Write an anonymous letter. Type it up if you are that concerned, although I sm
Posted By: just me on 2007-08-24
In Reply to: insurance scam - Tinamarie
am a big fan of minding my own business. You need to talk to her first instead of about her like this. Tell her your concerns. Be real and up front. Say, I don't respect you for this because you seem to be able to do such and such and I should turn you in. Don't be scared to do this. But if you are afraid, then write a letter since you say you know the insurance person and secretary.
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I doubt a guy would send an anonymous letter- sm
it is mostly likely a woman sending it, possibly the girl in question if there is a girlfriend. I would not blindly accept it as untrue but then again I would not let it wreak my marriage as it is quite possibly the work of some sick individual out to cause trouble. I do trust my DH, but he will never cheat as he is terrified of getting a STD and of getting someone pregnant as well, and I do keep him happy as well. But I would just be a bit more aware of things, if any red flags pop up, then maybe have him followed by a PI for a few days to see if there is anything to it. If they find nothing then I would not worry about it. One of my good friends had her DH followed, though she could not get any proof as he was pretty slick and suspected he was being followed which did not help, but he did give her crabs which is what led her to use a PI, he had some lame excuse as to how he got crabs too, really makes me wonder at how dumb men think women are. They divorced in the end of course and she (and the kids) are much happier today.
I would write a detailed letter - sm
to the teacher, school counselor, principal, and send a copy to the school board. No resolution, no satisfaction, no kids in your school!
That counselor was way out of line but the blame also falls to the principal and teacher for not following up and making sure you were able to get a meeting.
They have some nerve. They forget WHO pays their salaries.
write him a letter and explain to him like you
explained it to us. Tell him how you really feel. Give him some days to 'digest' it, then give him a call.
If you have definitely made up your mind, you have to tell him before he gets out, otherwise I doubt that you will be able to tell him face to face and you will just give in.
Be thankful you have your wonderful mom to write that letter to..sm
It has been a little over a year since my mom passed away. I miss her so much. I would love to be able to write my mom or call her. I was fortuante enough to have spent many, many holidays in the kitchen helping my mom. I sure do miss it now. Give thanks that you have your mom in your life. I am also a married mother of 3 and am 36 y/o with no mom for the holidays. God Bless you, your family, and most of all your mom. I am so sad every day without mine.
1. Escalate the problem to a supervisor. 2. Write a letter.
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Type 1 requires insulin, type 2 does not - sm
that is the basic difference. Type 2 can be controlled by diet changes and/or medication (pills). My MIL has type 2 which runs in her family, no one is obese either. She controls it with diet and medication. Your dermatologist I think is wrong. Doesn't your husband know which type he has?
By anonymous I mean
"not face to face." I know it's not completely anonymous. I just mean that people say things in writing that they might not say in person.
Sex toys - embarassing & anonymous
Hi - I'm serious - anonymous embarassing question for anonymous answers! I am 39 years old and my husband recently found out that I have a sex toy I bought about a year ago. He is furious and is acting like I am a really bad person. I think these things are way more common than the thinks. Just looking for opinions?
you'd bet your first born on an anonymous post
I think YOU might be ill and need a therapist. I'm not that poster but I think your response here is assumptive and presumptive and you *seem* so much smarter than this.....you cannot assume anything on a public board online....and you said YOU'D BET YOUR FIRST BORN on your thoughts about that poster.....I think you need to recheck your priorities...........
JMO..........
I would make an anonymous call
Just say you are not sure if the information will be helpful, but it is just something you noticed. Of course in the case of a fire they will do an investigation, arson and such, and it is very rare for a house to burn to the ground and everything in it turn to ash before the fire gets put out. I think they could tell if it was empty or not. I used to type up forms for a college fire department, and they are very long and detail-oriented, nothing is left out. On the subject of home insurance, I myself am tired of paying higher premiums because of just this kind of thing. They won't get away with it if this is the case. People are so afraid to report anything illegal these days. I live in a cul-de-sac with the nosiest bunch of neighbors I have ever encountered, they know who did what and with whom at what time, but nobody seemed to know who stole my car right out of my driveway a few years ago. I guess I'm just tired of honesty NOT being the norm.
