Yes I am sad to say I share the same experiences.
Posted By: They said what on 2008-12-18
In Reply to: LOL! i know i'm getting older! sm - post tubal x6 years
I am also 37 and post tubal x6 years. I am in the perimenopause state already. I don't know what is worse...
Anyway, I had a scare like that about 4 months ago. I really hate that. I have a friend here in town who is in about the same boat, only she discovered that she really is pregnant and fortunately she will carry a normal pregnancy. She is NOT too happy about it though. I must say I can understand. Her kids, like mine, are all teenagers now and almost out of high school. Now she gets to start all over again.
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I'm sorry you had bad experiences
And I'm even sorrier that your children have not had fathers who are caring and active in their lives.
But, as I said in my previous post, I had observed the way my husband treated animals - very caring, lots of patience and tolerance. I think the way that people treat animals is a great indicator of what kind of person they really are.
You're right, children can put a great strain on a marriage, especially if there are already problems with the relationship. My husband and I separated when our son was about 16 months old, but we got back together a few months later - primarily for the sake of our son, but over the years we have worked out our marital problems as well.
Perhaps I painted too much of a rosy picture. But the fact is, my husband is a good father, and I have always loved that about him, even when he and I weren't getting along. And having a child has kept us together through some pretty rough times.
My experiences sm
1st time: 8 lbs 6 oz Labor was about 16 hours, had a shot of Stadol that wore off well before I delivered. Pushed for about 20-25 minutes, had the baby, had an episiotomy.
2nd time: 7 lbs (he was a month early) Got to the hospital in false labor, so the doctor broke my water and induced me, don't even ask! The nurse pushed my husband to sign for the epidural. Apparently my moaning, which was not loud, was too much for her to take. It didn't take properly. Pushed once, had the baby and tore.
3rd time: 9 lbs 6 oz. Labor was about 8 hours. No drugs, no cutting, no tearing, pushed once and had the whole baby. Walked out of the delivery room on my own two feet.
4th time: 8 lbs 4 oz. No drugs, but a long, tiring labor. Pushed once and had the baby. No stitches.
5th time: 8 lbs 15 oz. Had a nothing labor at first, but then went from 3 to 10 in about 20 minutes, deep pain. They put the epidural in at the start of that brief pain, but never ran it because I was 10 before they could give me even a test dose. All it did for me was give me a headache later on. Oh, only pushed once.
6th time: 8 lbs 12 ounces. No pain meds, but had to have a Pitocin induction. It was not worse than any of the others and I slept through most of it. Took probably 8 hours in total, only felt it for 3 hours. I pushed once, had the entire baby and walked out of the delivery room about 45 minutes later.
One thing I can tell you is that you are never prepared for the pain. One time you can do it with nothing and the next time you can't. It is up to you in the end. Epidurals DO inhibit the ability to push and that part usually takes longer...tearing up your tissues and making your organs fall more quickly.
I can tell you other things too. The kids who came without pain drugs were absolutely bloodless deliveries, but the first two where I did have drugs were bloody affairs and they were born covered in my blood. The first two I used Lamaze, but the others I went to Bradley natural childbirth and was very prepared for handling the pain without drugs and I did well. I felt better much more quickly with drug free deliveries and my energy seemed not to be so low after having a baby as with the first two.
You might look into watching "The Business of Being Born" a documentary by Ricki Lake. I know it is available on Netflix for streaming right now. Most of what she covered I knew from my research many, many years ago now (my kids are in their 20s now). I was informed then and it amazes me how the medical profession is still manipulating a normal process into a medical emergency, which it rarely is. My kids grew, but the medical profession has not, not in regards to childbirth.
Have any of you had these experiences around Christmas?
I'm not kidding as I tell you all about these happenings.
My husband's mother died Christmas Eve in 1980. 14 years ago we moved into our "new" house and the scent of patcholli permated the house for weeks (his mother's favorite scent). Four years ago, we were having a family shindig in our garage and talking about his mother when the lights went out. Nobody was near the light switch and when I went over, the switch was in the off position.
In 2000, my mother died (how I miss her), but in January. Anyway, all day, the bell she used to ring for me to come help her rang off and on for hours. I kept running out to the living room to see if it was on TV. It wasn't.
My plastic jug of Tide also fell off the shelf iin the laundry room about 2 hours after this. There was no one around but me when this happened and I was busy working. (My laundry room is right outside my computer room).
