress! Do you understand? You talk about rudness and hypocrisy? Now rudeness struck you, feels nice?
I hope you changed your attitude.
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