Anonymous question regarding abortion (sm)
With this being a major factor in the political arena right now I wanted to ask this:
For anyone who has ever had an abortion (and there are many of us), were/are you ok with it still or did you have a period of extreme guilt/anxiety over it? I had one and did not terribly regret it, other than a short grief period, until I actually had children. I went through about two years of horrible guilt and remorse. I am now pro-life. I feel an abortion kills an innocent child and causes emotional scars for the mother that will never go completely away. I feel that I am not deserving of complete happiness in my life, ever, because I denied my child the right to have a life and attempt to find happiness. I know my reasons at that time and I know I felt like it was something I had to do, but the fact is many of us had them to avoid the shame, embarassment and/or financial burden that we feared. We thought we couldn't give our child a decent life even if we had him/her. The thing is, for the small price of some embarassment/shame and inconvenience, we could have given a family without a child a chance to have a child to love and raise, we could have given that child an opportunity to grow and seek happiness, even with obstacles to overcome. Instead, many of us chose a more selfish route, convincing ourselves it was less selfish. Anyway, that's how I feel about it. How about you.
anonymous herpes survey - sm
How common do you think it is? I think it is very, very common. Statistics show it affects about 1 in 3 people. Do you know anyone who has it? (self included?)
I know a few people who have it.
If receiving anonymous help, prayers,
painting him out to be a monster, talking to parishioner or WHATEVER contributes in any way to get her one more step toward out, then she should try it all. Things are simply not as cut and dried in the world of abuse as you would like to think. You never know what turn of a phrase or sense of inspirational support (even if it is coming from strangers) is going to do the trick, so anybody looking from the outside in should try everything they know. Also, especially with kids involved, this is no time to throw caution to the wind in such a volatile and potentially violent or, God forbid, fatal situation.
maybe it's anonymous because the person knows you would say Not True.
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I used star77 to block anonymous
callers but it doesn't work for those who put the phone number on caller ID. It has really gotten bad in the last few weeks. I work nights and they start at 9 am and go on all day. I'm on the no call list but really would like to block all toll free numbers. Any one know how to do that? I have digital phone through Time Warner.
Can you do an anonymous call rejection on the cell? nm
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Anonymous was me....I had accidentally used the wrong name on my post...nm
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Dang it, my posts keep automatically putting anonymous....sm
It is me though.
As far as I am concerned, that was the
She was a terrible mother, a drug addict and general white trash who screwed her way into some money and fame. I think that putting her son on that reality show was akin to abuse and the daughter might now have a chance at a normal life, money or no. Everyone on the news is acting like she was Mother Theresa, when in truth she made all of her own problems and problems for everyone around her. I have no sympathy for anyone involved, but do hope the best for her daughter. As far as those 2 screwballs who claim to be the father, they both probably see $$$ signs. The baby should go to an actual normal and loving home to be raised as a normal child! I am sick of hearing what a great gal she was, because she was not and her being dead does not change that!
Very concerned about you....sm
There is nothing "cool" about an eating disorder! You may want to lose weight, but that is not the way to go nor would it get you the attention you want. I think you definitely need to seek some help. Why don't you talk with your family doctor to start.
I think she is concerned because she is trying to get - sm
pregnant, and if her periods are irregular it will make that much more difficult.
No one will ever by more concerned about your/your
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If you are really concerned,
which I would certainly be, you could call Patient Relations at the hospital and set up a meeting to discuss things. That is a huge mistake and according to HIPAA I would think it should be reported and documented, not necessarily by you but the staff. It's not as if you are trying to get someone "in trouble" but you could tell them you are concerned and want to make sure the opposite doesn't happen. What if someone would have authorized comfort measures for your father instead of real treatment? That is potentially a very serious matter that I think the hospital would want to know about, if they don't already.
