Why does this woman offend you so?
Posted By: sm on 2007-10-10
In Reply to: You are bound and determined so - Trouble ahead
What did she do to you? I understand that you obviously do not agree with her getting involved in her own daughter's life but it is her daughter - not yours. I think you are taking her situation way too personally for whatever reason.
The fact is, it is her daughter and she SHOULD protect her and do everything within her means to do so. She never said she was going to break the law. I see nothing wrong with her asking this dude to get tested - if anything, it will get him away from her daughter!!!
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I don't know, this post down below has me thinking. What are your thoughts, woman to woman. sm
If your spouse came to you and said he was having an affair, would you be more upset if it was with a male or female? For me, definitely a female! If it were male then I would think that it had absolutely nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. I would be devastated if he were with another woman. Another poster below said she would be more upset if he were found with a male. What about you?
It might offend
Muslims. I have heard of Muslims taxi drivers who are refusing to transport people who are carrying alcohol of any kind. I also hear a talk show that is saying Muslims are demanding to have places to wash their feet in some of our airports, might be something religious?? I see Muslims can demand (and probably get) the daily prayers they are required to do, have the children do them in our schools and yet we have had to remove anything pertaining to church from our schools prior to now. We have let things go without a whimper and I do not know how things can be reversed now but sad state of affairs.
you did NOT offend hon!! That website....sm
You did nothing wrong - it's that website is what seems offensive - not the fact you supplied the link to Jewish entertainers/performers. It *looks* innocent enough until one goes and checks out not only the website itself but the ISP/DNS ownership/registration/sponsorship. And then to list the ADL (antidefamation league) under HATE GROUPS was the absolute straw -
I wrote them a letter all about my opinion of that site too!!!
Have a GREAT evening!!! 
What's with pork? Who might that offend?
I agree with everything you said. We bow to every whim in an effort NOT to offend people here, except for our own citizens! And christians...but I won't go there. I'm not particularly fond of *Halloween* decorations, but do like to decorate for fall with hay and scarecrow, pumpkins, and that sort of stuff...
oh no you didn't offend me
i just wish i could afford to spend that much in gas!!! that's awesome that you have that as a home; I bet you have a wonderful adventuresome life.
And it's not their fault you offend them.
But--this is another reason. It was very nicely explained, and yet the arguing continues. Sometimes you just need to state your opinion and move on. There are some you just won't win. Like this one--or the puppy mill one. Somtimes people just don't want to hear it, let alone hear it over and over again. Just step away from the situation.
I'm sorry, didn't mean to offend but why would anyone want sm
a purse or shoes that cost 800-1000 bucks??? holy cow that's a house payment, for something that will be out of style in a year. But that's just me...
Enjoy your stuff.
Funny story, please don't think I am trying to offend
When we finally told my 86yr old grandfather (a very old-fashioned man from a very smal town) that my cousin was marrying a black girl he was totally fine with it, Thank heavens! Then the next day another relative asked him how he felt about "John" marrying a black girl, and he started saying "Black? Black? I thougt they said blind". Once he finally realized what was actucally going on he was still fine with it. I say if you are happy, then please continue to be happy. There is just not enough happiness in this world right now.
You did not offend but terribly misinformed
if you think most southerns are pro-life. So many people think of us as backwoodisy, barefoot, hauling moonshine, etc. I am not the exception at all, in fact I know 3 associates who have had abortions and I am well past 60 so mine before it was legal.... Not offended but please educate yourself, ok?
Really didn't mean to offend. DD's friend SM
moved to a small town in NC and there were a family of Hoggs that were prominent in the town. When DD laughed, her friend said it was common name.
There are strange names associated with various parts of the country.
I still use ex-husband's name, which is Irish, and common in New York, but down where I live, people never heard ot it! Not the greatest name, but better than maiden name.
Sorry, I didnt mean to offend you, but i'm tired of sm
being "punched in the gut" by the Christian majority in this country. Just please accept that not everyone thinks that the Bible is, well, the literal word of God.
Yes, I believe in Karma and I live a moral life; I just don't have that "personal relationship" with your savior.
Again, sorry to offend; I just see the world differently.
Didn't do it to hope to offend....
There are enough piggy women out there to rival the men. I always find it amusing that women put down men so much, but leap at the chance to date them, marry them, look great for them, use their money, want to be treated with respect by them, but never look in the mirror at themselves. I, for one, have a fabulous man and am very proud to say it; he in turn has a fabulous woman!
