Working hard here
Posted By: JBourne on 2009-02-05
In Reply to: I've noticed - EmmTee
I have been on a couple times to see what is going on but it is quiet. I've been working nonstop though. In fact so much I stepped away from the computer for the first time in 4 hours.
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hard working marriage
I wish I could say I never had to work at my marriage also but fact is it has been the most difficult thing I have ever done. No, I would NOT go back and do it all again. However, I made a committment and I am going to stick with my vow as long as I possibly can. It has been 17 years now. I am not totally miserable, we have joy and happiness and three beautiful children. My husband just has a TON of baggage and has not dealt with it and logical decisions do not come easy to him. He's not as giving as I thought he was, but then I have my parents' marriage, that's what I saw growing up and that's what I got.
I missed but said wrong in working so hard
abd much when children growing up- that did not stop me from being involved but had to work a lot to make ends meet. I probably should have gotten on welfare and then more time to spend with the kids.
Hard to do but it's working is eat only when hungry & stop when the sensation is gone. Really
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So sorry about your working but
I was asked if I would, my regular day off but since no small kids and celebrating later in the day anyway, really made no difference this morning. Am also not employee so could have turned them down but I realized years ago that with children you want to be able to spend Christmas morning with them so think most of the time I was off. I read on these posts supposedly you make your own hours not being an employee, right?
Working??
And just what exactly is it that you are doing, if you don't mind my asking??? Ever hear of the saying, "the pot calling the kettle black"?
working out
Don't worry so much about what the scale says but go by how your clothes fit. I've worked out most of my adult life and threw my scale away. I weigh myself once per week at the gym. If you continue your working out as you describe, you will find that you will weigh more than you think you should, but you will fit into a smaller size. For ex, I'm 5ƈ". In my head I would think my ideal weight should be about 125 but have found my ideal work-out weight is 142 which puts me in a size 10...which is ok with me. Good luck!
Who's working anyway?
The population of this country is 300 million.
160 million are retired.
That leaves 140 million to do the work.
There are 85 million in school.
Which leaves 55 million to do the work.
Of this there are 35 million employed by the federal government.
Leaving 15 million to do the work.
2.8 million are in the armed forces preoccupied with killing Osama Bin-Laden.
Which leaves 12.2 million to do the work.
Take from that total the 10.8 million people who work! for state and city governments.
And that leaves 1.4 million to do the work.
At any given time there are 188,000 people in hospitals.
Leaving 1,212,000 to do the work.
Now, there are 1,211,998 people in prisons.
That leaves just two people to do the work.
You and me.
And there you are,
sitting at your computer, reading jokes.
Nice. Real nice.
Have fun - I''m working......nm
LOL
another working here too
going to fireworks tonight though and to a free movie in the morning...getting up early to work, cookout...swim...happy 4th and GOD BLESS AMERICA!!!
Is it only when you are working?
Or does it happen other times? My daughter's friend has some weird thing where she cannot drive because she starts to fall asleep, but it only happens when she is driving. Or maybe your job has just gotten too boring! LOL.
You might be working too much
When you exercise, they always have you alternate days between aerobics and strength training because the muscles you use need a rest between uses. Without the proper rest between, you're not allowing the muscles to recover, which leads to chronic overuse and ultimately, pain.
Ha, just working. I am used
to every time I get up to get a drink or go to the bathromo, I always light a cigarette. That's the part I'm really fighting, but haven't given in. I really have to quit; tired of coughing all night long! Have been smoking for about 25 years adn figure it's way past time!
what's working for me
My biggest problem is that the strands of my hair are very, very fine. Had a hair stylist tell me that was caused by hollow follicles and poor diet. (well, I KNOW I eat awful but am trying to at least get in more water and less caffeine now). I have no idea if she's right or not about the hollow follicle thing, but -- I went to Sally Beauty and found Folicure vitamins for hair. I'm sure there are plenty of other brands out there. I figured if it was a root problem it might take a while to see a difference (my hair is about 2 inches past my shoulders). I have been taking the vitamins for a little over 2 months. Hair is not thicker yet but seems stronger and healthier in appearance.
