Why did he do this???

Was I wrong in this?  I had an argument with my husband this morning.  From what you read you would think that I am very particular and nagging about the way he does things - let me preface it by saying, I am not AT ALL.  He is very particular about his things.  Doesn't even want me to borrow a t-shirt, much less anything else.  But look at what he did this morning. I just want to know if I am wrong to be really ticked off.

 

He is spending the night away tonight to go duck hunting (another thing between us - he has turned into a very avid hunter and is gone a lot - (just hunting?).  So he is very southern and was going to make sausage balls to take with him on his hunt.  I like to make cool cakes for family events, it's a hobby, something I like to do for birthdays, etc.  I have a really big nice (expensive) cake pan I bought. He wanted to use it to make his sausage balls in this morning. I offered him some other pans but he wanted that one.  I said okay but it's already got some scratches and I am trying to not let it get scratched more so please don't use metal on it. After he finishes making them, I happen to walk into the kitchen and see him "cleaning" the pan using a metal spatula.  I said, "please don't do that, you are not supposed to use metal on that pan, it will make my cakes stick the next time I use it."  He said that was the only way to clean it.  I left the room. I came back, and he walks over with the now clean pan to the doorway, holds the pan up at me, and takes the metal spatula and starts vigorously scraping my pan with it repeatedly saying "see, I am not scratching your pan!!" and he wouldn't stop until I snatched the pan from him and put it away.  This of course started an argument and I told him that he is very particular about his "tools" doesn't even want anyone to touch them, how would he feel if I not only used it but used it in a harmful way and then when he asked me not to, put it in his face and purposely did it that way.  He doesn't see why I am upset. Thinks I am just acting crazy. Says that he was just proving to me that he had not scratched my pan. 

 

I can't say anything to him at all about anything he does or he thinks I am telling him what to do.  Why did he do all that this morning?  Is he crazy?  He left really mad at me, as if I had done something wrong. And said,"I'm really sorry I cleaned your pan for you."  We are supposed to be working on our relationship.  I told him he is doing nothing but sabotaging it instead.