You ARE judging -- judging businesses open and
Posted By: those who don't believe as you. on 2006-12-13
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It IS judgementalism at it's finest.
You think because someone doesn't agree with YOUR views, that THEY should have to work on that day, simply because of views.
You think that because someone might celebrate Christmas on Dec 20 due to family/schedule issues, that THEY shouldn't be able to live a normal life on Dec 25.
Very, very judgemental and extremely limited in perspective.
I understand you are Pentecostal. I'm more than familiar with that denomination. It has nothing to do with any of the topics you state. It just makes a bigger emphasis in my mind of WHY you think like you do. Sad.
I hope you have a good day. I'm thankful I am not like you. You don't make me want to be in any way. How's that for being an example and drawing others to Him? You're repelling, not drawing.
Go have yourself a great religious day.
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Where did you get that I was judging anyone?
I'm not judging anyone, ks. And, I don't get what you're talking about regarding "spewing the word from your mouth and acting differently behind closed doors". I try to be humble in my faith. As I said, I may not agree with a person's lifestyle, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't be respectful to him/her. God put us on this Earth to do HIS work or genuinely didn't you know that? This thread was about what stores wouldn't you shop at and I replied that I wouldn't shop at WalMart because they sell gay/lesbian material. That is because I do not agree with it because I believe the scripture referring to homosexuality as being sinful, ungodly, and an abomination.
I don't know where you got that I was judging YOU or your son in law. sm
I never said anything disparaging about you. The worst I said about him was that it sounded like he was underprepared (you didn't give a big history on his work experience other than that he was new to cold call sales, which is what I commented on).
I certainly didn't judge him for taking a job, only questioned if it was the right job for him.
And where did you get that I thought it was "nonsense?" I never said that, never implied that.
I DID give you suggestions that YOU could do to ease your mind...you really can find a LOT of your needed info simply by Googling. That wasn't a demeaning response, it was truthful...I checked it out before I suggested it.
I kicked NO ONE when they were down.
I am not judging, if I were then I
would talk to her about her excessive alcohol use, her marijuana use and on and so forth. I am not past talking with, but frankly I have felt she is very judgemental, critical of me and just does not even take the time to know me as I am. I do not ever get in her life, stay on 1 side of town and she on the other. Just like she said walking on egg shells, that has been my take on her for a very long time.
Here we go again. Judge not, I'm not judging. I am following
that is how I can say what a store should and shouldn't sell!
No, you won't change me otherwise. I'm not judging
the Bible. God will judge in the end. I simply don't shop at stores that sell gay and lesbian items.
I agree...too much judging others. nm
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Are you judging her mother by what
she told you or personal experience?
and not judging you at all-happy that you (sm)
have not experienced the horrible guilt that many of us have. Some do and some do not, but it is a risk...you don't know for sure how you will feel until later. It is sort of a knee-jerk reaction oftentimes, to try to quickly "solve the problem" but many people have terrible guilt years later and have to get help with it.
Judging people I don't know:
If you're one of the sickos who defend their right to abuse children because it's their religion, you deserve to be judged along with them.
I'm not judging you but with there being so many women who do (sm)
have terrible guilt and remorse after ABs it would seem that there should be more involved to get one, at least a visit with an unbiased psychiatrist who tells the full story of how one might feel later. I had someone say to me, "Now this is your decision right? Later on you don't get to blame anyone else, not your boyfriend, not your friends, no one else." I said I wouldn't and that was the extent of my counseling. This was in the mid-90s. I think you should have to go apply for one, be given a counseling session, wait a week or two, and see if that is still what you want to do. I think women should be given extensive information on all of their options and possible emotional repercussions so that at least when they make their own personal "choice" at least it is a well-informed choice. For me it is not so much guilt toward God as it is to the child I allowed to be killed. It is not a religious thing at all.
No one is judging a dog. Dogs
don't know right from wrong. They are animals. The point that I continue to make is that IT DOES NOT MATTER what this elderly man did. The pets in the home attacked and killed him. No PET should ever be capable by temperament of attacking and killing a human being.
For the sake of your argument, if the man reached out with a cane and rapped the dog on the head, in your mind would that justify the reactions of the dog to kill the person who struck him? How many other dog breeds would run behind the couch or under a table when confronted with abusive treatment? How many other dog breeds would growl? Bark? Nip? Bite? No one is saying that an animal should not defend itself, but a dog whose defense is to kill a human is a dog that should NOT be kept as a pet. A dog is an animal and does not think like a human, as you have pointed out, and that is precisely the thing that makes them unpredictable and makes the pitbull breed attacked unprovoked. It is all in what the dog perceives as a threat, which a human cannot always predict, or more importantly, cannot always prevent.
