You've waited at least 5 years too long already.
Posted By: Why buy the cow when the milk is free? on 2008-12-20
In Reply to: Since we are talking relationships on this board --- - anon
Your boyfriend has the best of both worlds and has no reason to marry you. If you stay with this person out of "love" I guarantee you will look back on your life one day with deep regret.
More concerning is that you say the other man is able to take care of you. Is that what you're looking for, someone to take care of you? You can't expect another person to make you happy or to validate your worth; it can only come from you.
I think your biggest issue is lack of self-esteem, and if you learn to love yourself the question about your relationship will answer itself.
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How about the answer...think we have waited long enough. nm
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I wouldn'tve waited 4 years - it would take me all of 4 min.
The next morning I'd be in town speaking to a lawyer about a divorce, and picking up a restraining order at the local P.D. on the way home. And maybe a pitbull with a long biting-history at the local SPCA.
And that would just be for STARTERS, before I got REALLY angry.
I've had it a long time
I've had IBS since I was little and I'm now 30. I have many different symptoms including diarrhea, gas, bloating, heartburn, and upper and lower abdominal pain. I used to have constipation alternating with diarrhea, but I haven't had a problem with constipation in a few years. Anyway, stress is the major triggering factor for me and I also have panic attacks/anxiety so it's a vicious cycle. When I get anxious I get an IBS attack and when I get an IBS attack, I panic. So, my doc placed me on Bentyl for the IBS and I take something for the anxiety as well. Hope you find what works for you. It's not fun living with IBS but at least there are ways to manage it and make life more peaceful.
I've always kept my hair long..sm
You can do some very chic styling with french braids, cingons, up-dos, french twists when you need to.
Since it grows so quickly, I've been able to donate to locks of love a coupla times...Right now after a shearing it's just below my shoulder blades....
All of us have bad hair days, but some folks have no hair days. Please consider donation if you are so inclined.  Cat
They've been radical for a long time!...
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3 years is a long time. Don't you think
What if the carpet store does not have the same carpet after 3 years. Also, carpet repairs are not cheap. You have to pay labor and the cost of materials. It would probably be easier just to get the whole room replaced or simple as it sounds, put a throw rug over it and call it a day.
No she won't - as long as she lived there for 2 years -sm
single you get $250,000 tax exempt, above that CG applies, if married it is $500,000. That tax law has been changed for a while now.
Six years is a long time; I'd probably go with 100.00
gift certificate to a nice restaurant or a spa/massage.
It will also ask how long at that residence and they will see 20 years. nm
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No, I've watched this gal for a long time on the boards &
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What is a STRAIT concert? And how do you not know how long you've been married? nm
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Mine's getting pretty long. A few years ago I -
had it cut to shoulder length, and hated how few ways I could wear it. It just felt too short. So now I'm doing the "Hair" thing, and just letting it grow 'til it stops. I've got a few grays, but in my family it can take up 'til our 90's to get completely gray. Once it does finally go gray, I might spice it up with some pink/purple streaks in it, just to freak people out.
2 years is a long time to be doing what you're doing.
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I have long, thick hair. I found over the years that I get what I pay for. So now I pay around 55-60
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I had surgery about 1-1/2 years ago and have a fairly long abdominal scar. I see now I am getting
a sore knot in 1 spot underneath the skin. My scar actually is hypertrophic so have had a lot of problems with it. Any suggestions. I am not enthused about cortisone shots in it.
I've been like that for 30 years
I sometimes fall asleep at 8 p.m., wake up after an hour, then can't get back to sleep until midnight.
Other times, I'm awake until 10 p.m., sleep until 1:30 a.m., fall back to sleep by 3:30 a.m., only to have to get up at 4:30 a.m.
And then there's the "no wake" pattern. Get about 4 hours sleep and feel great, but then I can't stay awake during the day. I'm in that mode now.
I have never taken anything for it, never even thought of it, but the suggestions below has given me some ideas. I'm no spring chicken (even though I usually feel like one) but lack of sleep is really beginning to wear me down.
I've been looking at them for years.
We have a very long house (75 feet long) and it takes forever for the hot water to get to the spigots and shower. We must waste 2 gallons of water before it's hot.
They have been on our wish list for years, planning on getting one for under the sink and one for in the bathroom that is at the one end of the house, but just haven't been able to afford them yet. 
