Yes, dad was in the picture. He was kind and generous and patient.
Posted By: Can U feel my bitterness? on 2007-05-05
In Reply to: Glad to see you came out okay! - CAMT
He took her abuse for 30 years, and then he died. He wouldn't leave her. He and I were very close. My father gave me a great gift. He gave me self-confidence. I could write about him forever! But I can boil it down to this: A father who loves and cares for his daughter, and builds her up, increases the likelihood that she will have great relationships with men in her life. I've always had wonderful men in my life -- very good friends -- and especially my husband. My father had a lot to do with that.
So thanks for saying I'm a good seed, but my father was also a good gardener!
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Be patient, kind, loving and understanding . . .
sounds to me like he is missing you and your mom/family life. He is probably hurting right now and needs you and for some reason he finds great comfort in being with you. My dad died 13 years ago and I loved having him around. I know your situation is different, but be the comfort he needs right now and I am sure this will end in time. He is looking for reassurance for something. Who divorced who? He is probably hurting a great deal right now even though he does have a new girlfriend. You won't regret being there for your father. Trust me.
you are very generous to say so
What nice words to brighten the rest of my evening!! (and i can't help showing her off!)
I hope yours is just as good!
You were generous enough to give them
the plots. They could either foot the bill to have her moved or buy other plots elsewhere. I really don't feel this is your responsibility. I would go to the funeral with my head held high -- you did a generous thing by giving them the plots, you can't afford to have her moved, and it's their responsibility if they aren't happy with the locations of the plots to make other arrangements. If anyone is crude enough to question you about it, I'd either tell them that, or simply tell them you do not have the money.
No, but it was free for me; a gift from a very generous physician. Oh, and (sm)
it was douched with holy water and blessed by the Pope.
If I were the patient I'd....sm
never be comfortable with what all this midwife is trying. It appears to me that the midwife is trying to play doctor - we've all seen it at times with nurses & PAs trying to be something they're not.
My OB group uses midwives and prefers that the midwives deliver all vaginal deliveries; however, I have insisted that a "real" doctor see me on my visits and deliver my baby when the time comes. I'm paying for a full MD service (i.e. they don't charge the insurance company less if a midwife sees a patient and/or delivers).
Be patient
I know it's driving me crazy too, but if I wait about 20 seconds or so it finally comes up.
The English Patient
What can I say except I adore Ralph?? :-) Sigh...
Patient - every time!!!
It was so bad that I even put it in my auto type and I even spelled it wrong there!!!!
Sounds good, then just be patient....sm
and please let us know when you are 6-8 weeks into using it....I so hope it works for you, it worked for me and 2 of my friends (they had lost their hair to chemo), one of whom finished chemo in November and has nearly 2" of growth all over her head now and thick!! (post-Fermodyl)....
patient care - did you hear about this one?
June 13, 2007 — A woman is lying on the floor of a Los Angeles County hospital emergency room. She is throwing up blood. Family members say hospital workers ignored their pleas for help, so they called 911 from the hospital frantically seeking help.
A half an hour later, Edith Rodriquez, 43, a mother of three, was dead, leaving the family reeling. The county supervisor is outraged, and it's all been caught on tape.
At 1:43 a.m. May 9, Rodriquez's boyfriend, Jose Prado, placed the first call to 911 from a pay phone just outside the emergency room at Los Angeles' Martin Luther King Jr.-Harbor Hospital.
911 Operator: "What's wrong with her?," the 911 operator asked.
Prado: "She's vomiting blood."
The operator then questions why hospital officials are not helping Rodriguez.
Prado: "They're watching her and they're not doing anything. Just watching her."
Rodriguez had been to the emergency room on three separate occasions. Each time she was released after being given prescriptions for pain.
This time, she lay on the floor of the emergency room for 45 minutes. A security video shows staffers and other patients standing by as a janitor cleaned the floor around her.
Eight minutes after the first call, another call to 911 apparently comes from another person not related to Rodriquez. "There's a woman on the ground of the emergency room at Martin Luther King and they're overlooking her," the female caller says, "and they're ignoring her."
The operator asks the caller what she wants him to do and informs the woman to contact hospital personnel. The conversation then becomes tense as the operator lets the caller know he cannot send an ambulance to the hospital.
"I cannot do anything for you for the quality of the hospital there," the operator says. "This line is for emergency purposes only."
