Yes - I saw one here who helps with police cases
Posted By: ER MT on 2007-06-14
In Reply to: Has anyone ever talked with a psychic? sm - luvmyboys
and she was very accurate. I do believe some people have this gift. If you think about it, shows like Medium and Heroes are becoming more and more popular and I think people are opening up to the fact that this is real. I love John Edward too but he's booked for the next trillion years!
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Report him to the police, let the police...
help you solve the problem.
It is obvious that you and your mom alone cannot do it on your own.
You are much too lenient, if you let it go on, it will not end well.
In too many cases, that would just perpetuate
My father felt that way about Jews. Thank goodness they taught us about the Holocaust in school, so I grew up knowing better than he did.
Wow. I hate to tell you this but I know of 2 specific cases sm
just like yours where the girls ended up dead. Not enough love in the world could have saved them. Yes, their moms are devastated. It is a tragic, tragic thing. Here's what you need to know. Once you've done all that you could possibly do for this young woman, you need to take a step back and let the "eaglet fall out of its nest." She's homeless? Oh well - she can get a job. She totatled her car (which, by the way, is the way one of the girls died I told you about - was on meth and then crashed). You can't get her another weapon (in this case, another car).
These are just some of the things you can't do for her. What you can do for her is to pray, to get others to pray, to show her unconditional love but that unconditional love is not getting, buying, being manipulated. Do not, let me say this again, do not blame yourself for her mistakes. There are many, many responsible 19 year olds who didn't even have parents growing up. You can survive this. Do you attend a good, spirit-filled church? If not, you need one. You need to focus on something bigger than youself (God). You need to find a passion and a purpose for your life, both of which comes from a relationship with God.
In my own life I've suffered the loss of a son, a marriage, deaths of family members, betrayal of the worst kind, financial distaster, hatred, you name it, I've been through it. For most of this I didn't know God. Then later in life I found God. Thankfully. He's given me a peace in my situation about certain family members that can only come from Him. When I surround myself with other living Christians I find there is a reason to live - not to mention my other 2 kids and new husband.
You absolutely cannot live your life worried, stressed, blaming yourself for her problems. You just can't. Because if you do then that's 2 people suffering. Be strong. Walk away. Just walk away. One step at a time. Walk away.
We have 6 'confirmed' cases, hundreds of
'unconfirmed' awaiting the actual CDC results apparently, in our small town and town next to us. VERY SCARY. Even if it's not as deadly as they thought, it's still a bad one & we don't want it! Awful...
Rare cases - pregnancy attached to outside
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There is free legal assistance for cases like this (sm)
Look up Legal Aid for your area - if I find a link I will post it for you. I think you need to report what your son has told you to someone!!! Who ordered the visitation? Get in touch with that office and start from there finding out who to report it to.
2 kids, 2 shots, 2 cases of mild chickenpox
It certainly didn't prevent it for my kids, but they both had very mild cases. My poor daughter had it on Christmas and had to spend the entire with her mom because she was contagious.
In most cases it's ruder to expose people to a squalling infant.
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See if this helps. sm
http://www.replacements.com/webquote/TAUWIC.htm
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It all helps!
You know I started using GoodSearch for the group I was interested in and then ended up volunteering. I would not have thought I coulde have such a good time working for free, LOL!
See if this helps.....
I have had a heel spur, on the right that I use for my foot pedal, ouch! Bottom line, it eventually just went away and I was told this is the case sometime. If you are having some kind of foot pain (I was having electrical like currents when I walked on my left foot, no other time) and 1 lady here on MTstars suggested wearing arch supports. I had spent years trying to get some assistance and that finally was my answer. I could hug her neck!! I would definitely try the arch supports, inexpensive and might be the answer.
Thank you so much! It really, really helps to know someone gets it (sm)
I don't know that I am handling it so well. I am scared to death but I am trying to just keep moving forward anyway. I know it is time. I know I can't fix it.
I don't know if it helps to know
you're not the only one in this situation. I don't have any financial magic wands lying around unfortunately. What I've been doing for medical care, since I'm also uninsured, is seeing a nurse practitioner at a school-based clinic in my community that operates on a sliding scale, so I only have to pay $20. per visit. The NP does my Pap smears and lab work, writes my scrips, and refers me for other diagnostics like yearly mammos. She put me on LexaPro for depression about 2 years ago, which probably saved my sanity and my life.
Are there community-based clinics where you live? You probably need an antidepressant, at least for the short term. It will enable you to make constructive decisions and see that the future is not the bleak dead end it appears to be right now.