I've always let my kids keep messy rms as long as floor was clear & no food was in room. Bigger
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I've been married 20 years, and
I can usually figure out a way to motivate mine. He does take after his stubborn mother, but ve haff vays, hehehehe.
We've been married for 22 years and
I've had my own checking account for the last 15. It is so much easier, IMO. In fact, he just recently opened his own separate checking account over the summer. So we have our joint account, which I rarely touch, and we each have our own.
And I agree that Christmas is for everyone. I'm as bad as the kids on Chrismtas Eve, as far as not being able to sleep. It's my favorite holiday. We get to see my whole family and DH's whole family and spend time together. Love it. In fact, it's my year to cook dinner for DH's family and I'm so excited.
I've been divorced now for 5 years and have....sm
recently started dating, if you want to call it that. Things seem to be a lot different now when it comes to "relationships." There are 2 men that I am interested in and 1 of these men is more interested in me than the other one. Do I follow my heart or do I follow my head? They both have positives and negatives, as we all do. I just don't want to make a bad decision that I may later regret. I know this is not a lot of info but I have heard "follow your head" and I've also heard "follow your heart, no matter where the road may lead." Help!!!
I've been married 21 years.
I really think God picked us for each other, and that happiness will not be found with another as long as we both shall live.
It's not that we never squabble or fuss or have the occasional day where we almost pretend the other doesn't exist. But I know that the only other person I could stand to spend this much time with would be my twin sister. These are the only 2 people I can be completely open with, be myself with. When it's good, it's really great.
We have furkids only.
I've been married 13 years and
I would never allow my husband to tell me who I can and cannot see. If I were you, I wouldn't bring it up to him until closer to her visit. As you said, who is he to say where your sister can and cannot go. As the time approaches, a week or so in advance, I would simply tell him that your sis will be in town next week and you are planning on seeing her. If he throws a fit, let him. It seems to me, he gets away with this because you let him.
If the situation arises where he becomes intolerable, perhaps you could spend the night at sis's hotel room catching up. Let him stay home. It's his loss, but it doesn't have to be yours as well.
Really? I've been doing this over 12 years and never had the problem before nm
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You've been married 15 years
and you've put up with it for 15 years. There's really no reason for him to change, is there? You've allowed him to do this to you.
Sorry to be so blunt.
Unfortunately we've had to do that for the last couple of years
We really wanted to go on expensive family vacations, but we have a rather large credit card bill that we're trying to pay down so we decided no elaborate vacations until we can really afford it.
I've had my checking with WAMU for years -
I just called a couple of days ago and it was obvious their calls are now being answered overseas. It took so long for them to understand what I was calling about, I ended up just hanging up and doing it myself on line. I'm thinking of switching or at least complaining. It's a disappointment.
I've been in scouts for 11 years and am a cubmaster now.
The Pinewood Derby is supposed to be a help-your-son event, but you are right to rant about some adults being overly involved. I've seen very, very sad little boys whose fathers don't let them help in building at all.
Some of the things that we've done in our pack to help prevent this are:
1. Hold a Pinewood Derby building clinic(s). We get some veteran derby builders (usually dads) to come out with tools to help the boys design and build cars on a Saturday a couple of weeks before the race. Most of the work is done then, and we have stations where the boys and their adults learn about design, then how to make the axles and wheels perform better, etc. etc. By the time the clinic is over, the boys usually only have to finish painting and install their wheels.
2. We hold an adult race where there are no rules. This sometimes ends up to be quite a hilarious race.
3. Awards should be given in lots of different categories that have nothing to do with how well a car performs on the track.
If you think that these ideas would be helpful to your pack, why not join the Pinewood Derby Committee for next year to help plan and have more of a say. Usually packs are dying for volunteers to help out.
I've gotten them all up for years, including the hubs. Should have
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we've had our squblles/differences over the years...sm
but we still speak to one another at least 2-3 times week...I live 1004 miles away from them...We talk about everything and nothing...What's for dinner?...Have you poked your spouse in the eye with a sharp stick yet?...How's Mommy doin'?....Kids, animals, politics, music, lots of trivia...
I miss the 3-part harmony and team cooking especially during the holidays. Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-wiVkdVPGoY
I used to let it slide, but I've been married 23 years.
