Wow, sounds like you want to jump right into the fire.
Posted By: MSMT on 2007-06-16
In Reply to: interest-only payment - Luke S.
I wouldn't do it. Way too expensive. Y'all are probably young. I would sleep on it for several, several nights.
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Sounds like the MIL is the one fueling the fire!!
I have the world's greatest MIL! I could marry 50 more men and not have a MIL like her!! She is my BFF! She thinks and acts as if I'm her own daugher (she only had 2 sons). But I will tell you this, more than likely the MIL is the source of the problem and stabbing you in the back worse than you think. Sounds like she may be where all the animosity is coming from. Sorry to say, but she probably thinks you aren't "good enough" for her son. (you know how Mama's boys are) I would definately DEMAND that my hubbie take up for me or I would send him home packing to his Mama!
Darlin', I saw fight fire with fire. Oh, I know, it's not being the "bigger person" BU
it's better than keeping it all inside and letting it fester. Your MIL sounds like mine and your DH sounds like mine as well. My husband doesn't want to deal with his mother, so he pretends he doesn't notice anything she says or does and the same goes for my FIL. He knows how is wife is, but he just ignores it. My husband will tell me privately "oh, you know how my mom is." For about the first year of marriage, I bit my tongue with his mother. But when I saw that my DH was never going to stand up for me, I decided to start biting back. She would say stuff like "You like you've put on a little weight, sweetie." and I'd say "you look like you've put on a few years."
My MIL and I have full on yell fests sometimes. We don't speak to each other for weeks or months because we're mad, but we always make up. Also, my DH has come around too. He has gotten to where instead of ignoring comments that his mother makes, before I can come back at her, he'll jump in and let her know that what she said was not acceptable. So now there are less fights because mommy doesn't like to be called out by her baby boy.
I think for a long time my MIl was just jealous of me because she was the main woman in her son's life for years and that changed when I came into the picture. So she turned every family gathering into a competition for her son's attention. I hated the first years, but now being married 16 years, I really don't care if she gets all his attention when we get together. Let her fix his food and tell him how great he is. Gives me the day off. 
Don't jump...
Please don't jump to a hasty decision. Like has been said before, think everything through before making a rash decision you might soon regret. Dr. Phil says, *if you think the marriage is hard, just wait til the divorce.* I've been on both sides of this fence, without going into detail, and it can work out. And honestly, I had the same sort of relationship your husband says he did; we did see each other for a while, but did not have sex, didn't even come close. Please, email me if you need to talk, because truly, I have been there...it can work out and make you and your marriage even stronger...cross my heart!
get up and jump up and down
Go take a walk for 10 minutes or so. Good luck!
I had a guy jump right in front of me
As if he didn't see me. I didn't want to make a scene, but I thought it was very rude. I absolutely hate cell phone usage in public. It is very annoying. I will purposefully make noise to interrupt. I think cell phone usage while driving should be banned as well. Most people are not paying the least bit of attention when they are driving and talking on a cell phone. It is worse than driving drunk in my opinion.
I'm not going to jump on your case about this sm
But I wonder why you think these kids need to be told now? Has something happened that makes you think that someone besides their parents might let it slip? If that is the case, then maybe you need to talk to the parents about it and tell them that so-and-so found out and isn't good at keeping secrets, or whatever the case may be.
In any case, if you talk to anyone about this, talk to the parents.
Sorry to jump in late, but something else to try...
Massage therapy! I go every week, but during my PMS days (and I get it BAD!!) I make sure I tell my therapist (been going to her for over 4 years now and she really knows me) I am having PMS. She does some extra focus on my head and neck area for that session and I promise you it helps relax me more and does take some of it away. One time I went to her with severe cramps in tears and shaking with pain and they went away completely before I got off her table. She also tells me to focus on my breathing when I find myself getting bent out of shape. Easier said than done, I know. Best of luck to you. :-)
I'm gonna have to jump out on a ...
limb here and say that you don't deserve the two kids that you have since you aren't talking to one because of money and you get mad at your other child for calling you and asking if you are upset. OMG......seriously. Get your head checked!
Jump off a bridge already.
I find myself wishing that toward all the pedophiles I've been typing about lately. My heart just aches for their victims. I'm so disgusted by what they do, have done, that I just about puke by the end of the notes. As soon as this shift is over, I'm taking a hot shower to help wash away my disgust. 
Jump rope.
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Well just jump in there with your concerns..
All men are created equal. It is understood that the "women" are included.
I just want to jump in here and perhaps clarify.
I think it's a common belief that the Catholic Church believes marriage outside the Church is sinful. Actually, the Church labels it as non-sacramental. The Catholic Church makes no ruling on the legality of marriages. In other words, if you've followed the laws where you live, and you have a marriage license, you're married civilly. Divorce, also, is a civil matter that is dealt with in the courts.