And I don’t consider you concerned....
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Should I be concerned sm
My 9 y/o son tells me that a boy on his bus (we'll call him Joe) who my son doesn't like him because of picking on kids i think, had been suspended from school for pulling a knife on someone. This boy is in the 5th grade. I asked the bus driver about this and she said yes he did do this but "Joe" wasn't the instigator it was the other boy who said to "Joe" that he was going to kill him and I don't know what else this other boy said. So this other boy was suspended for the rest of the school year. Now, should I be concerned that the school didn't let us know anything about this incident, or am I overreacting? I don't know the whole story, but this "Joe" rides the bus with my kids and supposedly pulls a knife on someone. That worries me. So I just don't know if I should say something or not. I'm glad the school suspended the boy for the rest of the school year. It's just kind of scary, this is elementary we are talking about and it's K through 6th grade. The bus drive said they are supposed to be "hush hush" about it. Obviously it got out somehow because my son told me about it.
Thanks for listening and any input you might have.
If you are concerned about not seeing GC
look into grandparent's rights now. Lawyers do not have to cost a lot of money either. Search for legal aid and your county online. From what I understand GP rights are pretty cut and dry, usually 1 weekend a month, and your son's visitation has nothing to do with your rights as a GP.
I'm more concerned about
the bussing issue and the younger kids being exposed to the older kids. My kids have learned so much. I'm not saying they don't watch TV, but I monitor what they're watching. My kids watch primarily Disney and Nick. My younger ones certainly didn't know about sex until they changed the bussing issue.
While childcare is an issue for a lot of other parents, fortunately for me I work from home. I actually don't mind sleeping in an extra hour or 2. My concern in this regard is the fact that they're tacking on all these extra days at the end of the year when it's hot and we don't have central air for these kids. I know that we didn't have A/C when I was a kid, but the weather has changed a lot since then. We actually had to dismiss early last year because of the heat.
I really think that this superintendent has too much power and is making changes that the parents are not in agreement with. I know there is a school board election, but I don't know much more, like when the elections are, etc. What's the timeline for school board members, i.e. how long do they sit and when are they elected? Do they have to be re-elected or do they get to stay on until they decide to leave? Is there a parent advocate to help mediate some of these situations? I don't usually get too involved in the small-town politics, but I think it might be time to at least go to the meetings and see what's going on. I don't want to wait until it's too late and then sit back and complain because I didn't do anything.
Thanks for responding!
I would be concerned but
I have stayed there numerous times in the past and never had a problem. They have an emergency number to call if there is a problem but I've never had a problem. The only reason I am concerned now is because my fiance is concerned - he's never been and thinks it must be a dump if they don't have a 24-hour desk clerk. I have always found it to be clean and well maintained. It is a small, family owned hotel, the price is excellent but there are drawbacks - no 24 hour desk clerk being one of them. To me it is worth it, but I'm not sure the fiance is going to think so. I hope this vacation doesn't cause us problems. He left the planning to me and was quite happy when I told him the price of the room.
I'm only miserable as far as he is concerned....sm
because he is drunk 99% of the time I get to see him. It's a Merry go round we can't seem to get off. Every day ends for me with a drunk SOB picking a fight and every morning starts for him with me being PO'd at him for whatever he did the night before. The rest of my life is actually great. I have great kids, a career I love, lots of family. There's potential for wonderful life for me and the kids if I could just remove the daily alcoholic part.
Trust me, I've supported DH for 15 years. Took him to marriage counselors, begged, pleaded, tried to be understanding. This last year we risked our financial well-being to support his dream. His end of the deal was he'd have something to work for and wouldn't drink anymore. He's still drinking, and we're still waiting to see the outcome of his dream. Luckily, he and his partner just refinanced under the new corporation and we are able to pay back all the personal funds he borrowed. I've tried it all. Give him some time to go out with the guys, do activities he wants, take the vacations he wants. Doesn't matter how much I support him. DH is a taker, and he will continue to take until I literally have no more to give financially, emotionally, or physically.