Tyne Daily, Judging Amy, NM
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Stop judging people who you do not know
Not judging honey, believe me, I speak...
my mind and you could tell if I was judging others. This place is teeming with unhappy, whining, complaining women (just look at some of the posts all over this site) and that is not a judgement, it is fact. As far as being in the same situation as others one day, if you read any of my posts you would see that I have been there, done that and changed my ways. Should something happen, we have learned to save money, have enough put away to last a year and not have to touch any retirement, etc. That took a lot of determination and hard work on our part and we are proud of it.
I am get a good chuckle out of some women who accuse other women of "living off their husbands" and "where would you be without his money". I can make my own money, but my husband doesn't tell me that i need to work and doesn't tell me how much I need to make. He is the provider in this family and has never once asked me to work harder, earn more or get a different job. Remember when men used to do that and our mother's stayed home and raised the family and didn't work? Are you jealous of your girl friends or family members that don't have to work or who live debt free or do you hold that judgement for those you do not know?
Enough of this for now. I'm sure someone will have something to bash me about later on...go ahead, it just shows how very immature some women can be.
Yeah, that would make me ill. I am not judging you by any means sm
as to the whys of your son living with them. If you were married to a husband like mine and then had 3 boys totally dedicated to sports - when it comes to that I have NO SAY whatsoever about my 3 sons playing ball. Their dad takes care of all of that. I don't think I'd let them move away and I don't my husband would either, BUT, if they did and my ex sister in law was the way you describe yours to be, then I'd be very upset too!
Right now I don't get along with my in laws. At all. Never have. And to imagine that one of my boys living with them. Ugh. Makes me ill just thinking about that.
What the he## is her problem with you any way? I mean, seriously? If she had any sense whatsoever she would smile, be sweet, and only say nice things about you ALWAYS.
Listen, hon. Trust me on this one. Your son will grow up and see her true colors and resent her if she continues to spew hate or not like you, etc. You are his mom. I know my boys would be the same if anyone disrespected me like that. I mean, their own dad can't even look at me wrong before they are all over him like you know what.
Let the natural thing just happen. Do the right thing. Say the right thing. Be there for him, always. Ask about his aunt. Be a huge part of his life even if he isn't there with you. Call often. And if she continues to be a twit, then you will be the winner in the end, even though right now it may not feel like it.
Good luck.
Someone who is atheist clearly is not going to Heaven. No judging, just stating fact as
per the Holy Bible.
I wasn't judging, just stating the facts ma'am....
these were things that were mentioned in the trial. And the baby and the methadone thing was accused by Larry B, I think he would know if she was taking methadone, and she was on something, we all know that.
Well I guess it is a pretty sensational story judging by the media coverage!
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I get frustrated by the double standard they use when judging people. They let certain people go sa
What do you think about the voting process?
I agree with you - not judging either but agree (nm)
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You might have to copy and paste to open this, as I tried a few times and it does not open. SM
It is worth looking at and warms your heart.
Only businesses put up decorations before that. $$$
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See the thread below about businesses that are and aren't
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Businesses refusing to include Christmas in advertising.
What? No Christmas? I just don't get it. For years, businesses have advertised Christmas, but now, ewww, don't even THINK of saying the word, ***CHRISTMAS***, for you might get THAT LOOK from someone who is ewwwww offended. Offended? Give me a break! I am supposed to accept every other religious nuance with open arms, but if I say MERRY CHRISTMAS these days, I get a very negative knee jerk response. I'm sick of it. So, I'm doing something about it, just like I did last year. So, here goes...
TARGET - you're IN. I'll shop at your store because you are including Christmas in your advertising.
WALMART - you're OUT. Not only are you not advertising Christmas, your snarky response to my email simply questioning your intentions really turned me off . I also won't be shopping at your other company SAM'S CLUB either!
UPDATE - WALMART HAS ANNOUNCED 11/9 THAT THEY WILL BE INCLUDING CHRISTMAS IN THEIR ADVERTISING AND ADMIT THAT THEY MADE A MISTAKE. SEE LINK HERE AND BELOW! http://tinyurl.com/yd9gx9
KOHL'S - You're IN. The letter you sent was very respectful and I appreciate that you will be including Christmas in your advertising.
