Why would you give organs to others if you had the diagnosis of meningitis?
Posted By: Deaths by donor on 2008-04-02
In Reply to: Very heartbreaking story - organ donation gift turns tragic
I find this terribly strange- personally I would never have wanted them donated out- meningitis can be a killer itself.
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Sepsis would have shown by necrosis of the organs.
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People there are already being tricked into selling their organs (sm)
Did you see that special recently? They are promised a lot of money - which they really need - especially single women there - and they end up getting measly amounts for selling a kidney...it's very sad that people are that desperate for money. We are very fortunate here and need to remember that.
Sorry about your diagnosis, have you
perhaps listened or read anything regarding Montel Williams? I know he has suffered for years now with the same and talked extensively regarding this. I think perhaps he might have written a book but not 100% about that. Talking about the flour, I started to cook something about 4 months ago and not a drop of flour here in the house. My hubby cooks and uses none and I am the only 1 who has bought sugar and only for the coffee I have- 1 cup a day. I am not diabetic but have suffered extensively with leg pain (drs diagnosed neuropathy??) but as far as treatment, nothing. Sometimes it wakes me at night, only at night, never leg pain during the day. My hubby also tries to buy organic if possible, use very little salt, mostly herbs and spices and used to drink the sodas but after our marriage a few years back, came off those eventually and water now. I do drink some occasional milk as I really love that. Gosh, I have some honey in my kitchen, have tried that in coffee before but just not the same. Don't know what else I can try... What kind of problems were you having when your MS diagnosed? I know this is usually a dx that comes in earlier life so I do not feel at all this is my problem but just wondering about yours and what do you do to alleviate some of the leg pain you talk about, i.e. heat, etc. Thanks
My diagnosis...
When I told my doctor I needed testing, had all the symptoms of a thyroid problem. Your TSH should be, hmmm say around 5.5 and mine was over 1000 so very much a problem. I was called and told immediately to see an endocrinologist. You can, if not brought under control, suffer severe problems with hypothyroidism as in hyperthyroidism, either one can be potentially fatal. I recently (about 4 months ago) had a battery of tests done and a test that is very revealing of thyroid is a thyroid peroxidase- normal 0-34 and mine 283. I am on thyroid each and every day, even as this test taken. They at first thought mine Hashimoto thyroiditis which in itself very serious. Have been diagnosed since the late 90s and have the hair loss, weight gain, dry skin but then again, as you were talking about her behavioral problems, mine can go along with aging like hers might go along with being a teenager. I had a son who when becoming a teenager tended to withdraw, sullen but I expected that from a teenager. I think some might come with the territory.
diagnosis
I would say you are constipated....
carefully review your diet, medications and get your thyroid check....
imho....
I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis. NM
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I wonder if that is a correct diagnosis
Her symptoms sound more like what a couple of people I know experienced with cardiac arrhythmia. I don't know the exact diagnosis, but one of them was treated with ablation and is doing well, and the other had a pacemaker and defibrillator implanted and is doing well. These women were both in their 30s when they started experiencing symptoms.
I was a military wife for a long time - there are some good doctors in the military but they can be few and far between. I hope your friend will ask to be referred to a non-military cardiologist.
Melanosis coli diagnosis
Had the above diagnosis and the physician tried to emphasize that I took laxatives and should not- HOWEVER, the last time I took them was over 40 years ago after I had my child. Has anyone else been diagnosed with this and besides the laxatives, what else could cause this? I eat a lot of olives, drink coffee, thought about the things that possibly could be the cause but SHE insisted to leave the laxatives off. Anyone else have this?
You are right about people doubting the diagnosis
I went finally to a pain clinic where when I told the physician what another physician diagnosed, the pain clinic doctor threw his eyes up to the ceiling as if to say he did not believe. I tell you what I take for symptoms like you describe (ran out this past week and I could tell the difference in a couple of days), that is over the counter glucosamine chondroitin- cheap, can get at Walmart. I too have the creaky joints, knees popping, so I know it helps those. As far as the neck pain, etc. it might be fibro- I am having thoracic injections done pretty soon- had some others done at pain clinic- if you can self-refer or get referred to pain clinic - that probably would be best because lots of others give you the runaround, don’t believe and don’t even think it a true malady. I would wish them the same except I do not wish this much pain on my worst enemy.
If you're challenging to diagnosis...
