Yes, i am hopeless. I've tried too many times to quit
Posted By: Backwards typist on 2008-12-04
In Reply to: You're not a hopeless case! sm - gemini
My first time was when I was 17. I am now ___....let's put it this way. I've smoked way over 40 years. I smoke at least 4 cigarettes an hour if you count the ones that burn away while I'm working. I am rsigned to be one of those that can never quit.
I have a heck of a cough in the morning but if I'm not in my house; i.e., out in the fresh air, in a place that doesn't allow smoking, I could go for hours without one. I should not have decided to work at home. Yet, I'm so lovin' working at home because I'm not good in a social atmosphere.
DH says "holy sh---" when he sees the amount of cigarette butts that are in the trash, yet he understands. He started when he was 8 yo. He would like me to quit...after all... $70 a week is a lot of money going up in smoke, but he doesn't say anymore than that. He even buys my cigarettes if I don't have the money that day because he's seen me at my worst. Ever see Intervention with the drug addicts when they don't get their fix? That's almost like me. I'm absolutely nasty.
I'll probably be one of those people on oxygen and going out for my '"fix." At least it's better(?) than being on hard drugs??
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That's not true. I've tried to quit 6 times
in the past 5 years. I made it for 3 weeks by being cooped up in my house while everyone else was having fun in the garage. But DH had an important phone call he had to take, so I braved it and went up to tell him. Just the whiff of smoke did it for me. Back on them.
I tried cold turkey, the patch, herbal supplements, and even hypnotism. I'm ready to try the Commit lozenges. That's the only thing left for me. I can't chew gum. I've called the support groups so many times, I think they got tired of hearing from me.
I don't have a PMD, so I can't get an Rx.
My DH quit 16 years ago by throwing his pack out the car window as we were driving. He is so kind to me because I haven't been able to quit. He never harps on quitting. He understands. He's seen me go through withdrawal and it's not pretty.
My son and his wife quit when she became pregnant. He used Chantix and also had the wildest dreams so went off them after 3 weeks, but he hasn't touched up a cigarette since and being around people who smoke doesn't bother him.
I guess I'm a hopeless case. It's keeping me broke, too. I'm a 2-pack-a-day, 2 cartons a week. Even that doesn't stop me.
I whish the best for everyone who wants to quit and hope you all make it. I've stopped trying.
I've been to NYC 3 times now, just
for day trips, but I would recommend that you get a ticket for the Gray line double decker bus thing. I think it is $50 a person, but you can get on and off as many times as you want, and it stops at most all the tourist attractions. I thought it was money well spent. Since we had a little trouble navigating the Subway the first time we were there. And I was a little scared of the taxis. So this was a good way to get around.
I've traveled alone many, many times,
including solo backpacking trips into the wilderness. I like the solitude, whether I'm in the woods or walking the streets of New York. But, of course, you do have to be smart about your travels. Make sure that someone back home knows your trip plans, and do check in with folks at home every evening or whenever you can. Be aware of surroundings, don't announce that you are by yourself, and project confidence. If you don't have a roadside assistance plan such as AAA, I suggest you invest in that, too. If you've never traveled on your own before, you might try it on for size before you go. Try a little day trip by yourself, maybe an hour or so away from home. Have a meal by yourself in a restaurant. Go shopping or sightseeing. Learn something new. That may be a very nice warm up. I've traveled by myself so often, that when I first set out on a trip, it sort of feels like putting on an old, comfortable coat. My travel routines are familiar to me, how I carry my belongings, where I place my maps in the car, what music I listen to, etc. Oh! One think I absolutely love to do these days is carry an iPod loaded with podcasts, which are like radio shows. There are zillions of podcasts out on the web and the topics are so varied and interesting. I find them mentally stimulating. Check out some travel podcasts. (I just got back from Gettysburg and I was traipsing across the battlefield with my iPod listening to battlefield guides talk about the history. Loved it!)
Enjoy yourself!
I've seen him a couple times but although
his tricks are great, I just can't stand to watch him, even though I have tried.There's something about him that bugs me but I can't put my finger on it.
Still, all in all, I think he is very good. Don't know how he does it.
I've done it too a couple of times.
I moved from OH to FL when I was 19. I wanted to get away from the snow! I had the best time and wouldn't trade the experience for the world.