It's high time I lead by example and teach my pre-teen daughters that women deserve respect, honesty, common courtesy, and contributions from their partner that contribute to their well being and well being of their family. My biggest fear is my daughter's are just going to repeat the cycle because it is all they have ever known. I am totally at peace with the fact that I have done all I can to support my husband and help him overcome his addiction. Bottom line, can't help those that don't want to help themselves, and I will not sacrifice my children to keep trying.
Oh, I would suppose they would not be concerned but
if they had a touch of this (if this is what is going on with me) the pain is almost unbearable. I did take 1000 mg of ibuprofen yesterday along with Hydrocodone, nothing helped, in agony really. I am thinking possibly my fibromyalgia has converted over to this now. I could not get in to see my physician today- know if this is what is going on not life threatening- only can cause so much horrific pain hard to make it through a day. I hear sitting exacerbates- great for a transcriptionist, huh?
It's not the noise I'd be concerned about
Is she wearing a helmet that fits? There are daily accidents with children on ATVs. I'm sure she's probably not going fast, but an accident can happen even at 5 mph. If she should happen to flip the ATV, which can happen on an incline at any speed, your daughter could be killed. I don't mean to sound so grim, but it's something to be aware of.
We have an ATV. My 3 boys do ride with their dad and do wear helmets, but it's something I wish I'd never allowed to start. Every time they get on, I feel like I have to hold my breath until they're off.
You're more concerned about how much it cost
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I'd write on there....sm
Sorry for your loss. I know I cannot feel the pain that you feel. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you.
Whatever you say/write do NOT say...
Something along the lines of 'they're in a better place' or 'at least they aren't suffering'. Trust me, that isn't nice to hear when you lose a child because you really can't imagine a better place than in your loving arms.
Give your friend a big hug and just let her know you are here for her. Be there for her to talk about the baby to/with when she needs it. So many people are uncomfortable listening to a grieving mother talk about her lost baby, but that is something that really helps to process it all, at least it was very helpful for me.
So sorry another knows the pain. 
Lol.. I know. I was like.. did I write that, lol
Great minds think alike, right? :) I like Melinda, too. She's the only who I enjoy actually listening to week after week.
That should be write.......nm
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If you are that concerned about a potential love interest
check out abika.com. There are a million ways to find information on someone - for a price. There is no such thing as protected privacy anymore. Remember, though, saavy suitors can find the same information about your mom in the same way. She doesn't have to know you are doing it either. They have one section where all you need is their screen name from one of maybe 3 or 4 of the major dating sites to start a search.
I don't know the answer about the SS benefits.
But you are more concerned about her feelings than the life of your cats
Sounds like you care more for her dog and her feelings than your cats. Sorry if your feelings are hurt for people getting upset with you but that is a lot less than what your cats felt. There is no suggestion you can give her as it is apparent that she will not take them. Plain and simple -- it will not stop and if you get more cats you are asking for it. So either accept the situation as it and beware that it may next be you or your child or your dog or do something about and that is getting rid of the dog or keeping it in a fenced situation.
Because it seems as though you are more concerned about her feelings than the life of an animal
Since you no longer have any cats there should be no problem until they attack a member of your family and then we can go through all of this again. Why are her dogs more important than your cats -- because she treats them like children -- come on get realistic. Not only were your cats providing a service for your family they were older and had been there longer and deserve better treatment and loyality than what you are giving them. Again, since you no longer have cats and do not expect to get any more why do you need any solutions until these dogs do it to someone elses animals that will take action against them or your SIL. And putting them in a 8 x 12 foot run is not that bad -- lots better then letting then "run at large". Again I am just going by what your attitude --not much concern about the death of two cats but really concerned about hurting someone's feelings. Good luck.
I'm concerned that you were typing & weren't watching your 6 yr old.
