While I can understand your anger...
Posted By: sm on 2009-03-01
In Reply to: Friend in kidney failure, on dialysis now, said she could not understand "them" (ESLs) - Very, very ticked off
it is personal responsibility to ask questions if you don't understand something. Maybe she should have had a family member go with her to her doctor appointments if she had such trouble understanding her doctor. I do hope she has someone with her now that goes along. I do wish your friend well.
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such anger
Your attitude toward people posting their opinions (which you asked for by posting here)is less than mature and more hostile than anything.
The original post came across as very bitter so you really should not be surprised by the responses.
Take the whine, hold the venom.
ANGER
Do everything you can to achieve YOUR dream and do not enable this deadbeat any more by helping her --- she has already shown that she will back stab you any chance she gets!!!
do not let him anger you with this comment
he feels this way because you make more money than him, and after that comment, I would calmly and confidently remind him of that whenever you need to, maybe daily. Also, sit his dumb___ down and make him type one sentence of a hard provider, then calmly and confidently talk down to him and tell him he would never be able to do your job. Calm and confident. Do not ever again let him make you feel that way.
The heat of anger...
Some people just get so angry that they say what comes to the top of their head at the time, true or not. Others lose their ability to empathise in anger. Either of those, I can deal with (so long as it stays verbal only), and that's what DD experiences when she's "losing it". As I said, she has some pretty serious PTSD issues to deal with, so we may or may not put up with it if they weren't there. They are, so I don't know the other side of the coin. We can also joke around with things that might hurt feelings or be embarrasing, so long as they are not done in an attempt to hurt those feelings (sometimes the truth DOES hurt). Even with her issues, we do not tolerate being cruel and hurtful just to be cruel and hurtful or anything physical beyond slamming doors, and there is a numerical limit to how many, and if the pictures rattle, it's too hard. We also have a hard and fast rule that all people are allowed to "respond in kind" because none of us are superhuman, especially when angry.
Personally, I think the world was a better place when we weren't so concerned about hurting somebody's feelings - back when we could hold a normal and sometimes emotional conversation about differing viewpoints. Of course, that was back when people were responsible for their own feelings instead of making everybody else responsible for them.
Your anger is definitely justified.
I would also be hurt that someone you do so much for would treat you like that. Unfortunately, the other posters are right: No point in being angry because she obviously wouldn't get it. I know that's easier said than done. I would pursue the dream house. I doubt they could get it anyway; they sound like losers. If they can't drive to pick up their kids, how do they get to work?
As for helping out with their kids, I'd say sure if you have $5 for gas before you pick them up. If they can't afford $5 towards your gas, they can't afford that house and it's their problem to transport their kids, not yours. If they can afford it, put it in your new house fund, whether it be this dream house or another one!
Keep us posted -- would love to know if you get the house, and if not, let us know if she doesn't (see I told you I'd feel the same way). Cuz the only thing that would make me feel better about not getting it, would be that she didn't get it either!!
He very obviously has some anger issues s/m
and a restraining order would be appropriate. For all the phone calls, there is a special code you can put in after someone calls you, for harrassment calls. You would have to call your local phone company to find out. Every time he calls, you dial that code and the phone company traces the call. They will not release the information to you, but only to the police. This would prove stalking. I was getting some prank calls and they would block their number and this is what the phone company said to do and if it didn't stop, they would turn it in for "appropriate action." I would do it on the home phone and cell phone. I would also start taking pictures whenever he is in the driveway with a camera that date/time stamps the pictures. Best of luck to you.
You should search for the cause of your anger. It may be deeper
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message board anger
Very well said ortho mom.. VERY well said!
Wow! Such anger at differing sides of opinions!--sm
I don't want to change the subject here, but personally, I do not appreciate the cigarette smokers out there either, at malls, at restaurants, or even adjoinging apartments where I live and throwing their cigarette butts *in my space*, and having to smell that sickening smell coming in my patio door while they smoke, but there is little I can do to stop them. I just have to tolerate it, as it is their choice to want to die of lung cancer, etc. TOLERANCE is the word, I suppose, for the rights of others and we all should respect that. Personally, I wouldn't care if an animal were allowed inside a store. I love animals, too, and they do not cause cancer and induce second hand smoke into my space. How is an animal inflicting on anyone elses rights? I do not understand such anger and vehemence at this subject. My goodness!