"May [God] strike you too for acting the way you are," the caller responds. The operator says, "No negative, ma'am. You're the one."
The county coroner ruled that Rodriguez died of a perforated bowel.
After listening to the tapes, L.A. County supervisor Zev Yarovslosky called the hospital's actions a moral and human breakdown.
Last week, federal inspectors declared that patients at King-Harbor were in "immediate jeopardy" of harm or death and gave the hospital 23 days to correct procedures or lose certification. It was the fourth time in less than four years that the hospital had received the warning, according to The Los Angeles Times.
"I hope it's a lesson to the rest of the community that when somebody's in trouble and the appropriated reaction is not to turn your back on that somebody," Yarovslosky said. "It's to put your hand out and see how you can help."
The supervisor of that second dispatcher said his tone on the call was inappropriate. The medical director of the hospital has been ousted for his handling of an unrelated lapse in patient care.
You're a very patient woman
I was too when I was younger, but not anymore. Good for you for teaching your daughters what not to do.
I think you deserve better. I doubt he appreciates you.
I have a couple of nieces who smoke and their houses never smell bad - they use air purifiers and anti-cigarette candles, but I'm not sure where they get the candles. They smoke, but hate the smell of stale cigs. Go figure.
just a liaison between the patient's and families...
and the nursing home, so if they are not addressing your needs, this is an appointed advocate--not employed by the nursing homes--whose job it is to address your concerns.
Hands down....The English Patient
Absolutely the worst movie I have ever seen.
The drinkin kind or the rubbin kind?? sm
So....is that for me to drink so I don't notice or care that my hands are all splotchy black or to get the ink off?  Seriously though, do I use the rubbing alcohol - or like Jack Daniels?? and do I soak in it or what? I never heard of using alcohol but I'll try anything.
Talk about a patient's privacy being intruded upon.
And who is paying for these ultrasounds? Are these lawmakers going to support these children. I think we've fought long and hard to make it our decision as women. It is our body. I'm sorry if I offend people who call it murder or whatever, but that is the choice a woman has to make, not some lawmaker. Also, which health care provider (doctor/imaging center) is making the money off of this one? Will the woman that is with child have to pay for this herself?
I had a patient's name a long time ago, Ima Piggee..nm
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there is a patient advocate or ombudsman in every state...
whose job it is to deal with things like this. the nursing home can give you the number and it MUST be posted somewhere. If you ask for this number, chances are, they will find the ring if at all possible because they do NOT want to deal with this type of mess, but you should definitely get in contact with him.
Dear Mother of an Adult Patient
Stop calling me to request prescription refills for your son. If he needs something, HE should call, not you. He is forty years old and fully capable of calling. Also, don't call me on Friday afternoon and ask me to put a Rx up front and then call me this morning and ask if I faxed it to some pharmacy. That's not what you asked me to do. And again... HE should call, not you. Also, calling me three times a day to ask if a company has called me to authorize your son's Rx is annoying. They won't call me. They will....Oh yeah. CALL HIM! Your voice annoys me. It's like screeching birds. In case you didn't get it, which you don't seem to, PLEASE STOP CALLING.
Thanks!
Patient had heartburn after eating a "hot met"
this was in a report I transcribed a couple of days ago. I left a blank because the client allows 2 blanks, but it has just been bugging me ever since. It was an account in the southern US, so I wondered if it was something specific to that region (I've lived on the west coast all my life). Can anyone satisfy my curiousity and tell me what a "hot met" is?
Just did MRI on tinnitus patient. See Message regarding acoustic neuromas.
Acoustic Neuromas:
Acoustic neuromas are small, slow growing benign tumors that press against or invade the auditory nerves. If your tinnitus is only in one ear, you should see your physician to rule this one out. An MRI will probably be required for a definitive diagnosis, but one contributor's ENT felt that an MRI wasn't warranted unless frequent dizziness was present. Acoustic neuromas are removable by surgery but involve a risk of hearing loss. Doing nothing should be considered an option by elderly patients since these tumors grow so slowly.
I hate the phrase "the patient expired"
I have never liked that phrase...makes me think of spoiled milk or something. We don't come with expirations dates!!
Mainly speaking tongue in cheek, but he could remove patient info and let me listen.
