Yeah it is pretty horrible, my husband's parents called -sm
Posted By: Laura E. on 2007-04-17
In Reply to: Horrible tragedy at Virginia Tech - trose
here in a panic to see where he was working today (he works all over and 2 weeks ago was at VT). He was at Univ. of VA in Charlottesville yesterday which was good to know. I feel bad for the families whose lives have been affected by this senseless tragedy, it is truly amazing how life can change in a split second because of something beyond your control.
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My parents have horrible neighbors.
They are nice people, but their three daughters are always dressed in dirty clothes. You will often see one of the girls out in the yard with no clothes on and they are old enough they should have clothes on. There back yard is totally trashed. They have junk thrown everywhere and the kids are out there playing in the junk with dirty or no clothes on. They have several dogs that they can't keep pinned in and we often find them in my parent's yard taking a dump or just walking around. They had two goats and when my dad caught one in my mom's garden, he shot it with a BB gun. They had two ponies in their back yard, which isn't big enough for one pony let alone two, and the one pony had what looked like a old tuna can stuck to its hoof. They never mow the front yard. They have junk all over the front of the house. I don't even want to think about what the inside of the house looks like. Their dogs come over and my mom has tripped and fallen over them as she suffers from MS and her balance is not good. Both the parents have dark long brown hair and if you see them from the back, the only way to tell them apart is by their tattoos. My mom has called the humane society about the animals several times. Nothing has been done. I told my mom to start shooting animals at random as they enter her yard. LOL!
Pretty much natural. Did use a product called "Healthy Woman"
that my gyn recommended, helped with hot flashes. It was a couple of years of messed-up and weird cycles then all of sudden it just stopped. Still have hot flashes after about 5 years but not very bad or often.
Yeah, it is pretty bad, when you
pull out your Stedman's and there's a dust bunny on it larger than the cat! lol 
Googling, googling, googling....... away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
Yeah, that is pretty bad, very unsmart to say the least- sm
I guess if anyone has a drug problem and won that kind of money they'd be in drug heaven, but obviously would either die blowing all the money on drugs or go through it all buying/doing drugs. Very sad. Same with gambling, boy I bet you could lose it all very quickly in Vegas.
yeah...isn't that called being *judgemental*?
hmmm. nm
Yeah, we had one too, it was called the head corner. nm
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Yeah, it's pretty obvious what any list means
is - this is a list of all the medications the patient could remember and I could find in the records.
yeah, it did look like it would be pretty cool to play with, too bad its toxic -nm
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Yeah, Tried to... even called the state attorney general's office
to see if a medical facility could get away with charging that kind of interest and they said as long as they notified you prior to the bill, it's okay because you basically agree to the terms when you accept that form of payment option, which I didn't but... They advised me that I would have to hire a personal lawyer to fight it and I figured it wasn't worth it for a balance of 200.00.
Pretty bad because that is the closest hospital. The next closest is almost 200 miles from here so they really stick it to the people who live in this community when health care is already sky high and the care is not entirely satisfactory either.
My husband is usually pretty good but once in a while sm
he will forget and talk to me in a disrespectful way. When that happens, I sit him right down and say, "NOBODY talks to me that way, not even you." He knows I am serious. I once quit a job over the way the boss treated me and talked to me.
Because your husband has been getting away with this for a long time, it is going to be difficult to "retrain" him, so to speak. You will have to be firm, even sometimes to the point where you may feel like you are nagging.
The key is to stay very calm and matter-of-fact. Don't show any anger (even if you are boiling over with it) and don't let him draw you into an argument. Simply say, "I will be treated with respect. I will not allow anyone to speak to me in that tone of voice or to say those things to me. I treat you with respect, and I expect the same in return."
Good luck. I wish you all the best.