I also suffer from dry, brittle, frizzy hair - especially in winter. The wonderfully helpful lady at Sally Beauty also recommended several months ago Excelsior's Millennia Mudd. You use it after shampooing instead of conditioner, let it sit for several minutes, and then rinse out. It has DRASTICALLY improved my hair. I used it every day (she said this was safe to do) for a couple weeks and really noticed a difference. Once I felt my hair was improving I cut back to 3-4 times a week now. It has eliminated my split ends and makes my hair feel incredibly soft.
Lastly, the same hair stylist gave me this recommendation - of course, she was trying to sell me the pricy salon product but I said no and went to Walmart for a product that fit my budget better. She said to apply a thick, creamy, leave-in conditioner on the "ends" - meaning about half the length of my hair. Not to the roots as then it would look oily or greasy. This you leave in and do not rinse out. I have been using Nexxus Humectress Ultimate Moisturizing Conditioner. Now, my hair is also naturally curly so if I brush my hair out after drying it still fluffs up considerably (kids say I'm a poodle) BUT, it is not brittle feeling and it not breaking off when I try to comb it. (I got a free sample of Fruictese -- sp?? -- version of leave-in cream conditioner - it fells kinda sticky or tacky or something. Did not like it as well.)
Sorry, that was a little long-winded. This combination seems to be working well for me. Hope it helps you too.
um, then why are you working and he is not?
and why so many cruises, they are disgusting, food poisoning, people germs, body odor all crammed together, and someone thinks it's fun.
What is working for me
Sorry to butt in, just thought I'd share what has been working for me. I have ankle/foot pain from a bad break, so walking a lot is difficult. So, I bought a recumbent stationary bike. I've been 'riding' that for about 30 minutes a day (started out at 5 and worked my way up). I've lost about 12 pounds since Thanksgiving and that's with all the holiday eating! Not sure if it will work for you because of your knee pain, but for me it's better than walking.
I have been working
a non-MT job for about 3 weeks now.
I decided after 5 years of MT that I was becoming very anti-social and depressed. I couldn't take being home alone all day long anymore, so I went to a staffing agency and asked what they could do for me.
I wanted a position in a hospital or doctor's office, but was so eager to get out that I told them I would take anything.
I am an administrative assistant now at a non-medical place of business and I LOVE it. When I look back on my days of feeling like a hermit, I almost cry. I have become a completely different person in a matter of weeks.
Good luck to you! It's amazing what a little socialization can do for the mind, body, and spirit.
working, working, working!
My stepson will not be with us for Christmas morning so we celebrated early. I will be working tonight and all day tomorrow. Kinda nice to be done with the shopping, etc. while everyone else is hustling and bustling for last minute things. We were invited to the in-laws for Christmas dinner tomorrow night and I was asked (yesterday) to bring sweet potatoes so I will be running to the store this afternoon to get those but that's it. Hubs and I may go see a movie tomorrow afternoon as a treat to ourselves.
Try working with her-
I myself got a very young kitten from my housekeeper and she is like the Tasmanian devil but I love her with a passion. Maybe you should have gotten an older cat if you wanted 1 like Garfield, 1 that sleeps and sorta stays out of the way. My kitten has just reached the age of spaying but she has been into everything here in the home. I have had to kitten proof everything- she gets up on everything from the living room table to end tables. I have bought scatmats that I have on my kitchen table and countertops. I have tried the water bottles, 2 sided tape, chicken wire on some tables to keep her off. She is a rascal but - I love her and know she will grow out of this and plan on keeping. My bedroom door stays closed when I am out of there to keep my cats out. I will work with my girl because just too many unwanted animals out there - I do not consider them throw aways. I would just say to keep the bedroom door shut. I have not found anything really that deters mine yet- I know 1 day she is going to be that beautiful grown up tabby and well past the kitten stage.
I'm working it -
I am currently working full time at home, which is not giving me much work, part time in a hospital, and going to school full time. I do not have time to add anything else and guess what - my bills are not getting paid!
I am a month behind on my rent and my check this time is a third of what I need to pay to just pay that one thing. I am behind on my power bill and because the unit was tore up last month and the company kept telling me it was not, I just got a $300 power bill for last month that I do not know how I am going to pay...
