Why not give him some rings to choose from and let him make the final decision?
Posted By: missy on 2007-02-27
In Reply to: what do you think about choosing your own ring - ???
Some guys want to say they picked it out. Makes them proud to say they did so. Ultimately, it is not really about the ring, the wedding, or any of that. It is about how you two will live your lives together. Congratulations!
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But now they may make less on the final movie (sm)
 I personally may not go see it just in protest of the way she went about all of this. It was strongly marketed to children and I see no reason that Dumbledore, a fictional character who was given no sexual orientation throughout the books, now needs to be deemed as gay. Who cares one way or the other? He's not even real! I suppose it is because she wants her books and movies to become a cultish type thing that will continue to produce money for her for years to come as people pore over her books trying to find clues that evidence Dumbledore's sexual orientation. It strongly discredits her in my opinion and I am sure in the minds of many other parents of her child fans.
I have a decision to make
and there is literally no one in my "real life" I can go to about it.
I just found out (by accident actually) that my husband has been cheating on me online, regularly visiting a couple of girls' websites with their pics, webcams, etc.
Here's the thing: I don't want to put up with this sh*t and I don't feel I have to. We've been married for less than 2 years. I don't have any kids. I'm still young (25). I have a good education and I can make enough money to support myself.
I feel like going out somewhere to think. Maybe spend the night in a hotel to get my head straight and figure out my next move. Please offer some advice.
You choose to stay in this situation. Until you make
x
Make him responsible for the decision
If he wants to switch schools and give up the scholarship, tell him he has to get the funding to do it. I had to do the same thing with my daughter. She gave up a good scholarship at a great private school for pharmacy because she wanted to come back closer to home to be around her boyfriend. She ended up having to take out the loans to pay for it.
There is nothing written in stone that says we have to pay for our children's educations. It is nice if you can help as a parent, but I think kids learn much more if they have some of their own resources invested.
I need to make a decision - any advice
I work for a wonderful company, have been there for about 5-6 years, except I worked out a pool and the work comes in about 5:00 p.m. I get up every morning at 4:30 or 5:00 a.m., ready to work. The problem is the other MTs have stayed up all night and have completed ALL of the work and I'm left with stragglers, maybe 200 lines per day. I cannot work at night becaue of other commitments. I also work for another MTSO but their platform has so many steps just to get a report completed until it's frustrating, BUT it pays the same as the other company, but only every two weeks. I'm not sure what I want to do, continue to fight to get lines every morning or just go through the 99,000 steps to get a report typed.
Any suggestions....!!!! 
It would be a hard decision to make.
I would think long and hard about it if I was younger and could have cesarean, but the Doc took care of that aspect years ago.
The dramatic increase is probably because the money is good and because they need the money. I think the price used to be a lot higher when this trend started back in the ྂs or ྌs. Like all things, it's the rule of supply and demand. 
What I have are children, bills & a big decision to make (nm)
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Bad idea - most girls/women do not make this decision lightly - sm
all this will do is cause more guilty feelings to the women who go through with the abortion; and the ones it does stop forces them to have a child they did not want and most likely won't give up for adoption as they don't want to perceived as a bad person. I bet at least have the girls who are "forced" to have their baby abuse them in one form or another as they will resent them. I think it is is a pretty st*u*p*id idea.
you can give the people the facts, but the decision making process should be left to the people
This is what our country is founded on FREEDOM OF CHOICE! I'm laughing already; you are just as mortal as the rest of us, and don' even attempt to that you've never done anything in your lifetime that was unsafe or unhealthy. NOT gonna buy it.
I'd give them all IAMS......make it easy on yourself
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Poster did not give the ride. Why can't people read something and make an
effort to understand the whole issue before spouting off?
Do you take your rings off
rings
 Yep, I do, always have, they seem to get in my way. But, on the other hand, I usually leave them laying on my desk and I never remember to wear them !
A lot of people are so desperate for work that some will give you free bids and give you ideas while
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I normally wear two rings;
my wedding ring on my left hand and an opal on my right hand. For some reason, I always have to take my wedding ring off because it slows me down if I'm wearing it yet I keep my opal on because I feel it slows me down if it's off. ???? Strange I know.
