Yeah they do need posters over there

I've already got in trouble for posting that it was boring over there and got an e-mail that was rather defensive because I even said it and I did say it nicely.

There are no job ads; same ole Diskriter, Focus... 

Same posters all the time... blah, blah  

I've tried several times to seem interested, but it's just the same ole boring stuff..  This board is much more exciting and informative.

• anyone seen hayseed around? - nm
  • What's a hayseed?? - anon
  • You may see Hayseed again - someone is reporting on the other board
  • You don't pay for the other board.... - happymt
    • no, happy mt, they all come HERE and do that. (nm) - anon
    • Ahh, that's why I don't visit political board. - NM
    • Sounds kind of whitewashed & boring. - nm
    • Which board are we talking about? - s/m
      • Sounds like MTDesk and the Other Site, formerly known - as this site.
    • Where is the other board? - CG
      • Emailed!! - sm
        • Can you tell me where the other board is too? - nm
        • Got it! - CG
          • Appreciate your feedback, if you visit the site. - NM.
    • And you are right about the politics board sm - Just me
      • That board gives me a headache - mt
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also like to add that it sounds like he needs a job or some form of exercise and male companionship.  If he's not currently working, I take it that financially it's not hurting you.  Therefore, it doesn't matter if he takes a minimum wage job -- clerking at a hardware store, etc.  This will give him some self-worth, get him out of your hair and hopefully give him an outlet to talk about some of these world topics. 

If he doesn't want to take a job, he should consider joining a gym.  Exercise releases endorphins which makes you feel happy.  It would also help with his figure.  Maybe you could get a couples rate and go together.  My hubs and I just joined our local gym.  So far, we haven't gotten to go together because of the kids, but we both go separately with a friend. 

I know what you mean about living in a small town.  We live in a very small town -- population about 7000, 1 grocery store, 1 hardware store, 2 convenience stores, 2 dollar stores and a couple pizza/sandwich shops.  But if you really want something, you'll find it.  Maybe he just needs a gentle push.

If all else fails, you could give a call to his doctor and let him know about how he's been acting.  His doctor could then discuss things with him (without letting him know that you've talked to him) and maybe prescribe some medication or run some tests that could find a medical cause for his negativity. 

Good luck -- and as I said, I agree with what the other posters have said about changing yourself.  My dad was the same way after he retired, but then he got a part-time job delivering furniture locally and joined the gym.  He's a lot better now and my mom's grateful that he "talks" with his coworkers about some of the stuff he was bugging her with.

The Points system is the best.  I'm joined the online program and keep my points tracker open all day. 

Thanks for giving the information you did.

have a series of his albums (Sam's) and my older sister was into Jackie Wilson (he died very young)......never will be anything like Motown was..........*nods*......

it was a new patient visit.  i thought i'd try a different doc, but i like my old doc better.  i didn't talk to him about being tired alot.  i did talk about my leg.  i have vericose veins in my left leg that give me problems.  i'm only 35, but feel old! ha!  my leg will swell a little, is warm to the touch and aches almost every day.  you sound like you do really good!  i wish i could get myself on a good schedule so i can at least walk every day.  my 5 y/o will be starting kindergarten in the fall, both my kids will be gone all day so i hope to get on a better schedule than what i'm on now.  my 5 y/o now goes to preschool three days a week and i take him and pick him up, takes time away from my work, so then i sit here and try to stay caught up on my work.  my bp runs ok i guess.  when i went to the doc on wednesday, it was 118/??? 80 something i think.  what is considered low?? 

thanks for your input! 

I can sure sympathize with you here.  My mother is going through same thing.  I have 5 siblings, there are(were) 4 girls 2 boys.  My next to oldest sister was in an auto accident 12 years ago.   She was one of those champagne on a beer budget and just thought she was better.  She and the younger of 2 boys were like peas in a pod.  Very close.  She was in a vegetative state after the accident.  My brother was in charge of her SSI money and such.   He would bring my mother money every 2 years.  Well at 5 years he just quit speaking to everyone, even his child.  Have not seen or heard from him in 7 years.  Why would you just quit speaking to your family?  No one has done anything to him.  He dated a friend of mine one time and told her he was from Canada and that he had a different father than us and that was adopted and not to ever let my baby sister know because she would be devastated.  Well ???.  He had/has this fixation with Canada.  He is not from Canada.  He even looks like my father so it is obvious.  No reason for him to be ashamed.  We are not well off but we are certainly not lacking and we are all hard workers.  He has just disappeared.  My mother tried to kill herself when she was pregnant with him because of other reasons, but blames herself for him being this way.  She did not harm her pregnancy, just believes in things coming full circle.   Well sister that was in accident passed away back in Nov.   This brother does not know that we are aware of.  Older sister has a pill addiction (I’ve told this story on here before, sorry.). 
At any rate she allowed my mother, who was taking care of her recently after some surgery, to see her messed up on some pills.  Mother and I did a mini intervention back in April, have not heard from or seen sister since.  Mother used to speak to her every day.

I just saw her today after going by to pick up something she had of my mothers.   She asked how mom was doing, I said fine and probably better if you would call her and talk to her.  Her response was…”ell the phone works both ways.  She could call me.”  I said, yes your right it does work both ways and you were in the way so you pick up the phone and apologize.  Her response, “Well she’s the mother she should know better.”  This girl is 50 years old, how childish and irresponsible is that.   I feel she owes an apology and my mother said, which is true, what good is it if she does not mean it.  She just does not want to see her end up a vegetable like my sister.  So she feels now she has lost 3 children.  My mother is 70y/o and does not need this stress.

You don’t either.  You just have to reach a point that you must move on with your life.  My mother dwells on this and how do you just walk away?  Makes me so angry.  Told sister that our little sister would be coming in from Michigan (darn near canada! HMMMM ..joking) in July and told her when and that we were planning to spread sister’s ashes then.  “Well we’re going on vacation that week”.   Well fine, I say let them go.  If she can sleep at night and the drugs are more important than her family, I say so be it.  I’ve been really freaking about trying to find my brother in the last few months.   Was told that if I could find SSN I could check with SSD and they would tell me who paid taxes in last on him.  For all we know he could be dead somewhere but how do you find someone who obviously does not want to be found!  What are they thinking!

The way my mother feels is that people like that that don’t even care for their own flesh and blood cannot care for anyone, much less themselves.   They did not mind asking for money and a place to live everything they needed it and she always gave to them.

That's the first place I feel it. Do whatever you can to reduce the stress and if that doesn't work, see your doctor.

Of course, I am good at giving advice, but I haven't seen a doctor about my stomach problems.

My mom is kind of a natural healer person and I have been doing this since I was small.  It isn't helping.  I tried colloidal silver in my throat and nose too, but nothing.  I am thinking its not an allergen or a bacteria but related to my period since it comes the exact day before my period and lasts until day 2 or so of my period and then its gone like it never happened... I just wake up and all the symptoms are completely gone.

Thanks though.. its a good idea for anyone who hasn't tried it.  I know it wipes infection away for me superbly!

Ya oughta try to find a 46D -- almost impossible.  However, I do buy mine at Catos and at Lane Bryant.  They have really pretty ones.  My problem is I need an underwire for support, but they are the most uncomfortable things in the world  

I HATE BRAS!!!!  I am from the bra-burning generation - - hee hee!  Burnt a few in my time, and would like to burn a few more.