Yep. Normal. Just take a deep breath and
Posted By: stop 'em from killing each other! on 2007-06-25
In Reply to: Normal or not? Son saying he hates h is sister (sm) - Just Mom
They'll probably make peace in a few short years (when you're old and grey-headed and senile, lol)!
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First, take a deep breath - sm
Yes, the school should have called you, but they did not and you cannot control the actions of others, just your own. You also cannot control whether the other mom calls you to apologize. Should she have? Sure, but again, what you do is NOT necessarily what someone else would do. Set a good example for your son and let him see this for what it is - a small incident in the big scheme of things. He will likely not even remember this in a few months unless you harp on it endlessly. I would definitely let the school know about my displeasure at the events of today, but after that just let it go. These things happen. You cannot protect your son from life. 
Take a deep, deep breath...sm
and slowly exhale. Phoooooooo. Feel a little better? You may have been venting, but you still kept your sense of humor. I do sympathize, though. My brother did not think he needed pain meds after his vision-correction surgery. I kept telling him the anesthetic would wear off. I picked up his meds without him knowing. He was so grateful later that night. Chalk one up for little sis. BTW, I hope your hubby gets better soon.
Are you ready to be brave? Take a deep breath...
Then do it and close your eyes real tight and be glad the minute you have done it (calling to have him picked up for psych eval) Then once you have him out of the house you can keep him out with a court order. Your life will improve. Are you Ready???? Be BRAVE! I was!!!
yo trose? What is *normal*? Normal means
*normal*? that only means one has a preconceived idea of what sanity is....
which I don't - so I have no answer......*lol*
what's *normal*?? Normal only means one has a
Thank you for the breath of fresh air
and the very nice comment to both of us. We really have hurt no one and have found someone who mutually shares the love of animals, as I am sure so many of you do. I spoke just last week to a lovely MT who has a little Pekinese named Sophie. We had a great conversation about that. With an elderly very ill parent this board has given me something to focus on and relieve some fear and tension. Thanks again. You comments are truly appreciated.
me too! breath of fresh air.
except for maybe the typo-gestapo. but even that has faded.
BREATH OF FRESH AIR
I think MTStars is Breath of Fresh Air after change in administration. This thread is staying on board is proof of it. MTStars was personal forum rather public board beofre.
I was sick of HER, deleting every other thread and banning those who expressed their opinions that wasn't acceptable for her.
I get it but you are wasting your breath on them...
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Oh yes, so nice this morning to breath
in that crisp cool air. Glad that awful HUMIDITY is gone, and hopefully won't be back until next year. I enjoy this time of year too. Have to get my McIntosh apple candles a burning. Getting ready to decorate my front porch for the fall this weekend with mums. What part of the Northeast are you from? NJ here.
Talk about having the breath knocked out of you,
to have your child tell you something like this is devistating. I never let her sleep around, tried talking, telling her about things going on with a disease you could not get rid of. A parent can only do so much. I had started typing on this disease before it had a name, before anyone knew what was going on- early 80s and the reports were horrible, bleeding from every orifice, Kaposis, the Pneumocystis carinii pneumonia, everything and then your child tells you that? Almost more than a parent can hear. That was in 1992. She has since married and so far, so good, thrived but the least little anything sends me more into a tizzy than it does her because like I said, I used to type 1 after another report day after day. She is in her 30s now and I try not to hover but she is still my daughter. When first diagnosed I could not even talk about it without crying. Bought loads of sweeets and fattened her up as well as myself - heard about failure to thrive and not really thinking, that was what I was doing. I tried talking, I really tried- I do not blame myself nor do I have guilt feelings because I could not have talked more.
Mine's 43...don't hold your breath ;-) nm
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Well, dont hold your breath.
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Have hope, just dont hold your breath while you
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Any side effects? Odors? Bad breath? Diarrhea? etc. nm
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I asked a very simple gift for Mother's Day, should have saved my breath
I was going to visit my aunt out of town this weekend and my daughter wanted to go with me. The only thing I asked for Mother's Day was that my daughter behave (she is in her 30s understand) but what I meant was getting along, if I should say anything she might not like to smile and say yes. I just wanted a little peace and quiet but I wasted my breath. She said she felt like she always had to walk on eggshells around me. I told her she does not know me at all, never has and I don’t think she cares about me at all. I have been asked loads of time if she is an only child. She is not but that should tell you what others think, just a me type person. I paid for everything, the gas, the motel, the food, everything and thought I could ask for something that she would not have to spend money on. I am thinking seriously about throwing in the towel on her, just giving up. I am too old to fool with her me type stuff any longer, I really have been thinking about doing just that. A simple request, not 1 that I could not pull off if my mother had asked me to do. The last thing before we got home, I wanted to stop at 1 of my favorite pizza places, get a pizza, we could have called before getting home, could have been ready (left out earlier coming home) and she just wanted to grab something quick, so we got a hamburger. I really do not like her and I am sad because I would like to. It has been impossible for me to really love her like I should.