Catholic annulments, for instance, do not determine whether or not a couple was actually married, but whether or not the couple entered into a sacramental marriage.
A sacramental marriage must take place in a Catholic church, is witnessed by a priest or deacon, etc. Couples married outside of the Church can receive what is commonly called a "blessing", but it is actually their entering into the sacramental state of marriage according to the Church. If their married according to the law where they live, then they are civilly married, and the Church recognizes it as a legal marriage.
Some people consider it a lot of hoop-de-doo, I suppose. But it's part of the faith and tradition of the Catholic Church, and so it should be respected in the same way that people respect the Amish living apart from the modern world.
So, yes, if a couple is married outside of the Catholic Church, the church recognizes their marriage as legal. It doesn't recognize it as sacramental.
It's a topic that others explain better than I. So I apologize if I've actually made the issue more confusing.
True Christians do not do this, that's why I jump all over them. LOL
A true Christian does not feel the need to preach nor should they.
Only the ones trying to recruit through brainwash do the preaching
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He had pneumonia, let's not jump to judgement here,,
If he starts by helping himself, I will jump in. He saw
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Finish from above: As they jump off the cliff.
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Go jump through your window, Chuck.
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If Cindy's parents let her jump off a bridge would you do it too.
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I grab my CD player and jump around to good music...
as it really does help! It gets my heart pumping and totally wakes me up. I've been doing that for years. Just put your headphones on and go!
Needing A Mental/Emotional Jump Start
You good people are probably as good to ask as anybody although if we had a philosophy board, it might be better. My question is Why? Why are we killing ourselves? And I mean this in the broader sense than just the MT industry. I have an ex (46 years old) who is an alcoholic. He lives waaaaaaay out in a very rural area. He owns his own house, land, and a lot of horses, something he acquired 20 years ago when he had a really really good job. He has a regular income now of about $1000/month from CDs, primarily funded from an industrial accident about 10 years ago.
Anyway, neither he nor any of his friends work. They sit around, start drinking at noon and light their first joint, and just drink steadily until passing out around 2 AM. They play horseshoes, cribbage, shoot pool, shoot the breeze, joy ride, poach deer, etc. His house is kind of a dump (jiggle the toilet handle, turn on the tub water with pliers, no windows that open) and lots of projects undertaken while drunk, some done, many half finished. As they say, the Lord provides for fools and drunks, and that seems to be the case here, as he never goes hungry, has never had to do without his vices because of money, etc. Somehow, something always falls into his lap when he needs it, and I'm not talking $20...he'll rent a chunk of land to a farmer for several K and gets all caught up, or he sells some old fencing and gets a grand. He bought a couple of timeshares years and years ago so he takes these great vacations a couple of times a year where the lodging is only $150/week.
I had to leave because I just couldn't stand the lifestyle (I don't drink, smoke pot, or shoot pool), but I'm wondering why. I'm killing myself working 2 jobs to keep the roof over my head and maintain even a meager quality of life, and while I don't have the drunken projects he does, my house is no palace. If it weren't for my kids chipping in and helping, my car would have been reclaimed by the finance company a couple months ago.
So I'm having a hard time hanging on to my motivation lately. There's probably some jealousy involved, but it's also making me wonder why I bother. If I really wanted to, he would probably take me back and there are moments that I wonder 'Why not?'. What is wrong with the way he is living? Footloose and fancy free without a care in the world?
How do you find the strength/will to go on plugging away when it would be so easy to fall into the idiot/drunk category and just the Lord take care of everyday existence like he does for the ex?
Someone should set THEM on fire -sm
That is totally infuriating. Too bad the 3 months *confinement* doesn't include being confined to a burn ward with 3rd-degree-burns over 75% of THEIR bodies. At the very le3ast, they should be made to sit through watching someone in the tubs at a burn ward getting their skin pulled off piece by piece. Might be a real eye-opener. Also, I think their parents should be liable for the kitten's vet bills.
A few months ago there was a horrible video on YouTube where some jerk in the Philippines (who must've been missing more than a few chromosomes, just like those girls!)lit a caged rat on fire in the same manner. Then, as if that weren't bad enough, he took another caged rat and poured boiling water on it. When that didn't quite kill it, he set it on fire. I went after that guy with a vengeance... got his video pulled from YouTube, (and hopefully him banned from it permanently). Also got on some of the internet forums in the Philippines and tried to track him down so that cruelty charges could be filed against him, pointing out that people who torture & kill animals often go on to start doing it to humans...
Cotati isn't far from where I live, and there is also a man in that area that *adopts* kittens from the free ads and on Craigslist, and tortures & kills them. People have been trying to get that guy put away, but it's been an uphill battle.
