Yeah that's my fear. Trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but (sm)
Posted By: Newly dating and fuming on 2009-05-26
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I don't want to be a dummy either
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I would give it all to him. No doubt about it. nm
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Oh yeah... don't give up...sm
Without getting into too long of a post, here's my story... and you can do it too.
Nov 2006 I started on the treadmill, 30 mins a day, 5 days a week. I too didn't want to make ANY changes in my eating habits - I sound just like you - don't really eat that much, but enjoy the things I eat, and a beer now and then. :)
I walked five days a week without fail until about May and did lose 10 pounds without a change in my diet whatsoever - maybe even had a few extras because I knew I was exercising to help offset it.
Now 10 pounds is a lot, but I have a LOT more than you to lose, so when I figured 10 pounds in 7 months wasn't fast enough and that I'd probably die of old age before I reached the weight I wanted, I knew I had to do something else if I wanted it to go faster.
I never got motivated to exercise more, in fact still hated to do it, and didn't want to devote more time to it, so I decided to count calories. I still ate WHAT I wanted, just cut down on how much I ate - still a beer now and then, just not every single time I thought I would like one, etc.
Once I started counting calories, I couldn't believe how much I actually was eating compared to my sedentary lifestyle. Although it still isn't much compared to what I probably should be taking in, since I am pretty sedentary and don't want to exercise more, I'm okay with eating a little less, but still not depriving myself when I want a treat.
Over the next 6 months - to Nov 2007, with the addition of watching what I was eating, I lost another 20 pounds. Now that is a rate of loss that I can live with. I'd love to see the pounds melt off effortlessly, but know at my age it's going to take more work. I could crash diet as I have in the past and be there in a few months, but I've played that game before and it's not worth it.
So, I have just a few simple rules - I exercise 30 mins five days a week without fail (even though I still detest it 11 months into it!!), with holidays and weekends off - I watch calories a little closer, though am not anal about it, but I also only watch what I eat five days a week also. I give myself the weekends and holidays off like I do for my walking, but I do try to not un-do what I worked on all week, so don't go overboard either, just eat more if I want to without guilt on those days.
So basically for me - I'm losing a little slower than I would like, but I'm also only doing as much as I am WILLING to do to lose it. Like my awakening at the 7-month mark of exercising only made me realize I could do it faster with counting calories, maybe sometime in the near future I'll get the feeling that I'm willing to walk more or eat less or go to 6 or 7 days a week to speed things up a bit... but I'm not willing to do that yet.
Set realistic goals. I know from years of past experience I can do anything for the short-term, and I always end up failing in the long term - so I have chosen to take this slow, not work too hard, and really try to make it a lifestyle change over time, not *poof* one day I'm a gung-ho health food and exercise nut... didn't work before and I doubt it would work now, so I'm giving this gradual lifestyle change a chance this time, and this is waayyy longer than I've ever stuck out any diet or exercise plan in my life, so it's working for me so far.
Oh, by the way.... I have always kept up the walking 30 mins a day, but due to work stress and holidays in Nov and Dec I didn't do quite as well on the eating thing and gained a few pounds back - but that's okay, I only gained back a few (3), not the whole 30. I can live with that.... it was a small price to pay for comfort food when I needed it. :)
Do what works for you. My hat's off to you if you are motivated on the exercise thing - I STILL hate it after all this time!!!!
Yeah, give me the classics
Songs like these, and not sung in some weird new version either.
- Joy to the World
- Away in a Manger
- God Rest You Merry Gentlemen
- Come, All Ye Faithful
- Little Town of Bethlehem
- What Child is This?
- Hark! the Herald Angels Sing
- It Came Upon a Midnight Clear
- Silent Night, Holy Night
- The First Noel
- Oh Come Let Us Adore Him
- The Twelve Days Of Christmas
- Merry Little Christmas
- Rudolf the red nose Reindeer
- It's beginning to feel a lot like Christmas
- Jingle Bells
- I saw Mommy kissing Santa Claus
Should have been benefit...excuse me (nm)
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You are not paying for a thing that does not benefit you, obviously.