I lived in Atlanta for 5 years, moved from there 5 years ago. The area was way too congested for my liking. Just to go to the grocery store was bumper to bumper traffic. As a matter of fact, there was traffic any time of the day or night. Even when you leave Atlanta and go 1 hour in any direction, you are STILL in traffic! It was ridiculous.
The other thing about Atlanta that we did not like is that because of the rapid growth, we had trouble hiring anybody to do anything. We would get estimates for work on our house. They would want the money up front and then say "we'll be here when we get here and don't bug us until then". It was awful. We ended up always hiring illegals (which there is also an abundance of in Atlanta and surrounding area) who always did a good job and always showed up! It even took 6 weeks to get a phone line put in.
I could rant and rave for a long time about Atlanta but you get the picture. I really cannot recommend it.
On the other hand, I am feeling a little jealous of your freedom. Do it while you can! Good luck.
i've gone out on the deck a few times,
but like the other poster, find it inconvenient. I have several items to drag along, and have to secure laptop so pets don't knock it over. Only do it on the nicest days when i can stay out there several hours and make it worth the trouble. i am very used to (and like) having everything at my fingertips in my office.
I've married the same man 3 times. nm
I've done that twice, both times to San Francisco. sm
Once in the mid ྂs and once in the mid ྌs, for about a year each time (I'd probably still be there if it weren't such an expensive place to live).
However, despite our winters with the blizzards and the weeks and weeks of well-below-zero temps, and mosquitoes in the summer that are large enough to carry off small dogs, I've put down my roots now and bought a house here in Podunk, so I'm thoroughly planted.
I've moved approximately 28 times...
the shortest I lived in one place was 19 days - the longest 9 1/2 years (so far). Hated it. Went to 9 different schools and hated that, too. I said I would never do that to my children and, although we had to move several times, they were only in 2 different school districts. You sure do learn to adapt, though!
Labyrinthitis - I've had it sev times - it is scary - you just need (sm)
some seasick med most likely. It is an inner ear infection - doesn't usually cause pain but causes the symptoms you have. don't worry - almost guaranteed that is what it is! See your doc for probably Meclizine and maybe a decongestant, maybe even antibiotics.
I've done it so many times -- most exciting thing
Wow, where do I start? I left MI when I was 23, having heard San Diego was nice. I loaded up the Chevy and headed West. One of many, many adventures I've had. I've driven back and forth relocating across this country too many times to count, taking my job with me where ever I go. Atlanta, Chicago, LA, San Diego. I've done it with cats, a baby, and a 30-year-old car -- everytime all by myself. I have a CB radio to keep in touch with the truckers and they would always help me when I would break down, overheat, or need any sort of help. There is nothing like seeing this great country of ours one slow mile at a time. Colorado and Utah are by far the most beautiful, but treacherous because of the Rocky Mountains.
As far as moving to a city you don't know a whole lot about, you have to contact the Chamber of Commerce for any particular city for all sorts of information about their town --- also part of the adventure. I always loved being a stranger in a strange land.
And fear, oh yes, but more bravery than anything. I've always told people that pretend bravery is the same as the real thing, just fake it and you'll do fine. If you're young and courageous, I say totally go for it!!
I've tried twice to do Flylady and both times was overwhelmed. Tell me...
how did you get into it? I really want to, but both times I felt like the Flylady was demanding I do more than I could (or was willing). Did you have that problem? If so, how did you get past it? I haven't looked at the website in a couple of years, so maybe it's changed, too. I'll definitely have to check it out again. You sound very pleased.
I've been to Branson a few times. Haven't been in several years
tho. Actually, it's been 13 years. My son was 3 and we did Silver Dollar City and a couple of shows. We also did that duck boat thing. I don't remember what it was called. But it's a boat that drives on land and you drive it right into the water.
I know Branson has come a long way since the last time I was there. So I'm kind of excited!
You're not a hopeless case! sm
Each day is a new beginning. Don't give up. There must be something you can do to keep your mind/hands occupied. Give yourself small rewards, take hot baths, get some exercise, etc. I could rant forever. My husband went from cigarettes to cigars and he visited my Dad in the ICU after he had his lung removed and threw his smokes away for good. It is a genetic disease, I'm sure. My sis used to wish there were a 12-step program for smokers. There must be a support group online. Try Recovery, or use a 12-step program online and replace booze talk with smoking and see if a winner, not a loser, be the "victor" not you can get some help there. You are the "victim." You are worth the effort. Some pills do cause nightmares, try Benadryl at night. I'm rooting for you! Being in this profession doesn't help, it's very stressful; thus the need to relax, I understand, please don't give up. If you don't have a PCP, try a walk-in clinic or the pharmacist, you never know, they may have some good advice. Think of the $$$ you will save, use it to pamper yourself and your self-image will improve. You can do it, baby steps at a time. Remember, every day is a new start.
