Why would it offend me? And suggesting someone is depressed isn't a putdown anyhow. NM
Posted By: FLMT on 2008-01-15
In Reply to: She sounds depressed. Sorry if that offends - you. Not a putdown in any way.
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Right, I understand. What I was suggesting
was that it may have to do with when your clock was made. Just using my computer as an example, that because it was made after the decision to change DST was made, it updated automatically without me downloading a patch. I just thought that if your clock was made beforehand, maybe that is why it did not update automatically, whereas the poster who said that hers did might have bought a later version of the same clock -- one that would automatically update according to the new DST rules.
I'm gently suggesting that....
in order to avoid this particularly type of aggravation in the future, you might consider learning how to sew. You've got the machine and an old-fashioned guy who probably would really appreciate that effort. Who knows? You might just end up actually enjoying it.
Was not suggesting donning the cap of friendship
rather here, on the forum. I agree with everything you said, but fact remains that if Suzane wants to find her lost husband, she may want to try looking in all the places. She probably won't find him behind a closed door in the bedroom.
I was not suggesting you live in the situation at all. I just was thinking
The poster above mentioned the judge keeping the children in their home. As I have never been married I could not really make a comment like that, but it makes sense to me and that is what I was hinting at. Make him leave. Judges do put the children first even if he does not think of his children first. Just the thought of him telling you to go somewhere else makes me sick to my stomach. I will be praying for you, and you do have to do what is best for you and your children.
I guess the bottom line for me would be, if he wants out, the OUT he should go!!
I wasn't suggesting to use a belt. I've never used one
child abuse. There is a difference. I was abused as a child, and I've been hit with just about anything you can imagine. Hands can hurt just as bad, so don't kid yourself. But, like I said, there is a difference between spanking and beating.
You seem to be depressed. You should be SM
getting some joy from life, your work, your family, your friends. Those are the most important things.
Is there any way you can see a therapist? I would talk to your family physician about antidepressants or see who he/she can recommend you see.
I know he is depressed...but
he refuses to ask a doctor about it and get medication. I have tried multiple times to get him to. I have to take antidepressants myself. If I don't I don't want to do anything. I have told him this, but he won't listen. So I can't force him. I let him eat when he comes over and all. But what I am concerned about is when he is evicted he can't live here and how do I tell him that? My husband says absolutely not because he sold a mobile home he had a few months back that was paid for and blew the money. He said he shouldn't have sold it and he would have a place to live. He said he cannot live here. I have to tell him if he asks no. And he does hint about it. My husband is a truckdriver and I know when he is gone dad is gonna say well can I just sleep here while he is gone. My husband says no he is not. He said he has to learn to stand on his own two feet. How do I tell him? How would you go about it? I thought I would just say you have to talk to Steven (my husband). Of course he isn't gonna ask my husband.
What to do, What to do?
No way! He may be depressed,
but he created this huge mess of his life. It is not his daughter's responsibility to pick up the pieces for him. (Just to fill in the back story, dad blew all his money on a mistress. Mom didn't just throw him out.)
I think the OP should have her husband tell her dad in no uncertain terms that he WILL NOT be staying with them when he loses his apartment. Since the OP understandably has a weak spot for her dad, her hubby should step in BEFORE he is out on the street, look ole' dad in the eye and tell him it's time to be a man and stop the whining.
Just wondering, OP, has your dad ever asked you or your mother to forgive him for all the pain he caused?
Sweetie, I am depressed because of the
state of the world, and I guess maybe I was supposed to post for you. I wish I could help you, bring you a smile. Your poor children. What a sad world this is with people hurting as you are hurting. That is what is depressing me. I guess I did expect maybe a smile from these people in real life. That's all I tried to say. I am depressed over what kind of world this is, where neighbors can't say hello and smile, where even church members just are members on paper only on a mailing list, but can't sit and smile, especially during the Holidays. I am so sorry for all the hurt you have been thru, and, yes, I have been seriously hurt as well. I have moved on, though, and will never ever lose my joy. Thank you sincerely for helping me see this. 
I'm officially depressed
If I made $80,000/year , I would think I was rich. . I am single but only make about 19,000 per year - thank God my child is out on her own.
I feel exactly the same. I am very depressed and
anxious now about everything and don't have the money for it this year. I have to find a way to tell my nieces, etc. that I am not buying gifts this year, but it is hard. My mom is elderly and ill and things are not right for it this year. Good luck to you.