Why would it offend me? And suggesting someone is depressed isn't a putdown anyhow. NM
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Sorry, didn't mean to offend. I meant, at a better salon. Hope that
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Oops! Hope I didn't offend you - my point was (sm)
that the more strict the parents are, the more rebellious the kids will be when the parents aren't around. In the past people always thought that "preacher's kids" were worse because they were raised so strictly. I think back then preachers were harder on their kids because they wanted them to project a perfect image.
woman to woman talk sm
This has nothing to do with being a christian, it has more to do with group dynamics. I have to deal with it all the time with 6 women in an in-law situation. They are narrow-minded Bible-thumping bigots.I happen to be of another "denomination" and I do attend every function of theirs, weddings, funerals, all of it, receive their communion. I have had my parents die, lost my younger sister and many things happen where they could have reciprocated, yet they will not "step foot" in my church. So where is all their faith, they certainly are not practicing the do unto others. I can relate, it is a horrible way to live. Thank God, I had psychology courses and know about group dynamics, I am in the middle of a herd mentality. I could go on forever, they even have "interventions" when someone in their family wants to marry or date someone not from their denomination. They are awful. I know your pain! It's not your imagination, they hide behind their cohesive "numbers game," one speaks and all the others agree in unison. No one has a chance against this mob. It's tough to be your own person, lots of tears. And guys think it's all in our heads - NOT! Hang in, perhaps you'll have a Divine Intervention somehow.
Kangaroo. cat woman or wonder woman?
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Doesn't offend me to hear Happy Holidays, Happy Hannuka...sm
or any way someone wants to greet me. As a basic rule, people use the greeting most comfortable to the speaker. What does burn my butt is when someone tries to tell me that my comfortable greeting of "Merry Christmas" is not appropriate. To those who are not concerned with my comfort, I have no concern for theirs.
Merry Christmas to all.
No, definitely not -- if this had been a woman - sm
asking you the same question would you have thought twice about it? He was a rep of the store asking if you found what you were looking for, since it happened to be a bra, I think he phrased it correctly, but then again he did not take into account a person who would take a question the wrong way. He has learned the hard way never to question a lady about her underwear that is for sure. You need to learn to let things roll off your back. If he had leered at you and said, hey lady you find a bra for those nice **** of yours, then yeah, that would be harrassment and not good customer service. Learn to chill some and not worry so much.
I know of a woman who actually did this
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what do you get for the woman who has everything?...sm
Spend some time together.
Give each little young lady a handmade card/voucher that she can cash in to spend time with you one-on-one, whether it be at the hair salon, lunch, walking in the park, just doing regular shopping stuff, going to a play or just sitting, talking, having a cup of tea and looking through family albums....It's the special time that'll be cherished.
Oh, and 50-ish is not old.....I know 70 to 85-yo young ladies who can run circles around me with their enthusiasm, drive, ambition and joy for life.  Cat
did you NOT see that 95 y/o woman who
graduated college last year? She was all over the news, GOD BLESS HER!! Had all her wits about her......just old looking is all....
Education doesn't stop until we die - so by all means 40+ is still young in that many change career directions many times in ones' life...
another woman
Does his name rhyme with Boo by any chance? This brought back memories from 16 years ago. Same situation. I found out I was not the only one and that he had been seeing someone else for years and when she and I "met", she told me he owed everybody money. I did get mine back by personal check in a very nice (what a joke) card, wishing me well. I loved him - couldn't deal with the other woman thing, so let her have him. Glad I did - I would have been miserable with him. Good Luck - watch your purse!!
wonder woman
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then you should definitely let the PTA woman have him
and after he's with her instead of you, make sure to send a thank you card
Do you believe what this woman says?
That an employee told her to use the MRI machine at the zoo?
When a 5-foot, 275-pound woman found out she had a tumor on her spine, she was told by her local hospital to go the zoo to have a MRI because a regular MRI machine could not hold her weight, myfoxkc.com reported.
Carolyn Ragan told the television station she discovered the tumor two years ago and, after the hospital told her she could not use their MRI machine, a medical assistant said he would help her find a solution.
“So he suggested the Kansas City Zoo,” Ragan said. “I thought, I know I’m big, but I’m not as big as an elephant. And my husband got mad.”
The University of Kansas Hospital would not comment on Ragan’s claim, but said its MRI department does not know of any animal MRI in the Kansas City area that would scan a human.
Ragan’s problem was two-fold: She was too heavy for the table and too wide to slide through the opening.
Medical Imaging in Kansas City North, which has both closed and open MRI machines can typically hold up to 440 pounds, but sometimes a person who weighs less can still be out of luck, according to an MRI technician.
“It depends on how they are built a lot of times and what part of their body we’re scanning,” said technician Sarah Abbott of Medical Imaging. “(The machine) can only be so open before the magnetic field dissipates into the room.”