You'll need to have an independent evaluation done by a doc willing to submit the proper paperwork and possibly attend the hearing. I wouldn't bother with it if the plan is agreeable, though.
Endocring diagnosis - (___) toxicosis?
The doc says "Endocrine Diagnosis -- s/l grey phara toxicosis ???? Have no clue
Did you have contact with your friend after her diagnosis?
I ask because if she was your friend and you knew she had pancreatic cancer, why wouldn't you know her husband left her? I would imagine if a friend of mine was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, I would visit her and call her up until she passed. I would probably know if her husband left her.
Just curious.
but I do believe fibro can be a catchall diagnosis when docs can't (sm)
figure out what's wrong with you!
You didn't ask for a diagnosis. You asked for a prognosis. nm
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A lot of people are so desperate for work that some will give you free bids and give you ideas while
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Anybody watch Mystery Diagnosis on Discovery Health?
Amazing how people go for YEARS without the correct diagnosis or being treated for something they don't have.
You do not give them food, you give
the children food but if they did not have the food to eat, probably would call family and children services. I do NOT give away money to anyone.
you should give it a try
what the post said about the wipes. maybe something all natural might also do it that way the baby might not have a reaction to that and its good for the dog also. do some research on the net if you can. its worth it before you give your other "baby" up. let us know what happens. if worse comes to worse, make sure you interview prospects very well just like a baby for adoption. hope the first one works for you :)
We would give a lot of it away, believe it or not. Then, of course, the sm
usual - pay bills, purchase gorgeous home, travel, etc.
We believed that those entrusted and blessed with much should give much. If you keep all that you have you become stagnant - like the Dead Sea. The Dead Sea has absolutely no outlet which is why everything dies that enters it. I don't think we are much different. Give in order to be happy.
Once they give me what I want, they
can do what they like but until then guess we will just have to continue to cut that massive yard. It takes us about 2 hours to get there and then spend time there just to cut. It is an all day thing.
I'm sure they have - they will give her something (or let her out) (sm)
If they let her spoiled brat behind out, I am going to be MAD.
Can't give him away--Nobody else would put up with him!
I have a big kitty (18 lbs) that acts just like that! Pulling on blinds, disturbing our sleep, doing anything and everything to get attention until he gets fed! We love him so much and know that we are the only ones in the world who would put up with him--so we can't give him away! I feed him 3 measured meals a day. Fortunately, I now live in a house with a basement, so I put him down in the basement at nightime with his 3rd meal. He cries and scratches on the door a little bit, but then he gets used to it and goes to sleep. Sometimes I have to put him down in the basement during the daytime too if he starts being too bad while I'm trying to work.
Do you have a bathroom you could put kitty in at night? Just make sure there's not too much in there for him to destroy. That would be more comfortable than a crate.
There was a give away
for me. An ad underneath said something about maze prank.
I'm going to give this a try...sm
These are my "four-legged boys".
then give him a key!!! nm
NM
Give him a big hug from me!!!!...
Whatta joyous day you guys had!  Cat
I'm not sure if I can give the name
legally, so I'll give you some facts -- It is a major department store that changed it's store credit card into a mastercard.
Don't give up on her. PLEASE don't give in to her.
She's 16, and its never too late. I just started reading this thread and my heart is broken. I hope other moms take it to heart after hearing your story. I have 3 teens, so can relate. My husband and I came from permissive families - you know, the cool family with the house where all the kids wanted to hang out? The houses where they could get away with anything, drinking, drugs, smoking, sex, cause the parents looked the other way. My parents were fine, upstanding, snobbish upper crust members of the community, fine church-going folks and rich. And they didn't give a hoot about their kids in the end, though we looked great on paper. I only wish my parents had rules. I was grown up since I was 14. My husband, too - that's how we met and have been together 30+ years now. Our # 1 rule since our own kids were babies... NEVER are they allowed to sleep over anyone's house. Period. No exceptions. Not relatives, not their bestest friend, not their cub scout troop. Need I say that we have never had 1 regret??? There is NO good reason for any kid to sleep anywhere than their own bed at night. Period. We realized when they were little that if we let them do the sleepover thing when they were little, but then stopped when they were older, what kind of a message was that? We knew the sweet little neighbor who at 5 years old demanded her friends sleep over, or else would throw a tantrum, would be 16 one day, and a tramp. Its that simple an equation these days, unfortunately. So, no sleep overs, no exceptions, not for church, especially not for church. LOL. How sick is that? But this is 2008 folks, and this is one messed up world. My kids were upset a bit when they were really young, but we didn't make a big deal of it, nor in the end did they. They are cool, mature teens, and have actually thanked us for it many a time lately. We took the temptation out of their hands - kids are too young to have to go thru this crap. I know, I did. At any rate, of all the rules I would start if I were you, I would go with the knowing where she slept at night, eacn and every night. Otherwise, look what's happened. She has lost this privilege at the very least. Kids don't need to not come home at night. Please don't ever fall for that one again. Even if she is at so-and-so's house, a friend, you must see what kind of kids she is hanging with. Don't allow it, for her sake. She will never ever change unless you do it for her. Praying for you. Be strong. She may hate you now, but she won't a year from now, or two. But at least she'll be alive to forgive you, rather than possibly dead. You know what I mean. Let your husband's European temperament prevail. BE STRICT. Being a strict parent does not kill your kids in the end, honest.