She sounds depressed. Sorry if that offends
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Just venting somewhat about depressed parents sm
I feel the need to vent a little about my parents. I talk sometimes with my hubby but he doesn't give much input. I'm close with my parents (I'm 36 they are in their mid 50s). My dad has always been controlling and negative (causing stress on our family). I'm an only child. I'm not going to go into deep details about stuff. My parents are not financially stable. My mom is a hard worker, always has been. My dad hasn't worked for almost 9 years. He rehabs houses when he has one to rehab. They are down in the dumps I think because of money. My mom gets stressed out with her job and then not having financial help from my dad, that stresses her. My dad is a negative person. He lost his mom when he was in his 20s and I'm not sure if he believes in God. He doesn't have faith at all. He gets jealous when my kids stay the night with my in-laws (my parents like my in-laws). There's no talking with my dad. The one time I tried to talk to him about something he said to me that hurt my feelings (I was 30), he didn't talk to me for a whole week. Sometimes I feel guilty for being happy. My hubby and I are fine financially, with our faith. I wish I could sit them down and talk with them, but there would be nothing but negative talk coming from them. I know that really you can't help someone unless they are ready to help themselves. It's really hard to say exactly what I feel. I love my parents, I want them to be happy, but then I feel like YOU are the only one who can change your life, or what makes you happy. I don't want disconnect from my parents (they live a mile from us). If my dad would just go get a job, I believe he'd feel so much better about himself. Anyway, I'm really sorry for rambling on like this. I just don't have anyone to talk to. I sometimes feel responsible for my parent's happiness/unhappiness. But growing up, I could never do anything right to please my dad, so I guess that's why I feel that way. There's so much I could type about, but not going to. There have been numerous times I thought to myself that I wish my mom would've never married my dad. Anyway, thanks for listening.
Actually, he sounds clinically depressed - sm
I would call the local "crisis response team" and say you think he is a danger to himself, to get him in for a 72-hour evaluation. Sounds to me like he needs to be on some meds, get some counseling, and - if he is faking - see that his threats have consequences. If he isn't faking, you'll have helped him get professional care. Good luck.
It might offend
Muslims. I have heard of Muslims taxi drivers who are refusing to transport people who are carrying alcohol of any kind. I also hear a talk show that is saying Muslims are demanding to have places to wash their feet in some of our airports, might be something religious?? I see Muslims can demand (and probably get) the daily prayers they are required to do, have the children do them in our schools and yet we have had to remove anything pertaining to church from our schools prior to now. We have let things go without a whimper and I do not know how things can be reversed now but sad state of affairs.
I am so depressed about them finding James Kim dead. I am having a really sm
hard time grasping this that I can't imagine what his poor wife and family must be going through. I can't even move and want to read everything about them finding him, etc. if he only stayed in the car with them - He left Saturday morning to look for help and the found his wife and girls on Monday. And he was found dead today miles from where the car was found.
I guess I could thank God that his wife and 2 children are still alive. I am happy they are alive, but it just makes me unbelievably sad what he must have gone through. He had such a great will to live and yet he died out there.
I don't know if anyone out there reading this who lives in Oregon, but I certainly have zero desire to EVER venture out into the Oregon wilderness, now more so than ever. I've heard horror stories about one-lane, winding, extremely hazardous roads and I don't understand why the state won't fix that? This isn't the first family to go through something like this because a lot of maps are contradicting.
This should serve as a warning to anyone who wants to travel the Oregon mountains, especially in the wintertime - DON'T DO IT.
How tragic and sad. 
you did NOT offend hon!! That website....sm
You did nothing wrong - it's that website is what seems offensive - not the fact you supplied the link to Jewish entertainers/performers. It *looks* innocent enough until one goes and checks out not only the website itself but the ISP/DNS ownership/registration/sponsorship. And then to list the ADL (antidefamation league) under HATE GROUPS was the absolute straw -
I wrote them a letter all about my opinion of that site too!!!
Have a GREAT evening!!!
What's with pork? Who might that offend?
I agree with everything you said. We bow to every whim in an effort NOT to offend people here, except for our own citizens! And christians...but I won't go there. I'm not particularly fond of *Halloween* decorations, but do like to decorate for fall with hay and scarecrow, pumpkins, and that sort of stuff...