Tonight, my husband went to take his meds as we were sitting at the kitchen table after eating. His one medicine disappeared. We searched high and low for it around the table and where he keeps his meds to no avail. So I told him to take his other meds and sooner or later his Toprol would show up. If not, we would get another Rx tomorrow. Well, when he went to the sink for his water, there on the counter was his Toprol. I'm talking 15 feet away from the table we were sitting at. Neither of us got up from the table.
Do you think our mothers are back for Christmas again? I would love to have them around for Christmas. I'm not afraid if it is them, and I'm still not afraid if it is not them and I would love to acknowledge that I know it's them, but how would I do that? (Am I strange?).
I just had to share these strange events with everyone. Please don't flame me if you don't believe, but I do. Thank you for listening.
Abilify experiences sm
Need to lose some belly fat, can't exercise that much due to back pain. Anyone tried Abilify with good results? I know it's expensive but would be worth it, as it would probably take strain off my back, that's the main intent here.
Your experiences with simvastatin?
My doc wants me to take simvastatin for sligthtly high cholesterol. Sounded okay to me, til I went online and read lots of horror stories about it, up to and including the "statin shuffle" people describe. I DONT want to take something that is going to affect my neurological system adversely!
Do any of you take it? What are your experiences? Good or bad? What side-effects did it give you?
Oh yes. I'd be happy to tell you my experiences.
Do you have any specific questions or just want generalities?
I love mine; they're the best teeth I've ever had. The first quadrant I had done was lower left jaw. It was expensive, and a lengthy process. A staged procedure, with many months healing time between stages. I've had them for a long time 15 years or longer. Fortunately, the guy who pioneered the field has his office practically in my back yard, so I felt very fortunate in that regard. His waiting room always had people who had "flown in" for their appt's. Sheesh, I couldn't have afforded that. Neither could I on the MT wages of today. But in the 80s I was a tiny little MTSO and making enough for a few luxuries.
Good luck! I don't think you would regret the decision.
My dentist's name is Carl E. Misch (world famous), and the second set I had done by Dr. Stacey Vlachos, who was trained by and in partnership with Dr. Misch for many, many years. Dr. Misch is in Birmingham MI. Dr. Vlachos has since moved to Florida and is semi-retired.
Sorry if this sounds disjointed or is filled with typos. I'm tired now, and it's time to shut my baby blues.
Not everyone experiences problems with
menopause, perimenopause, etc. My mother and I never had hot flashes, never any medications for problems, stopped with the periods and that was that. Oh, my older aunt and another sister of hers never on anything for hormonal disturbances, anxiety, etc.
We had good experiences at Banfield. nm
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Here is an interesting web site of near death experiences- sm
near-death.com
That's so fascinating to me. I love reading about ND experiences.
nm
I've had bad experiences with them, but I disagree with the laws...
We used to have a rottie (died last year) and they have the same stigma attached to them. We were actually denied homeowners insurance with many different companies because we owned a rottie. The funny thing is, he was the biggest sweet dog you ever met, a giant teddy bear. Our chocolate lab was 100 times more likely to be aggressive/hurt someone, but of course they don't care about chocolate labs.
That said, I've only known a few pits and they were pretty mean, but I blame that on the owners in those cases because they pretty much wanted a mean, protective dog. Because of my experiencw ith my rottie though, I don't agree with laws or rules against certain breeds of dogs because I think they are BS. Dogs should be judged on an individual basis ONLY.
my so nice this morning aren't we. everyone is entitled to their own opinion and experiences. w
maybe she is more educated in her certain situation where her kids went. it doesn't mean every school out there is the same way. there are variety of schools just like there are humans. doesn't mean she can't "share" her experiences. i happen to know for a fact that all the pregnant and/or troubled teens go to the private school in my town, even juve kiddos. it is more about educating yourself and taking the time to look into the schools and what is there even if that means sitting in class all day to figure it out. i am sure some are great and some are horrible.
Would like to share
I'm a Christian... by Maya Angelou
When I say... I am a Christian, I'm not shouting, I'm clean livin'. I'm whispering, I was lost, Now I'm found and forgiven.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I don't speak of this with pride. I'm confessing that I stumble, and need Christ to be my guide.