Sounds like an anger control problem
to me as well as not being tolerate of other people. Have dealt with both. Would pull him aside and explain to him again he was out of line - a guest in your home should be treated like a guest and he should keep his opinion to himself and voice only when in private with you and daughter... it was not like anything major... friend's parents are probably afraid that something major might happen and he would really blow up! Just tell your hubby to relax!
My days are filled with happiness, not anger
and do not dwell on things that happened 13 years ago like some. We were on here talking about 1 thing and when you interject like you did, then the whole subject opened up again. I am sorta you are a confused person. Take a break- get out of the house, smell the roses, lead a pleasant life.
Is my anger justified? Opinions welcomed
Here's the story: My ex-sorta-sister-in-law shares a child with my brother. They both have DUIs and neither one of them can drive. They only call me when they need help getting their child (who is the same age as mine and attends the same school) picked up after school and delivered to either one of them.
I own a home in the city, a pretty bad neighborhood, and I happened upon this magnificent house very near her house, in the correct school district. This house is on a dead-end dirt road surrounded only by trees and nature. Truly the perfect house for me.
So, here's what happened. She needed me to pick her up and then go pick up her child after school. On the way of returning them home, I said to her, "Oh, Sue, let me show you my dream home." I drive her past it, saying how I so want this house and I'm going to make it happen. She says, "Wow, that would be perfect for me and my family" (she has three other kids, having had this child with my brother while having an affair outside her marriage).
Well, sure enough, at the open house on Sunday, there she was with her four kids and her her toothless husband -- making plans for who gets which room. I told her I was less than pleased that she was trying to snatch my dream, when her husband stated, "Whoever gets to the bank first gets it."
My feeling is that she was out of line. There are thousands of houses for sale in this town and I had displayed extreme interest in this one. Sure, it's no one's house until the financing is in order, but I feel like she stepped on my toes. Now, when she calls me tonight asking to deliver her child again, I really feel like I'm out fo favors for this woman. She obviously has no regard for me. Am I right to be so miffed?
I wanted to get some opinions about something I did in anger regarding a family issue.
Okay, let me just give a little background first. My husband has bipolar disorder as did his mother. His mother disappeared in 1999 and is presumed dead. He has never gotten over that. My husband is also an alcoholic. Over this past year, he fell off the wagon and his mental health has deteriorated. In May, he tried to overdose on Ambien and was hospitalized for week in the VA Mental Health Unit. This past Monday, he drank himself into oblivion and slit his wrists, severe enough that he required stitches. He is now spending at least two weeks in psychiatric facility outside the VA system (because the government does not take care of our veterans, but don't get me started!). He does not remember cutting himself.
We have two children and as you can imagine this was all very upsetting for them. I called my father-in-law the day that all that happened to ask him to help me with his son. I left a lengthy voicemail saying I was trying to protect his grandkids and take of his son and that he barely has any contact with his son since he remarried. I said that his son was still his son and needed his help. My FIL never even bothered to call me back nor did he call my husband (I left the number for the facility on my message). He didn't even call Christmas Day!
The thing is my FIL and his wife are very self-righteous Christians except that they only play at being Christian for appearance sake. When someone really, REALLY needs them, they only offer prayer. My husband has a brother who is a convicted child molester serving a 20 year sentence in prison for molesting his own daughter. My FIL and his wife have made a huge show of ministering to the child molester. They visit him regularly. They fill his prison account up with money so he can buy a TV and a typewriter to have in his cell. He was up for parole this past year and they spent thousands of dollars on an attorney and thousands of hours making phone calls and writing letters on his behalf to get him out on parole. They tell everyone they know how they have sacrificed and ministered to this son. And he is born again now and all will be wonderful when he is released.
By my husband, his other son, never hears from his dad. His father never visits. My kids get gifts sent to them on their birthdays and at Christmas, but he rarely talks to them or sees them.
Suffice it to say, there is A LOT of background info. Last night, after I lied to my husband about his father knowing he was in the hospital (I said his father didn't know because my husband was wondering why his father hadn't called) I became very, VERY angry. So I retrieved email addresses of friends and family my FIL and his wife from old forwarded emails that I had saved. And then I wrote a very long, very detailed email about my FIL and his wife, about my BIL and his crimes, and then I ended it with an excerpt of scripture and a paragraph saying we are called to love our children unconditionally as our Heavenly Father loves us and we should never turn our backs on any of our children.
