Yes... me too
Posted By: anonymous too on 2008-09-16
In Reply to: Anonymous question regarding abortion (sm) - Anonymous1
I was a freshman in college and had mine on 12/08/80. My mom, good Catholic that she is, pretty much pressured me into it and drove me to the clinic 3 hours away and home again. I remember laying in bed at home that night, and hearing them come on the TV in mom and dad's room next to mine saying that John Lennon had been shot and died. The two events are now forever intertwined, and there are times when I'll listen to some of those songs, especially from that Double Fantasy album that he had out then, and I physically feel that day again. Well, so you can see, yes, it affected me and I'm left with a lot of regret about it. Three years later, I was pregnant again by the same boyfriend, and our daughter was born in 06/84. We got married, are still married, and had two more kids in 8/87 and 8/00. I regret that choice every single day. It was such an unnecessary, stupid thing to do, and I do have a lot of guilt over it. I am against abortion now, and in fact my son, age 21, brought up the topic this morning, saying he found out that a friend of his had had one. We talked a little about the candidates and their stances on the topic, and then since he's had the same girlfriend for over 3 years now (she's younger than him) I just told him if anything happened with her to know that they didn't have to think about going that route, and we just had a conversation on it. The two older kids don't know about my experience before them.
Incidentally, I was adopted and sought out my birth mom several years ago. We had an e-mail only relationship because her husband didn't approve of her being in touch with me, and I was fine keeping it at that. Unfortunately, she died before we ever actually spoke. A good friend of hers knew about me and called me the day she died. I was shocked as I didn't know she was even ill (multiple myeloma and MS). I guess she didn't want me to know, didn't want it to be the focus of our relationship. I sure never felt like I stalked her, and I since met one of my half-sisters who said it brought her mom a lot of joy having me contact her.
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