Oh no, now I am in deep......
Hubs out of town, returning tonight. I told him I had bought something really good for him today, some succupnongs and got me some home-grown tomatoes. Well I never thought he would do that but then said how he loves those kind of tomatoes, how many did I get? I lied, yes I did, if I have to eat them all tonight before he gets here. OMG I probably have a good dozen left but I don’t want to share....I did buy him those others, why are men never satisfied?? I am so full right now I do not think I can eat those other 12 just yet.
I know deep down in my heart that this is wha I WANT to do. But, I'm not sure sm
how difficult it would be to get back into MTing/QAing after a year or so. It took me a long time to get the job I have now (QAing/MTing).
Thanks for your input! Will keep everyone posted. I hate doing QA right now and typing!......ha
Do you need DEEP POCKETS to buy them?
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Deep down inside what we all really want is to be.........
Cherished
I have never seen Deep Throat but know I don't want
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Still waters run deep and (sm)
Anyone who thinks introverts or shy people are slow or retarded is just ignorant. I'm sorry, but racism is ignorant and judging people without knowing one thing about them is ignorant. This person is double-ignorant.
Can't give you advice, but my son is a lot like your husband. He is incredibly intelligent and the wheels are always turning, he just doesn't spew out every little thing that comes into his head. He listens. He learns.
All I can say to you is thank whomever you supreme being is that you have the pleasure of this darling man in your life. I'm not sure even if you tried to explain his nature that she'd understand. Not to mention she knows everything.
Deep south - only hog I know is as in
pigs.
Deep Freeze !!!
Holy icicles batman ! It is -8 here in New England !
How about where you live?
Deep Purple Dress
Bridesmaid dresses in a deep purple. Not sure if I should go for metallics- gold or silver or stick with black? The wedding is in the afternoon in church and a reception at a golf course. What do you think?
12 inches is not deep pocket--sm
12 inches is barely even standard these days. Mine is 21 inches deep. I need 22 inch deep sheets to at least stay on. You shop around and see where you can find that size for under 200 dollars. If you do, let me know!
Recommendations for deep friers sm
Need some recommendations for a good quality deep fryer. My third one just bit the dust. Have used Rival and Presto in the past both only lasting 1 year or less. I don't deep fry a lot but get a hankering every now and then for chicken. None of the fryers I have bought in the past last more than a year, they quit right in the middle of frying. I sent one back to Rival, it had died 28 days after I bought it. They sent me another and it died 1 year later. On the hunt again for another and don't care the cheapies anymore. Give me your recommendations. 
Deep south, Virginia, nah I never
thought of that as the deep south. We think of it as the northern most of southern states.
I really can't imagine how deep this sorrow must be. (sm)
I've only lost pets, and it rips my heart out to lose one of those special ones. The loss of a child would be absolutely unbearable. Time can only round off the edges of the pain a little, but never take it away. Not until you see him again in heaven. At least we have that hope.
True, but I doubt Britney is that deep! - nm
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I was in a wedding with deep blue dresses.
We had the shoes dyed to match the dress from David's Bridal. They have a big selection of styles to pick from and then you dye them, relatively cheap too.
If not, then I would go with silver, just something simple though. JMO, but I don't think black would look great.
Deep dish; Romance or comedy? nm
Same problem for me. Deep pockets - Wal-Mart and Target have them.
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People are more polite in the deep south. There is a sense of decorum.
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I say silver. Will they be playing music by Deep Purple at the wedding? lol
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I am in a biracial marriage, not thick skinned, live in the deep south, have
a mixed daughter who is 32 years old and she told me going to school she had the best of both worlds. Live in a very nice mixed neighborhood, just don’t know where this person lives who has to be thick skinned. Has never happened to me.
Think what you need are called deep pocket sheets. Try Linens n Things, Bed and Bath, JCP. nm
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Gotta put deep wire fencing around next years' crop, underground,
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maybe it's normal and I'm the odd one?
DS#1, age 17, likes a girl who is a junior, so she's probably 16 or 17. I'll call her J. DS has sort of liked her for a while, but she had a boyfriend. That boyfriend dumped her recently because he wanted to date someone else.
J was distraught over it for a couple of weeks and ended up going out with DS so now they're a "couple" and DS is very happy.
She's a bright girl, attractive, on the honor roll, very active in sports, tutors kids in the evening, is in the high school band, etc.
Anyway, J told my son that she needs to have a guy in her life and doesn't really feel complete without one.