But to fire someone for
wishing someone Merry Christmas? That's what I'm talking about. God forbid anyone says the word, "Christ." I wonder how long it will take before "In God We Trust" is removed from our money.
Maybe if you start a fire in your
fireplace, your swamp cooler will be more effective!
Either that or get a dehumidifier.
I hate humidity also, and here I am in NC. Would you believe that when people are sick they sometimes run HUMIDIFIERS HERE?? Makes no sense to me when they could just step outside most of the time, and we have enough fungus amongus, LOL.
Big fire pit with table
and snowshoes.
Where there is smoke, there is fire...
Someone said consider the source. So let's consider the source...
You don't know her and she doesn't know you. Why would she seek you out to lie to you?
Apparently your husband does know her and was going to warn you beforehand that she might try to stir up trouble. Why would she pick your marriage to stir up trouble in? What bone of contention does she have with your husband? What is his relationship with her?
And if there is nothing to what she says as your husband suggests and that she is just trying to "stir up trouble" then why did he feel he needed to warn you?
Sounds to me like he's covering his bases. Personally, I think you husband has a lot of explaining to do and this advice of "keep quiet and take notes" is bunk. Don't be the victim. Listen to what your gut is telling you. Something smells in your situation and I bet it's coming from hubbie.
Trust me when I say, men can look their wives in the eye and lie without batting an eye and when caught in a lie, they will practically hurt themselves trying to rationalize and justify. Whatever is going on with your husband, you cannot deny that there are rumors out there that your husband feels he needs to squelch. That's troublesome by itself. Why would someone make up rumors about him?
Don't excuse him, don't treat him with kid gloves. Confront him and find the truth. You'll know it when you hear it.
He can light my fire! ;)
The Australian guy that sang the Doors song 'Light My Fire' is GOOD-LOOKING. Doesn't hurt that he sounds good also ;)
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I don’t fire off the questions because
most physicians now just try to race through because having to make that quota. But back to him asking you to have a sleep study, first of all you can refuse to have any test done you don’t want to have done. I refuse to weigh in my doctor's office. That is not really information basically needed (unless having anesthesia or dye injected for MRI say). Has any family member stated to you about excessive snoring, that being a reason you would need to have the study done. I did have a young niece to die from sleep apnea so in that case with loud, excessive snoring that you have heard about, then I would ask for it myself. I just turned down a nerve conduction study the other day. The neurologist said he oculd not treat; therefore why have it just then.
I'd fire that doctor in a nannosecond...sm
there's no reason at all for a doctor to act like that, much less your husband!
Most of us survived chicken pox just fine as kids. Having the vaccine doesn't guarantee you won't get it - it just reduces the chance of getting it (i.e. some people who get the flu shot get the flu anyway).
Keep the lotions and potions on your child and you'll get through this.
You are playing with fire and someone is going to get burned. sm
Infedility by any means is not moral and it is not right. Your husband has every right to be upset, as would I if my husband were doing the same. I'm not condemning you, I'm saying what I would tell anyone. In fact, my best friend brought a guy to the movies with us the other night and she is MARRIED. Needless to say, I was very upset and called her after the movie and told her I didn't think that was very cool.
I bet you 99% of the responders to this post will agree that what you are doing is not right.
It's just exciting and fun right now and not at all worth it in the end. If your husband finds out he may never respect or trust you ever again.
Also, what helps me if I ever, ever get an inkling to stray (which has happened once in our 10-year marriage), is to think about ALL my husband has been through with me and put up and has done for me (which is A LOT), and eventually the "other guy" just doesn't seem that appealing anymore. It actually made me cry when I began thinking of all my husband has done for me and my child (I was married once before we met).
Anyways, you have to stop it. Leading a double life weighs very heavy on your conscience. It's no fun. Not good for your health.
Oh, one more thing! Why is he single, if he is? He's probably a jerk. He ditched you once, right? If he's willing to hang on to you even though he knows you are married? He's not worth it, girl.
I grew up with fire ants and believe me sm
You KNOW when you've been bitten. They aren't called fire ants for nothing. We do think it might be insect(s) from the tree we bought (see post "something occurred to us").
