Yes, but their rudeness does not excuse your own
Posted By: sirpercy on 2007-04-08
In Reply to: And you were not taught manners - Ann
You should always respond to an invitation, even if no RVSP, but most definitely if there is one.
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Rudeness
My elderly aunt took the time to go buy a card and sent my granddaughter (her great-great niece) that with some money for her high school graduation. The note she received back written by the mother, rude! I also gave really nice wedding gift to hubs nephew and his new wife and got printed thank you note back, could have been for anyone and sure that is what everyone who sent gift got. We take the time to buy these things and good manners are falling by the wayside. My own daughter thanked me the other day for raising her with manners so maybe not all in vain.
Another rudeness
There is a place that calls me frequently asking for clothing, household items and the like and I usually give. The lsat call was a guy who gave a callback to remind me (at my request) and told me to sit the items out that evening on my porch with a tag on them. I said cannot do, the wind is blowing about 30 mph and items would blow all over the yard. He then said, "Well you will have to get up and have them out by 7 a.m. in the morning then." I said, what did you say? He repeated and I said, no I don't have to be up for you or anyone else at 7 a.m. in the morning but I will not be contributing anything now. Same place, another person called back several months later and I told them what happened and I would no longer be giving any items to their organization. Sorry. You do not get anything from me with being rude or aggressive with a pitch.
It has nothing to do with rudeness. It is what they feel they
the door or tell them you're not interested.
You are condoning rudeness, Ms. Jan
Any person with just a smidgen of doing the right thing KNOWS you should always say thanks but most younger group these days are past teaching so I tried to teach mine the right way. It just shows a lack of not learning. Some of my gifts anonymous so there is no way then they say thanks. But, I will say bless your and their hearts…(we do that in the south for poor pitiful folks who just don’t know better).
Caller for donation rudeness
I want to share a conversation I had yesterday with a lady I had on the phone yesterday when she called to ask me to make a donation to a organization that I have made donations to for that past few years.
Her: Hi Mrs. X, we want to thank you for your past donations to X. We would like to send you another envelope for your donation.
Me: I would love to help, but I can only do $10.00 this year.
Her: Well, we do have an envelope that we can mail out for $12.50. I can get that out to you.
Me: I can only do $10.00.
Her: Well, thank you Mrs. X. Thank you for donating in the past. CLICK- end of call.
I couldn’t believe she ended the call so abruptly.
A couple hours later I decided to go to the website for this organization and under donations; there is an OTHER box for amounts to donate. I called the 1-800 number and the lady who answered the phone transferred me to another who was in charge of donations. I told her what had transpired with the previous phone call and she agreed with me that if this phone lady was turning down a $10.00 donation from me, how many other people was she turning down? I have been removed from the call-list and will make my donation online from now on.
I know it’s not much, but to date I am at $70.00 in donations to one charity or another. All of the organizations were pleased to get a donation of $10.00. I am not rich in anyway, and with tax prep/ estimated taxes for state and federal due this month, I wanted to donate to this charity, but I can’t put myself beyond my financial means-
I guess I let the caller get under my skin for not taking my donation. But, in hindsight, I am glad I called the organization since $10.00 here and there from people is better than nothing. It is for a good cause- but don’t belittle me for not having the same cash flow that I had last year!
Thanks for letting me vent…
Mrs. X
I was only giving you back your RUDENESS
you posting the whole evening against a woman who is in distress! Do you understand? You talk about rudness and hypocrisy? Now rudeness struck you, feels nice?
I hope you changed your attitude.
High school teacher rudeness...sm
My daughter got a role in the upcoming spring musical. The drama teacher hasn't published a practice schedule and so far my daughter has called every day with the time to be picked up. I've sent the teacher 2 e-mails asking for a written only to get no response. Today I've sent her another e-mail with a CC to the principal stating this is very rude of her to not publish a schedule and expect parents to be available "whenever" she feels like having practice end with the kids not being told the schedule until they arrive to drama class. My daughter says that several kids have told the drama teacher that they couldn't stay on some of these days she's called practice after school.
Have any of you ever encountered such rudeness and unpreparedness by a teacher? If she doesn't give us a schedule by the end of this week then my husband has told our daughter that she will have to drop out of the play. Practices so far have ended anywhere between 4:30-7:00 and I'm not going to sit around every day trying to guess what time they'll be done. Plus my daughter doesn't have a cell phone and we're not getting her one just to use for this. She's having to go to the school office to call us on her lunch time and miss part of lunch to place this call.
No excuse
It is completely rude, but there isn't much else you can do. You can, however, choose a consistant pickup time yourself and let her know what that is. I have done that which creates a big inconvenience to them instead of you. :)
Excuse me?
I have a teenage daughter and I resent the implication that they are all sex-crazed nymphos. At least, that's the way I took your post. Generalizations like the one you just made are offensive.
