Wicked stepmother??
Posted By: Not in my book you ain't on 2008-12-02
In Reply to: Am I the Wicked Step-Mother? - Annie
You just did this "girl" a huge favor by making her take responsibility for herself. I am not much older than she is, but I have been taking responsibility for decades...what is wrong with her, other than she seems totally incapable of managing her own life, can't make a decent adult choice to save her fanny and she has someone to constantly bale her out?
I am GLAD you cut her off! I am proud of you for doing it too, it took guts. By helping her at every turn you simply encourage and enable her behavior.
BRAVO!
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Am I the Wicked Step-Mother?
I know I don't post here much but I do read and feel you are all friends. I offer prayers for those that request them and feel for those with troubles.
I would like to know what you think about my latest dilemma. I came home from town today to find a phone call from my step-daughter, age 43. She has my cell phone number but for some reason she won't call me on it. Anyway I called her back and as usual she wants money, $500. I have lent her money in the past with the promise to pay back but it never happens. I know they say if you lend money to family consider it a gift and I have. I said "no" this time and now I feel terrible. She started out by saying she had a medical bill to pay and then turned it around to a DUI fine that has to be paid by Jan. 1. She got picked up in August for a tail light out and had been drinking with co-workers. Her story. I was advised by the court not to help her so that was part of the reason I said "no". She works two part-time waitressing jobs. She's divorced and no kids. She said she would pay me back $100 a month. If that is true why couldn't she have saved $100 a month and had the money to pay the fine? She called me a few weeks ago and I know she wanted money then but she didn't come right out and ask until today.
Thanks for listening, I appreciate it.
I guess I lucked out in the stepmother department
Because I honestly love her as much as my biological mother. I was 8 when my dad remarried, and to be honest, my sister and I were pretty much brats. It wasn't instant family love, but she and my dad worked together to make sure that none of us were treated any differently just because of who had which parent. She did look at it as an adoptive type situation and even gave me a cross stitch poem about how I didn't grow under her heart but in it. It has been 27 years since they married, I never call her my "step"mom except when I'm trying to clarify things for people, and I always tell people that I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters, not steps, halfs, full, whatever, because that is how we were taught. I know not every situation turns out like this, probably only a minority, but it does happen. I'm sorry if I offended anyone because that was not my intent.
Spew on the monitor again! Girl, you got one wicked sense of humor! I'm
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