My husband is out of work due to a WC injury and barely gets enough money to pay anything besides buy some food and put gas in the car to make sure that I can get back and forth to work at that second job...
We have lost everything we had last summer, just started getting things back on track, and now this all hits again. I've done everything responsibly that I can do. The only thing left to let go is the vehicle, then how am I supposed to get to work?
And, by the way, that second job in house only pays me a third of what I make at home when there is work available, but I continue to go there because it is guaranteed hourly income and not production based.
I have no insurance. Have not been to the doctor in over 3 years (even though after my last serious GYN procedure, I was told that I had to have regular visits every 3 months).
Now what else exactly do you think I should do? There are no more hours left to do anything else!
I know how hard it is......sm
I understand what you're saying. God didn't give us the ability to forget, just the strength to get through it. Have you talked with your husband. Does he seem happy to have this child or has he ever said he was sorry for ever wanting that now that the child is here? Maybe if you could hear him say he was sorry for ever wanting that and couldn't imagine your child not being here, maybe that would help. Seeing true remorse in a person goes a long way in helping you deal with this.
Hard to say
If I had it to do over again, I probably would not have married my husband. He and I are not very well suited to each other at all. But then I wouldn't have my wonderful son, so I can't say I entirely regret it. And after 27 years of marriage, my husband and I finally have a great relationship, with the help of an excellent marriage counselor. What's that saying - I've been happily married for 8 years, but we were married 27 years ago. 
I'm sorry - I know it must be hard for you (sm)
I don't have experience with it, but at lesat she is making the decision and you don't have to make it. There are also assisted living facilities that are not so much a nursing home, if you think that would be an option for her. Best wishes to you.
i know it is hard to believe
but I didn't see a pay phone in the dorm. You can get a room phone installed but it is expensive. I guess that is a thought though.
Even if I could contact AIM, I don't think I would. He is 18 and really I can't tell them not to let him use his free account. He's an adult (at least in terms of the law) even if he isn't acting very mature. The way it is now, I can see if he is online and talk to him. If I did something like that he would jsut make up a new screen name that I wouldn't have at all. I just don't think that is a good idea.
This is so hard
Your dog is beautiful. I know how attached you get and how much love these little guys give us.
We just had to go through much the same thing with our 9-year-old lab, Murphy. He got pancreatitis and was very sick, started to get better, but then really took a turn for the worse. He was unable to get up and walk and just cried and cried. After a couple of days, we all decided it was best to have him euthanized. It was the hardest decision I ever had to make, but none of us could stand to watch him suffer any more. He has had this look in his eyes like he was saying let me go.
Not saying that that is the right decision for you. I think you will know in your heart when it is time. Just try to keep him as comfortable and happy as possible.
My heart goes out to you and Fox.
re: having a hard day/NC MT
It depends on where your degree is from, and where you plan to go to school. If your college credit is from a community college, it should most certainly transfer. You really have to check with a counselor from the school you wish to attend. Good luck!
I'm so sorry...I know it must be so hard (sm)
at least it has only been 8 months though...so you two have no children together, right? No having to beg for sex when you are a newlywed is not normal. I have a lot of marital issues myself thought not similar...please e-mail me if you want to talk!
7 is a hard age sm
Had a 2nd grader who was after much angst by all, diagnosed as gifted. I was able to put him in private school, quieter, excelled at everything, is now an entrepeneur and doctoral candidate. It was not easy to pay the bills, but worked harder than ever. The school had me thinking it was my parenting skills, or lack of them, his behavior, his needing more male positive image, etc., etc. If I had istened to them he would have been put in a special class with those with learning difficulties. All in all, I was crying every day. Took a lot of time and energy. Looking back, his teacher was at fault for mislabeling him and not appreciating his talent. I think he was smarter than she was. We shudder at even the mention of her name. Some don't deserve to be teaching. Don't let her be mislabeled. Thank goodness, I knew someone in the field who tested as I was transcribing his work. It's a very hard road you have in front of you. Don't be discouraged, please. Good luck with it, it's very difficult. Keep examining the whole picture. God bless you.
So sorry. I know this has to be so hard
but she obviously is in a very loving home. Take a little comfort in knowing that you gave her a wonderful life.
it must be hard
person... i mean if you have only felt the need to apologize one time that must be some sort of record. correct me if i'm wrong, but you were apologizing at that particular time even though you were not at fault?
