Yeah he is; my DH is too, but on a different level than yours - sm

• Husband says he is an alcoholic. (sm) - Wife
  • The best thing to do is support him - DW
  • To wife sm - Anon
    • Playmates and playgrounds - good point (sm) - OP
    • It IS NOT a disease. The use of it causes disease but - Wannie
      • Well said nm - marilyn
      • That seems to be debatable even in the medical field. Disease or not disease? - While your advice on staying away from
        • Either you is or you ain't **sm - Anon
        • You're right. I should have IMO. My apologies. I have - Wannie
          • I agree - jlynn
          • I think people do need to be careful with that - DW
            • HBO series on addiction sm - Me2
            • I so totally agree with you there are many, many addictions in my family - as well and I at times find myself
  • My husband is a recovering alcoholic. He. too, - Wannie
  • Bud's hub hid his & ended up bleeding to death from - varices at age 32. Please get help now. nm
  • Yeah he is; my DH is too, but on a different level than yours - sm -
  • Alcoholism doesn't always "look" like the norm - by
    • I am a recovering alcoholic. Went - pc
      • First of all, I agree that anybody who finally admits they - Wannie
        • Well there is proven genetic predisposition for addictive personalities (sm) - Anon - maybe not contagious but
          • My body predisposed to diabetes but dont use that - as excuse to not deal with problem. nm
          • That's why God put brains in our heads. We stay away from - Wannie
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Now it's freezing rain. I could do without that, but I like the snow!

I have not had a man in my life for the past 3.5 years.  I have tried dating and get asked out all the time, but just no interest in the ones doing the asking I guess.  I have a very comfortable life and truly am in no need for a man to take care of me.  However, I have known this one particular man for over a year and just very recently our friendship seems to be heading to a different level and for the first time I am very attracted to him.  So, the other day he e-mailed me and both of us came clean on our feelings.  The problem is that he has had his present girlfriend for the past 7 years...they do not live together and really spend little time together, as their lives are significantly different and when asked why he simply states "it just isn't working out and that he could make more time to see her, but he doesn't"

Okay, so now I know I am going to get flamed, but where do you think it goes from here?  Both him and I have a seminar to attend with another man in 2 weeks and will also be staying at the same hotel,  etc. and I am just so confused as to how I go about keeping my distance but still wanting him.  What to do, what to do......this has been on my mind all day and so has he and I am so not use to these feelings at all....like high school all over again.

have a series of his albums (Sam's) and my older sister was into Jackie Wilson (he died very young)......never will be anything like Motown was..........*nods*......

it was a new patient visit.  i thought i'd try a different doc, but i like my old doc better.  i didn't talk to him about being tired alot.  i did talk about my leg.  i have vericose veins in my left leg that give me problems.  i'm only 35, but feel old! ha!  my leg will swell a little, is warm to the touch and aches almost every day.  you sound like you do really good!  i wish i could get myself on a good schedule so i can at least walk every day.  my 5 y/o will be starting kindergarten in the fall, both my kids will be gone all day so i hope to get on a better schedule than what i'm on now.  my 5 y/o now goes to preschool three days a week and i take him and pick him up, takes time away from my work, so then i sit here and try to stay caught up on my work.  my bp runs ok i guess.  when i went to the doc on wednesday, it was 118/??? 80 something i think.  what is considered low?? 

thanks for your input! 

I can sure sympathize with you here.  My mother is going through same thing.  I have 5 siblings, there are(were) 4 girls 2 boys.  My next to oldest sister was in an auto accident 12 years ago.   She was one of those champagne on a beer budget and just thought she was better.  She and the younger of 2 boys were like peas in a pod.  Very close.  She was in a vegetative state after the accident.  My brother was in charge of her SSI money and such.   He would bring my mother money every 2 years.  Well at 5 years he just quit speaking to everyone, even his child.  Have not seen or heard from him in 7 years.  Why would you just quit speaking to your family?  No one has done anything to him.  He dated a friend of mine one time and told her he was from Canada and that he had a different father than us and that was adopted and not to ever let my baby sister know because she would be devastated.  Well ???.  He had/has this fixation with Canada.  He is not from Canada.  He even looks like my father so it is obvious.  No reason for him to be ashamed.  We are not well off but we are certainly not lacking and we are all hard workers.  He has just disappeared.  My mother tried to kill herself when she was pregnant with him because of other reasons, but blames herself for him being this way.  She did not harm her pregnancy, just believes in things coming full circle.   Well sister that was in accident passed away back in Nov.   This brother does not know that we are aware of.  Older sister has a pill addiction (I’ve told this story on here before, sorry.). 
At any rate she allowed my mother, who was taking care of her recently after some surgery, to see her messed up on some pills.  Mother and I did a mini intervention back in April, have not heard from or seen sister since.  Mother used to speak to her every day.

I just saw her today after going by to pick up something she had of my mothers.   She asked how mom was doing, I said fine and probably better if you would call her and talk to her.  Her response was…”ell the phone works both ways.  She could call me.”  I said, yes your right it does work both ways and you were in the way so you pick up the phone and apologize.  Her response, “Well she’s the mother she should know better.”  This girl is 50 years old, how childish and irresponsible is that.   I feel she owes an apology and my mother said, which is true, what good is it if she does not mean it.  She just does not want to see her end up a vegetable like my sister.  So she feels now she has lost 3 children.  My mother is 70y/o and does not need this stress.

You don’t either.  You just have to reach a point that you must move on with your life.  My mother dwells on this and how do you just walk away?  Makes me so angry.  Told sister that our little sister would be coming in from Michigan (darn near canada! HMMMM ..joking) in July and told her when and that we were planning to spread sister’s ashes then.  “Well we’re going on vacation that week”.   Well fine, I say let them go.  If she can sleep at night and the drugs are more important than her family, I say so be it.  I’ve been really freaking about trying to find my brother in the last few months.   Was told that if I could find SSN I could check with SSD and they would tell me who paid taxes in last on him.  For all we know he could be dead somewhere but how do you find someone who obviously does not want to be found!  What are they thinking!

The way my mother feels is that people like that that don’t even care for their own flesh and blood cannot care for anyone, much less themselves.   They did not mind asking for money and a place to live everything they needed it and she always gave to them.

That's the first place I feel it. Do whatever you can to reduce the stress and if that doesn't work, see your doctor.

Of course, I am good at giving advice, but I haven't seen a doctor about my stomach problems.

My mom is kind of a natural healer person and I have been doing this since I was small.  It isn't helping.  I tried colloidal silver in my throat and nose too, but nothing.  I am thinking its not an allergen or a bacteria but related to my period since it comes the exact day before my period and lasts until day 2 or so of my period and then its gone like it never happened... I just wake up and all the symptoms are completely gone.

Thanks though.. its a good idea for anyone who hasn't tried it.  I know it wipes infection away for me superbly!

Ya oughta try to find a 46D -- almost impossible.  However, I do buy mine at Catos and at Lane Bryant.  They have really pretty ones.  My problem is I need an underwire for support, but they are the most uncomfortable things in the world  

I HATE BRAS!!!!  I am from the bra-burning generation - - hee hee!  Burnt a few in my time, and would like to burn a few more.