When I say...I'm a Christian, I'm not trying to be strong. I'm professing that I'm weak, and need His strength to carry on.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I'm not bragging of success. I'm admitting I have failed, and need God to clean up my mess.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I'm not claiming to be perfect. My flaws are far too visible, but God believes I am worth it.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I still feel the sting of pain. I have my share of heartaches, so I call upon His name.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I'm not holier than thou. I'm just a simple sinner who recieved God's good grace somehow.
Had to share
Okay, actual statement made by my doc tonight. Sometimes, the funniest are the most simple:
The patient could hardly stand up after I got through doing a rectal exam. 
No wonder I love this job!!!!
We share the same b-day. :) NM
NM
Just have to share.
I bought a bottle of the electrolyte enhanced water yesterday. I cannot even tell you how much better I feel. I will buy a case tomorrow.
Want to share a pic.
My sister passed away in Nov. She loved the beach so we waited until this summer to spread her ashes there. My sister and I dug a heart in the sand and filled that empty void with her ashes and covered it with green colored popouri, her favorite color and put down candles and then the waves came up and washed the ashes back out to sea. In this picture, hope it shows, (if it does not someone tell me how to get it to show) my sister was taking picture and I leaned down to pick up a trash tie that had washed up there and the shadow looked like the hand was reaching out of the ashes to touch my hand. Freaked my little sister out. Was like a sign but it brought some humor to the situation.
You are right about some PAs so I have to share this with you
My brother used to be a PA and just graduated from medical school this past May. The biggest complaint he got from the higher up was that he spent too much time with the patients. He worked in the ER and was told to treat and street. LOL
can you share
the name with us? Thanks!
Please share!
I figured David was definitely going. Victor will make sure of that. I agree on Skye - he had too much to lose with her. I just wonder if he found out about the connection between Skye and Adam which would mean Adam will be in trouble too. I noticed yesterday it looks like Heather might be getting mixed up in this whole thing with Walter. She's too curious. I have missed a lot the past month or so though.
No, what is this about? Please share!
xx
would you share how you do it?
we have some butternut we grew this summer and decided just tonight we'd use some as a side dish for our big dinner...would appreciate any suggestions. Doesn't need to be fancy!
Well -- I'd probably share it
Man A must be pretty decent to have understood the importance of being to work on time, so I'd probably share it. Of course, if he looked like trailer trash who would only blow it on booze and cigs, I might reconsider that.
Had to share this pic
Now who says all pitbulls are vicious?. Some might be, but this one certainly isn't. This is a my male pitbull, CJ, whose heart is full of nothing but love.
No. I share this earth with you unfortunately..sm
reality is what we make it. This is NOT MY reality..only yours.
share this with your people
nm
Take your share of the equity and go (sm)
Not trying to be harsh here, but if you want to lose weight and become better organized, that's for YOU to decide. I have struggled with my weight always, now am the highest weight I ever have been. I am not an organized person, never have been, never will be. Luckily, DH doesn't seem to mind any of this. If I had to struggle constantly to try to be something I wasn't, I'd be a basket case. It's not worth the effort. You decide how to want to be, NOT him. Good luck.
Take your share and go?? - Why doesnt he take his
I feel if someone makes you feel appreciated and loved, then you should want to be your best for them. If you are doing you best, then he has the problem and needs to lighten up or get gone.
If you really could try harder (being organized and being a healthy weight)and want to do that, then do it. (I am overweight, so this is not the advice of a person with a perfect body and I am also not organized!) You may be surprised how much better you feel about yourself and with all that new self-esteem, well just saying he better be on his toes and treat you good.
Just wanted to share...sm
I worked at a physical rehab center for 5 years. As another poster stated, the amount of improvement depends on a lot of things. However, I saw people leave or return for appts with no noticeable residual, others who still had deficits but were independent. Those who were permanently impaired learned to adapt. There are some really cool gadgets out there! One thing I learned from working at the rehab center was determination really *can* pay off. It was inspiring working there.
IF your dad needs extensive therapy, the hardest part for YOU may be keeping him motivated. So, best of luck to your dad, you and the family. Let us know how things are going.
Wanted to share
My friend who is the companion to Sophia who I pictured in lower thread just made this video, she is an amateur, it brought tears to my eyes. She rescued Sophia from the woods behind her apartment building. She and others just got through rescuing another backyard chow too, she will be beautiful one day like Sophia too. Enjoy!