SEARS - You're OUT. Kwanzaa? You actually used Kwanzaa as a reason for not advertising Christmas? Diverse cultures? Afraid you're going to offend other religious beliefs? Do you have a CLUE that Christianity is the NUMBER 1 religious belief system in America?
DILLARDS - You're IN. Discover Christmas. Discover Dillards. Good job.
LOWE'S - You're IN. Glad you smartened up and changed your sign from Holiday Trees to Christmas Trees...DUH!
MACY'S - You're IN. Thank you for allowing your employees to now say Merry Christmas and for placing advertisements in your stores, television, online, and print ads.
VICTORIA'S SECRET - You're IN. Christmas trees and music in your stores? What a novel concept. Kudos.
As of this writing, other stores as of last year not advertising Christmas are Kroger, Dell, Office Max, Walgreens, Staples, and J.C. Penney. I'm doing research to find out if they've smartened up and changed their position. I will post as I find out more information.
What it all comes down to, folks, is that these businesses CAN advertise Christmas. Christmas was here FIRST, but fat cat corporations are trying to lump all religious holidays together into one even though they don't fall on December 25! Does any of this make sense? People generally don't buy Thanksgiving gifts, but Thanksgiving is advertised. Hmmm. Interesting concept, isn't it?
Some readers may not like what I have to say and to them, I say...oh well. I believe in what I believe. In my opinion, there should be no reason to be offended by Christmas. If you celebrate a holiday other than Christmas, when it rolls around, celebrate it will a full heart! I sure am!
nothing is open
I would take her to gynecologist...seriously.
Open minded
Others might see it as straddling the fence. If you are an adult and don't know where you stand on the question of god/spirituality/religion, then you should not respond to postings and criticize others' beliefs. If you truly were open minded, you would read, learn, think, decide, and respect others' rights to do the same.
yo, please open up your brain.....
 
I don't see why you would have to open a separate--sm
account just to deposit that check. Once the bank cashes the check, you get the money. If there are not sufficient funds, that will go against HIM, not YOU. He will have to pay the extra fees, etc. to have the check clear. You get your money, either way. They cannot take it away from you if there is not enough money in HIS account.
Thanks for the suggestions! Am definitely open to others. nm
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....here. Maybe the windows will be open if it's
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I was reluctant to open this...
for fear of the unimaginable...Thanks for posting this adorable guy! AWWWW
I had open RNY in May...Best thing I ever did.
Happy, sexy, healthy! Merry Christmas to me~!!
Actually he can open the refrigerator-
so what is the answer now? He is a smart one, gets out what he likes, the ham, the chicken and just has a feast. Next answer.....
OMG! Get a dictionary and open it up
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i would open the dialogue
ask lots of questions and listen. Personally i have seen such things. I have had dreams that gave me information in a supernatural way. but what he is saying could be as he says it is, or it could arise out of fear or some other emotion. so again, let him talk and listen. I would not make it into more than it is, or minimize it either.
Never had enough to open a store...sm
But have bought and sold on ebay for over 10 years. Love it.
If the store is still open....
If you have a big platter or can get a throw-away one, make a nice cheese and cracker platter and put a bowl of grapes in the middle, that way you'll still have something to munch on while playing cards, or before dinner as it sounds like dinner is going to be sparse. Throw a couple of boxes of cornbread muffin mix (quick) into a large baking dish and bring corn bread. Everyone loves corn bread. Monkey bread is easy to make with a couple of rolls of those prepaid biscuits and recipes are all over the net for it, simple. Or a fruit platter with a dip in the middle. My brain is tired and the stores are closing. Unless you want to bring a ham but you'd be taking a chance on ruining her menu, after all,you are the DIL! Good luck with it, drink some Slim Fast first! Happy Day! While you're playing cards, something simple is "Scoops" with salsa. Just happen to have them in your trunk. Hurry up, it's getting late, maybe the drug store is open or a 711.
I'd pop it open and get a fork. nm
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I'm an OWL - I always sleep with one eye open
ROFL!
go in with open mind
that is what i did with my first....I couldn't decide if i wanted one or not....after about two hrs of contractions i knew i wanted one but since it was a small hospital had to wait until 8 hours later but still got one. I have had more children since then and i defintely had the epidural....so my suggestion is go in open minded and decided then...no need to make a full decision now
If you have no choice to open up the door - sm
just say that now is not a good time for a visit and to call before coming next time (because you work from home and cannot just drop everything when someone pops by)(add that on if you chose to). They may not like hearing any of it but tough cookies. If you are out of sight, just don't answer the door, if it happens often enough maybe they will think to call first next time and you can again say no, or to nip the visits in the bud say you are quiting that church and to please stop calling you. I am in the boonies and get the occasional church groupie visits of various faiths, I just tell them "not interested" and they go on their merry way without a fight for the most part. Good luck.