ExCUSE me?????? sm
Would this be a little sexual harrassment? How terrible for your daughter!! You don't have a choice, you HAVE TO DO SOMETHING. Poor girl, she's so sensitive anyway!!!!! No you are NOT overeacting. Go STRAIGHT TO THE SCHOOL WITH THIS ONE . . .
No excuse for this
The only human thing doesn't cut it. I have worked in hospitals for many years, observed nurses and MDs in action. When administering drugs, there is no excuse for massively overdosing newborns with Heparin. The nurse was probably talking her head off to somebody, had her mind on 10 different things instead of what she should have been doing - passing meds.
If she was tired, then she should not have passed meds or should have had somebody help her to doublecheck herself.
I hope they sue the pants off that nurse and the hospital, too.
EXCUSE ME???
I was correcting MY error...you need to calm down, sister...I would never, ever correct anyone else's mistake, only my own. I made a mistake, I CORRECTED MY MISTAKE. can't you read??????? So freakin' rude, grow up will ya!
Excuse me! sm
Lining my pockets? Are you serious? This is for my daughter, not me. I have plenty of money and don't need their money. We make over $100,000 a year. My daughter is the one who suffered and is continuing to suffer. What would you do if your daughter was traumatized like this?
I think you have a lot of nerve!!!
excuse
all my typo. It has already been a long day. That is why I am on the forum. I needed a break.
Excuse me, but....(sm)
...we certainly do hear of women who are cruel to animals. Just Google "woman charged with cruelty to animals" and you'll get plenty of hits.
I wonder, as a man, if I could get away with posting a sexist slur like yours about women? I doubt it!
Should have been benefit...excuse me (nm)
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Excuse, did not speak about yours
you must have been trying to read between the lines and never said anything about your dear one. You imaged.
Please excuse my ignorance sm
but do any of these have natural herbs that could counter-act birth control pills? I know that St. John's Wart can counter-affect BCP. I have a terrible problem with insomnia, seemingly inhierted from both parents, but they didn't have it until early 40s. I am 39 and have had problems for well over 10 years. Thanks!
Excuse the typos-been
a long day of typing!
Excuse, then, thought just yours but
i would have told her in that situation you thought just you and the combined kids, husband not going and you want to wait until it would be just you 2 adults so you could catch up on some girl talk- actually if me I would not even put in the girl talk but I know some people not out there like me. I would just tell her sorry, want to go when we girls can spend some time together. If invited somewhere, anyone knows you just don’t make arrangements for a third party to come along- unless you ask first if ok.
I'm sorry but that is the classic excuse
when caught with contraband. He is probably just experimenting at this point but you want to nip that in the bud. He needs to really see what the effects of that will be and that he may think he can stop at any time but the problem is he won't know that he can't stop until it has already happened. I've always felt that stressing the inside damage they are doing to themselves is important but with a teenager looks are really what they care about- try stressing how unattractive and smelly they make a person, where girls that might be interested would pass because of the smoking.
Gee whiz, everyone please excuse me
now while I play with my new puppy for a few hours, buff my toenails, eat some bonbons, put in a few lines of work to include many gross errors while I do so, come back here and read posts for a couple of houres, moan and whine a little, and then spend a couple of hours whining and moaning some more about my DH and sorry life before he comes home from slaving all day to provide me the life of luxury to which I am accustomed and entitled. Hope you have a good day, too, Misha... enjoy your new pup!
Excuse me, you are not saying I slammed anyone, are you?
NM
Or could he be using alcohol as excuse without
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Excuse the typos sm
Oh boy, just read my post, up late last night watching Super Bowl, Pats fan here. I never heard of Bunco before, thanks for explaining. Women, don't understand why they can't be loyal, staying to myself.
Excuse me. I have a question.
Does this "you do not EVER write off an older family member" edict of yours also include those family members who are relentlessly verbally or physically abusive, unapologetic, unrepentent, constantly undermine you, belittle your children, alcoholics, drug addicts and so on? Maybe you should think that over again. Not all of us live in ivory towers.
Sounds like an excuse to me -nm
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Use the economy as an excuse
How about using the economy as an excuse? You could phrase it that you don't want her to spend her money or something like that. She may seem to enjoy it, but she might jump at the chance to cut one thing out of a crazy shopping season.
Good luck. My family and I stopped exchanging gifts years ago. None of my brothers or sisters have kids and we all decided that we were broke and stressed and just didn't need to do it. It's made Chrismtas much more relaxing. We just get together for a nice dinner and have a good time.
give an excuse and
Half my relatives I have to sleep with one eye open.
Excuse me? I think this is getting kind
of weird, if not sick! This borders already on masturbation!
Can you please explain to me how a woman pregnant in her 9th month can reach her perineum with her hands and massage it for 10 minutes?
It is even advised that the spouse does this as foreplay to intercourse. Please spare me with your links!
This is pathetic!
I think it is better if we stop this discussion right here!
Get over yourself!
I meant country...excuse me!