I think he more than got his share of the money
How many grandchildren (other than the Hiltons maybe) get such a big amount from their gparents? I asked for a bowl and a crystal doorknob that belonged to my grandmother after her death, no money from any of my gparents. I was glad when they were given the money they got, did not work the other way around. As far as doing wrong by them, I think I had to work too much when they were growing up. I had a choice, working or being on the streets and I guess that was wrong but I always wanted more than to just be on welfare so I worked and worked a lot to see they had a home and not starve, guess I was wrong in working so much.
Yes, I will gladly pay my share of
taxes (as always) if you will quit throwing money down the toilet for your increased healthcare costs. You aren't doing us any favors. Quit lying to yourself - you lose even more than we do since you are throwing away your health for short-term comfort. Selfish, selfish, selfish.
My best way to save -- my mom and I share
the "club card" for our local grocery store (we only have 1 in our little town). We accumulate the points together and usually qualify for the higher percentage off when it's time to cash in (20% off 1 bill rather than 5%). Then we pick a day we can go together and ring our order up together. Of course we use our coupons, too. We just went 2 weeks ago and qualified for 15% off our total bill. Before coupons/discounts, our total grocery bill was $550 but after our discounts, it was only $283. We saved almost $200 ---- unbelievable but true.
Before dining out, I check the website of the restaurant we're going to for coupons. They usually offer a free appetizer and that helps to fill us up so we can order smaller meals. We have 3 kids and my 2 younger kids share a kids' meal since they can never eat a whole one themselves. I also like to order water -- that always cuts about $5 off the bill.
Remember -- if you donate clothes to Good Will/Salvation Army, it's a deductible dontation, so keep track.
Share a meal when you’re out to eat
Have you seen the portions that chain restaurants are serving up lately? There’s no secret why our society is so overweight. You’ll save your heart and your wallet by sharing a meal with your significant other. If you’re one of those people that feels bad doing it, make yourself feel better by tipping 25% to the server.
Share your recipe??
Funny - I've just recently gotten back into salsa (bad single days experience involving too much drinking and that was over 14 years ago!) Anyways, hubby loves salsa also and I would love to surprise him and make some homemade! TIA
Please share your proof
of life after death with us. I am very interested and quite sure everyone else will be also.
I did own a time share but
mine was bought down in Mexico. At the time I was told "nothing else owed on it" period end of sentence. Well, my debit card started getting debited X amount of dollars so often. I paid that off, closed out that card, opened up a new card and no more problems there. But, my aunt was getting calls from a collection agency because her last name matched up same name (not the first name, mind you) and trying to get her to pay a cell phone bill - my aunt in her 80s never had a cell phone- but they were endless in trying to collect someone else's debt- as long as they can get someone to pay, they don’t care. I agree with the above about challenging to prove you owe it. Also, if I am correct a place cannot call you at your business- you work from home- your business right?
Why do you feel the need to share this?
We all have our pasts as teenagers, but it is not our responsibility to tell our kids all about it. If you have good experiences not involving alcohol/drugs, then talk to them about that. I smoked as a teen and my kids would fall out if they knew that, but they are grown and I see absolutely no reason to share that with them. What I have always told them is don't take up smoking..... they have seen enough lives lost from lung cancer.
Just because you did things you would now do differently doesn't mean they need to know it but it also does not mean you still don't have the responsibility to always encourage them not to have sex before marriage and not to do drugs/alcohol/cigarettes. I've seen too many parents say they did those things so what business do they have telling their kids not to. They have EVERY responsibility to say not to.....that is their job as a parent; parents who use their past as an excuse not to properly parent are just looking for excuses anyway.
If you think you should have made better decisions, then maybe share just that remark with them but you don't have to get into details.
I did tell my kids I tried one of my grandfather's very strong brand cigarettes one day (which I did) and I got so sick I must have turned green (which I did), but I didn't bother to also tell them later on I smoked as a teen.
Your only responsibility to them is to encourage them to NOT make bad decisions and to keep their noses clean so to speak, not share your negative experiences with them where sex/alcohol/drugs are involved.
I believe she meant we could all share SM
our personal experiences or random thoughts.
I agree with comment about Angelina Jolie.
Some of us may not remember our "first time" or perhaps even care too. >)
I just had to share -- too cute!
Will let other share the present president...
