Where is your backbone??
Posted By: Sandra on 2007-03-30
In Reply to: I have a sister who NEEDS my advice all the time. - sameissueshere
I have no problem NOT answering my phone, I have caller-ID but if not can still let it come in on answering. A person only is taken advantage of when they allow others to do it. I just see it as you cannot stand up for your job situation. Just to think if you had to show up at an office, would they still call and bother you?? You would not have a job long and if no one gets some gumption, it will continue.
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No, she needs a backbone
She wants advice, you want advice, but that's not what you want to hear. If someone isn't agreeing with you, well, forget it. You know what coldhearted is? Someone who hurts the people they say they love over and over and over and they just don't care. I'm not coldhearted! I am someone who doesn't let people hurt my family. I am a mother, I protect, I laugh, I love, I choose to live my way and no one will mess with my family or I will mess them up! PERIOD! Call it cold all you want. Are you protecting the innocent ones? Or are you more concerned with protecting the one who is hurting them. Get real here!
Do you have a backbone, can you not stand
up for yourself? People only take advantage of you if you let them. I have a very good word for people like this, NO.
Poster said that mother always said she had no backbone
sounds like it runs in the family and brother may be similar. Clearly the wife is taking advantage of that. She needs a good swift kick in the as* is what I think. I mean, talking badly about her husband's sister to their children and making fun? That's not normal. Obviously she's got some problems only a good therapist can help.
Then THAT is what they should have said. Saying "grow a backbone" is rude. Saying... SM
"you are too lenient with your father and you shouldn't put up with his behavior" is NOT rude. See the difference?
It's called common courtesy. Take a class and get some class!
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