:P
I feel that is best too. I have been kind, very kind, to this ...sm
child since he moved here in March. I also am not one of those parent's that thinks my children are perfect. You never know what they might do out of your presence. I do know how I have raised them though and I am all for getting them all together when there is a problem and getting to the bottom of it but anymore that doesn't seem to work. The parents automatically get defensive and start making excuses, etc. I'm going to look for somewhere else to move. I've lived here for 2-1/2 years and we never had a problem until this boy moved in. His mother is a piece of work.
When a patient has a russian name they speak with a russian accent, then - see message
the next patient has an italian name and they speak with an italian accent, then the next patient was a child and they spoke with a goofy (disney character accent), etc, etc. It's been like that ALL day. That's why I said I like to type the report in wingdings and see how they like it. ha ha
Picture -- I got it!
Are we there yet???? Woof
She took a picture of him NM
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Picture?
Test. Made Avatar that picture. If it does not show still would someone explain how to do that please 
Here is the picture.
Finally. I was forgetting to put in the profile ID.
The big picture is what happens to the cat (sm)
or any other pet for that matter, when we move them onto someone else. Is there a guarantee they will find a good home--or a home that gives them as much TLC as you do?
I had a young cat that went right through my screen windows...I mean RIGHT THROUGH the darned screens to get outside and then used them to get back in! Ruined at least 5 of them. I thought about a cat door, but there are other critters out in these parts I do not want coming into the house to sneak a snack, so nixed that idea. I tried to see if he'd like being a barn cat and staying outsite 24/7 with a nice warm barn to sleep and nope, he wanted in (hence the crashing through the screens). He also shredded the rubber seals around both my doors.
I could just pawn him off on a shelter in an area where feral cats are up the wazoo knowing there was a good chance he would be euthanized if not adopted within the 14-day limit, or give him away to some unknown person (tales of cats being used for coyote bait do exist up here), or put up with the destruction for however long he lived.
My little niece came up to visit from out of state one summer and fell in love with this PIA of a cat. They were inseparable. She asked her parents if they could take him home and they said yes. I packed up his little kitty carrier with all his toys, some food, health records, and kissed him goodbye. She sends me pictures and is always updating me with his antics. He doesn't crash through their windows and follows my niece around like a puppydog. It's been 3 years now and thankfully it all worked out beautifully.
If I were in your shoes, love him, and could guarantee a lifetime indoor home for him, I'd have him declawed. The alternative could be much, much worse.
This definitely not my picture
The grandchildren on son's side only grandchildren I have. I have a daughter that I possibly see every 3 or 4 months- no shopping trips, occasional lunch out. When my grandson born (older than the GD) I asked if before going to the maternal GMs house after delivery if they would stop by the house for a minute so I could hold- had never even held the child (after being asked to not visit in the hospital 1 night, mother tired and then told next day G-aunt and maternal GM both there the previous night, held and diapered!) and told no, I could come over later to hold the G-son. Waited, waited, called and told to wait longer as others (including aunts, cousins, etc.) still holding. This started right from the get go. I always from the day my son married knew and expected for his wife to come first, before me, no question there- the only thing is I would have thought I could have at least shared some of the g-children. Before my last marriage I was charged for any and all things done at my home by my son, grands and the like- not the other side. Why would I be treated any different? This family on DIL's side have no outside friends- they are their own friends and socalize all together. I have always been last and I just finally accepted. Oh, by the way, did not tell about my DIL stealing money from me- I never ever mentioned that to my son nor others- I would certainly not be believed. She also hurt my credit for 7 years- allowed her to use 1 of my cards- she bought things for her G-mom and g-mom paid but DIL kept that money instead of paying the bill. This again I never said anything about, always just thinking well if I say anything, not believed and could keep the kids away always, now just threw in that ole towel!
picture
Why would we laugh? I love the cheetah print - I'm such a diva at times or was in my younger, much thinner years! You are a very pretty woman with a few years of maturity behind you. I wouldn't want to be in my 20's or 30's again for all the tea in China. Great picture. Thanks
My dad took a picture of my new car.
I got my Yaris a couple of weeks ago, and he took this picture for me last Sunday. If you are looking for an excellent little car that gets great gas mileage, you might like one of these too.
Another picture
Here is another picture of Santahoe
They should take another picture
using their hands to sign the L on the forehead (as in LOSER) and send that to the police dept and the school administration. Maybe that would get a message across.
see picture
(I know this should probably be on the main board, but could not see how to upload the image.)