yes! and why do I have to give my
account number, name and address to a phone tree when I will have to do it all over again when I speak to a real person?
Don't give up!
I've been sewing all my life. My grandfather had a Sew N Vac type store when I was a little girl, and he used to have me and some of my other cousins come into the shop and sew during store hours to show customers that it was "so easy, even a child can do it!" I learned to sew before I even went to school! He even had some antique machines with foot pedals that we kids used to play with. I have all sorts of machines, from antique hand-crank Singers to cheap Wal-Mart plastic machines, and high-end Pfaff and Viking sewing machines and sergers.
Check out local sewing and fabric stores for classes. You can also try visiting Meetup.com, which is a really cool place to find all sorts of people who get together to pursue their interests. I don't know where you live, but I checked in my area, and there are several groups for beginning sewing listed. Maybe there are in yours, too.
With that said, I really have to tell you that Singer machines are not the best. Since the company was sold many, many years ago the quality has gone downhill. They are not built to last and have many parts that break very easily. In my experience, a simple mistake in threading some Singers will place a lot of tension on a weak part in the thread line. Something will snap or break, and once it's broken, you can't get the machine to feed thread properly as you sew.
Unfortunately, a really good machine can cost hundreds of dollars, and it's hard for a beginning sewer to make that sort of investment not knowing if it's something they'll be doing for a long while. I always recommend going to a store that deals in higher end machines. (Pfaff happens to be my favorite.) Then ask to try machines or take classes with their display machines. You learn basic sewing techniques and you learn what makes one machine better than another.
I suggest that if your machine is brand new, you return it for a refund. Take some sewing classes first, and try different machines. Then you can make a better, more informed purchase, which in turn, should result in successful and fun sewing!
I'm sorry. You probably didn't want to hear that, but I can't say that I'm a fan of Singer machines. Even if you get it to work, it's likely to fail not long down the road, which will only frustrate you. I'm willing to bet it's the machine and not you.
I just give
the roll a spin and catch the end of the paper. I've never given it a thought as to which way it should go.
Okay, I give up...
What are the mothballs going to do to the cat?
I have had the worst time with this new kitty. We have already tried the hot sauce and he actually likes hot sauce, interestingly enough.
He has absolutely destroyed my tree this year. It looks like Charlie Brown's Christmas tree at this point. (Not really but almost!)
I would give it to him. All of it. NM
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Here's what I give a lot. s/m
Go to Lowe's or Home Depot and they have house numbers, usually really pretty ceramic ones, that you can "make" with a little wrought iron frame to put the house numbers in that will stick into the ground.
Let me give you an example of something else
You might have come out okay but when my daughter still in middle school, was going to a high school in the afternoons for violin meetings with the teacher and other students. Daughter came home stating how a big girl was trying to trip her, cursing, etc. and the teacher would do nothing about it. As a fly on the wall (along with others there) I attended one afternoon and saw exactly what my daughter said was true. The teacher terrified of this older girl, probably in the 10th or 11th and I went to the office, told them to come down there immediately. A day or so later I was in the office, heard the mother and the child in there together. The girl got 3 days dentention. Lady, this was 1 parent you would never want to follow and talk with/confront. She was as bad if not worse than the child and not the kind that would take to you in any kind of way saying anything to them or their child. You should thank your lucky stars on talking with the guy/son. This happened not lately but over 20 something years ago and the school rowdy then and still same way.
