You are a caring, loving person. That has been obvious SM

• Update on son - trose
  • You are a caring, loving person. That has been obvious SM - Good for you!
  • (((((((((((hugs))))))))))) to you trose...sm - mt
    • Excellent suggestion on the dentist - trose
      • ha ha---we ALL owe our parents an apology:-) - mt
  • I don't know, but I suspect it is - Misha
    • We definitely talkd about the sm - trose
      • eating problem - jlynn

The messages you are viewing are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select the boards given in left menu

it is obvious by her mood swings when it is approaching, and we all run for cover!   Also, when she gets hers, I know my is only a few days aways, so that is helpful to me, too.

I also regularly check her BC pills (she's 17) because she is in a serious relationship for over a year with the same guy and I'm not ready to be grandma for a long time. 

Whoof. This is so very hard. My mother is/was a brilliant educator, highly respected in her field.

We are walking a very thin line these days. I just hate it, and I do not use that word often.

We have found an assisted living facility that she likes, and I do as well. But, she is not liking the fact that she must decide. Oh, it is so very hard.

She was quite ill back in the summer, went to a nursing home for therapy (to recover from pneumonia), and then home. She is failing, and not going "gentle into that good night." She wants so very much to live on her own, but it is such a struggle. I am afraid for her, and I am so very tired.

Is anyone else living with this? If so, what do you do? I have read a thousand articles, talked with so many specialists, and still am lost.

aside from the fact that i'd be lost without my alprazolam, there is another reason.  my initials for tying are MS, which are very common.  so, many, many years ago, to separate myself from the group, i changed my initials to MX, which no one had.  now, i've even changed the way that i sign any documents requiring my initials as Mx.  

also, as is probably common, some of us have other screen names here than just our primary.  i have more than one identity here, which shall remain nameless.  another one of me is much more of a trouble-maker than the true XanaX, another regards being an ex-employee for another company, and yet another regarding my location in this country.  i'm usualy X, but my mood changes and sometimes i need to be more anonymous. 

constantly barking. I would put water out for the dog and sometimes feed the dog because it was being neglected.  Finally, when no one was looking I had the dog come with me and I took it over to my moms house and found the dog a really loving home.  My bad? I don't care, I knew the dog was being well taken care of.  The lady I gave him too just doted on him and he was no longer neglected. 

Even though a dog is being fed and given water doesn't mean it isn't being neglected.  Animal neglect is a form of abuse.  If you call anyone, don't call Animal Control.  Call the Humane Society or some other entity who can take the animal so it won't end up being put to sleep.  It's not the dogs fault that the owner neglects him.

to let you know. It happened so quickly, and I guess that is what happens when you snack in the living room. I am used to sometimes putting my glass or bowl on the floor when I am finished eating. This time I paid a high price. I think it may at least take some of the stain out, and thank God it was one of my smaller pans.  As Cat said,  a throw rug is an option as well.

Have a great Thanksgiving!  I am working, but will have the afternoon with my family. 

again, just my own *take* on the situation...betcha these people always get called by virtual strangers or acquaintenances to stay with them while the guests do Disney Parks.....living in Orlando and all that....

it reeks of using them.....just to stay there.....

Bad taste, to say the very least.

Isn't this also the equivalent of performing medical testing on a minor without parental consent?  I agree with all of the above posters.  This child has been humiliated and that counselor needs to lose his job.  I have a 12 yo and she would be MORTIFIED if this was done to her.  She's uncomfortable enough with her body changes,  such as her breasts developing and just starting to have periods.  She would be embarrassed beyond words if something like this happened to her.

I am jealous of MIL and Dh relationship.  There, I admitted it.  It was a huge red flag when we were dating but I ignored it.   To start at the beginning I was jeolous.  I wished now I would have listed  but I didn’t I married him.  Lived here in an appointment but he really considered his home with mommy who was 88 miles away.  He would go every weekend leaving me here alone.  I thought well, he is not married to me or anything I guess he is taking care of responsibility.  He seemed obsessed on the family farm (70 acres) and getting that started.  He and his mommy were working side by side to get “the place” fixed up.  Occasionally, his friend and his wife would invite them camping so he and mommy would take a break with his buddies and camp.  Not so intelligent me was sitting at home, alone thinking one of these days he will figure out what a wonderful person I am and he won’t have to cling to mommy so much.  Boy was I ever wrong.  He took my virginity and that made me want to cling to him tighter.  I shamelessly chased him.  Finally I told him that if he wasn’t going to marry me, I was leaving.  He said okay, lets do it.  Well we had a rush engagement.  DH hated the idea of a wedding he had already been through that once. (This was his second marriage).  He was not very cooperative and kind of rude but I did get my wedding.  At some points in our courtship I thought it was sweet how he doted on his mommy I just wished I saw how dysfunctional it really was.  I think my first clue should have been when he was late for our second date because mommy called him bawling because she and her brother got into a fight. 

Anyway, it was so hard to keep MIL out of our business.  MIL balanced our check books, dh would take me and MIL out of a drive, all outings included MIL.  I told him that I think we should be taking care of our financial bus and dh said “no, mom knows how to do it and besides if I take that from her she won’t feel wanted. “  I asked, who did you marry, me or mommy.  Well MIL is not in our finances anymore.  She did used to go through our mail. I asked her if she was going to be a meddling MIL and she got mad and told DH and dh jumped my butt saying she is only trying to help and a few cuss words. (when the cussing started, I turned out). MIL was upset and she was going to take us to court. I guess she thinks she has rights to his money just like a wife would or more so.  They did have bank accounts together, cc together. 

Any, I cannot write a book.  Just a long story short, I try to put up boundaries and I am the villain. MIL is not a meddler, she is trying to help, she is only being a loving, doting,  graaaadmommeeee.  To get along, I  try to think of her as a break from the kids but the way she interacts with my children sends chills down my spine.  First she would say that is her baby, she didn’t want her baby doing this or that.  She did not want her baby to get sick so I couldn’t  take her outside. She wants to sleep in their room so she can take care of them, she would take my oldest dd in another room and shut the door and undress.  She wanted to take her to the public restroom, (It is like she thinks, DH child is her responsibility, I am just womb donor. It was driving me stir crazy.  She and dh would buddy up on our outings and leave me feeling like a third wheel. And with DD, it was like she, DH and my child were just one big happy family.  Gag. One time dh ask her if she wanted another baby, she said “I love babies.”  GAG.  Bad part is my oldest dd loves her.  She wanted MIL to take her to school this morning, not me.  She is 5 years old.