I did it on my own. It was not hard. No one else will
It did take some time to educate myself but it was not difficult. Got Money magazine and started reading. Also read other mags. I did have someone to talk to but could have done it without this person. Also, the investment groups 800 numbers were able to answer questions I had. It was acutally fun, in an odd way, knowing I was taking care of me, without having to pay someone else to do it. And that someone else would also be paid, out of my money, for giving me advice I could find for myself.
It's so hard to know ....
It's so hard to know the truth when these stories are printed in the Enquirer and papers of that kind. I hope this is one of those stories that turn out to be just sensationalism. How sad for him if it isn't!
What's hard is that
we have been keeping all of our kids' college funds in the stockmarket. After a big hit in 2001, they were doing OK. But now that we're really having to use them, the money just isn't there.
I'm wondering if it makes more sense to keep the money in the market (waiting for recovery) and take out a loan for the college tuition.
No wonder it's so hard to get through - and why
And yet US hospitals are trusting confidential data to the people who built that tangled mess. Unbelievable.
It's really hard to tell ...
what the true tones of some of these texts are meant to be.
It seems what I am reading is saying to tell the truth in an abstract way, just not in a personal way.
If anyone cares, my kids are only 4, 5, and 8, so the subject of my experience with alcohol and sex would be totally inappropriate. I was just wondering if anyone had an experience where being truthful with their older kids (18+) about herself was helpful. Apparently not?
me too and its so hard! nm
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Not too hard for me, either.
I probably only eat meat 3 times a week as it is. I've committed to a vegetarian diet several times before in my life, and kept it up the longest for about 3 years. The thing that pulls me back to the meat eating side is hamburgers. I don't know why, but I love 'em! Really good ones... not fast food "patties". Also, I don't have any issues about not eating animals. I think some animals are quite tasty. But I can do fine without eating them, too. Were I more committed to vegetarian philosophy, I'm sure it would be a different story.
Too hard for me
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working holidays.
I am working Thanksgiving, schedule just fell that way. As far as Christmas goes, I'm am also scheduled to work, didn't request it off, but I work 3rd shift. I did request to work Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve to have a couple of days off for my brother's wedding that is 12/30. Working holidays doesn't bother me too much since I'm 3rd shift, but I could see how it would be a pain for those who are required to work and work days or 2nd.
I'm working, not by force sm
I always work Thanksgiving and Christmas (if there is work). I also work the 3rd shift which makes it easier for me to do. I love the holiday pay!
working holidays
I'm right there with ya! Love that holiday pay! lol
Then why continue working for MQ? nm
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Are you working in the evenings to
where you would not be able to pick her up at school? If it were important to the child to be in the play and someone could be on standby for a call, then try to arrange that. Do not know if I would have sent email to higher up as your daughter is in her class, no sense in it filtering down for a come back on the child perhaps.
Working At Home
For now, you could download a free Express Scribe to play your test files on. You could use the hotkeys instead of investing in a foot pedal until you know what you will need. You also can download Cute FTP. You will at least be set to test. You will need a lot of reference material to work from home. Apply, apply, apply! Your new employer will let you know what you need to work on their account. They vary widely. Good luck!
your welcome! hope it is still working for you. sm
it took about 2 weeks before she never asked for it again and forgot about it, but hey sometimes you gotta do what ever you gotta do. you know everyone says "let them cry to sleep". well my child would cry for over 2 hours and i couldn't take that anymore. never worked. it was miserable. i think after they get over 1 year old, they should be weaned because then they learn more about what it is and how to get it. too smart. yes, mine would hold onto my boobs like that too and it was too cute! then she got desperate and would "suck" beside the boo-boo and that is how i ended up with "hickies" on my boobs!stock up on those band-aids!!!!! if you are determined, stick to it, and you will need lots of them.
working out-oops!
Oops! I meant to say I'm 5ƈ".....
Where you working when this happened and
where you making enough to support the 2 children? I guess if you divorce and have small children, you just fall through the cracks as far as anything like this. You best make it on your own or else.