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Also - Talking to his parents would be of no benefit (sm
His parents do not know how to handle him. Calling their son names and telling him that his heart is dark are just making things worse. He might get punished more or yelled at more or cursed at more....that's really gonna help, right? He doesn't need military school or for anyone to beat the meanness out of him. I am not a parent who believes in not disciplining their children....I believe in disciplining appropriately though. If you have witnessed and heard for yourself the things that his parents have said to him, what do you think they must say to him when no one else can hear? Also, often boys who are large for their age get treated so much more harshly by everyone around them.....suppose he was a teeny tiny little 14-year-old saying the same types of things....would you react exactly the same to him?? Because his mentality is the same as that teeny tiny 14-year-old, just in a bigger body.
You collect widow's benefit's at age 50, not 60, unless you have a child
under 16. I had to stop my benefits for one year and then got them back when I turned 50.
In your opinion, is there a benefit to forcing children to
My son is at camp for a week. Last night was family night. He cried and begged me to take him home but my husband and his leaders refused and said it would be a big mistake. My husband was an Eagle scout and doesn't want to let this go, but my son hates scouting, hates the weekly meetings, the monthly campouts and is miserable. The places they were sleeping were these three sided buildings with open fronts. They were full of bugs, spiders, bees, etc. They did not have a campfire to scare any critters away. They have see stray cats, racoons, etc. But my son's main issue is having to sleep where there are huge spiders and bees crawling in. He wasn't the only one. About half the other boys there in his room (of about 8) cry themselves to sleep every night. They are not homesick like we are told, they are miserable. I don't want to be the over-reacting mother, and if there really is value in my son doing this, then fine. But I don't see it.
Vote for Hans and benefit Siberian rescue
...Southern Siberian Rescue may win $5,000 in free food from ProPlan. http://www.rallytorescue.com/more_for_pets_voting.aspx Please crosspost and pass this email to any and everyone you know as well!!! I attach a flyer in the event you would like to post at your vets office, your work, local pet stores or anywhere you deem appropriate. :-)
Some of you may remember Hans, the 8 y/o boy we pulled out of Franklin County, NC in August of 2006. He was beat up pretty bad with infected holes in his head and face, teeth hanging horizontally in his mouth, fractured jaw, emaciated, heartworm positive, etc. etc. We did an ebay Auction to raise monies for his medical treatment. Well, Hans was adopted in March to a wonderful couple in Raleigh with a 7 y/o silver and white female Siberian. They just adore him and he is the perfect fit for their family.
We are signed up with ProPlan's Rally to Rescue Program and in February they asked the Ambassadors to submit up to two stories on our rescued pets for their Doing More for Rescued Pets Contest. We submitted Hans' story and they selected him as one of the top 10 finalists. YIPPEE. As a top 10, Southern Siberian Rescue and Hans's adopters win a year of free food for one pet and a 3 day/2 night trip to CA in October for the Rally to Rescue
Ambassador Party, where they will announce the winning pet. They have listed the finalists at http://www.rallytorescue.com/more_for_pets_voting.aspx and voting will go through September 30. Please take a moment and vote for Hans. It only takes a second and costs you nothing. :-) You can submit one vote per email address so if you have multiple email addresses, please vote under each one. The winning pet/rescue will receive $5,000 of free
food and we could really use that food. If you would like to see his transformation pictures you can go to www.southernsiberian.com and his personal website and full story can be seen at http://www.southernsiberian.com/foster_dogs__hans.html.
What a great journey for Hans. It's a true rags to riches story. I can't believe he's a star and going to CA!!!!! He is also a TV star now too as NBC 17 did a story on him June 22. It was a fantastic story. What a great adventure for a boy that had such a rough start.
Thanks.