Aside from the give and take
and genetic personality differences, people's minds have been programmed differently due to experiences (and they way the perceive them due to genetics). Because of that we all view, hear, perceive through our own unique filters. (Have you ever noticed even in casual conversation how often other people misunderstand what you are saying?)
It seems that this is pretty much the root of most difficulty in getting along. Many people aren't really aware and go through life reacting to things (that trigger emotions) programmed from childhood. On top of that, people are usually quite unaware of how they affect other people.
We could get into a really lengthy discussion on this, but it would be difficult in writing. : )
Certain couples will have a lot easier time, and likely you are 1/2 of one of them Sally. Bonus!! Just make sure that your husband has the same perspective on the relationship. Sometimes one person thinks everything is glorious, but the other person is just sucking it up all the time.
Not trying to be nasty, but just mentioning that because that actually happens more than one would think.
I think a better promotion of marriage rather than saying you have to work at it, would be to say you need to be aware and care. : )
Can anyone give me the name of the very best
multivitamin on the market? I have tried multivitamins in the past and never noticed a difference, a friend told me that it had to do with what type of multivitamin that I am taking. I truly need something that is going to give me more energy than I have now. Can anyone recommend something please?
TIA!!!
I would give it all up too (except AC).
Everything is so expensive, even to watch TV cost $70 a month. That's just ridiculous.
I would love to sell everything and start over again and go simple. Have the cash to do some fun things instead of having to work all the time to keep the stuff. I would just like to pack up the car and drive cross country and not have to worry about anything.
GIVE ME A BREAK
If she can afford a Cadillac Escalade, then why is she on food stamps? This has nothing to do people who DESERVE the aid given to them in this country via food stamps or anything else. It's about the people who lie and abuse the system and YOU and I PAY for it in our taxes. Open your mind.....not your legs!!
Maybe that ESL could give a class
on "Keeping Your Transcriptionist Happy"! 
of course, most teachers would give a different
story, just as most MTs will tell you that they don't make enough to survive or they are living near poverty, but that's not really true either. Most people would say the same thing about any profession they choose.
Do you think a) they will give me my money or
b) I will have to take furniture out of their store? I bought some furniture, has been over a year ago and never got it, got the runaround, they never returned my money with my asking for the return after several months of no show. I filed a lawsuit, they would not answer, did not show up in court when told to and bottom line now the courts found they do owe me and if they don’t pay me by the 15th of this month (over $700.00) then I get to go with an officer of the court, take a big truck and load up more than what I think is enough to cover what they owe me in the first place. Do you think this is absolutely crazy for a big store to ignore they owe me and do they not care about how it will look if there is a police at their door as we cart off furniture? I would, of course, go on what I would hope to be an extremely busy day for them, say a Saturday. Needless to say when all this is over I will be calling the Better Business Bureau and word of mouth also so that no one else will be caught in their business dealings.
I would give her 2 options
Someone did this to me. I told her there were 2 options if she needed my help this badly. I told her that I do work, just from home so her options were:
1. Since it takes time away from my work, she would need to make up the income lost including transportation costs. Since I make about $20 an hour, she would owe me at least that much each time I had to drive her kid plus a transportation fee of $5 a day (gas and what not).
2. If she didn't want to pay, than she would get to take care of my kids at her house when she was off of work. If that meant she was off at 6, got home at 6:30, and still needed to do what needed to be done at home (dinner, cleaning, spending quality time with her family), she would have my kid with her so that I could work since I had to take time off to help her out. If I had to work at night, she could watch my kid (or just take my kid to work with her if she wanted her nights).
Needless to say, that made her realize that I do, in fact, have a job and she would need to rely on someone else. She wasn't willin to pay $25 a day nor was she willing to give up her nights for my child.
Used to give melatonin to my mom when
she mixed up night and day. She was going blind and she couldn't tell whether it was day or night. She only needed it for 2 weeks and was back on schedule. Her doctor told me about it back in 1996.
Come to think about it, maybe I should get some. I sleep an hour, then wide awake for 1 to 2 hours, then back to sleep for a couple minutes then wide awake again.This goes on all night long.
On second thought, I could just keep the 'puter running all night. Then when I'm awake, I can start working. That always puts me to sleep. 
I'll give it a try
1. How did you feel about your parent(s) being alcoholic? Were you embarrassed?
2. Did you ever try alcohol yourself when you were a kid?
3. (If there were arguments or other disturbances) What did you do when your parents argued? Were you scared?