Were you working at the time and
when you starting drawing did you get his full benefits? Where you penalized anything on your regular job, say the gov did not pay you X amount or else you could only work X number of hours like they do with social security before your regular retirement age?
Working with Kids
Work the 3-11 shift. We home school, so in the early morning everyone gets assignments and explanations, all questions are asked and answered about the day's assignments. After this process is underway you can go in the kitchen and start dinner for late and make lunches to refrigerate Then about lunchtime, around 11 or so, you can check the work and see if there are questions. Then give out all the "quiet stuff" like reading, any math that can be done independently, and projects for when you first start your work. Write down for them any instructions or what you think they need to know so as not to interrupt you. We take a break from 12:00 to 1:30 for lunch and then allow one video game or exercise tape (which they love to do - try Dance, Dance Revolution, it is so much fun). After that, they go outside and do chores in the yard with me for one hour and then half an hour before I start I go over their "homework and chores" that they are expected to do independently. They do fine with this and I am available to talk to (unless there is something urgent) every time I take a "break." They set the table for dinner and have chores to do and if they finish in time to my satisfaction they can have another video game. I break to eat dinner with the family, we try to get the kids and husband to wash the dishes, and then I go back to work. When I take my last break I tuck them in and that is all. It works for me. They also get extra allowance if they can work independently because the more indepedent they are they more I make and I pass that long to them. Run errands only once a week and make that on your day off. Let the kids help you with that and ask them to make grocery lists of things you need. That takes an hour here, because they actually like checking around and helping plan menus. If they are good all week and keep up with their scheduled chores and school then they get a movie once a week downtown on my day off or in the summertime miniature golf or something. We also have a pool and in the summer if they get it all together they can swim for a half-hour to an hour every afternoon and I take a break for that too, of course. Swimming seems to create very tired and happy children! We also let them know what TV show, movie (or not) they are allowed to watch quietly after dinner if all the homework and chores are done. They need to know what time bath time is and to check on their clothes for the next day too and how to put away all their things and laundry. All those chores help them be better little people, better grownups some day, and helps you too. Ours also takes awesome phone messages so as not to interrupt me!
If you don't home school your kids then I assume they are gone all morning), so you just cook and clean ahead of time which is lucky for you or not, depending upon your viewpoint. If they aren't homeschooled then when they get home give them an hour or so, depending on your schedule. Give them a snack. Have them set the table, do chores, and check for homework assignments and then get with the same plan. I find that kids with a schedule do really well and then when the occasional bad day comes along and there is chaos they can actually help you out by knowing what you and they need and when you all need it! Good luck!
at home working
How many hours are you trying to work during a day? When my kids were younger I was up as early as 4 a.m., but usually done by 9 and since they weren't in school at that time, they were just getting up about that time of day . . .Late evenings, when Dad is home to watch? I never really sat and tried to do a lot at one time, don't expect too much . . .
in my opinion you are working way too--sm
much! I took on a part time job when my primary job slowed a bit. Then my primary picked back up and I was working like you are. It drained me inside a month and I had a very difficult time dealing with life in general. You are not giving your body enough down time. Time to unwind, relax, and regroup. Your body is trying to tell you that. Listen to it, or you will end up being the loser. I know that making a living is all important, but you can't do that if you go off the deep end. I know it is hard to change things, but if your primary stopped providing enough income for you within a five day work period, then try to find something else that will. They are not the only company out there. You can do better without having to jeopardize your health and mental well being. If you can't find one that will provide better for you, then maybe you need a new line of work. All I can say is your brain and body need a rest. Give it to them. and pills are not the answer either. They just mask the symptoms and prolong the inevitable.
Good luck to you!
Working at Home
Kay, one thing I did was to get an extra computer in my office and let them take turns (grandchildren too) to work. I got child educational programs and got them a little recorder too so they could "transcribe" from tapes they made. They would be very quiet for me in order to get to "work" in the office. They also now know firsthand what it is like to try to listen carefully when there is noise. There are some affordable computers out there for kids and you might even have an old one in your closet. It really helped my grandson who lives here too with his mom because when he started having computer classes for school he was already computer literate. Next year half his school day will be online where he will meet with lots of other kids who are schooled in this manner. I love it!
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