Dawne
Southern Siberian Rescue
A spouse can collect widow benefits at age 60, but the benefit is reduced 21% because you took it ea
So, if his benefit is $1000, you would get $790. If you take you retirement at 62, you can keep the widow benefit, or your benefit, whichever is larger. It's worth taking it early because $790 x 24 months (the difference between age 60 and 62) is almost $19,000. My tax lawyer says always take it early.
Dairy Queen Blizzards purchased today will benefit the Children's Miracle Network, so
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A lot of people are so desperate for work that some will give you free bids and give you ideas while
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This is my fear also . . .
10-15 years from now they will find some horrible side effect.
re: fear
The Lord is your keeper;
The Lord is your shade at your right hand.
The sun shall not strike you by day,
Nor the moon by night.
The Lord shall preserve you from all evil;
He shall preserve your soul.
The Lord shall preserve your going out and your coming in from this time forth, and even forevermore.
Psalm 121:5-8
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7
re: fear
Fear is a tool that satan uses to keep us from doing what God is calling us to do. It is also actually sin cause it shows our lack of trust in the Lord. I'm not saying it will be easy to let him go, just that God will comfort you when you trust in Him....
Lovin Jesus,
Jan
why fear it when you won't know it??
:) I am about to turn 28 and I am already losing mine... I know I'm going to get Alzheimer's and that makes me SAD (SUPER sad), but im not afraid of it...
a little fear
can be a good thing, like pain...it tells you something is wrong.
There's a book called "The Gift of Fear," written by Gavin DeBecker. This is from the book jacket: "True fear is often a signal that can save your life. Are you listening?..." This is from the publisher of the book: "Through dozens of compelling examples from his own career, security expert Gavin deBecker teaches readers how to read the signs of impending danger by using their most basic--but often most discouraged--survival skill: intuition. This book provides a unique combination of practical guidance on leading a safer life and profound insight into human behavior."
BTW, I've read that one of the worst things women do (I'm totally guilty of this) is to sit in the car after coming from the store or post office or wherever, reading mail & balancing checkbooks while sitting in a parked car...perfect opportunity for some slimeball.
You did the right thing: Trusted your gut.
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If no fear, then what exactly is there to be 'against'?
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I bet then he sensed his fear
Dogs can sense that a mile away. I know mine can. whenever anyone comes over that is nervous about dogs, the dogs wanna hang all over them and like double sniff them. LOL
my worst fear right now is that even
if I have cash in my hand, it will be worthless, and might as well use it as TP.
not one single fear
zero, zip, zilch, nada...
we are born with two fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. the rest we create or obtain on our own later in life. me: none, other than the two i was born with.
I got married out of fear. Then (sm)
I stayed married out of fear. Then he bought me a GPS and now I'm adventurous. Not being able to navigate was one of my biggest fears. Another fear was not having money. The way he spent our money, we never had any anyway.
that has always been a fear of mine..
that I would spill the grape juice or something.. I always feel like I'm soooo shaky with those little glasses..
your fear should not hold him back.
I understand your feelings, but this seems like a completely reasonable and good trip being planned, one that could mold his mind/heart for his future. Your son could make a very positive difference in many others lives. If you haven't already, learn to trust God.
I understand your fear! I have three sons between
17 and 20 years old. Now and then they talk about enlisting, and of course I worry about the draft. For selfish reasons, I want them always to stay close to home, where it seems to be safe. But it's a very high calling to serve one's country, and I would support that decision if my sons decided upon it. If the draft were brought back, I'd be terrified. I do not support this war. I don't think it was the right thing to do. But I do support the people who serve and respect their decisions and am incredibly grateful to them for their sacrifices. I will also continue to support them by doing whatever I can, small though it may be, to help bring them home AND keep peace for us all. I wish it were a simple thing.
As for our children, the fact is, once they are 18, they can make the decision to join without our consent. Talk to each other, love her and appreciate her. If she decides to serve her country, you do not want to part in anger, and trust me, you will want to support her in any way you can.