Caught him when her husband called my house to ask for her -
My husband introduced me to J. We became good friends. When I was working and could no go places, she and her son would go with my husband and my children. We stayed at each other's houses all the time, went places together (me and her/us and her). I noticed her husband never would do anything with us or hang out, but she said he was just antisocial. Eventually she and her husband moved away because of a transfer and me and my husband separated. Then one day her husband called and asked me to speak to J. Long story short, my husband and her had been seeing each other even before he introduced us to be friends and her husband thought that I was just a front and not really married to my husband but was just a third wheel willing to cover so that they could be together whenever they wanted to hang out...
Neat story! My husband called me last night on my cell to tell me sm
that some baby birds were inside my huge wreath on our front door. He asked me if I knew that and I said I had no clue!
Curiosity got the best of me and this morning I went and checked them out. There were 3 of them - so tiny and sweet inside a perfectly circled nest. No momma in sight. I made sure. I snapped some photos from about 5 feet away and everytime they "saw" me they played dead! They would close their eyes and put their heads to the sides. It scared me at first.
Then I came in and heard them yelling again. I think it's so sweet even though my wreath is pretty much ruined now. I don't care. I love having them there. I pray a cat doesn't get them on the front porch when they finally fly...
Yeah, by my ex-husband, hence the EX...nm
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Yeah my husband has gotten the ....sm
calls before wanting to sell you some kind of extended warranty. He got really ticked off and cursed them out. They called like 5 times in one day on his cell phone. I added my cell # to the do not call list so maybe that helps.
Yeah, well my husband is climbing that
corporate ladder and he has no problem telling the guys he has to get home to watch the kids, do clothes, cook, or whatever else I need help with that day.
I see your point in some areas, but I agree with the other poster that said you seem to come across as seeing these chores as demeaning.
Not everyone can hire a housekeeper and yes it is okay to take a break and throw some clothes in the wash, etc. Every job allows breaks!
Yeah and with her husband that must have been very tempting - LOL
Ric Ocasek? Ewwwwwww. I never understood that!
Yeah, my husband could care less either...
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Vet called before and after surgery, and assistant called this
this afternoon. I cant wait to see her. She has only been gone for 1 day and as one lady stated, the house is empty. Working from home, I have become quite attached to her and her to me. Thanks for all the well wishes and Boo Boo Kitty thanks you too !!
Yes, I did, and it is horrible...sm
My puter has been doing some really strange things since I did. The internet is sooooooooo slow and kicking me in and out, I'm about ready to scream, not to mention my line count for today..... Are you having the same problems?
OMG. How horrible.
My heart would have been pounding a mile a minute. Yes, I would have worried about the reaction, but I probably would have said something for the sake of the children. If they both went off and things got ugly then I would have had the cops come. You were in a public place so that would have helped a bit. He was WRONG TOTALLY. Your mom and sister saw everything and I would have kept at him if he went off. Cell phones with cameras are great to have in these kinds of situations. Again, how awful. Those poor kids. I am sure that was not the first time he hit them either. Especially in a public. YIKES.
That's horrible. Not only
should he be held accountable as an adult, whoever hired him needs to go to jail.
How horrible
Misha, I'm so sorry to hear about this. Good thoughts go out to CJ. Keep us posted.
OMG that looks horrible
Sorry took awhile to reply to this message. I looked at pics of hordeolum and its not that - thank goodness...those look so painful and awful. Another post said chalazion and it looks more like that, though some pics don't look too much better. I will keep "an eye on this". - How's that for humor. HA HA
This is HORRIBLE!
You need to get as far away as possible. You have a computer, so how about emailing your local Domestic Abuse hotline and see what they can do. Perhaps you should bcc to your sister all emails regarding your home situation. Also send her any replies that you receive. YOU DO NOT WANT HIM TO READ ANY EMAILS REGARDING YOUR FEARS AND WANTS!! Maybe your area has an underground process to move you and the kids to a safe place.....hundreds of miles away.
Everyone...don't assume that she is not telling the truth. Stress can cause one to forget dates, exaggerate, or even make up something. I would rather see that she goes into a shelter and not a grave!
this is horrible
He wants to (literally) have his cake & eat it too? He wants to eat the same amount but spend less, & the way he will go about this is to starve you? Outrageous. Borders on, if not spills over into, abusive.