Surely you dont think they would open themselves up for
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PS: How to open image gallery - sm
The webside is kind of jumbled & a little hard to read.
1) Click on one of the thumbnil photos displayed below the title near the top of the page.
2) A new page & larger photo will appear. You can bring up different years, camps, etc. by typing them in, or just click on the little black 'GO' box to bring up a pageful of thumbnails.
3) Then click on any thumbnail you wish to zoom in on.
Nuts..wouldn''t open for me. nm
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oh, and open windows to air out home...
gotta change that air sometime........LOL
and when windows are opened, central a/c is off....
gotta be careful with mold/mildew.....which thankfully have never had in 30 years in s. fla....
have been for 30 years - tho do open windows
to listen to the birds before the world arises...but now we don't have to - they're chirping at 2 a.m.
LOL
I got a card at Christmas that I did not open
and put in a drawer- so no not everyone wants a card. The poster needs to mind her business and cool it. I would be totally put off by a popping in to see me, taking a dinner over for me, etc. etc. I think the mother said new mother does not WANT to be bothered. What is so hard to understand about that? Lots of people are worn out after giving birth and want time to recuperate. The poster made to do about her friend not accepting calls while hubby home and she does, and so? The new mother in her own home makes her own rules and the rule she has for right now is not seeing any people or talking on the phone, her wishes.
I open up my checkbook and look at the Ɔ' balance --
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And if you open it up for her to teach them her way, then you are opening it up to all (sm)
That means people who are homophobic or racist can also teach children their point of view? There has to be a line drawn somewhere.
You need to read this and with an open mind
Some important points from the article:
1. Circumcision is not a benign surgery.
2. The U.S. is the only Western nation that surgically alters its males.
3. Genitally-intact Europeans are often very amused to hear the notions circumcised Americans have about the normal human penis.
4. The European medical community condemns the U.S. for a practice they call a barbaric violation of human rights.
5. Europeans believe that males have a basic human right to an intact penis, a right to keep the body they were born with, and a right to body ownership and autonomy. For them it is a question of respect and dignity.
6. The foreskin plays a large role in sexual function. When sexually aroused, its lips expand and unroll over the glans. The glans stimulates the foreskin, and the foreskin stimulates the glans.
7. The foreskin has glands that produce a natural moisturizer and lubricant called smegma. Smegma serves the same purpose as tears do in the eye: it keeps everything moist, clean, and lubricated.
http://www.menweb.org/histcirc.htm
You know, most of the time I am very open minded, but
I really have a few things to say about that.
I don't expect people to give up their culture when they come here, but they shouldn't be allowed to FORCE it on everyone else.
I have my own culture and so do the rest of you. Comments like that trying to sound so PC upset me because we are expected to give up our culture to pander to those who cannot adapt and overcome.
We live in the USA. It has a nickname. It is called the "Great American Melting Pot". Hello? Do we not know what that means? Yes, every race in religion in the world has been welcomed here. What happens to stuff when you put it in a pot and boil it? It blends together and turns into something different. How can it be a melting pot when everyone wants to retain every single aspect of their former life? That was not the intention of the founders of our country.
That said, I will tell you WHY it is wrong to expect someone to understand another person's culture. My great grandparents came here from Ireland and Germany. From the time they got here, they were expected to obey the laws here, regardless of their religion or what they did back in their old country. They were expected to learn English--and they did those things. It is an insult to my ancestors when I see people come here and EXPECT to be catered to. My ancestors worked very hard. They only got what they worked for all their lives. No one provided them with an interpreter every time they went to the store, the bank, the post office or the doctor. They also had holidays others didn't understand and had native languages that others didn't understand. It was reserved for home use.
Do I usually complain about ESLs? NOPE. If they are actually trying I give them a break. Some of them that I have been transcribing for years have actually improved tremendously. Others, you can tell don't care if you can understand them and they have continued with the same issues for years.
I would not go to a foreign country and expect them to understand my culture, my religion, my customs or my language. I would expect to learn theirs.
Being politically correct is a lie. If it looks like a duck, acts like a duck and quacks like a duck--it must be a duck! I will not call it something else to make someone more comfortable.
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