Ragan, who ended up having two surgeries and some paralysis, said she finally found an open MRI machine that held her weight, but it was embarrassing and frustrating.
“They should have machines that fit most everybody,” she said.
A Woman Should Have... sm
BEST POEM EVER
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A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
by Maya Angelou
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she's content to leave behind....
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .......
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself...
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without
ruining the friendship....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW....
when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...
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A single woman
What you're feeling is perfectly normal. Please do not rush into a relationship with any man at this point. Enjoy this time and spend it getting to know your children better and just spending time with them. Also get to know yourself and feel comfortable with who you are - develop some hobbies and interests. If you've spent the last 2 decades in this kind of relationship, you haven't had much time to spend on yourself. Soak in a hot tub every night if you want to.
In a sense, you've just cut a huge wart off your foot and of course it's going to feel strange and unfamiliar. It was the wart that was strange, now things are normal. It just feels strange because you aren't used to it.
Hope some of this makes sense. If you think about it, I bet you are actually less lonely now than when he was there. Some of the loneliest people I know are in marriages and relationships. Some of the happiest and most joy-filled people I know are on their own.
I should have been a repair woman.
My kids were out of clothes. Yes, I'm behind on laundry. So I wash some stuff, toss it in the dryer and I hear something going "ping" and it won't turn on. I just pulled it completely apart, put it back together and it's working. Yeah me! A screw had come out and fallen down inside of it. I can't believe how full of lint the inside was too. I do, however, have 6 extra screws that should be in there somewhere lol.
Yes, a woman can pass it to a man, it is just like any other STD.
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see. not every woman is out to steal your man--sm
it sounds like she is trying hard to make a life for herself and her kids. I don't think she is interested in your husband romantically at all. It is so hard for some people to trust any more, and that includes me, as I have had *friends* go after my man too, but I just did not get that impression from this person. Until someone proves otherwise, one should give them the benefit of the doubt before jumping to conclusions. So far, she has not done anything untoward. at least that is my impression.
Pretty Woman nm
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This woman owes no one anything regarding the name
I went to my brother's child funeral (my niece) the other day. Brother killed in an accident when this child was 6, she died at 39, raised by stepfather for most of those 30+ years. My maternal aunt and I at funeral and yet the stepfather got up and referred to the deceased as his daughter- my aunt did not like that as basically erased her father from her life but things like this happen- this person can and should name her child whatever she wants. If the relationship is that tedious with only a name, then she does not need those kind of people in her life. Simple.
you need to take responsibility for getting this woman
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Was watching until they put through this man/woman.. sm
who was supposed to be bellydancing. He/she was terrible and they put him through and got rid of some really good people. My daughters have taken dance over the last 10 years and I can honestly say that many 8-9 year olds can bellydance way better than that. They sent home tons of talent and put through some really untalented people. Also, why is it called America Has Talent and two of the judges are not American??
If you were going to nominate a woman for
who would it be?
Oh honey, I am a woman...
just can do things on my own...have a large home too and still manage to have lots of time, a clean house and work 10 hour days. I can easily afford a housekeeper too but why when I am perfectly capable myself. DH gets to come home to a home cooked meal every night, a very clean home and a happy wife who does not complain! Not all men want simpering, helpless women.
A woman on a mission I am...
Ok, so when we were kids, my brothers would go to the barber. They get their hair cut and he put this stuff on their hair that smelled so good. Like a finishing cream or something. I am trying to find some of this for my hubby and son for after their hair cuts (I am the barber of the family). Does anyone have any idea what this could be? I don't even know what to search for. It wasn't gel, hairspray, or anything like that. It wasn't stiff. Just smelled really good. Would be wonderful if you could help me find it or give me suggestions of what it could have been.
Thanks!
You sound like a man. I would think a woman would
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A woman just hit me in a store!
I was at the cash register paying for my things, and the lady behind me dropped a piece of paper. I picked it up and gave it to her. She said thanks, and I turned back to the cashier. A few seconds later, SLAM! she had hit me really hard in my shoulder! She obviously wasn't mentally "with it". Something is wrong, but she shouted, "I know you. Hi!" I said firmly, "You do not know me. Please do not hit me!" I didn't make a big deal out of it, because she obviously had something wrong with her. I thought she looked a little like she had Down Syndrome, with very widely spaced eyes and the typical look. But she did hit me hard and left a bruise. And I'm 200 pounds. When she hit me, she had enough power to push me a couple of steps away. I have to say, I was a little scared. She seemed to be alone. The manager came over to talk to her, and I just said that I was okay and left, so I don't know what happened after that.
I have a friend who is just like the woman you described.