I would write an e-mail sm
and say "I love you anyway!"
That's it! Whatever happens, happens. You can not control how other people act or react, nor can you change people. So, you need to just love like you always do and move on from whatever is hurting you.
Best of luck to you and many blessings!
If people are able to write something
I would think many of them would be comments that since she hasn't been a good influence, he should at least let her be a terrible warning!
Ha!
call them - they might even write it off.....
I am never late paying my bills, but ONE time BOA (bank of america) Visa didn't get my bill when they should have - and they charged me $39 late fee - I called them, because I pay the bill in full every month and it's HIGH......I told them, since I always pay it in full, that I insist they reverse that charge because I sent it 10 days prior, and if they wouldn't (because at first they were hemming and hawing) - I would take my business elsewhere -
don't you know THEY IMMEDIATELY REVERSED THE LATE FEE.....
Give them a call, the worst they'll say is no, and you'll argue, and perhaps they'll then say yes.....we'll reverse it..........
How about the sentence I had to write
Actucally it was a paragraph and I still remember it. Guess I was in trouble a lot.
This year in the sixth grade I will practice self-control by being curtious and polite in the halls and on the playgound.
Each infraction was 25 times.
LOL - see what they 'right' - or write. And I do QA! nm
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I could write a book (sm)
But where do I start? I have an ex-husband and had 3 dogs, one of which was incredibly loyal to him even though he never lived in the house since her birth. All she had to hear was, Daddy's coming over tonight, and she would just stare out the window until he arrived.
Well, I moved and only could take 2 dogs, so I told him he had to take Clara (it was a lie, but I felt like they needed each other LOL).
He lives in an efficiency and when he went to work, she managed to do all kinds of crafty things when he was gone.... like taking a half-full can of Diet Coke, spilling in on the bed, and then covering it up with the blankets...
She can get into child-proof locks on the cabinets. He has to put the garbage in his car every day. She opens up the coffee container and just leaves it for him... like... okay... see what I can do?
She is the smartest dog I've seen in my life. When they visit, I swear, she understands what I'm saying.
But the most incredible thing is how she loves him.
He did some Internet searches for things to keep dogs with separation anxiety busy. Remember, she was here with her siblings and me all the time. You might want to check that out. One idea was stuffing an apple with peanut butter. He finally resorted to just leaving the jar open. The cage isn't really a bad idea either if it's a young pup.
One more story... He was walking her and an unleashed dog attacked her. He managed to separate them and get someone to get Clara back in the house, but the door didn't shut tightly. He was still holding the unleashed dog and she bounded out out to defend him. She ended up getting ripped up with over 40 stitches. He's convinced she only came back out for his sake.
Anyhow, sorry for going on, but if any suggestions below don't work (I didn't read them), do a search or email me and I'll give you his email so he might give you some tips.
I was just thinking today how my life revolves around my dogs. I really don't even like leaving the house because I know they hate it. If I miss one of their 'scheduled' walks, I feel guilty. I do have more of a life than my dogs, but... you know... ;-)
i write checks
only when I have to, but I have adorable checks. I know it takes a BIT longer, but now with the new "slide your own card, then type 100 keys just to say OK to the transaction" it's about the same time, if you really think about it.
The thing about people stopping in the middle of an aisle OMG why why WHY do they do that? GET OUT OF THE WAY, MOVE TO THE SIDE, BE CONSIDERATE!!! im with you on that one
So that's why they can't read and write!! Now I know
Instead of teaching them the fundamentals, it is more important for our schools to teach them to be tolerant, and to love. That will get them a good paycheck, What was I thinking! Guess I was dreaming when I heard about the separation of church and state.
Glad to hear that it was not a spider bite. I was concerned
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I'm so happy it wasn't spider bite. Been concerned about you.
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I'm getting concerned. I've had a muscle spasm under my left eye
At first it was just an annoyance even though it was constant, now it's really worrying me because it does it non stop. Any thoughts? Thanks
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