THIS IS WHERE YOU CALL WHEN YOU HAVE TECHNICAL PROBLEMS.
THIS IS INDIA......
the big picture
They have lower prices because they do not pay their employees a living wage, do not provide benefits, etc., etc., etc. They are what is wrong with this country today. They did to retail what MTSOs are doing to us. And people are eating it up. They go into a town and drive all the other businesses out. People have no choice but to work there. Then they pay them crappy wages with no benefits so they can keep costs low. you are supporting an industry that does to its people what we are complain about in ours. Americans should boycott WalMart and force them to pay their employees decently and force them to provide benefits. WalMart was named time after time as the biggest offender in this regard. About 80% of their employees have no insurance because they keep them working "part time" (32 to 36 hours) and then don't have to give them benefits or when they offer the benefits they price them so the people can't afford to pay for them. Do some research on them. you may not like what you find. And try to find American made products there. Why do people not see that sometimes saving a buck costs $10 in the end. Cut off your nose to spite your face, as my mom would have said.
Let's see if I can do this - pug picture
This is Maggie. She is so sweet!!
I also had a picture up with me 35 pounds
heavier. it was not pretty. That was my motivation. by the way, I will walk 2 miles a day and have been doing so for 8 years to keep the poundage off.
here is her picture - her name is Gracie
http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory?id=3018035
I've had 2 dobies, both with ears down, 1 with a tail, devoted and loving. I cannot get past this. There is a way to make sure this human waste never does this again....
How about a picture frame that your
I know you can also find stuffed animals that record messages. I'm sure a sediment directly from your son using his "voice" would surely make her smile and know that she has done her job. If I were a speech therapist, the sweetest thing to my ears would be your son's voice. JMO. 
Oh--an AVATAR picture! Well, that I can help with!
The key there is SIZE of the picture--has to be 100x100 pixels. If you need help, you are welcome to e-mail me your picture and I will re-size it for you and send it back. Just click on my name to send it to me. If you already have it resized and ready to go, just go into your profile (which for some reason you can only edit when you post a message) and upload it directly from your computer.
Posting Picture.
Instead of posting a Quick Reply. Click the Button after follow ups "Post Reply to This Message", see the form there and you will find a box at the bottom -> Image:, where you can directly put your http:// link to image.
I saw a picture of a man from Albania...
Inside the huge cage, was a big pig (animal) and the man's wife sitting/squatting right next to the pig......
THIS is HOW THESE types of men treat their women..........
Everyday I'm glad I was born and raised in the USA and believe me I thank GOD DAILY for that....
From the picture you paint, it is SM
hopeless. No man wants to get divorced. This may sound funny, but they don't. Even if they hate the woman they are married to. I should know. I was a perfect housekeeper, but everything you said in your note applied to me. May have been married to the same man!
If you have been to counseling four times, I would say you gave it your best shot.
However, how old are your children? It is very hard raising kids alone. Can you stay there until they are older? High school? I was a long suffering woman, until my daughter graduated from high school. I am much older and we were taught to stay for the sake of the children.
Believe me, I know it is not easy to leave; but it does get a LOT easier once the children are grown.
You have a lot to think about and my heart goes out to you, because I was once where you are.
How to post a picture
First, the picture has to be on the internet. There are a lot of photosharing sites like Photobucket (that's the one I use), Flickr, Webshots, etc.
The photo sharing site will give you a link you can use to post the picture. You have to use the "Post Reply to this Message!" instead of "Post QUICK Reply."
At the bottom, you will see three boxes:
URL/Link:
Link Title:
Image Link:
To post a picture, copy and paste the link for your picture in the "Image Link" box.
If you want to post a clickable link for a website, copy and paste the link in the "URL/Link" box, and you can put the name of the website in the "Link Title" box.
Hope this helps. 
Hmmm.... you and Jan have exactly the same picture and
scripture at the bottom of each page. Let me see- are you the same???
I don't know how to post a picture.
If I e-mail a picture, does anybody know how to put the picture in so everybody can see it? Or do I have to have it in a website (which I don't have).
**PICTURE of ER-MTs dog Chance**
I want his life!
**Picture of ER-MTs cat Nala!**
What is it with cats and Christmas trees?! Such a riot--she looks tweeked that you caught her doing that!
Great picture and
a beautiful baby to be proud of.
What a beautiful picture!!!
Looks like a wonderful place, what beautiful scenery! Thanks for sharing.
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