Probably about year 5 or so, when we had children and she felt it necessary to comment on my mothering, I finally just gave it right back to her. She has four children, and the only one who turned out well was my husband, and I'm quite sure it's because he spent a lot of time away from home when he was growing up.
She lives just down the street, and now that we know where we stand, we have no problems.
I've had DirectV for years and love it. sm
AT&T recently offered me a free year of Dish, but I turned it down. I'm happy with DirecTV. Love my TiVO, too!
In 35 years of MTing, I've NEVER made
was while being paid hourly as an on-site MT. Now that I'm paid a lousy 8.5cpl, my income is closer to 20K/year.
I've lived here for 25 years, a transplant from the NY area.
 I live in the "burbs" like the other poster, but if you have a choice, go to NY!! It is WONDERFUL this time of year. The crowds are what make it New York at holiday season. Rockefeller Center, Radio City, and all thos wonderful things. I lived close enough to NY that I could hop on a train and be there in 15 minutes. I miss New York - lots.
Hang in there! I've been cigarette free for three years now...SM
It is definitely one of the hardest things you will ever do, but it is also one of the best things.
Check out this website and follow your progress and what happens to your body as time goes on without cigarettes. It is encouraging. http://healthbolt.net/2006/07/19/what-happens-to-your-body-if-you-stop-smoking-right-now/
DON'T join this site, but just do the first step of registration to see how much $$ you will save and how many days you will add to your life by quitting. It is very interesting. I used to have another site that gave this same info without having to join anything, but I couldn't find it, but this gives you the same basic info, but only do the first step in the registration process. https://secure.quitnet.com/
Again, hang in there. YOU CAN DO IT! You will start feeling better within a couple weeks.
I love that I can smell so much better now and that I don't stink like cigarettes. I find it very nasty now when I smell a person who has just smoked, which is something you can't smell when you are a smoker. Yuck.
i've had mine for almost three years, still works great sm
i leave my monitor on all the time, but it has a "sleep mode" after so long. it's a Dell. actually the whole computer system has been great!
Hey trose, I've had many yard sales over the years and have
seem some pretty surprising stuff go on, only to watch people battle off and jump in their "fancy" cars. I've had people set a whole pile of stuff in front of me and throw a 5 at me and try to take off knowing that what they had cost more. I had one lady say "quarter?" over and over and over trying to buy two folding lawn chairs and I kept saying, "NO." She finally gave up and left. I've had people steal right out from under my nose and jump in their "fancy" cars and take off. I've had a whole "family" of Mexicans pile out of a very nice van and converge upon my yard sale with one person trying to keep my attention while their family members steal whatever they could from me. When I saw a one of the kids stick an X-Box game in his shirt, I told him he had to pay for it and he tried to walk away. When my husband came up on the boy, the father tried to start a fight with my husband. My neighbor called the police and when they arrived they had the adults and teens in cuffs and the children in the back of a unit. Turned out they were illegal and were arrested and hauled off and then a tow truck came and got the van.
I haven't had a yard sale in a long, long time.
I've been to Branson a few times. Haven't been in several years
tho. Actually, it's been 13 years. My son was 3 and we did Silver Dollar City and a couple of shows. We also did that duck boat thing. I don't remember what it was called. But it's a boat that drives on land and you drive it right into the water.
I know Branson has come a long way since the last time I was there. So I'm kind of excited!
in the last few years, I've stayed at Flamingo, great location, in the heart sm
of the strip, right across from Ceasars Palace. Rooms are very, very nice and reasonably priced. Also stayed at Stratosphere but it's located on the north end of strip, I compared it to a Motel 6 and didn't have any hot water for the 5 days I was there BUT there is a great IHOP next door. Stayed at Ceasar's but IMO not worth the $$. A long walk thru casino just to get to the elevators. I stayed for a week at a "condo/extended stay" hotel which had a kitchen, etc. was a block off the strip - unfortunately have to stay at least 6 days but it was nice because there were no slot machines, very family oriented, could walk to Aladdin. Anyway I book all my travel thru Expedia and the package deals are the best. I went for 3 full days, air fare from Fla, hotel (Flamingo) and rental car for $250 so I really suggest looking online. The hotels give out coupons to half price magic shows etc. They are ok but what's great w/Vegas is that there are a lot of freebie shows and inexpensive places:
1. Red Rock Canyon - $5 per car, 13 mile scenic drive. It's 15 mins west of the strip.
2. Bellagio water show, every 15 mins starting at 8 pm, free.
3. Volcano eruption at Mirage, every 30 mins starting at 8, free.
4. Treasure Island, pirate show, every hour or so, starting at 7, free.
5. Sigfried/Roy Secret Gardens, $15 per person, up close to their beautiful tigers.
6. Top of Stratosphere, $8, see Vegas at night, also at top is roller coaster.
7. MGM, at 10 am let lions out to room in clear cage while you gamble nearby, free.
8. Fremont Street. Old Vegas, downtown, 4 blocks long, closed off to traffic (Cris Angel sometimes performs on the street). The most amazing light show done to music, every hour starting at 8, free.
9. Flamingo. They have flamingos and penguins outside near valet parking, free.
10. New York/New York. Roller coaster inside/out $8 to ride. Look around inside if never been to NY.
11. Paris. Go to the top of the Eiffel Tower, $15.
12. Mandalay Bay, shark reef, $18 per person.
13. Luxor, pyramid shape casino, go in and look around.
14. The Wynn. Most expensive to build, $4 billion, absolutely gorgeous inside.
Places to eat - I avoid eating inside the casinos as I can't afford to pay $25 per person for a buffet. Across the street from the Wynn Casino is "Fashion Mall" which is 2 stories, top floor has about 20-25 places to eat, very inexpensive.
Renting a car is very inexpensive compared to trying to walk everywhere or take a taxi or the "monorail" which is broken half the time. Getting around Vegas in a car is very easy, of course that's my opinion.
Hope this helps.
I waited about 7 months.
I wish I had done it sooner. I couldn't eat anything without getting sick by the time I gave in.
Yes, it's fun. I waited until I had a little gray,
and after my niece started going brunette from her dark blond, and it looked pretty good. My natural shade is a dark greenish brown, and my skin looks better with just a hint of red in a dark brown. It changes with time, but just looks more natural over time, since it gets closer to the color of the roots growing in. My picky older sister thinkgs it looks good, and even my hairdresser likes it.
I think we have all waited too late
to take our money out of the market. We probably should have made the move a year ago. I don't know what to tell you to do. I guess it would depend on the amount of interest you would have to pay on the loan. I think it will be several years before the market recovers.
Lady, you have got to get a life! Seriously! You probably waited
all day for a response like this just to justify your hate and meanness. You need serious, serious help. I am not kidding!
We waited 10 weeks, until 1st doctor appointment 9sm)
We just weren't comfortable telling anyone right away. Wanted to be sure everything was ok and had "stuck." I'm a very private person and would not want to have to deal with people knowing if something had gone wrong - I'm not really one for all the pity and tiptoing around you that people do after the loss of a pregnancy. Plus, once you tell it's all anyone wants to talk about!
I had someone tell me once that she was PG even before she told her husband. She miscarried two days later, then was calling me to tell me not to tell anyone and wondering if she should tell her husband after the fact. I was uncomfortable.
Having said that, if you feel so inclined, go ahead and share your joy! Congrats!
Another thing, my parents waited until we were older
and it was awful. Your kids know when you're arguing and feel the tension. It makes for a very unhappy home life. It was almost a relief when my parents finally separated and divorced. Life seemed so much more peaceful.
Depends if it is long with pregnant pause um no. If it is long and juicy like an op YEP! Short ones
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I had it during my pregnancy a long, long time ago. Husband
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How long is too long to wait for Pap results?
This is a follow up Pap for an abnormal one a few months back. I have waited for the results for over a month and have called the office once. Any advised about being a patient patient - LOL. Its hard when your in this business, I think anyway, not to be more aggressive about stuff like this.
My husband is 7.5 years younger. Been together almost 20 happy years...nm
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My feelings; people shacking up together for years and years
and then all of a sudden deciding to get married don't need a thing, obviously. A shower should not even be given. I lived with my now husband a while (nowadays who doesn't!) before we married and I also had been married before years ago but he was not....so of course HIS mom wanted a shower. I told her absolutely not unless it was just the immediate family, his mom, sisters, etc, more like a celebration/get together. And so that's what we did. Showers are tacky, period. Unless it's a couple of young kids getting married straight out of the house and that doesn't happen much anymore.
Been with a man 13 years older, now with a man 4 years younger.
Younger is better, at least in my case ;)
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