I hate being at her house and limit my contact with her around her children. My children are grown and hers are 18 and 16 years old. As you would expect, her children's language is just like hers. The kids rudely interrupt us and bellow out obscenities. Just the other day, her son screamed at her, "I'm not in any f------ mood for your s###." Shocking enough all by itself, but he was shouting this at his mother, and she had no problem with it.
This sort of language is disrespectful, and the children learn to be disrespectful, as well. I'm close to ending our friendship over this. But, I have to say, we weren't very, very close to begin with.
Woman, I have no mercy on you
That is what she told Sharon when she was begging for her life and the life of her unborn son. Then she and one of her buddies proceeded to stab Sharon 16 times and slaughtered all of her houseguests. Then wrote words on the walls in Sharon's blood. They also shot a teenager 4 times who was just leaving. Then the next night they (I don't think Atkins was involved in that this one though) went out again and killed 2 more people and wrote words on the walls with the victims blood again. There were more killings also before that.
These people were worse than animals, killed for no reason whatsoever. That "the devil made me do it" thing don't fly. They knew right from wrong. Linda Kasabian proved that by not following Manson's orders and sabataging his plans. She was totally in love with Manson at the time too. Atkins was originally sentenced death but somehow it was ruled unconstitutional and her sentence was reduced to life with parole.
woman as man of the house
We seem to have a lot of guys out there, with their ranks constantly expanding, whose only purpose in being in a relationship is to do as little as possible in exchange for a much as possible. Their sense of entitlement is huge - they expect the woman to be breadwinner or equal earner, cook and housekeeper, social secretary, financial guru, babysitter, the list goes on forever. In exchange they must be begged to do the simplest tasks like taking out the garbage or yardwork - often they just flat refuse to do anything at all and the woman ends up doing everything. The couch potato guys get their way and end up doing nothing but being a housepet or overgrown child, and eventually the woman realizes these guys are bringing nothing, and I mean nothing!, to the relationship but mess, hassle and arguments. She realizes she doesn't need him - and that's the way he wants it to stay. These men engineer their own divorce, and deserve it, by refusing to be a partner in any sense of the word.
I am the opposite. My son met a woman--sm
with a 15-month old who I fell in love with the first time I saw her. She climed up in my lap all dirty, tangled hair down to her butt, smelling of old urine and for the past 17 years has not left my side. She has had a horrible life but I have chased the mother over three counties to get her-and then a year later my son's daughter-every weekend. They have spent every birthday, holiday, and summer with me for 17 years. The oldest turns 18 in Jan and is planning on leaving her mother to live with me. She has spent so many hours trying to find similarites between us, we both had blud eyes, both are left-handed, love to read and quilt that she has convinced herself she is my granddaughter. People often think we are mother/daughter and she never wants me to correct them. She has had to be the mother to her sister and has had to grow up fast, but she is the most wonderful child.
Open you heart--the step granddaughter will benefit but not as much as you will. Sounds like she needs all the love she can get.
We were talking last weekend as we were putting up the tree that neither girl can remember having any fun times with their mother and how all the birthday and holiday pictures are at my house and any memories they have are here. Rhiannon is always telling me how lucky she is to have me as her grandmother, little does she know I am the lucky one.
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her child to abuse, she can be held for child abuse also. What part of that do you not understand? She is abusing her child if she doesn't get that child out. Obviously common sense doesn't work with her. She needs a little "tough talk". I do not have issues. Let me restate that. I have issues with those who ask for help and won't follow through and subject their kids to this. If she wants to stay, fine, but there is no excuse to subject a kid to this.
She is a grown woman and all you
can do is invite her and leave it at that.
A woman scorned
I know she is just a kid. Probably in her head you son was supposed to wait around for her and their love could withstand and outlast anything..Kind of like those romance novels you read. He let her down by breaking up with her and then to add salt to the wounds started dating again. So this is just her way of getting back. She feels like he made her disposable.
Actually, don't get me wrong, I am not dissing on your son. He is a kid too and life is too short to wait around for 1 girl. He has the rest of his life ahead of him. He shouldn't worry too much about what this girl is saying. In a few years when he is out of school, college she will be history. If the other girl "Sadie Hawkins Dance" girl was so easily persuaded then she probably wasn't worth his time anyway.
Just my take on it anyway. I am in no way an expert. I really think this is typical teen behavior, both sides. They are half adult, half child. I would never go back to that place for a million bucks.
When a man loves a woman got
me going, as well as Ghost and Simon Birch, believe it or not. DH thought I was crazy.
this is terrible, I do not think that a woman could do this..nm
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A woman didn't, it was a man - nm
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Woman beater
Sadly, it looks like she has fallen into the pattern of taking him back.
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