Take care of yourself.
if this helps
Credit Unions are less slimy than banks, or you could just skip it altogether and take your money out every time you get paid.
My church collects birthday party decorations, plates, etc. I would go you the church nearest you and ask for some help with the birthday parties.
And what would the police have done? I'm sure the police sm
have a lot of things going on they have to attend to, like traffic accidents, etc. What could the police have done in this situation? Make the lady take the dog to the vet? Take the dog themself? I don't know of any policeman who would have been able to do anything except maybe give the dog's owners a ticket for allowing loose dogs to lie in the street. Yes, it's a sad situation. But it was not the driver's dog. I don't think she had any obligation whatsoever to this dog or its owners. Dogs do not belong in the street!
I'd still try the police
Chances are good the little varmint is on their radar for something else. If they do come out, and if they manage to come out often enough, maybe Mom will get po'd enough to do something about it. Or maybe he'll do something stupid enough with the cops there that they take further action.
I take a 20 minute nap and that helps when I get like this.
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I think it helps to plan.
Even if that would be for 7 days. I like to somewhat plan, and then deviate when needed. Staples are pretty much always on hand. For something different, I'll look at cookbooks and write down the ingredients adding them to my shopping list. I think having a list and pretty much knowing what you want to cook each day is a good way to save money and curb overspending on none-such items. I am battling with getting my kids to eat more fruits and veggies, so I am having that struggle (should be eating more rice and not so many potatoes). Good luck.... 
Hope this helps :)
I have a teenage daughter; we live in the Midwest, just outside the Twin Cities. Being fashionable can be so hard, especially on a budget. So I hope this will help... :)
As far as hair, definitely a little longer hairstyle, but not too long... yes, shaggy is in, but it has to be a groomed shaggy.
For clothing, the boys in this area in that age group are wearing anything from casual preppy with brands like Abercrombie, Hollister, and American Eagle, to skateboard punk, with brands like Volcom, etc. Also, "rock" T-shirts are in.
I support my children off my income as a QA person, so it can be hard to get those pricier brand name items. Target has a lot of nice things that are very fashionable and look like the higher end brands without the cost. Also, we have a store called Plato's Closet nearby. It is like a consignment shop, but they purchase the used clothes directly from people instead of on a pay you if it sells basis, and they are SUPER picky... they only pick the best items in great condition that are CURRENT and TRENDY. If you have something like that in your area, it is a GREAT resource... Also, TJ Maxx carries designer items at lower prices, usually they are overstocks. I buy for my daughters this way, and they get tons of compliments on their wardrobes... no one would ever know that I spent probably LESS than I would have if I bought their clothes from Walmart.
Good luck!!! Have fun with the makeover! :)
time is what helps
The first year is the hardest. You have to go through the first xmas, the first birthday, etc. It slowly gets a little easier. My dad died 11 years ago and I still miss him. Sometimes the littlest thing will remind me of him and I just will start crying. I found reading books on the stages of grief helped. Take care.
Yep...taking something for that which helps a lot though (sm)
Trouble sleeping, etc. Mostly get a restless feeling during the day...bored, want to do something different, need to think about multiple things at once. Want to hear the TV and work and still daydreaming about other things at the same time!
I know a lot about this - hope this helps
The first question I need to ask you is if DCFS will be keeping the case open on the 16 MO since they stepped in and the g'ma agreed to take the 3 children. This is important because if there is an open case, you will need to go through them to get legal custody (you shouldn't have a problem since the g'ma asked for your help). If you get the 16 mo, since you are within 5 generations related to the child, you would be considered kinship care, not foster care. You could then apply for TANF (Temporary Aid for Needy Families) which would give you a small stipend per month (how much depends on the state where you live). The child would be considered a household of 1 and have no income, thus qualifying for this benefit. In addition, the child would get Medicaid and WIC benefit. WIC would drop when the child starts school and then would receive free meals at school. Since you know the child has some issues, Medicaid will pay for services, including any counseling for the child and for you. You would have to cooperate with the state in getting a child support order to help pay the state back for these services.
There is a federal law that requires the state to place the kids with relatives first and special attention given to a sibling situation, trying to keep all the kids together when possible. The law also requires that the state (if a case is open) to help the parents reunite by providing drug rehab, parenting classes, regular visitations, etc. BUT, if the child(ren) are kept in the system for 15 out of 24 months and the parents are not reunified by this time, the state is to find adoptive families. They consider relatives adopting first, but if relatives won't/can't adopt (you would lose all the state benefits), they try to place with non-relative adoptions, again trying to keep all the siblings together.