All you are doing by going along with this is proving that his plan works. For heaven's sake, don't enable his creepy behavior by quitting eating! You eat what you need to eat, & the first time he can't have seconds he will know the plan is unworkable.
this is horrible p.s.
If you don't stand up for yourself (and your kids) you will end up with a son who treats his wife the way your husband treats you and a daughter who feels it is okay to be starved by her husband.
I get that you have creditors, but you are a family. You can't have some members paying the price and others not. Either everyone eats a little less or no one does & you find a different way to deal with the situation. Food is not a luxury.
It's not really that horrible!
LMAO! I have 9 cats that I love and adore, but I have threatened on more than one occasion to turn one into Kitty Stew if she doesn't quit peeing on the GD kitchen counters. I go through Clorox Cleanup by the gallon. They have 5 litter boxes inside and 600 square feet of a brand new enclosed porch with dirt floor that she can go in, but still the counters.........
Clearly she knows I don't mean it because she is still doing it and just gives me that "I'm too cute for my own good" look.
Wow--that is horrible.
I am always surprised at how people wait around for others to die. (I understand the the OP did not allude to this.) But she did say that this woman was there for her when NOONE else was. That should count for something.
How horrible! But now I'm wondering..
In first aid classes, I've learned about dealing with people who have heat stroke. Get them cooled off while waiting for help, etc. What should we do with an animal in such a situation? I would definitely have called the police, as you did. And I'm not questioning that you could have done more. I know you did the right thing. But if I should ever happen upon such a situation, is it a good thing to wet the dog down with water? Or would that be too much of a shock to its system? Does anyone know?
Would I be a horrible person if
I got my cats declawed? I'm totally against declawing, but my husband is REALLY mad and says either we get them declawed or they have to go. We just got brand new furniture and they have the arm of the sofa snagged up already, luckily it is the piece that is being replaced cause the delivery people broke a board on it bringing it into the house. I don't know what to do, I would never get rid of my cats for doing something that is in their nature. I already have scratching pads and a post and put the catnip on it. They must just have more fun scratching the furniture. Any ideas, suggestions? 
P.S. We were not registed either--- how horrible is that - nm
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Oh "Me" that is just horrible! :-(
What an awful thing to be going through. I have absolutely no advice at all here but, man, it's quite all right for you to have yourself a pity party--I would be a complete mess if I were in your shoes. I take things way too HARD and can't just let them slide like other fortunate souls can, so I can certainly relate to how you must be feeling.
You hang in there...this too shall pass.
I know! I had horrible symptoms (sm)
And kept being told it might just be depression - I finally took the *&* antidepressants just to cope with not being diagnosed! It didn't help my illness but it helped me deal with it. Eventually they did an MRI of my brain and found pinpoint lesions all over it but never could tell me what they were from. I took antidepressants and sleep med and used lots of alternative remedies and juiced and ate as healthy and pure as possible for a year and finally got fairly well but still have a few leftover symptoms (ear fluttering, occasional muscle twitches) that will probably never go away. One doctor even suggested that I go to a massage therapist because some people would get depressed over not having enough "touch" in their lives - I had two children who hugged me all day and my husband and I were very "active."
What a horrible position to be in..sm
There are some really good groups on MSN where you can go and talk to people in similar positions. There are boards specifically for people with family members with drug addictions. I would also suggest that you get some counseling for yourself to help you with the guilt that you feel.
it sounds horrible, but
in truth, it wasn't something to be totally humiliated by. I did something wrong, I knew the policy, I expected the outcome. I knew my mom was tougher than most. Actually, the guy didn't hit as hard as SHE did, so I gladly suffered his paddling. When she complained she was getting in trouble on her job for having to come watch me get paddled, I told her to stay at work next time. Boy, that steamed her! LOL!