I also wear Ace bands on my wrists. Have done this for a few years now because I don't want the big CT and it slows me down now if I don't have those on.
So - here is the final story (sm)
The insurance company is givig them $1250 towards carpeting. They were told their premium will not increase now. However, if they were to have another "accident" in the next 3 years, their premium will increase 10%. So, that's the deal.
Can't they cut off his leg and count the rings???
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After a divorce is final...
After a divorce is final...what are your thoughts on the mother and her child requesting that their names be changed back to her maiden name?
"Traditionally, courts ruled that a father had an automatic right to have his child keep his last name if he continued to actively perform his parental role. Although there is still some bias in this direction, it is no longer strictly true. Now a child's name may be changed by court petition when it is clearly in the best interest of the child to do so. When deciding whether to grant a name change, courts consider many factors, such as the length of time the father's name has been used, the strength of the mother-child relationship and the need of the child to identify with a new family unit (if the change involves remarriage). The courts must balance these factors against the strength and importance of the father-child relationship. What this all boils down to is that it's up to a judge to decide which name is in the child's best interest."
What would really be in the childs best interest if he doesn't grow to know his father anyway? keep the last name? or change it?
class rings
It really depends on what you/she want and can afford, how important/cherished you think it will be, how she/you believe it represents the high school experience, etc.
I think I spent close to $400 on my daughter's class ring. Actually the ex and I split it, but I believe it was in that range.
It is really nice and she still wears it. She says she will always wear it. It has lots of little things on it that reflect the activities she participated in while in high school. Good memories. She put a lot of thought into personalizing it. It was actually a lot like my HS ring which I lost at the beach a year after I got it :-(
We didn't get a lot of extras, but did get 10K gold which is what shot the price up so much. It is a substantial ring even though it's the female version (smaller than the male one -- be happy you're not buying for a boy lol).
Anyhow good luck :-)
It started out with the final four SM
Katee, Courtney, Joshua and Twitch. Then they did the first elimination, which was Courtney and the second was Katee.
Then down to the final TWO: Joshua and Twitch.
JOSHUA IS THE FINAL WINNER!!!! $250,000 PRIZE!
I dearly loved Twitch too! When Joshua won Twitch hugged him and he held up Joshua's arms!!!
Are those your rings on the desk?
Too funny! I take mine off too (except wedding band) while working. My fingers swell and they hurt if I don't.
Certainly rings a bell
We had a big yellow lab named Smooch (had been a stray) with the same problem. It's amazing what they will bust in and out of due to their extreme anxiety.
He was also terrified of storms and would become zombie like hours before a storm would hit. We couldn't even get him to eat meat during those spells.
He died several years ago, but he was one of the sweetest dogs ever. When someone would lie on the couch, he would stretch out right on top of them (and he was a big boy!).
I think crating would be your best bet if you get him used to it while you are home with him first. That really wasn't being done back when we had Smooch (at least we didn't hear of it).
Maybe you could also get him a big stuffed animal that would make him feel he had company too. As a very last resort you might be able to get some medication for specific times you know will be extra difficult.
I wear my rings all the time
I don't think I can get them off if I wanted to. LOL. My husband only wears his ring on special occasions. He can't wear any jewerly. His fingers swell up. He also can't wear necklaces or watches. It used to bother me, but as long as he wears it when we go out, I'm fine with it.
I have my wedding/engagement rings and now - sm
my mom's. My dad gave them to me after my mom died. However I cannot wear any of them since I have gained 70 pounds since I first married. My rings still fit after 30 pounds but now I just cannot do it. I bought 2 fake bands in larger sizes, but they are too tight now too. I am working now though to lose the weight and with any luck wear my rings again in about 5 months. As far as I know it does not bother him that I do not wear my rings, though once I get thin again we will see if that attitude changes, I have a feeling it may. As for my DH, he has worn his ring about 3 times, a waste of $750 (luckily that was a wholesale price and not retail--I have connections). He works with electron microscopes though, and it is dangerous for him to wear his ring, though he could if he really wanted to and was careful, but then he'd probably end up losing it. A co-worker had his on and an electron beam arched and literally welded his ring and finger to the gun in the microscope. Poor guy had quite a burn on his finger and quit wearing his ring after that. So most of the engineers there do not wear their rings. I do not have a problem with it though. He tells people he is married with kids if the subject ever comes up.