I then sent this email. After I sent it, I started to maybe think I shouldn't have done it. When I'm angry, I tend to let go without thinking. So what do you guys think? Was I right or wrong? And if I shouldn't have sent the email, should I now send a followup email explaining I was angry and apologize or should I just leave it alone and figure the damage is already done?
i understand
I have just become single again and have 2 kids. What I believe is that obviously we have spent so many years doing "kid stuff", going to the grocery, errands, etc. that we have a hard time hooking up with single guys because we lose sight of who we are beyond mom, household manager, etc. Try to remember or imagine what you would be doing if you didn't have kids and resosibilities or had time to do it. Whether it is rafting, reading and discussing things, being at a college class, hiking or some particular sport or interest(chess club, rock climbing, etc) you HAVE to make an effort to do these things, even if it constrained by time and $$hook up with a free group and devote a few hours a week to it. THEN eventually you'll be in the place to meet the person you would hang out with even if you weren't a mom.
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I understand....
I worked away from home until just recently. The pressures to "donate" are horrible. My friend and I finally decided that we would allocate "X" amount of dollars for giving, once gone, the well was dry. Saying "NO" is not easy, and the repayment of debt falls in your lap.
You are probably more talented than you realize. Be creative if you work from home. Work hours while the children are asleep, or see if you can work split shifts to accomodate your children's schedule.
If you are unable to pay back on the taxes you owe right away, just attach a signed letter with your tax papers requesting a payment plan. You can set it up to reflect a reasonable monthly payment, include the first payment, and the IRS will work with you.
If you are incurring (sp?) debt, make sure that it is for something useful that is going to last for a while.
I understand what you are saying, but
I don't have a husband or significant other either, and when I did I still took out the trash, mowed the lawn, and what is snuggling? When the lump on the sofa was asked to leave, the only thing I missed was having to tell him to move to the other side.
I understand what you are saying, but did --sm
you read my post at all? How can one make *good food choices* when the govt. makes that impossible to do? I eat all organic these days, when ever possible. I eat lean red meat once a week. I eat a lot of veggies and fruits and try to find something that does not have HFCS in it...which is terribly difficult to do. It is a losing battle when all the cards are stacked against you. My vice is not food or overeating. My vice is what the govt inflicts on unsuspecting and disbelieving people who think that obesity is a choice...it isn't. and neither is diabetes or hypothyroidism. Good food choices do NOT override this condition. This condition was inflicted on me by money grubbing *professionals* who have their heads where the sun don't shine. If you think todays doctors and pharmaceuticals have our best interests at heart, you are an ostrich. Research it and do not *assume* that being overweight is a choice. it isn't. and simply making *good food choices* is not going to change that fact. JMO
He may not really understand what an IC is--sm
and he is concerned about future income, but really all he needs to be concerned with would be your income tax statement from last year. Personally I don't think he should need that type of letter, just proof of income, which would be tax statement. that is all. JMO
don't understand
If you bought a certain piece of furniture why is bidding involved and why does it have to be done on courthouse steps in the public and all that? By all means, do what the law says -- sure sounds like they're on your side. But getting a news station involved isn't a bad idea either. These people sound like crooks and the public needs to know. Even just a friend with a video camera to send a film of it all into a station with the hopes of a reporter followup to keep others from being tricked too. And I sure think you should get something for mental pain and aggravation and loss of interest on your money. 
From what I understand
nobody was "demanding" anything, they were making do just fine with the sinks. This was done because people complained about the sinks being used for this purpose. I guess I just don't get what the big deal is.
People are so afraid that immigrants are going to somehow take over the country, its like this big "us versus them" mentality- its just silly. What, are you worried that they will do what WE did when we "discovered" America to begin with? You know, we are all immigrants here when you think about it.
I understand about all that too
but they found no reason for my miscarriage and knowing all that still didn't help the pain or grief of losing the babies after trying for so long, and everybody doesn't just get pregnant again right after. I didn't. I was just blessed that God gave them to me in a diffent way
I do not understand what you mean?
A bite itself itches, you can scratch an itch but you cannot itch an itch. I would think that is a backwoodsy type statement if you said it.