Isn't it odd to feel that way, especially at that young of an age? Or maybe it's normal and I'm the odd one?
no it is not normal but is
very sad that she would think that. he needs to watch out or he will be paying child support the rest of his life!
Normal???
Definitely Normal
This is definitely normal behavior. I have a 13 year old and when she saw the Backstreet Boys back when she was older, she had a similar reaction. I remember feeling the same when I saw my "idols" years ago.
This is normal!
I was this way when I started too. I had my first period in December, just after my 12th birthday, and didn't have another one until March. Very common during the first year. And yes, her physical activity can be part of the reason...often athletes and the like have irregular menses.
TO: What is...normal
What is your problem? This woman is scared for her life and the lives of her children and you have the unmitigated gall to try to insinuate that she be subservient to this walking horror she is married to and make nice with him? Apparently your nerve is overwhelmed by any common sense you may have been born with. I wonder if you would feel the same if it were your sister, aunt or god forbid - your mother..ignorant..
To me, this is a normal job. I am up at 4 a.m. and
start work, take a break about 7 to shower and at least put on my work out clothes, including bra, some make up, etc, then backto work. Nothing worse to me than working in jammies...can't take the ob seriously, JMHO. I also like to look presentable should anyone visit (live very rurally, so doesn't usually happen) and especially when DH comes home from work. Who wants to see a wife still in jammies looking a wreck?
No. It is not normal.
My husband is my high school sweetheart. We have been together since we were 16 (39 now) and married for 17 years. We have had some heated arguments but never once has he laid a hand on me nor would he. Never once has either of us called names or disrespected one another. It is just not acceptable to treat someone you love with any less respect than you expect for yourself. It sounds like you do love him but he violated your trust and security in him. If he hasn't been abusive since that one incident, you could consider marriage counseling to help work through trust and forgiveness. If he is emotionally abusive, then it could just be a matter of time before it gets physical again. Your safety is the most important thing. Good luck.
Yes, it's normal. You do need help from DH, mom, in-law. You SM
need time to yourself. Even an hour a day. Believe me, it isn't easy and you should not feel you are the only one who feels the way you do.
Books, commercials, et. al, show endless scenes of serene mothers and babies. Most times are NOT serene, but, trust me, they get better. The more sure of yourself you become, the better things get and the second child will be easier. Wait a minute, I didn't have a second child, but my only child did!
Yes, it's normal. You do need help from DH, mom, in-law. You SM
need time to yourself. Even an hour a day. Believe me, it isn't easy and you should not feel you are the only one who feels the way you do.
Books, commercials, et. al, show endless scenes of serene mothers and babies. Most times are NOT serene, but, trust me, they get better. The more sure of yourself you become, the better things get and the second child will be easier. Wait a minute, I didn't have a second child, but my only child did!
very normal
My hubby is an OB/GYN and that is very common. Just a much better view. Annoying and uncomfortable, yes, but just a better view.
Normal anxiety???
I have a lot going on in my life right now - mother-in-law diagnosed with advanced metastatic ovarian cancer a week and a half ago, requested husband and I go to a marriage counsellor (which I started even though I don't want to), and starting a new full-time job at a hospital (not at home) on Monday. I have not worked FT outside of my home since my children were born and am worried about having them in early and after care, holidays, etc.
Anyway, I have been waking up and night with my heart pounding, cannot get back to sleep for hours, and having a "panicky" feeling in my chest off and on throughout the day. I feel like crying. Do you think this is situational anxiety or do I need medication? I can't stand this feeling!! Thanks for any advice!
Very normal feelings.......sm
I went through the same feelings with both my children, my daughter being the oldest. She had to take a drivers course at our local high school during the summer, then she got her permit. She drove with that for a few months before getting her license. But that first time she went with a girlfriend just down the street to a local burger joint made me crazy. I knew she would go slow and be very cautious, but that feeilng was still there, bordering on panic. She's 23 now. My son came next....he had to take the same course. He's was a little more pushy about the license, but didn't make a big deal out of it. But, unfortunately, within the month after getting them his dad said he could go to his girlfriend's.. it was rainy and I was not happy. She lives on a dead end street which is good, cause a dog ran out in front of him, he dodged it, and ran over the neighbor's utility box and tore up their beautiful grass. He was scared to death. Well, that got fixed and I guarantee he went slower after that. He's 20 now and as I notice a lot of guys do, he drives faster than his sister, but not as fast as his girlfriend, thank goodness!! He drives her car cause he tells her she goes too fast, won't use blinkers, no signals, makes me nuts. But they are grown and made it through those early testing times, and so will yours. By the time my son got his license, my state had graduated license, so he could only drive between certain daytime hours, and not past 7 at night for a few months. Check your state laws...a lot of them have these now.
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