Wise words, bright side....
Posted By: WestCoastMT on 2009-03-03
In Reply to: you have him! - bright side?
I had a mini-meltdown several months ago when the work pretty much dried up for awhile. My SO was so very supportive and reminded me that no matter what happened, even if we ended up living in a cardboard box, we would have each other and no one could take that away from us.
I'd always been extremely strong and independent before I met him, and would struggle through things alone and silently, always hiding behind the "everything is just fine" facade to everyone I knew.
It's so nice to have someone to love and trust and turn to for support when things get rough.
Knowing that someone is waiting right there to catch you if you start to fall off the edge is something no amount of money can buy.
Hang in there, backwardstypist...Things will work out for you and your DH.
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Look at the bright side
You have a great story to tell - your child will enjoy hearing it when she/he gets older. I laughed out loud when I read your post!
I like those words - very very wise
Going to remember that one.
Wise words, I second the rec. for the above post
Excellent points all.
Words that aren't words. Top of the list? Conversate.
PLEASE!
Makes me cringe and shudder in disgust.
When 2 cars ride side by side on the interstate...sm
and block traffic so nobody can pass. I will get irate over this. I don't know where people's brains are.
No wonder people say most MTs are not too bright....
that's all I can say about your comment and most of this thread. Wow.
Bright women
We started to "bud" in our blouses at 9 or 10 years old only to find that anything that came in contact with those tender, blooming buds hurt so bad it brought us to tears. So came the ridiculously uncomfortable training bra contraption that the boys in school would snap until we had calluses on our backs.
Next, we get our periods in our early to mid-teens (or sooner). Along with those budding boobs, we bloated, we cramped, we got the hormone crankies, had to wear little mattresses between our legs or insert tubular, packed cotton rods in places we didn't even know we had.
Our next little rite of passage was having sex for the first time which was about as much fun as having a ramrod push your uterus through your nostrils (IF he did it right and didn't end up with his little cart before his horse), leaving us to wonder what all the fuss was about.
Then it was off to Motherhood where we learned to live on dry crackers and water for a few months so we didn't spend the entire day leaning over Brother John . Of course, amazing creatures that we are (and we are), we learned to live with the growing little angels inside us steadily kicking our innards night and day making us wonder if we were preparing to have Rosemary's Baby.
Our once flat bellies looked like we swallowed a whole watermelon and we pee'd our pants every time we sneezed. When the big moment arrived, the dam in our blessed Nether Regions invariably burst right in the middle of the mall and we had to waddle, with our big cartoon feet, moaning in pain all the way to the ER.
Then it was huff and puff and beg to die while theOB says, "Please stop screaming, Mrs. Hearmeroar . Calm down and push. "Just one more good push" (more like 10), warranting a strong, well-deserved impulse to punch the %$#*@*#!* hubby and doctor square in the nose for making us cram a wiggling, mushroom-headed 10 pound bowling ball through a keyhole.
After that, it was time to raise those angels only to find that when all that "cute" wears off, the beautiful little darlings morphed into walking, jabbering, wet, gooey, snot-blowing, life-sucking little poop machines.
Then come their "Teen Years." Need I say more?
When the kids are almost grown, we women hit our voracious sexual prime in our early 40's - while hubby had his somewhere around his 18th birthday.
So we progress into the grand finale: "The Menopause," the Grandmother of all womanhood. It's either take HRT and chance cancer in those now seasoned "buds" or the aforementioned Nether Regions, or, sweat like a hog in July, wash your sheets and pillowcases daily and bite the head off anything that moves.
Now, you ask WHY women seem to be more spiteful than men, when men get off so easy, INCLUDING the icing on life's cake: Being able to pee in the woods without soaking their socks...
I think this pretty much covers the issue.
So, while I love being a woman, "Womanhood" would make the Great Gandhi a tad crabby. You think women are the "weaker sex?" Yeah right. Bite me.
The MC driver was not to bright to be - sm
driving with headphones/ear buds on is not responsible driving on a motorcycle. He is lucky he got his money back at all.....you'd think you would be more careful wtih that kind of cash on you.
I use the bluing also. It makes the whites really bright. nm
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Bright, warm, cheerful, happy.
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There is another bright star in animal heaven. He was a beautiful boy. NM
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Forgot to say that this is one of my very favorite breeds. So bright and beautiful. NM
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There's one side, the other side, and the truth
And boy is it true.
I will say you sound like my aunt, who never speaks up, gets walked all over and then cries about it later.
Her kids/grandkids have no idea why she is always depressed, they think nothing of doing whatever they want without regard for her because she hasn't expressed an interest or opinion on anything and they don't know any better.
Yes, they use her. Yes, they could do things for her, but she never asks anything or says anything, so they don't press it, because it's always been that way. And she's a martyr, so it'd upset her pattern if things actually changed.