You would not be considered foster care unless you went through the FC system and the classes and became certified. States give more help and money to FC parents, but you also have no guarantees that once the child becomes attached to you (and you to the child), that you would get to adopt the child after the 15/24 rule...so you risk losing the child being a FC parent.
I am in the process of adopting my granddaughter. Drugs didn't come into play until she was over 2 years old, but she remembers that her mom dumped her on me and we just finished 10 months of counseling to deal with those issues (she is 4 now).
If you want to write me privately, I'd be glad to help. It really is a challenge.
There is a website for people in this situation and I have gotten tremendous support from the people there. Go to www.grandsplace.org and read some of the resources there.
Best of luck to you. Over 5 million kids are in kinship care now...a very sad statistic.
Thank you -- it helps just knowing
I'm not the only one with a child like this. What I did learn from the child psychologist is that I have 2 other children who react normally to discontentment. Yes, they get angry and occasionally fight, but not to the extent that this one does.
I have threatened to call the police but never have. Maybe 1 of these times I will. I sympathize with you in your plight. I hope things continue to go well for you and your son. Thank you.
Hope this helps. sm
http://www.myhomeremedies.com/static/fleas-and-ticks.html
The police have enough to take care of besides
a person calling them if they got a card from an unknown person?? That is not what the police are for, them out investigating a birthday card and someone else is being robbed, assulted or whatever.. My goodness, think about your answer before you do post. The person on the post seems to be a caring person. If you have emergency, then the police should be called!!
Have you tried calling the police?
I live in a quiet suburb of a larger city and the police are very strict about keeping the peace and keeping out the riff-raff. I've been here about 16 months and I've called the police about 8 times. Other neighbors also call. Nothing much gets done because the hoodlumbs are too smart to be caught red-handed. But there's a long list at the police station of how many times the cops have been called to that address.
The police should be told about this, & maybe someone in the
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You can get a police escort to go with you (sm)
If you have somewhere else you can go, you can get the police to escort you to get your things.
I would call the police for sure and
state to them you feel there is abuse going on. You can remain anonymous. I once went to look at a puppy for sale and the breeder brought him out into the living room. The puppy wouldn't even come out from under the table. It was so scared. I left there thinking I'd never seen a puppy act that way and it weighed on my mind. A few days later I read in the paper this man had been arrested for cruelty to animals. Trust your instinct and report this.
definitely would call police
and file a report. Then i would inform hospital that if the ring is returned within 24 hours, no charges will be filed, no questions. Otherwise it will be vigorously pursued.
And others can't help being the niceness police.
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Keep calling the police and s/m
You can get restraining orders for longer than 10 days. The initial one is always temporary. She needs to see an attorney on top of the cops. It sounds like the cops are sympathizing with him and not doing their jobs properly. The cops can verify how many times they have been called and have come out. This is what the judge needs to issue the restraining order. I would keep calling the cops and documenting EVERYTHING. This is about the only way to get him to stop. You need to do the same. It sounds like your dad has either a serious mental problem or is just a kid that never grew up and needs to get over himself. An attorney can get you more information on the restraining order, but the first time he violates it, you need to call the cops. Who cares if he takes off? The cops have an OBLIGATION to go and check it out. If he is a habitual offender of violating it, they can make him wear an ankle bracelet to track him. There are things that can be done, but only you and your mother can make it happen. You can't just sit back and take no for an answer. Be strong, otherwise you'll be dealing with this the rest of your life.
And if the police and school do not take it seriously s/m
as some small towns do, I would also call the local newspaper, television station, etc until you get the results that you want. Zero tolerance is zero tolerance no matter who it is.
Please report this to the police (sm)
This is threatening and dangerous behavior. he is not afraid to knock on your door or to leave a note. Please call the police and report this immediately.
Thought Police
Oh, heck. So she has the hots for a boy-toy. Big deal! Who cares!? She already said she's not going to do anything about it.
We all have thoughts, fantasies. I'm assuming you're human & have them too. I know I have. I just figure it's some primal response to height or face shape or jaw prominence or something else that the godhead specifically engineered in order to ensure survival of the fittest, & I just laugh & forget about it because regardless of biology, the social situation won't accommodate it. As it sounds like OP has done.
Relax, for heaven's sake. Thoughts do not abuse make.
I would probably talk to the police...sm
Maybe they could go pay him and his parents a visit.
