Yes, some fathers can be exactly what you said

Posted By: Jonnie on 2007-05-29
In Reply to: Unless the husband is a very selfish - sm - XXX

there are loads of fathers out there who are just not into the baby thing like a woman might be- and having heard just a few minutes ago about the mother in Texas who hung herself and her 4 kids this morning including an 8 month old- well some mothers are not into it either apparently. Thank goodness, I am so past the mothering stage and I can really live it up now and just enjoy my life and what I want to do and only me.

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Question for moms - :-/
- Yes, it will change. Hubby will have to take second place - mm
  - You know my feelings also, but you get blasted - Suri
- Don't worry. Hopefully, you have family support, so - you and hus have some time together.
- Yes, your relationship will change sm - Dreamweaver
  - Not all fathers bond with their children - HB
    - I'm sorry you had bad experiences - Dreamweaver
  - Thanks - ;-)
- Normal nerves, BUT you and your relationship w/hubs will change & evolve, hopefully - in a good way. Constant work in progress! nm
  - I figured - ;-/
- children are dependents, their needs come first- - you/hubby accept and understand that :) - n/m
  - Easy to say but in reality husbands do not - Jonnie
    - Unless the husband is a very selfish - sm - XXX
      - Yes, some fathers can be exactly what you said - Jonnie

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The TLC commercial about fathers
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Not all fathers bond with their children
and having said that, a lot of times having a child can also drive couples apart. A child crying all the time whether from colic or just wanting to cry for no reasons can be a headache not just for the mother but the spouse. Some guys leave women when they announce a pregnancy. I think loads of time an infant puts a strain on a marriage. It can happen and does. I was married to 2 different fathers to my children and neither one took the effort to really be what I would call a decent father- probably my fault for having a child with them in the first place but being as I do not believe in children without marriage, what was my choice?? Married them I did, divorce from them I did also.

I know a young woman with six children who have six different fathers and just

announced she is pregnant with her 7th. She is 28, does not work, has never worked. One of the fathers has been in prison and she is breaking up with the father of her one on the way so she can reconcile with him because he's getting out of prison. She is on welfare, food stamps, any and all government assistance available to her.

Now, I realize that these day with the unemployment rate rising, there are families that need help and I think it is wonderful that this help is available to them. Sixteen years ago when I was pregnant with my son, I had a part time job at a bank with no insurance and my husband at that time was out of work, so I got on Medicaid and food stamps. However, I felt ashamed that I had to do this and my goal was to get off of assistance as soon as I possibly could.

Nowadays, it seems there are way too many irresponsible, unmotivated, and downright lazy people out there shamelessly living off the government teat. I think it is totally irresponsible to have 6 or 7 kids. The only people who can afford to feed a family of 8 are those in a higher tax bracket than I. And the truth is the people who have very large families usually cannot afford it.