…Now he is 1 that I will change the channels on, always something better to watch such as the cooking shows, animal shows. I knew the election outcome but after that and the flubbs, such as his war and Katrina, other folks can have him as their own. Being as I have never watched the "soaps" don’t have a clue as to what is preemptied there but I have choices here at home and I simply watch what I want to.
Yoohoo? MT who had date with doc? Pls. share! NM
Yes and we share the home office
So he got to pick the scents at the candle store. He likes the pine, lilac, some "ocean scent" that smells nothing like the ocean, and some cinnamon holiday-type scent. They're all cool with me and I keep one burning every night because it's just nice and I like the glow. (I'm a night worker.)
That's great! Can you share any more info on that? Thx.
Thanks.
a little story to share - a lady I know here
She went out on one date with him - went back to his place where he got nasty, grabbed her arm and threw her across a room and she ended up with a fractured wrist.
My experience with online dating is it doesn't work 95% of the time - a bunch of men online who seemingly cannot *cut the mustard* in real time are not going to change just because they are online.
Yes, I have seen folks meet up online and marry and I have seen twice as many marriages/relationships break up because of people meeting others online.
BE_VERY_CAREFUL_PLEASE!!
would you be so kind as to share that website
time share tour (m)
I received a post card in the mail for a free cruise. I had just been on a cruise and thought it was something from the cruiseline. When I called, it is a promotion for a new resort (timeshare). If you go on a 60-90 minute tour, you get the cruise and some other gifts. Have any of you done any of these promo tours and what should I expect? I have heard they are quite a hard sell. Not sure if I should cancel. I'd appreciate any advice. Thanks.
i like romaine. i share it with our guinea pig...lol
Just wanted to share some Halloweed fun....sm
It has become a tradition in our neighborhood to "spook" our neighbors. Here is how it works.
First the poem
Good Evening My Friends!
The Gretting of the Ghosts are haunting your way
A cursewill be left if you fail to obey!
To ward off the curse of the dreaded Phanton Wart
You have just ONE day till you must start.
Take treats to two houses in your neighborhood.
Be sure they are tasty! Be sure they are good!
Copy a letter and a phantom for each.
Help the "spirit" spread to those you can reach.
Post the ghost of the phanton on your front door.
So others can see he has been there before.
Join the fun of the season
Keep him right in sight
Share the "spirit" of giving
Till Halloween Night!
Sincerely,
The Halloween Phantom.
Here is the rest....My dauther downloaded a picture of a ghost and printed it on an 8x10 piece of paper so we could go ahead and get started without having to make copies.
Then go to the dollar store and first get a big plastic candy bowl. In our bowl we received last night there was candy....always candy, a halloween candle, a cermic figurine of a bear dressed like a ghost, halloween clings for windows, halloween potholders, and our fav. Peeps ghosts, all which I am sure came from the dollar store. My son came home and found the bowl on front porch.
Here are some other things we have recieved in the past....candy....always candy, halloween dishtowels, stickers, bubbles, and gel pens when the kids were younger, a plant in a halloween container, chip clips, magnetic grocery lists, brownine mixes, even a halloween throw rug for the front door.
We once spooked a couple that did not have kids so we gave them some goodies as well as dog treats.
We also once spooked a family with a daughter the same age as mine so we thought we could get some really cute things. They were Jehovah's witnesses. Needless to say they did not put the pic. of the ghost on the front door.
This has been going on in this growing neighborhood for the past 5 years and everyone really seems to enjoy it.
This is also a geat idea for school teachers, dorm rooms, etc. Hope this inspires some.
just wondering if you could share where you are located...
I know a pain clinic here in my town where the doc routinely treats fibromyalgia and goes to great lengths to find solutions for her patients. If you aren't too far away, you could drive here. E-mail me if you like. Keep your chin up!
That's weird that he didn't want to share.
It's not like he can play either 24/7, right?
What did you end up getting him? To encourage sharing I would have gotten the Guitar Hero III and another guitar. It's SO much fun playing with 2 guitars.
GH is a blast. My son (26) played it at a friend's house and immediately bought one off Ebay, and I got hooked. Had to stop cold turkey, or else LOL. Then his dad -- my ex -- (55) came to visit, got hooked, bought one when he got home. When he comes up, he brings his guitar and they complete/play together. My daughter's friend came up to visit, got hooked, went home and bought one.
Yeah, for the next occasion, buy another guitar :-)
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