She became a teacher and got a paddle with pinholes drilled into it and kept it at home over the summers. I joined the swim team and stayed at the pool every day in the summer after that!
When my kids were in elementary school, we were asked to sign a form to allow paddling, and they also included that there would always be a witness so no one could accuse them of abuse. They left the option of the parent(s) being the witness to each family or choosing a teacher instead.
I'd rather hold the paddler responsible by my witnessing it not know exactly what type of punishment was being given. Some people hit harder than others, some kids are more sensitive. Neither of my kids got paddled, but I knew the procedure and assigned myself as the witness.
Still seems horrible, especially when you describe
a paddle with holes?! What's the point of that other to completely scare a child? With a piece of wood? I don't understand. I'm so sorry you went through that. It seems totally unfair and, well, abusive. I hope you didn't suffer permanent damage, even damage you don't know about. Are you scared of authority figures, or of men? Or of someone coming at you with something in their hands?
I'm not being funny, I'm completely serious.
I think that is horrible advice. She should let herself
feel degraded (maybe) because she could run the risk of losing him to another woman? Wow.
Thank you everyone. At least I am not alone but gosh it looks horrible! sm
I LOVE the you tube videos. Thank you so much for posting that. I wondered if there were excercises for that area and I can do those and type too at the same time! Really funny was the poopedoutitis! Loved it!
Horrible Teeth
What are your opinions? If you had terrible teeth, that kind that decay from the inside out, you've had 14 root canals, several of which broke off after they were crowned (to the tune of about $1200 per tooth), you have three more teeth that need to be extracted, 2 more that need root canals and extensive bridge work must then be completed, your mouth hurts all the time, there is an abscess forming over one of the old root canals that broke, you have a heart valve condition which means you must always premedicate before dental work and an infection could cause pericarditis .... would you have the above work done or just say, to hell with it, I'm getting dentures. BTW, I'm 51 and this all started when I was 5.
No. no. no. sorry, just horrible things.....m....
I like only 3 a bit
# 2 is a nightmare, really scary!
And I would let people 'step' on my oriental carpets, but not 'sit' on them.
Do you mean the horrible protestors? Call your...
local Harley Davidson shop, and they will assemble a team to keep those worthless parasites under control!!
What a horrible senseless tragedy.
How awful for the families involved. My 2 oldest are away at college, and you worry enough as it is but when something like this happens, OMG! There just is no understanding how someone could be so evil. My heart is breaking.
California Fires, so horrible. On FOX
they were just showing a San Diego reporter reporting on watching his home burning. He had lived there for 25 years. So sad.
I thought my cable went out. Horrible.
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I heard food is horrible and very
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I did - got a horrible response in the aftermath
I got yelled at, screamed at, and called all kinds of names :-( Apparently, they are mad about my baby's name. Thanks everyone
No, you wouldn't be a horrible person
We have 2 indoor cats and they have both been declawed and they are fine. Wish I had done it with the last cat I had as she ruined a very expensive chair and once she found it, you couldn't keep her away from it, no matter what we tried.
Did I mention he's a horrible person?
Just wanted to make that point clear.
Re: "I'm not exactly proud of you."
He's lucky if you don't remove the source of all men's pride and joy, like Mrs. Bobbitt did. Grrrrr.
How horrible. My family and I are so close.
I cannot imagine even using such terms about my family.
How horrible. The cowards always kill themselves
It infuriates me. Why don't these people just jump off a bridge instead of killing innocent people? He didn't even have the guts to face the consequences of his actions. So cowardly. I will be praying for the victims and their friends and family. I would bet money that the NRA will be having one of their rallies in Omaha in no time - they're always so sensitive about these things  I can't believe the murder rate in this country. It's sickening.
That's horrible. OP--Don't follow this poster's example.
A letter like this is probably the most inappropriate way to have dealt with the situation other than beating the kids up yourself. I'm going to assume this letter was also sent anonymously. Awful, awful, awful.
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