I just don't understand this
First, my husband would not dare do this to me or my kids. This man obviously has no respect for anybody. And that is what I would tell your daughter's friend's parents, along with if it keeps up you'll divorce him! And I'd tell him the same exact thing. But if mine did this just once, I can assure you it would not happen again, after I got through with him.
What most of you do not understand
being as you are young and are able to work from home, years ago, well gosh as early as the early 90s, if I wanted a job and I had to have to raise children (not a single mother, a divorced woman) we had to work outside the house, did not have a choice. I am so very glad my kids are not in the toddler, preteen or teen years. The ones I see now are awful. Just in one of those box stores last night and I heard screaming, could tell not just 1 but several kids and finally here comes the mothers pushing and pulling several different ages of children along and the mothers, I guess, thought it was really cute that their kids could scream and act out like they were doing, the mothers actually smiling. Thank goodness, no more rug rats to raise.
You still don't understand. (sm)
A narcicist is not capable of being a friend. Divorcing him will be an insult to him and he will want to prove it is all your fault. Therefore you need a good lawyer to see if he can build a case to show that he is so bad for you and your children than he does not deserve visitation. You are going to need evidence, I'm sure.
Don't trust your own judgement the next time you are considering marriage - get a psychiatrist to evaluate any future husband for your own protection. You and your kids have been through enough, and I've read a lot of cases of women marrying the same type over and over again.
I understand
You have to feel that you've done everything possible to make your marriage work, so that if and when you decide to separate, it will be with the knowledge that there really isn't any other alternative for you.
The fact that your husband got excited about having a second chance is a good sign. Just don't let him slip back into his old ways. If he makes one demeaning remark to you, stop him cold in his tracks and tell him, "No more if you want this marriage to continue."
Be firm, be steady, and good luck!
I understand
But look what happened during Prohibition. And look at the availability of illegal drugs. It's a nice thought, but I don't think it would work. 
I don't really understand.............
I just know nothing would keep my mom from her grandchildren, even if she stopped speaking to her children and their spouses completely.
I think that is how I understand it, but
if someone else has them,(and how did they get them?) he (OJ) cannot just break-in to that person's room and take those items back. He should have notified the cops that this person had items belonging to him, stating the situation and go from there. I guess he thinks he is above the law after getting away with MURDER.
I'm not sure I understand what you
mean by associated, but it sounds like you did not pull the file from the disk into the transcription module. I did take a look under settings and then the files tab, where it shows the types of files ExpressScribe plays and where you check the box/es of the file types you will be transcribing. I did not see the one that you mentioned there, but just wanted to suggest that you could try converting the file using a program like GoldWave (free download) to something that is compatible. I usually convert to .wma files, which have always played fine on either of my modules (Olympus and ES).
Hope that helps, and good luck!
I understand....
I'm not telling everybody to not get it, just making sure they know all the side effects. I just tend to be overly cautious! :)
Hey, now I understand about no
respect by what you just wrote. You answered my question completely.
As I understand this...sm
these crosses were erected on PUBLIC land, not privately owned land. I can sure understand you being against roadside memorials though, in your situation, but this one is different, as it is public land and not hurting anybody..however, if it is violating some sort of state or city law, the laws should be adhered to, in my opinion.
I don't understand. Do you want to
leave him or stay with him. Sounds like you are miserable there. Maybe he was thinking the same thing and just afraid to be the first one to bring it up. If you are going to stay with him, then things have to change on BOTH sides.
I so understand, there too
 It is good to hear someone with the same problem as me. My daughter died 12 years ago and sometimes it just hits me real bad, a sound, a memory, a smell, and it all comes rushing back. No one can understand unless they too have lost a child. I feel for you. This time of year is always so hard.
I understand
Maybe he just wants more space and to get away from little brother - sounds like it's going to be a good situation for him - and probably his sister too..
I understand
I understand this, it is very frustrating, but it is also frustrating to have a child with asthma, who is 16 and very responsible, not be allowed to carry an inhaler with her at school, I had to appeal to the school board and get special permission, they gave in only after I, in no uncertain terms and with a not from an attorney, told them that if anything happened to her, they would be legally responsible. The kids are to leave inhalers in the office and if they need them, they are to contact the office - if you have an asthma attack, there is not time to go from one building to another and request your medication, sometimes I think the schools have no brains and they are in charge of our kids?