I think that's probably a common and rational fear (sm)
I can't stand it and I imagine most people, especially females, but also males, don't like it either.
Fear, not respect. It's not the same thing.
And the fear only lasts until they are bigger than you are and can hit back. You'll probably be surprised when that happens and can't imagine where it came from, but you're the one who taught them that violence is an acceptable way to deal with problems. Some other things it teaches are that it's OK to pick on/bully/hit anyone smaller than you who can't defend themselves in order to get what you want and that once you're an adult, anything goes.
Think about it. You spank a kid for hitting a sibling while telling him it's not nice to hit. You break the hair brush/ruler while paddling your kid for breaking something but you suffer no consequences for breaking something. What you get is confusion and fear, but not respect. Maybe the kid turns out OK; after all, there are other influences in his life. Maybe he doesn't. And if he doesn't, I hope he doesn't have a gun.
Phobia means fear.
Everybody throws around the word homophobia, but that is not the right word. People who are against homosexuality are not afraid of it. They think it is wrong. It's just annoying to keep seeing this word used in this way.
Ain't no way on this earth I am going to live in fear
You all are really lacking a lot to have this man rule your lives. If you were a man I would tell you to man up but both of you lack a backbone.
I finished Harry Potter! Never fear - no spoiler.
Wow - what a great book & series. Brilliant! As Ron would say.
I would rather have my door open on a nice day, then live in fear...
That is not a way to live your life...and that is not living in la-la land...
spanking builds fear that you mistake as respect
A child who has been abandoned by both parents has no trust in anyone. Why do you think spanking is the right way to build trust? We just need to agree to disagree on this issue. I trust the counselor's recommendations more than yours as hers have proven to work. Spanking does not _make_ ALL kids do good. Sigh.
Life is too short to live it in fear. I'd rather sleep in my car -sm
than with someone who mistreated me either physically, OR 'just' psychologically. And even if the kids don't actually see anything happening, you better believe they're still picking up on the bad vibes.
The fact that he mentions killing HIMSELF, in addition to you, is a major red flag. If a person reaches a point where they actually talk about doing something, they're alot closer to doing it than when they were just thinking it to themselves.
Guns in the house. (Guns, pleural!) Not good. I'd have insisted those be gone before the wedding day, myself. (Haha - it'd be in the prenuptial agreement that I'd never get married without!)
Anyway, living in fear for the sake of the greater financial 'security' of having 2 incomes is no security at all, in my book. It's a huge sacrifice of your freedom, peace of mind, & safety. The greatest security you can give yourself or the kids is finding a way to provide for yourselves WITHOUT the 'help' of an abuser.
I agree with Kendra, if you fear he would be physicall abusive - (sm)
then you need to be away from him. He is just your boyfriend, right? Not even your husband. I left a marriage recently from an abusive husband. He "only" beat me physically once, but he was controlling and emotionally abusive at other times AND he looked at young lesbian porn online. If I ever start dating someone and I get even a hint that they could ever become physically abusive to me I will run from that relationship so fast your head would spin. Please get away from him!! Dont even deal with it another day.
I don't doubt that there are
people like your first husband who simply choose to live that way, but the majority do not choose it and do not enjoy it. It is a miserable feeling.
I do give money to people that I think are truly down and out- but I just try to differentiate between them and the professional panhandlers. I see guys out in the medians of roads or on freeway ramps with signs and some of these guys are dressed better than me. Those people I suspect are scamming and I do not give money then. But I don't want to withhold help from someone who really does need it because I have been there and it was the loneliest most miserable thing I have ever been through.
That's possible, but I really doubt it
The woman she is dealing with is irrational and has serious issues. Confronting her could lead to a big emotional blowup that would leave the OP feeling even worse.
When you are talking about rational people who are able to deal with their problems calmly and with some degree of objectivity, then discussing problems is an excellent idea.