Wow! You're sure a ball of fire! nm
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birthday/fire hall
What fire department in the US allows smoking indoors? I really don't need to know. I'm sorry you had to endure that. Cat
Hi Cat! I was told it was at a fire hall, but actually was SM
more like a legion, etc. Hope you know what I mean. . much smaller than the fire hall which was down the street. I got lost three times, was not familiar with the town, even though it is not far from where I live, etc. Wow. . what a day. Thanks for caring. It is now 12:50 a.m. and my eyes are actually still burning!!
fire at school, i was not contacted
Here's what happened: I dropped my third-grader off at 8:20 this morning. A group of us moms who drop off their kids meet at a little coffee shop just down the street. I leave the coffee shop at 9:30 a.m., return home, check my voice mail (none), and then leave to run an errand (taking my elderly neighbor to the garage to pick up her repaired car). It's now just after 10 a.m. On the car radio, (from an out-of-town radio station, not local) I hear that my child's school has been evacuated due to a fire and school has been dismissed.
I immediately pull the car to the side of the road and call one of the mom's I had just had coffee with, asking her if she had been called by the school. She had not. So, I turn the car around and start racing back to school. My brother then calls me (his daughter is in the same grade, same school, as my boy), stating that he has picked up our children and is taking them to grandma's house. He said he had only heard it from his girlfriend who heard it on the radio and called him.
Last year, we had to fill out this form stating who was okay to pick up our kids from school in case of emergency. My brother was on that list from last year, but this year we were not supplied with one of those forms to fill out. What if things had changed? What I had decided he was no longer to be on that list?
Anyhow, I get home, check my voice mail again, still none. On the noon news, the story is there, stating the children have been evacuated and bussed home. How many kids got sent to a home with parents away at work? How many kids waited to get picked up by non-contacted parents? Isn't there supposed to be an emergency system which can contact 900 parents in a timely fashion? I am really miffed. Everything is alright, but this was a fiasco.
In case of a fire and no keys
I would go through the window but not in a situation like this, different case altogether.
You're not alone. According to the fire marshal,
our house fire was my fault. I left a burner on and went out the door. I was in such a hurry (as usual) to pick up my kids that I didn't turn it off the whole way. The house went up in flames and everything with it. The first thing the kids said when we moved in our new house was, "Mom, I don't think you should operate the stove." Thanks, guys. Like I don't feel guilty enough. But I'm learning to laugh at myself again. Can't keep beating myself up over it. Everyone was safe and that's the most important thing.
Such as how much nuclear fire-power you have....
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Great balls of fire! sm
That $540 could pay a month's rent for some families. Or feed a third-world family of five for a year!
Sheesh! Michelle may be a shoe addict, to which I can relate, but she's gonna get flamed for this one.....
Oh, great balls of fire! sm
When I was 25 years or so younger and still fairly pretty, I ran into a situation like that, only the man was divorced. He even showed me his divorce decree. However, he failed to mention his live-in girlfriend. When I found that out in a very short time, I excised him from my life like a space-occupying lesion. But for crying out loud, that sux! In a way, it almost seems worse than being disloyal to one's legal wife. E-ew!
A house on the next block is on fire. Winds are
about 20 mph and I lost track of the number of firetrucks have responded. Just last night our community had a benefit concert for another family that lost their house to fire just before Thanksgiving. Hopefully everyone is safe and the fire doesn't spread.
Don't do myself, but look at Fire Mountain Gems on line &
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Mine slept through fire alarm
My 16-year-old daughter sleeps like the dead. A couple of years ago the fire alarm went off in the middle of the night and it was absolutely blaring in her room, and she SLEPT THROUGH IT! Needless to say, an alarm doesn't work. I not only wake her up, I physically pick her up out of bed and stand her on her feet. I honestly don't know what she will do when she goes off to college. No problems with my 18-year-old. By the way, I don't do very many other things for them - they are self-sufficient. But this is a practical matter.
Isn't it illegal to fire someone for observing their own religion? nm
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There was fire at Turkey Point. Grid went down sm
in Miami, so that began domino effect with other grids getting overloaded and then shutting down.
tub bath outside in sun or cozy in front of fire
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cozy/fire....Thanksgiving or Christmas?
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Fire pit, dogs, smores and fireworks here. Have Barbie
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Monte Carlo Casino in Vegas on fire see it on
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bread with spagetti sauce and cheese, over the fire
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Heat Surge electric fire place
I posted a few weeks ago about an article I saw for a Heat Surge electric fireplace with a wooden mantle built by the Amish.
Well I received it about 1.5 wks ago and I must say that it is absolutely beautiful! It is virtually noiseless, I seriously cannot hear it running at all. The brightness of the flame is adjustable and it has a low and a high heat setting. Best of all, it works! It does exactly what I had planned on and keeps the back of my house at a reasonable tempurature during the night so I do not have to worry about keeping the wood stove in the front going full blast all night.
The kids turned it on one evening when they were playing pool and they actually ended up turning it off because it got to warm.
So in my opinion, if you want something that is beautiful, well built, safe, and does provide more than enough heat for a room or two (mine is between the family room/kitchen which is all one long room) then it is absolutely worth the money.
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