Oh, please! End times! People have been saying that since the beginning times!
It's just sensationalism. It seems that journalism has gone to a warm place in a handbasket. I briefly majored in journalism back in 1980, and what passes for journalism now would have flunked any of us right our of an entry-level course! It's all sensational reporting, because networks think that brings in the viewers, and thus drives up the advertising price that they can charge during broadcasts.
Another of my pet peeves in "journalism" is the phrase "Unconfirmed sources say . . . " Yeah. Right. Unconfirmed sources is just another way of saying, "Rumor has it . . . "
Next time there is breaking news, listen for it. It's said over and over again, because the networks and stations want to get the news out first. I don't know what happened to fact-checking and pursuit of the truth in journalism, but it's all about getting info out fast, and keeping the public tuned in with the most sensational reports that they can put out there.
Back in the days of the Roman Empire, people were treating each other pretty badly and in unbelievable ways, too. Crucifixion comes to mind. So, I don't really think modern news reports are pointing to end times any more than at any other time in recorded history.
Looking to quit my job.
I had recently 2 weeks ago barrowed $2500 from my 401k in order to make ends meet during the holiday season. I am unhappy with my current employer and would like to look for another job but they say that if I leave before that loan is paid off then I will have 3 months to pay it back (i cannot) or I have to pay tax penelties. Well my question is,would it go on this years taxes or next years taxes if I quit before 12/31
I have never taken anything to help me quit, but (sm)
I have quit several times for years at a time, and I always did it cold turkey. The only way I got through it was because I TRULY WANTED TO QUIT. Is it possible that they really don't WANT to quit, they just THINK THEY SHOULD? This may not make sense to a nonsmoker, but that is the point I am at now. I know I should quit, just don't want to, and I don't believe I would no matter what I took. It's a mindset, I think.
Then just keep doing what you are doing and quit
complaining and live with it.
Quit your job -
But I wonder how many people REALLY quit going
to these stores. I know my SIL never quit WalMart even though she was devastated because "they" (whoever they are) were taking Christmas away from her. Seems like a lot of talk but not a lot of ACTUAL action.
will you quit attacking - I never said....sm
I never said anything bad about Koreans or him being Korean - you have no idea who you are typing at on this board...I am so not racist and so tolerant but you'd have no clue about that.
At the time I posted it was a 23-y/o Korean THE DETAILS of the details of who did the shooting had not hit the newswires UNTIL THEN.
Please get over yourself.
Quit tripping
I hate no one but I sure dislike him quite a bit. If you read my post correctly, I said HE wanted Iraq to share the oil, that means we do not have, correct?? Useless conflict, lost lives, another Viet Nam and might as well cut your losses and leave. Over 2000 years of unrest in that land and the US is supposed to change. Ha! I for one am so glad about the standoff being him and the senate with him being unable to afford his war anymore.
Yep, me. I quit my hospital job sm
to work at home just because I got tired of some mean people in the office complaining I was always in the bathroom. Like I really wanted to be there.
I quit 3 months ago!
I feel great! I can even be around others and not have a craving. I am just starting to be bothered by the smell.
GOOD LUCK! YOU CAN DO IT!!
Quit nitpicking
Isn't this one place we can type without worrying about doing something ridiculous like making a typo or a spelling error???? I sometimes get more anxiety about posting on here because everyone nitpicks it to death with the spelling and grammar I about hyperventilate. Most of these messages are typed out so fast and in between files, that it is how it is. Give people a break and remember people in glass houses should not throw stones. Have a good day. Bet it makes you feel superior to be the first one that posted and pick apart her message.
By the way I have only used Stedmans and love it.
You know what will happen if we all quit
There will have to be money coming from somewhere to replace the tax revenue lost if all of us wicked smokers just up and quit (or died, whichever!). They already decided we could do without the transfats and took those away from our McFrys; Salmonella risk caused many places to get rid of genuine cesar salads because of the raw eggs; and some places have banned pate. They may start slowly hitting the US consumer with a Twinkie tax- $1/pack, $10/carton. Those McFrys, even without the transfat we knew and loved) will have a $0.10 surcharge each (eek, I can't afford to supersize anymore), and I'm afraid that it will take a mortgage if I want to get that Chantilly Lace cake from the bakery.