There is no telling what my husband would do. I don't want to think about it. He would probably go to jail for beating the kid. LOL
The police can watch your car --sm
while you testify. This is not their first rodeo ride either, and probably get this all the time. Let his friends try it and get caught. Then you can testify against them too. ha ha. Glad to hear you are going!! thumbs up!
you're welcome. hope it helps. nm
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exercise helps tremendously
even bike riding on crisp days is a sure way to feel alive again. On cloudy days it brightens my day. I hope you find your outlet :)
Cortisone helps many but didn't help me (sm)
I had plantar fasciitis with spurs for 2 years! I walked funny on my foot for so long that I caused a stress fracture of my fifth metatarsal! At that point I had a cast on my foot for 4 weeks, with no weightbearing for three weeks! It was hard to do! Then I had a velcro cast for 4 more weeks. After that my foot finally was well!! It took a few months to get totally back to normal but for 2 years now have been able to wear any shoes I want. I highly recommend trying nonweightbearing for a little while, and get a velcro cast if you can. When I say nonweigtbearing I mean none - you have to give the inflamed area a chance to heal without it being aggravated. Now every day before I get out of bed I do "crunches" with my feet - scrunching them up, which seems to help prevent recurrence. Good luck to you! This ailment can make you feel way older than you are because you can't do what you want to do!!
I also know of one religion that helps out community
they actually pay back some in taxes to communities where there is a volunteer fire department, etc., precisely because they benefit from such services.
Yes, it helps a lot....I can even skip a day occasionally....lol nm
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Yeah they say nuetering helps...sm
Mine is so sweet I haven't even nuetered him. But there have been some offers to breed him to females and because he is such a wonderful dog I would like to keep his bloodline going with other family pets who are inside family dogs.
Now I can tell you if the dogs were bullying my child such as the ones in San Francisco they would no longer be inside and would probably be kept in some kind of kennel. I would not even trust them to stay in the yard. They would have been under lock and key. I know personally that you can't keep a pit bull locked in a room and expect that he won't get out. I tried that when I left my house because I didn't want him to be free roaming around the house because he is nosy and may get into something or chew something. Well he tore the door down and got out. I was so mad. But I learned that you can't keep them in a room and believe they can't get out. He was about a little less than a year then but now he is so good and don't get into things when I leave him. I guess the puppy in him made him do it. But I cannot express enough that mother should have never kept those pits in the house if there was the slightest problem with her son. Those must have been some mean pits. This irresponsible breeding makes me so mad. I don't want my dog to be some mean killing machine. I want a sweet baby. That is why I thought I would never own a pit but he was such a sweetheart as a pup. He was and still is real laid back.
Sometimes, though, it helps the person dying to know sm
you have accepted it and they can go on. My dad held on until my mom said I'll be okay without you, I know you cannot go on any longer. He died within the next few hours of my mom saying that to him. We, too were in denial, and I believe that is why he hung on so long. Tell her what an impact she had on your life and how much she has meant to you and you will love her forever. Is she right with Christ? Does she believe she is going to heaven? In my grief class after my dad died, sometimes you don't have to say anything, just a "meeting of the hearts." Just go over there and see her and let whatever happens happens. Let your heart lead you.
Exercise really helps. At least an hour a day. Gets those
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I would call the police now - he was scouting to see if you were alone and if there were any men
About 5 years ago an MT was murdered in Knoxville by someone selling magazines. She worked for a national and was alone, but in a nice neighborhood, upstairs working in a townhouse. That guy may seem weak enough but he may have partners. Didn't mean to scare you, but it really made me get cold chills.
I can't believe all of you are upset about the police comment...
but not that she will be sent to a "meaner mom and dad". lol Priceless and typical.
To me, no biggie. Plus I don't particularly like cops ;)
Poster was having a moment. There is far worse people say and do to kids. And that can be turned around, easily. Geez.
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Spelling police? Pleeeeeze no...
Unless you NEVER make mental errors (its versus it's, your versus you're), please don't correct our mistakes. Rest assured, I always kick myself when I see a typo or grammatical error that I've made without anyone having to point it out. However, this board being named 'gab' implies a casual come-as-you are atmosphere...i.e. no spelling police. We will return the favor. Thanks!!! 
It is better to call the police or the ambulance
if he is in such a miserable condition. Sleeping his stupor off in his truck.
He might die due to alcohol poisoning.
Do something, have him institutionalized and get rid of him. He is playing you! Don't let there be a next time, worse than this time.
yes, but I did apologize for being the spelling police.
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