But believe me - I have been there when it comes to dealing with people who refuse to face their own problems. I definitely came out of that situation feeling much worse than when I went in, even though I remained calm, softspoken, and rational during the entire conversation.
I think the OP should use her own judgment in deciding whether it is worth it to confront the woman over this. Sometimes it's better just to close the door, literally and metaphorically, rather than try to get "closure" through confrontation.
JMHO
No doubt! LOL NM
NM
I have no doubt
That if this was the only thing I had going on right now I could make over 400 a week too. And I mentioned in passing the patient who came in on a Sunday as a joke, like we MTs often do. I have plenty of patience, I promise.
I never blamed the professions fault, but yes, the profession is partly to blame. Offshoring, ever decreasing cpls, and unethical MTSOs greatly contribute to the declining pay scale of the medical transcription profession. That is one of the reasons I am getting out of it. But the main reason is because I originally began school to become a psychologist, and I want to finish that.
As for the patient with the rash that came in on Sunday, guess what? They were told to go see their primary care physician on Monday.
I seriously doubt you know anything about
Don't poop where you eat small town girl!
When it doubt, toss it out (sm)
We will give him credit. At least he was honest and said he wanted to be sure and is still accepting matches. To me? I would feel like a doormat. Hey, if I'm not good enough for you and you're still out there fishing, then do it without me. That's not saying someone has to be exclusive in their dating, but in this day and age, there are too many love diseases to be spread, I wouldn't want to be a part of that.
It sounds like you're good enough for now, but if something better comes along, he'll be dropping you like a hot potato. I'd be moving on.
Without a doubt, Proactiv...nm
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Pilates- without a doubt
I have heard that you see the difference within the first couple of weeks, and it tones you all over.
He is an indoor dog. I doubt very seriously
But thank you for your suggestion.
I highly doubt it
I have no clue how that is even possible. I really don't think that you can. You might want to ask Verizon, though.
They will take you to court, without doubt.
It isn't too little for them. If they have evidence you owe that debt, then they have legal recourse to collect.
If it goes to court, you will get a judgement against you. It will go on your credit record and they can also garnish wages to receive their money. They may be entitled to other collection means.
It won't matter whether you send a cease and desist letter -- it is a debt you legally owe. You need to call them immediately and discuss your concerns over the legitimacy of the claim. Never, ever avoid them - it will just cost you more in the long run.
I doubt that anything has happened (yet)
The fact that she wrote the nice thank-you note shows that she assumed that you also knew about the gift. There is a good chance that your husband was just trying to be nice and generous to a girl down on her luck, but the fact that he hid it from you shows that he knew you wouldn't approve.
While there probably is nothing between them, the feelings he has for her are dangerous and could easily lead to something happening between them. I think you're right to ask him to end their relationship now, even though at the moment it is only platonic. He will probably think you're ridiculous, but I would strongly suggest it to him and, if he insists he doesn't want that, then the other alternative would be that you make your appointments together.
Please read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker. It can save your life. NM
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I doubt homeowners would cover this, but
to do? How would the carpet store fix this? Just wondering....
I have no doubt that some drugs are worthwhile
but don't you ever type a list of meds a mile long and wonder how the poor patient (especially someone elderly) is still standing upright? Sometimes that makes me absolutely crazy. I think there is absolute validity in natural cures and I think the medical community or government or whomever is too quick to push yet another drug - or in this case, a vaccine - on the population without knowing exactly what the side effects will be.
I strained my lower back 3 weeks ago. My mother immediately assumed I was going to need surgery, friends insisted I needed drugs. I went to my chirpractor. It took several visits, but I am now pain free. Totally, 100% natural. (I didn't add this to start another whole debate, but just to make my point that there are alternatives.)
Have a great day!!
Bugs Bunny without a doubt . . . nm
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it's' chicken, when in doubt, throw it out!!!
Toss it........chicken needs to be refrigerated after cooking and leaving it all night in the oven is not a good thing, I have done it myself and thrown the chicken out.
When in doubt, throw it out! 
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