Fat people and smokers- the last two groups that it's okay to make fun of in this country, and dang if I ain't both!
How come she quit this one? I miss her, too. -nm
My father quit at 65...........sm
after practically a lifetime of heavy smoking. He started when he was just a boy, which was common back in the 1920s. He quit at 65 and lived for 20 years before being diagnosed with lung cancer. Of course, we have no way of knowing how long he had it because he never really had any symptoms until about 6 months prior to his death. His cancer was found on a chest x-ray for pneumonia. It was inoperable as it was behind the heart and could barely be seen over the top of the heart when he had the x-ray.
I thought his death would make me stop smoking, but it hasn't. I have smoked for about 25 years now and I know I should stop but I haven't found the will power yet.
first, quit the guilt
If you have been burned by someone repeatedly, and they still want you around, they have to be open to your verification to gain your trust. He doesn't respect you enough to get help and stick with it, as he has proven repeatedly, so why should he be surprised if you want reassurance of his activities. If he doesn't want to change, then there is nothing you can do to make him. You have to decide if it is really worth hanging on. Is life apart from him really that much worse than with him? I would advise you to see if there is anyone you can talk to who is an expert on addiction and those who live with addicts (you didn't say whether you have a counselor available or maybe a support group). FWIW, I've been there, and I would never give a man as many chances as you have. It is your life. Reclaim it for yourself!
My point is that the e-mail check is not what you should worry about. How his problems affect your life/sanity/sense of self is what you should focus on.
Good luck!
I took it to quit smoking...
and can't say that I noticed any effects whatsoever, except that it did help me quit smoking.
Quit assuming...
You have no idea what you're talking about.
Quit concerning yourself with "normal." sm
What works for one couple is completely irrelevant to what works for another couple.
It only matters what is comfortable between the 2 people in the relationship.
Every single person has a unique preference of what is the right amount for themself, and we're lucky to find someone we're compatible with in that manner. Some idea of "normal" shouldn't be your gauge.
It doesn't matter if my husb and I only do it once a month if that's all we feel like doing. I don't care that anybody is doing it 3 times per day. It's irrelevent to my relationship.
Quit being so sensitive...nm
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Also quit with Chantix
I smoked over a pack a day for about 20 years. October 2007, I starting taking it. I took the first 3 weeks out of the 1 month pack and went in for a hysterectomy and stopped taking Chantix after that, but never started back up again.
My husband, smoked 2 packs a day for at least 20 years, also took Chantix for 1 month and has stopped smoking. He quit last January (14 months ago).
I did get VERY depressed on this medication and often had thoughts of suicide. This went away after 3 months of not being on the medication but it was a horrible experience. I think they now prescribe an antidepressant to take along with the Chantix.
All I know is I could not have done it without them. I love not being a smoker and cannot stand the smell of it anymore.
GOOD LUCK!
So just quit charging when
you pay them off, but don't 'close' it?
Oooh! One more and then I'll try to quit
I used to work in a convenience store about 20 years ago and one time this guy walked in. He was a -regular-. Anyway, he walked right inside the door, looked down at his muddy boots and proceeded to knock the dried mud off right there in front of the cash register. It flew everywhere. Clumps all over the place. And then he just kept walking. I always wondered if he did that at home, too.
People can be so oblivious!
hey - please quit feeding the troll....Thanks!
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one lady quit over my list
she was offended and said she knew how to do her job. I was a little upset at the moment and said if I was good enough to pay on time and tip consistently why could I expect my cleaning to be consistent.
Oh well my house is dirty I am exhausted and I will spend my day off trying to get caught up and start back still exhausted.
Quit cold turkey because
admitted to the hospital with asthma exacerbation and put on theophylline. That is probably the worst thing ever, sped me up, no sleeping, sweating and I swore if I could get out of the hospital never again. That was 1998 and not 1 cigarette after then. I hated the theophylline more than I loved the cigarettes. What I thought would be outpatient treatment in the emergency room that day changed into a 2 week stay. I was put on prednisone and gained 26 lbs in 2 weeks, horrible. If a doctor now says prednisone, I said what is my second choice? I am remarried and thank goodness stopped the smoking, this hubby is so much against it. I never, though, call anyone else down on their habit if they smoke because I have been there myself.