Why does this woman offend you so?
What did she do to you? I understand that you obviously do not agree with her getting involved in her own daughter's life but it is her daughter - not yours. I think you are taking her situation way too personally for whatever reason.
The fact is, it is her daughter and she SHOULD protect her and do everything within her means to do so. She never said she was going to break the law. I see nothing wrong with her asking this dude to get tested - if anything, it will get him away from her daughter!!!
oh no you didn't offend me
i just wish i could afford to spend that much in gas!!! that's awesome that you have that as a home; I bet you have a wonderful adventuresome life.
And it's not their fault you offend them.
But--this is another reason. It was very nicely explained, and yet the arguing continues. Sometimes you just need to state your opinion and move on. There are some you just won't win. Like this one--or the puppy mill one. Somtimes people just don't want to hear it, let alone hear it over and over again. Just step away from the situation.
I'm sorry, didn't mean to offend but why would anyone want sm
a purse or shoes that cost 800-1000 bucks??? holy cow that's a house payment, for something that will be out of style in a year. But that's just me...
Enjoy your stuff.
Funny story, please don't think I am trying to offend
When we finally told my 86yr old grandfather (a very old-fashioned man from a very smal town) that my cousin was marrying a black girl he was totally fine with it, Thank heavens! Then the next day another relative asked him how he felt about "John" marrying a black girl, and he started saying "Black? Black? I thougt they said blind". Once he finally realized what was actucally going on he was still fine with it. I say if you are happy, then please continue to be happy. There is just not enough happiness in this world right now.
You did not offend but terribly misinformed
if you think most southerns are pro-life. So many people think of us as backwoodisy, barefoot, hauling moonshine, etc. I am not the exception at all, in fact I know 3 associates who have had abortions and I am well past 60 so mine before it was legal.... Not offended but please educate yourself, ok?
Really didn't mean to offend. DD's friend SM
moved to a small town in NC and there were a family of Hoggs that were prominent in the town. When DD laughed, her friend said it was common name.
There are strange names associated with various parts of the country.
I still use ex-husband's name, which is Irish, and common in New York, but down where I live, people never heard ot it! Not the greatest name, but better than maiden name.
Sorry, I didnt mean to offend you, but i'm tired of sm
being "punched in the gut" by the Christian majority in this country. Just please accept that not everyone thinks that the Bible is, well, the literal word of God.
Yes, I believe in Karma and I live a moral life; I just don't have that "personal relationship" with your savior.
Again, sorry to offend; I just see the world differently.
Didn't do it to hope to offend....
There are enough piggy women out there to rival the men. I always find it amusing that women put down men so much, but leap at the chance to date them, marry them, look great for them, use their money, want to be treated with respect by them, but never look in the mirror at themselves. I, for one, have a fabulous man and am very proud to say it; he in turn has a fabulous woman!
I am feeling very depressed this Christmas season. I feel guilty because I
would rather it would be over. I have no money to shop, and things in general are bad in my life. I am trying very hard to focus on what matters this time of year and what it is about. Anyone else having difficulty now?
Hayseed..you crack me up.. I needed that. I was sitting here on the verge of tears..depressed..and
you made me laugh. Sadly, even her dad couldn't save her though. She lived with him but he was on the verge of a heart attack ( I feel his pain). He said he tried to avoid going home because he would get heart palpitations which I now recognize as anxiety that I also get around her. He just couldn't deal with it anymore. She drives everyone away and that hurts me too but yeah I keep thinking the only way I'll ever get away from her is enroll in a witness protection program..and of course, I feel guilty for wanting to get away from her.
Sorry, didn't mean to offend. I meant, at a better salon. Hope that
xx
Oops! Hope I didn't offend you - my point was (sm)
that the more strict the parents are, the more rebellious the kids will be when the parents aren't around. In the past people always thought that "preacher's kids" were worse because they were raised so strictly. I think back then preachers were harder on their kids because they wanted them to project a perfect image.
Doesn't offend me to hear Happy Holidays, Happy Hannuka...sm
or any way someone wants to greet me. As a basic rule, people use the greeting most comfortable to the speaker. What does burn my butt is when someone tries to tell me that my comfortable greeting of "Merry Christmas" is not appropriate. To those who are not concerned with my comfort, I have no concern for theirs.
Merry Christmas to all.
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