4. Did you ever have any friends over to your house or were you afraid your parent(s) would embarrass you?
5. Do you drink at all now? If so, are you afraid of becoming an alcoholic?
These are all probably things you have already thought of. I really applaud your willingness to put yourself out there and open yourself up to help these young people. That is a wonderful thing to do!
Why are you not going to give it to your daughter?
I am just curious? I have done very little research on this. My DD is 14 and we have decided to wait at least another year or so and by then who knows.
Give that baby a BIG hug for me
He is adorable.
Awww, give yourself a hug from me.
I cannot imagine what that pain must be like, but my heart goes out to you.
Now I will give you my sympathy as you did for me
the other day as my baby Kitty-Kat was dying. I really feel your sorry.
Oh yeah... don't give up...sm
Without getting into too long of a post, here's my story... and you can do it too.
Nov 2006 I started on the treadmill, 30 mins a day, 5 days a week. I too didn't want to make ANY changes in my eating habits - I sound just like you - don't really eat that much, but enjoy the things I eat, and a beer now and then. :)
I walked five days a week without fail until about May and did lose 10 pounds without a change in my diet whatsoever - maybe even had a few extras because I knew I was exercising to help offset it.
Now 10 pounds is a lot, but I have a LOT more than you to lose, so when I figured 10 pounds in 7 months wasn't fast enough and that I'd probably die of old age before I reached the weight I wanted, I knew I had to do something else if I wanted it to go faster.
I never got motivated to exercise more, in fact still hated to do it, and didn't want to devote more time to it, so I decided to count calories. I still ate WHAT I wanted, just cut down on how much I ate - still a beer now and then, just not every single time I thought I would like one, etc.
Once I started counting calories, I couldn't believe how much I actually was eating compared to my sedentary lifestyle. Although it still isn't much compared to what I probably should be taking in, since I am pretty sedentary and don't want to exercise more, I'm okay with eating a little less, but still not depriving myself when I want a treat.
Over the next 6 months - to Nov 2007, with the addition of watching what I was eating, I lost another 20 pounds. Now that is a rate of loss that I can live with. I'd love to see the pounds melt off effortlessly, but know at my age it's going to take more work. I could crash diet as I have in the past and be there in a few months, but I've played that game before and it's not worth it.
So, I have just a few simple rules - I exercise 30 mins five days a week without fail (even though I still detest it 11 months into it!!), with holidays and weekends off - I watch calories a little closer, though am not anal about it, but I also only watch what I eat five days a week also. I give myself the weekends and holidays off like I do for my walking, but I do try to not un-do what I worked on all week, so don't go overboard either, just eat more if I want to without guilt on those days.
So basically for me - I'm losing a little slower than I would like, but I'm also only doing as much as I am WILLING to do to lose it. Like my awakening at the 7-month mark of exercising only made me realize I could do it faster with counting calories, maybe sometime in the near future I'll get the feeling that I'm willing to walk more or eat less or go to 6 or 7 days a week to speed things up a bit... but I'm not willing to do that yet.
Set realistic goals. I know from years of past experience I can do anything for the short-term, and I always end up failing in the long term - so I have chosen to take this slow, not work too hard, and really try to make it a lifestyle change over time, not *poof* one day I'm a gung-ho health food and exercise nut... didn't work before and I doubt it would work now, so I'm giving this gradual lifestyle change a chance this time, and this is waayyy longer than I've ever stuck out any diet or exercise plan in my life, so it's working for me so far.
Oh, by the way.... I have always kept up the walking 30 mins a day, but due to work stress and holidays in Nov and Dec I didn't do quite as well on the eating thing and gained a few pounds back - but that's okay, I only gained back a few (3), not the whole 30. I can live with that.... it was a small price to pay for comfort food when I needed it. :)
Do what works for you. My hat's off to you if you are motivated on the exercise thing - I STILL hate it after all this time!!!!
Give her a break.
From her posts it sounds to me like she is just very concerned for her friend. I take it you don't have anyone that you're that close too. I have a best friend who lives across the street. We talk all the time and see each other almost every day. If all of sudden she just stopped for whatever reason I'd be very concerned. And yes, I have a life. To the OP, just keep being a friend. Hopefully once the baby is older and she starts to feel better, things will get back to normal. I don't see anything wrong with at least sending a card.
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