My hubby quit 3 years ago.
He is sooooo glad. At his dad's funeral recently he had a pack of tissues in his pocket. His brother in law thought it was a pack of cigs for a second. That was one light momement on a tough day.
Margaret's list idea is great; I've used that for other things.
Replacement activities are good too ... having a new thing you do, like a walk at lunch, or drinking chamomile tea or something new and different to help mark the change in your life.
And it will be like you gave yourself a raise! You could start keeping track of how much you are saving and use it for vacations or clothes or whatever treat you'd most like.
(That would be plants for me).
:oD
Quit worrying about what everyone else got or gets their kids. sm
MOST of it is on credit, trust me. Credit, credit, credit. Most Americans don't even have a savings acct (from something I read on line), so you know they aren't paying cash. Who cares what all the other kids get? I hate trying to keep up with the Joneses. It's so dumb.
Should I just quit answering the phone at all?
My children are grown and out of the home. I was on my cellphone today talking long distance, my daughter calls on my land phone and I answered. I have caller ID but did not put on my specs so could not tell who it was, just answered. I don’t get that many calls, mostly people selling things. Anyway, noticed she seemed out of sorts, in a curt voice telling me to call her back. When I finished I called back and asked her what was her problem. She tells me I sounded like I was angry, upset or whatever. I have told her repeatedly- if you think I am upset- ask me and I will tell you- that does not happen- she just assumes that. I told her she and her brother will never know me, never as they both assumed the same (I am estranged from her brother) Her brother used to tell me to "calm down" and I again and again and again said not upset and then that would tick me off that he continued to say that. My children are in their 30s and 40s- I have been married to my present husband now for 8 years (although I have known him 25+) and he knows me much better than they ever did. Any suggestions? Should I just disconnect the phone? Should I let everything come on answering machine?? My pet peeve in life is to be accused wrongly and yet it continues with her. I guess could let answering machine pick it up for a few weeks and I guess that would worry the heck out of her then ----- or maybe not?
Scared to quit smoking - sm
I have another friend who quit smoking 3 years ago and now has lung cancer. I know (and have heard of) many people who quit (ACS can tell you how your lungs supposedly improve and risk of lung cancer death diminishes compared to the general population) smoking only to be diagnosed with lung cancer after several years. This IS NOT a mental excuse for me not to quit. It really does frighten me. Been a smoker for 30 years. Seems worthless to fight to quit and die, or just keep smoking and die. Anyone have any thoughts? I have no one affected by my second-hand smoke.
I did Curves for about 2 yrs, but quit due to surgery a yr ago sm
I had GREAT success with Curves, which I did along with Weight Watchers - I lost 72 inches in total body measurements and almost 75 lb. CURVES ROCKS and now that I've recovered from my hip / knee surgeries, I'm going to rejoin.
Anyway, I know they've changed someone but their core competency is the circuit training, no treadmills or other equipment. You really don't need the treadmill either, because the stations between equipment are for walking / jogging in place.
Quit wondering- she made it there
really late around 10:30 or so, after she had finished her final show in NYC and flew to California to join him. I have seen the pictures of them there.
Just quit being the hater, more people might like you.
My original post - I think most hear read and understand English very well-states what the association does not allow. If you read something into that as being snotty, it is all on you, not on me. Sorry, dont even own a pair of panties, much less granny ones. I will just say bless your heart as you seem to need that.
People, you just got to quit assuming!
I am born and raised in the south. I live in Georgia now and have for the past 40 something years. I do not eat crawfish, never. I eat ice cream and never heard the term "wet nuts" is that a term for boiled peanuts? If so, never had those either. I do not eat things like squirrel, rabbit and the like. In my home we cook with olive oil (never lard or grease), do not use flour in any cooking, don't even have it in our home, do not eat fast food items. At home we lean towards Italian dishes, husband makes a wonderful salad dressing with garlic, olive oil, herbs and the like and also makes a mean spaghetti. I love stromboli and love olives (remember I am a true Southern girl). Why in the world people assume because you were born or live in a certain part of the country means you are this way or that, I will never know. When you assume you are generally wrong. I learned that years ago and the posting above fits that category.
Hating my supervisor, and not being able to quit yet. nm
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quit paying and see if he says something..then you'll know..nm
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YAY he just quit chirping first time in 4 hours
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I quit cold turkey 10 years ago, YOU CAN DO IT!! nm
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