Oh yeah - the phone rings
and he tells his shrink it's his mom ... "I'll put it on speaker."
HA!
Final place, unless we win the lottery! (nm)
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I gave up wearing my rings sm
I've had them resized twice already, once up a size and another down a size. I don't think they will resize them a third time. I, too, have arthritis and prednisone swells my finger something fierce. I have a beutiful mother's ring that I can't wear again since it is too small now.
Divorce is final insurance is gone
Once you are divorced, you are off of his insurance unless you COBRA over but yo have to do that immediately. He cannot add her without being married and if he does this under the table, it is insurance fraud and both of them can get into trouble. If he is behind on his support, don't trust him on anything else. All she has to do is to call his HR department or if she knows what insurance they had while married, call them. Beware of him he does not sound to be above board and legitimate.
Final installment - You need to read what I said again -
I said NOTHING about getting back together or a fairy tale ending. This is about HER being able to move on 4 years after someone beat her. It is about being able to say what needs to be said and letting the chips fall where they may. I get it. Seen this in action in my own family. I also know that often without help these ladies often choose the very same type of men over and over. Everyone deserves better in life. I hope she finds peace. 
Divorce final today
Just feeling a little down, as my marriage is officially over as of this morning. I'm okay; just a little sad. Any of you "been there, done that?"
DId he get into the Lord of the Rings movie? That
set would be nice if he did.
I have caller ID but when the phone rings....sm
every 15 minutes it is nervewracking. I mean Geez. I told my husband just ignore it and he is like well it just bugs me when the phone keeps ringing and ringing. I said well just ignore it and don't answer it. It just drives my husband nuts. And when I have company it is so embarressing. My caller ID pops up on my TV screen when someone calls and so they can see it is my dad calling repeatedly. My father-in-law was here tonight and he was like geez answer the phone so he will quit calling. I said I have answered it 4 times today and he is still calling. He said what does he want? I said nothing. Just to say he is bored and he wants to kill himself, which he has said for almost a year now. When I talked to him and he said I am so bored. I said daddy why don't you watch TV. He says I don't want to. I said well why don't you call a friend. Well my friend is out with his girlfriend. I suggested numerous things and he said no to each. He has no life at all whatsoever. That is the problem. I have a family and my own life. I can't hold his hand and talk to him on the phone 24 hours a day. What can I say? I have tried to get him to go to the doctor but he refuses. If he won't help himself any at all then I am at the point of blocking his calls and just trying to avoid him as much as possible. I have even thought of closing all the curtains and locking the doors if he comes over here. This is nonsense. Enough is enough.
Adam and Gookey in the final
,,,,,,,and Adam to win!
I agree with I think Melinda & Jordin will be the final 2 but...sm
would love to see Blake go next. I'm tired of hearing these guys who don't sing better than you can find at karaoke keep singing week after week. It's about time Phil & Chris went home!
Thought Idol final excellent
I had never been a Tony Bennett fan- think i have changed my mind. What a performer! Loved the Reuben and Jordin duet, wonderful! What about Gladys and her backup group? Unbelievable! Kelly looked far too punk, ugh, did not like her getup! I think the public finally got it right in Jordin. She will do great. Overall show gets the thumbs up from me.
great final show as was DWTS also....
Final season of Battlestar Galactica!
Heck of a ride that series has been! 
High school class rings - how much is too much?...
I just about fell out of my chair when my junior brought me the price list from the school for class rings. Most began at $250 with just a few in that price range. Ouch - someone is getting rich!
I'm trying to figure out a budget for a ring for her and have sent her to research places like walmart.com What do you think is a reasonable budget for a ring?
Never did rings for self or for kids. Diploma is what counts. The
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Yes it was gone during sentencing and REALITY final sank in
He has gotten away with too much, road rage incident, a domestic situation when his daughter called the cops on him and others. He is a loose cannon and finally got shot down.
Curious about your objection to Lord of the Rings...
... not going to try to talk you out of it (since there's really no accounting for taste, likes or dislikes) but I'm curious whether you dislike it (a) because you don't care for the story, or (b) because the movie(s) did not meet your expectations.