And the truth (and maybe reconciliation) lies in the middle somewhere.
Sad.
And cost wise?
Read all the above and thanks so much. Now in the midst of trying to get my yard in shape after the grubs set in and do not want to spend an arm and a leg on flooring. Thanks again.
Cost wise?
Heard sodding expensive.
very wise advice about how to go about
It keeps it from looking like a competition or disapproval, and more about the longterm effects of treating a child over-the-top and how they might interpret that as they are "damaged." A+ advice!
She may be able to work her way up job-wise
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Its wise to stay away
I had a C-section and had planned to stay at my mom's for a week or so to recuperate. As soon as I got there, I put the baby in the cradle in the living room and started to put some things away in the bedroom. I could hear my step-dad saying "get 'im, get 'im" to his dog....I went out there and he was actually encouraging his schnauzer to mess with the baby! I came real close to braining him with a can of tomatoes over it. I left and refused to bring the baby to their house as long as he was in it. My mom, too, chose the step-dad over her kids. Now he's dead and her relationship with her kids is rocky, and she regrets it.
What a wise looking face.
I'm sorry about your husband's death. You must both miss him very much. 
Wise ol' soul
I really do, especially around this time of year. But, I ws lucky to have him as long as i did.
And, Silver has always been a wise ol' soul. He is a great comfort. But, unfortunately Silver has cancer and is getting really thin. So, I think he will be with my husband before too long.
That picture was taken a few years ago.
What would you do - survival wise
Thinking about the storm Gustave (sorry, don't know how to spell it or want to open up new window to find correct spelling), but it brings me to another question I wanted to ask. If you knew an impending storm (or some other disaster) was heading your way, and you would be out of power for 30 days (no refrigeration or electricity/gas) and was stuck in your home and could not leave (roads blocked or whatever reason) and you had time to prepare ahead of time. What kinds of foods would you have on hand in your "emergency stash" and what types of things would you eat.
Wow, ya'll are so wise -- thanks
Appreciate any comments/advice. Keep it up! Thanks a lot.
Age wise, I am 10 years
older than DH.
You are wise and a very good person (sm)
Your daughter and granddaughter are very lucky to have you, especially your granddaughter.
Everything you said is true.
The best thing I ever did for my kids after divorce was never to say an unkind word about their father, never put them in the middle, and the parade of frogs was a definite no-no!
Your advice was excellent. You SHOULD write a book!! As many divorces as there are any more, you would think this issue would have more emphasis in some form of media.
Personality wise? I am probably most like Blanche! LOL
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your grandmother=wise woman..saying comes from
Woman
was made from the rib of man, she was not created from his head-to top him, nor from his feet-to be stepped upon.
She was made from his side, to be equal to him; from beneath his arm-to be protected by him; near his heart-to be loved by him.
From The Talmud
I think that is a wise choice. So glad
you brought dad into this! It is just too much for one - I know because I was the only one.
Please forgive the double post. Wise NM
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You sound like a very wise person and I a glad to that
he did understand. Over-the-top is never good. Not for an adult and certainly not for a child. A gift with meaning and purpose is more cherished than a trunk load of junk and will be remembered, not thrown away.
LOL- she sounds wise beyond her years. She's lucky to have you. nm
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A wise 1st grade teacher told us...
"If you won't believe that I was mean to your kids, I won't believe that you had dog food for dinner last night."
what a wise, insightful and compassionate comment.
I wish you all the best and that you come out as a winner because you deserve it.
Percentage-wise, shoplifting is a more likely source of
I was horrified, what - a year ago? - to watch an episode of Oprah where three teenage girls AND THEIR MOTHERS were guests saying in front of God and the world that the girls engage in oral sex, how common it was, etc.
There was some point in this country when we decided that "shame" was bad (the oxymoronic suggestion being that we should be ashamed of shame!) - and nothing good has come out of this ridiculous 'progressive humanist' idea or its twin - the notion that outcomes should be the same for everyone regardless of their ability or effort.
Let's get the notion of shame back on stage - front and center. There ARE things that humans do that SHOULD make them feel shame and guilt. When we lose our ability to experience guilt, we have...let's see now, what do we have again? Oh yes, now I remember - we have Bernie Madoff and his $50 billion scam, television you can no longer watch with your children, teachers seducing their students, and a whole lot of other very unpleasant consequences.
There is teacher's side of story, kid's side of story
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Your aunt is a wise woman, and she is a strong person
for being a Pastor's wife. For some reason, Pastors seem to be the most difficult to understand about how to be sensitive to people, when it is their job to do so. No offense to pastors and to my husband. But when I loved him best when he delivered pizza and Sunday mornings I still feel put off. And those are the mornings I am probably the most up in arms about this control issue. I dont think that is what the Bible meant either. Thanks for your comment. Your aunt also sounds like she was a great example to women and men alike as the pastor's wife. :)
I thank you all for your words.