I understand
about the 14yr old. My DD just turned 15 and it takes about 30 minutes each morning before we find out if she is going to be 15, 5yrs old, or even 25yrs old on any given day. WHEW!!
Not really, because you don’t understand
He was NOT talking about women per se, he was saying YOUNG women under the age of 35. I did not vote, this is not a political board issue, it was merely about a talk show program that I felt was way off base. I am 65 and like I said, my female family members always worked (my grandmother in her 20s on) and my aunts, mother, etc. We never felt like a man or anyone else should take care of us, married or not. That is what I am saying. I only know of 1 female that I have ever heard say this. You might be from a younger group (like he was talking about) that feels someone should take care of them, ??
I understand
My parents divorced after 27 years of marriage. I was so angry at my dad for leaving mom. It was hard to see mother hurting like she was and dad not doing anything to fix it. I agree with the poster below, the best thing is to forgive him. You love them both and do want to see either one hurt (believe it or not dad is hurting too). This new lady friend will either get tired of him or he will wake up and seeing that he is being used, then where will he be? Please try not to be angry with your dad but, and I know that it is hard, to love him.
OH, now I understand! :-)
Well, that can really put a damper on things. Lots of other choices out there. Good luck! 
I can understand
why her mom would think that. I'm sure it is not something that people would generally think of being done intentionally. (I use that term loosely as I don't think psych issues are intentional which this may be.) If she has been aware of it then it might be a good idea for you to try to talk to her mom about it. She could be very frustrated with it and who knows how many doctor's are familiar this such a disorder (or whatever might be going on with her). Maybe this could be a starting point for mom to get her some help. I hope it all works out. I will keep my fingers crossed! :)
I do understand.
I understand that you were trying to avoid litigation on this matter, but the bottom line is either you avoid it or you don't. There is no in-between. Did the hospital file your daughter's visit to your insurance already? If so, what would you do with the $800 that the dog owner would give you?
I don't mean to be skeptical, but a very similar situation happened to my brother. He has 2 dogs - family dogs, mind you - a golden retriever and a lab, both on the small side. He had friends over and his friend's child was playing with the dog in my brother's house. The dog got excited and jumped up on the child (who was about 7 years old), catching his claw on the child's lower lip. It tore the skin, but nothing severe enough to require stitches or anything.
My brother's friend immediately wanted to take the child to the hospital. He even called from the hospital telling my brother about the treatment his child would need. My brother was very empathetic and concerned over the child's condition. Then the friend told him he would be getting the bill. My brother did get the bill, but when he contacted the hospital to pay it, the hospital told him it was already paid by the insurance company. My brother then contacted his friend, who said he could just make the check out to him and he would see to it that it got to the insurance. Yeah, right.
People in this world are always looking for a way to get something for nothing. I hope that's not the case here, and I apologize wholeheartedly if it isn't. In any event, I hope your daughter heals without scars, emotionally or physically. I have a feeling if you take this to court, your daughter will be reliving this nightmare for a long time to come. I would be more concerned about getting the dog impounded than I would be about lining your pockets.
I don't understand why you had to ask that one . . . nm
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I think I understand sm
The Bible thing hits home with me, I go through it all the time, some of my family carries it in their car and they believed they are "saved" and I am not. Unfortunately, I have been victimized the other way around, DIL's have "found" the right path, I am Catholic and "not saved" and have noticed an almost but not complete "banning" such as not answering my calls, etc., even though I have in the past been a savior during hard times and it's very hurtful, so I am very "raw" when it comes to this subject. I think back to when I resented my MIL and feel I am being "punished" but I truly do not deserve this, I never discuss religion, etc., my grandkids love me and I am tired of the excuses because they are hurting, they actually tell me they're sorry they can't see me more often. So I'm speaking from a broken heart. Do what you have to do. If your Mom won't listen to reason, then you've done your best to try. I am just being shut out with no explanation but I know where it's coming from with the "newly-found" Bible-based new testament. I have stopped going to church myself and am I know if I were told not to behave in a certain way, believe me, I would bend over backwards to play by the rules. I am just being given the cold shoulder I don't deserve, so as I said, this is a raw, touchy subject for me and I wish someone would talk to me about it, as I would even change religions just to be closer to the kids. They miss me and I miss them, it's a heartbreak. Your situation is different and you have to set some rules. She should be grateful that you are opening up and telling her what is bothering you. I am just a victim of a "silent war" and being pushed out, so don't listen to me, I'm in too much pain and I should take myself out of the equation. Good luck with everything, your kids don't need this swearing on the Bible thing, it's not normal. I pray that your Mom sees the light and loves the kids enough to change her ways. I''m just sad about my own situation. This shouldn't happen to a dog. But it did.