And I am sorry, but it is Christians (meaning belivers in Christ, ok...)losing our freedom of speech. Just think about it, anything and everything is ok to be discussed on TV, in books, on the radio (you know what I'm talkin' bout too), but mention the word *God* *Jesus* or even anything pertaining to the church, and whoa...no no...don't do that, it might offend someone. Well I'm sorry, but sexual exploitation of women and children happens to offend ME...yet it's all over TV...homosexuality is a sin, yet it's all over TV... I won't go on because I think you're intelligent enough to see my point. Anyhow, MERRY CHRISTMAS...HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESUS!!!
Please excuse the typing errors...
All I have heard today is "The patient had a giberishgiberish condition that includded gibberish, cough, hack, sneeze gibberish." You get the point.
Pls excuse all the typos, it's been a long day! -nm
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EXCUSE ME....ignorant minority???
May I remind you that Roe V Wade was the product of a handful of activist judges?? ANYwhere wholesale abortion has been on a ticket for all of US out here to vote on, it was defeated. They tried first to make it a "state" issue, and it was voted down. So activist judges overturned the will of the people and now we have abortion on demand. So PLEASE do not insinuate that the majority of people would vote FOR abortion, because you are VERY MUCH mistaken.
Just tired of people having every excuse why nothing is their
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that's kind of a poor excuse (sm)
Just because they don't come to you doesn't mean you can't go to them.
whoops, excuse those mistakes in there sm
I'm in a hurry
Excuse me, what is wrong with the word
Much better than a lot of words I coulda said...my point was exactly what another poster said...kids have a way overinflated sense of entitlement and no matter how they were approached, they would have acted the same. What was the OP supposed to do??? *Um, would you kindly exit the property?* *Um, I know you are nice, respectful children, so I'm sure you won't mind putting out the smokes, cleaning up the language, and getting outta here?* Which one? Either way, she'd have lost...which is why, if it would have been me, I'd of picked them up and thrown them out...and yes, my children are very respectful to their elders and everyone else. I am always complimented on how well behaved my children are, thank you! ..this isn't a frowny face...it's a disgusted with the whole thing face...
Excuse me, I speak Jive.
I would love to see a clip of that part again!
He is old-fashioned, and that isn't necessarily an excuse
I am a Pastor's wife. Well, that will probably tell you volumes in itself. He is right-wing Lutheran, and I come from a moderate Lutheran background. Well, needless to say I know what you are going through except I am supposed to set an example to the ladies at church that the man is the leader of the house and we are not to publicly or privately question his decision, because that is the Biblical way. Well, sinner or not, I think this leads to men thinking they are always right, we are not their equal, we have no say, and it becomes a control issue. So... my heart is with you. I have yet to figure out this patriarchal thing. Believe me, I have voiced many times that I am good at some things, he other things and in discipline with children, we are equal not one better than the other. I think men are supposed to act responsibly not controlling and this is where the confusion comes in. When they refuse our opinion or disrespect us, I feel they are not living up to their role as protector and are acting like babies. But then again, they say I am a Pastor's wife who needs to go to Pastor's wife school, because my opinions are for equality and I have zero tolerance for domestic abuse. I am sorry if this does not answer your question or help you, but I do want to say I sympathize and you are not incorrect. There is no reason for a man to be controlling or to be rude, senseless and overbearing. When I figure out the answer to my situation I'll let you know. All I can say is to this day publicly and at home I stick up for equality, and I do not accept abusive male behavior and I don't care who doesn't like it. Zero tolerance from me. Leads to a tense household, but it could be worse, dishonesty is absolutely worse. Sorry for the soap box. Please hang in there and keep yourself safe and happy. :)
Being aware of it doesn't mean they would excuse it...SM
Especially with the bee in the bonnet that was obvious based on the follow-up post by OP. There ARE teachers and administrators who go on power trips.
excuse my lack of knowledge, but
I thought medicinal marijuana was legalized in CA some time ago. What a horrible situation, this calls for an uprising, let the power of the people be heard. That is exactly why this stuff is going on - we let it.
Excuse me very much, but it is a know n fact that Americans
have the hardest time to learn foreign languages and if they learn, they speak it with a very strong accent.
Excuse me...a little medical knowledge..sm
The IUD prevents any ovum from implanting, including a blighted or fertilized ovum. Sheesh.
excuse my typo's.......long day- sm
got endometriosis right, but cannot spell divorce (and it was probably one of the factors), leave words out too but figured everyone could figure that out.
excuse the spelling errors nm
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lol Folks, she has an excuse why she'll never face
Besides, we all recognize the ridiculousness of this type of boasting control.
excuse me - I was WRONG...LOL means lots..sm
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Other poster is right, means laugh out loud, lots of luck, lots of love......
sorry for the error of my ways...........LOL
Excuse me...didn't he say I thought you were pretty?!?
I think that was where he screwed up. Would a woman have said that? I think not. Sounds to me like he was not only acting but thinking inappropriately ;)
Sorry, I wasn't posting to you. Excuse the mistake.
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yep, w/email today, no excuse not to respond!!
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