It is going to be tough when we go back to the dog park and people there ask about her. I walked Sasha today, even though it was pouring down rain. We will have to learn a new way of living now.
there are 3 little words
that I say to my little pup - coffee and cookies, and he is ready to charge out the door! I then put him in my jewel beaded doggie bag and in we go for our order! This makes his day! Everyone that see him laughs. One girl that works at the coffee shop took a picture of him on her camera phone to put him on a college paper she was doing! there are days when he barks in a very different tone to try to get me to take him! You have to see it to believe it!
so in other words--sm
she got herself pregnant, did not want to pay the consequences of HER actions, but still wanted DADDY to pay for her college expenses, and she is now profiting from ending a life....yeah...that sounds reasonable to me (not)! Maybe she should not have had sex, not gotten pregnant, and had the gumption enough to have paid for her OWN college expenses. She would still be in the position she is in now and she would have earned it ON HER OWN! JMO
side sm
Buy a bag of frozen fries and put them in the oven on a cookie sheet or some minute rice - quick and easy. Do both, have fun!
no words particularly but
I hate when the doctor calls the patient elderly and they are in their 50s, or middle-aged and they are about 35 or so.... elderly primipara...
I cringe when I type a mastectomy or some kind of radical surgery on the vulva or a pelvic exenteration..
There are no words....
 You had me on the floor with the instructions...but that picture is just freakin' awesome!!!
There are no words
Thank you for posting this. I will surely pass it on - as soon as I stop crying!
Way with Words
I snuck into the Bathroom last night, put a color on my hair, the works, did a facial, shaving, showering, etc., blow dry and style, put on a new modern blouse and leggings, Came out and guess what Slim (DH) Oh bout time you stopped wearing that sock cap, your hair looks da* good. Bout time you got out of them sweats... I was getting ready to go to my grandson's music recital at grade school! I thought that was mighty funny!
Can't do this in 6 words
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Six (6), six words. nm
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I really appreciate your words
You have no idea. I painted a dining table and someone we knew offered me $1000 for it but I could not give it up because that meant that we didn't have one. My hubby says "so, we will go get another one and you can do another one". But they never are the same.
He offered to sell my headboard I painted. I have this huge 5 x 8 headboard I painted with a picture of a beach scene and has palm trees for the posts. He wanted to sell that off too. I was a little heart broken, cause I made it for my bed, not someone else's. I am not sure how to get past that.
So in other words, you really cannot
afford to travel elsewhere?
from the other side...
My MIL said that she thought I should have never had my first son while I was pregnant with my second and that I should probably abort him (her son and I were married at the time and I am and was 30). That hurts. I can imagine that she probably does not think that seeing the baby is a priority for someone who suggested she give it up. I know that she is 18 and stupid, but this is her child and try to put yourself in her place. I cannot allow my MIL to be alone with my children until they are older because I am afraid that she will put her difference with me ahead of their safety. When my son was 1, she allowed him to play with a fork (running around) and refused to move her vodka out of his reach just to spite me. What will she do if I am not around to watch her and them? I must put their safety ahead of her desires. That is just hte way it is. I am not saying that you would do any of these things, but keep in mind that she and your son will probably not work out, as they are so young, and she will have your grand child forever. Perhaps, you should try to create peace and apologize, even if you think that you are right.
Beyond words
I'm SO sorry to read this. I can't imagine how humiliated and embarrassed you were, especially in front of his friends. I have my 'bad' moods and days where I don't feel so well, too, but it would never occur to me to take it out on my husband or daughter. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, and I'm glad he left to go play golf...and I certainly hope he comes home realizing how crappy he was toward you and shows his appreciation!
Every time I read a post like this, my heart goes out to the poster and I go give my man, whom I take for granted WAY too often, a big hug and a kiss.
Hang in there, girlfriend, and don't let him bring you down ~HUG~
Trying to look at it from the other side
Guys are funny creatures (and not in the ha-ha way). As women, I think somehow we learn that it's okay to talk about feelings. Guys, especially of a certain age, don't have that luxury, and a lot will use humor to 'hint' at something that is bothering them rather than come straight out and ask (heck, I even do it myself, especially if it's something that is really bothering me on an emotional level and I'm afraid of the answer!). It's possible that he feels badly about you paying his way...yes, we're independent women now, but you can't change thousands of years of hunter/gatherer instinct overnight. He probably wanted to hear how you responded to it...depending on whether you joked back, how you joked back, or whether you got angry, he may have thought he'd get an answer that told him how you were feeling about it without straight out confronting/asking you about it.
Never forget that men are just as insecure in relationships as women are; they're just better at masking it behind stupid comments!
side note--sm
and don't forget to remove the neck and giblets in the bag inside the turkey prior to baking. I learned from experience. :^)
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