I understand, believe me!
Here's what I do during those company-coming crises!
Make a list of all I want done. Break it down into weekly tasks. Meter the weekly tasks out and include ALL FAMILY MEMBERS -- they all live there and dirty it up, they can all help clean it up! Just start now and do a countdown. You can get it done. Organization will help immensely.
I understand, believe me!
They're not helping? Oooooo, no meals cooked, laundry done or picking up after them, then!
Kids big enough to walk to/from school? Let 'em if they're not willing to help.
Until they start helping me, I'm not helping them!
A functioning family unit is not where the papa makes some money and comes home and does what he wants while the kids go to school and come in and do what they want while mama works, cleans, cooks, does the housework, shopping and carting kids around and never gets to do what she wants!
Nope, nope, nope!
Be strong!! MAKE them do it! Otherwise, schedule your dinner at a local restaurant and meet everyone there! AND DON'T TAKE ANYONE WHO REFUSED TO HELP!! Hot dogs for them on Turkey Day! LOL
You do not understand.....sm
what 99.6 percentile means.
I explained it in my former post. It means that she scored higher than 99.6 percent of all people who took the test and only 0.4 percent scored higher than her.
That means an IQ of above 150.
Do you believe this?
Einstein' was 165.
Average is 100.
Below 70 is mentally challenged.
I don't think I understand
so just let him do whatever, support his decisions, and hope for the best?
He has a good job it is just that so much of it is eaten by the attorneys, support, transportation, and crazy things the ex dreams up that the child "must" have and we are told we just have to pay it. It costs more than what I make to cover the mandatory expenses of my step-child.
I gave up our finances about a year ago to give him a taste of what it was like. Stupidly thinking this would help. Obviously it hasn't but has made things worse. I always reassure him and tell him we will get through it, etc. but when he asks me to make a decision I tell him honestly.
Recently asking if I mind if his teenage nephews come stay for the weekend I ask where is the extra money going to come from to feed them and get them to/from work as its an hour round trip. I offer maybe just one night instead of the entire weekend. Automatically that's not good enough because "they asked for the weekend." He says he doesn't know where the money will come from and he won't ask the his brother either and asks me to call and tell them no. Of course when I refuse I can tell he gets upset although he won't say it.
We don't argue about stuff its just more of one of us getting pi$$ed off until it blows over and then starting again the following week when another circumstance comes up. Honestly, I'm just getting tired of putting up. It has been nearly 10 years now but only 4 since our finances went together.
We are also expecting a child, which we could afford before the last 6 months came crashing down on us. Of course this is part of my anxiety over finances but being a man and his usual self he wants to live in la-la land until we don't have money to buy diapers.
I'm just so frustrated. Thanks for listening and letting me know that there is hope things will change. Atleast I know when the step-child becomes an adult it will be like winning the lottery!
I understand SO much what you are saying.
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I don't understand why it has to be this way
My SDs mom told her if I was at her graduation, she would not be, same thing for her wedding. She told all the kids if they like me that means they don't love her. My oldest SS is seeing his mother at Christmas for the first time in a year and a half, but he still holds on to her "rules" even after all these years because he so desperately wants her love.
I do treat mine differently, because THEY treat ME differently. I love my SD and was there for her any time she needed me. She made a few terrible mistakes recently and because we did not tell her it was okay, and send money, she is no longer speaking to us. Guess I now know how she really felt.
I raised these children for four years (the youngest was 18 months old she took custody of him at 6 and SD was 8). I spent more time with them than their bio mom did but because she can flash the money and make threats I'm still no better than dirt on the bottom of their shoes. My husband kept saying to have patience and wait until they grew up. Step-daughter is 18 and SS who lives with us is 15, I've been in their lives since they were 3 and 5. How long am I supposed to be treated like dirt? and what will it get me in the end? I found out with SD.....kicked to the curb.
I'm sick and tired of being disrespected by children and being expected to tolerate it because I am the step-mom and need to treat the SKs extra special so they like me someday.
Your right, there is nothing remotely romantic involved!
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