Having grown up in the 60s, if you hadn't read the thing, you had NO possibility of being cool back then. I finally slogged my way clear through the trilogy for the first time in about 1969, I think it was. I re-read it after the first movie came out, and oddly enough, it was a lot easier to get through at the age of forty-harumph than at the age of 13. Go figure.
Keeping in mind it was written many, many decades ago, in a completely different style than modern readers might be used to, I still thought it was a good story. And I thought the movies were really quite good, visually stunning, and well-done. The only sour note in my experience was that I thought Aragorn was much older than Viggo Mortensen, but I could have been wrong.... Oh, and the balrog looked like something out of a Disney cartoon to me; not NEARLY scary enough. :)
Our little burg here in lower NY state does this, too, and the final concert is usually
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OMG I so agree!! I had hoped for Zack/Dick final
I HATE THE FACT THE DONATOS WON - I want to vote at cbs site for Eric to push Daniele to win because then she and Dick will be at each other's throats once again - because he'd probably want half the $$ if it all goes to her. *LOL* - money matters and family often cause problems *laughs*
very true, I remember back in ྏ our rings - sm
were about $80 and that was just a base metal ring. The gold ones were $250 or $350, cannot quite remember, just remember parents said forget it for gold. Later one after I got my BFA in metals, I went and gold-plated it myself with my own equipment, looks just as nice as the pure gold ones (still). I don't have to worry about this yet for about 9 years......sure they will go fast.
Kim is great... I wish she could come and decorate my home.. Loved what she did on the final challan
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Of course they choose the most vulnerable--sm
women to prey on. If they chose a stronger woman, their controlling ways would not work. My ex did the same thing regarding the counselor. He went to two visits, said the counselor was a quack, and he would not go back. Anything that was ruined or destroyed during his anger fits were my things...never his.
as far as leaving...I had three kids to take care of, and survival was an issue for me too, but it can be done. Please do not just stick around because you fear not being able to take care of yourself and your kids. You are basically doing that now and you would have less stress to deal with. My kids were small too, two in school and one not. I HAD to do it, or I would be dead today. My ex husband never changed his ways...never. He took his own life when he could not control his last wife the way he controlled the others. I would never say this to my kids, as they were devastated when he took his own life, but between you, me, and the fencepost (Lord forgive me), I feel he was a coward. Rather than change his ways to make HIMSELF happy, he chose to end his *suffering*, with no regard to who he left behind to deal with their own suffering. It is hard. It is a big step to leave, but it gets better with time. Trust me on that. I make good money now and take care of ONLY me. My kids are grown and on their own, all with anger issues of their own, and I worry about that. But please, please, don't stay where you are just because you fear not being able to take care of yourself. God provides. Just ask. and that is the truth. good luck to you. If you wish to email me, you can. God Bless you and yours. May he give you strength and peace. You deserve nothing less.
We do have a choice. We can choose to keep our
undies on and not engage in sex or we can choose some form of birth control (albeit it fails from time to time).
CHOOSE not to take it so personally
The key word here is "elderly" - remember she is the one with the ailment - and she's not THINKING this might hurt Kimmie's feelings. She's frustrated with the problem and the fact that what you got didnot work for her - and she's probably being considerate in paying you.
Have you considered that you may be looking for reasons to be offended?
You can CHOOSE to see this whatever way you want. If you feel real hurt was intended then you deal with that directly: Aunt ___ I felt a bit hurt by your response to ____.
COMMUNICATION is a great thing when we do it - and it always takes at least two.
Good luck! P.S. what was the stuff you got her? I might be able to use it!! :)
Whatever it is you choose to wear...
just make sure it compliments the bridal party's ensemble.
It doesn't necessarily have to be a solid color, but if you choose a dress with floral patterns, make sure it doesn't clash too much with the MOB or the rest of the bridal party.
Go here (but in case it does not show) Smarter.com and search mother of the groom dress. It will give you several online stores. At least you can get an idea of what you might want.
http://www.smarter.com/---se--qq-mother%2Bof%2Bthe%2Bgroom%2Bdress.html
HMR is better - and you can pick and choose
My mother got NutriSystem and most of the meals are unpalatable and I can eat about anything (some were okay). HMR is actually good. Difference is breakfast consists of shakes/cereal.
We have 9 to choose from, not including
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