Where do you get unhappy or miserable out of that
Posted By: sm on 2006-11-16
In Reply to: this makes me sad... - sm
After a while, most of the physical attraction wears off. And usually unless it is a volatile type of relationship with a lot of bad fighting and make up sex i.e., so does the passion. Sad but true. You can love your husband very much but just not have the attraction or passion that was once there. It doesn't mean you are unhappy, just normal.
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Well, no wonder you are miserable
if he is absent physically and emotionally. He is supposed to be your companion. Ask him if he is having an affair. Tell him you are unhappy because you are lonely. Talk!
actually I am not miserable, just sm
uncomfortable. Today it hasn't been so bad because some of the constipation "left." I think that has a big bearing on all of this. Guess I need to keep up with that problems. Constipation also doesn't help my pancreas either. Its like everything gets pushedu p into the diaphragm! YUK!
I'm only miserable as far as he is concerned....sm
because he is drunk 99% of the time I get to see him. It's a Merry go round we can't seem to get off. Every day ends for me with a drunk SOB picking a fight and every morning starts for him with me being PO'd at him for whatever he did the night before. The rest of my life is actually great. I have great kids, a career I love, lots of family. There's potential for wonderful life for me and the kids if I could just remove the daily alcoholic part.
Trust me, I've supported DH for 15 years. Took him to marriage counselors, begged, pleaded, tried to be understanding. This last year we risked our financial well-being to support his dream. His end of the deal was he'd have something to work for and wouldn't drink anymore. He's still drinking, and we're still waiting to see the outcome of his dream. Luckily, he and his partner just refinanced under the new corporation and we are able to pay back all the personal funds he borrowed. I've tried it all. Give him some time to go out with the guys, do activities he wants, take the vacations he wants. Doesn't matter how much I support him. DH is a taker, and he will continue to take until I literally have no more to give financially, emotionally, or physically.
It's high time I lead by example and teach my pre-teen daughters that women deserve respect, honesty, common courtesy, and contributions from their partner that contribute to their well being and well being of their family. My biggest fear is my daughter's are just going to repeat the cycle because it is all they have ever known. I am totally at peace with the fact that I have done all I can to support my husband and help him overcome his addiction. Bottom line, can't help those that don't want to help themselves, and I will not sacrifice my children to keep trying.
you certainly have a miserable heart
So, everyone else is supposed to give your candidate a break, but you feel free to come on here and bash a woman, Hillary, who chose to stay with her husband even after he told a great big lie. As far as the philandering, give me a break - if every woman left her husband for that, there might be 12 marriages left intact.
I don't like Obama - he swaggers, he obviously thinks he is the Second Coming by his body language and his speech patterns. He has very little experience in anything of importance, whereas Hillary was doing voluteer work in grade school and never stopped. She worked without charge to help defend blacks unfairly charged with crimes when she was still in law school. She was with Marian Edelman (think that's the name) who started the Children's Defense Fund at the beginning, has never made money at that time and donated all her time, legal talent and paid her own airfares, hotels and meals to go to the D.C. for the board meetings when she was First Lady of Arkansas.
Obama on the other hand has had his fair share of shady dealings with property in Chicago. I'm from Illinois and I can tell you that no one gets anywhere in Chicago politics without getting dirty. Obama voted present 114 times in the Illinois legislature - ridiculous. The man has no backbone and no conscience.
You call Hillary power hungry - she has earned the right to be the presidential candidate. She didn't ask for it just because of her physical characteristics.
If Obama is elected, it will be a very, very tragic day for this country.
Wow, you're a really miserable person, aren't you?
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OMG, we did that with our teen kids one year. Unavoidable. Miserable
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Well thanks for visiting the miserable people and giving us your 2 cents nm
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I really think your dog is unhappy and
has separation anxiety. Crating her all the time is not helping that in the least. Can you not work on spending more time with her outside of her crate? Yelling at her for normal dog behavior (trying to communicate with you by barking) really sounds a little cruel to me. Are you sure you want a pet at all?
Yes, there are always those few unhappy
people out there that always have to knock everyone else down because they are insecure, jealous or who knows why they do it.
Have you also noticed that crabby patty has not responded to anyone after her or his dumb remark???? Kinda of fun to give crabby a hard time back though.
has anybody ever been unhappy with the way
Don't get me wrong, my son's teeth are straight. but it's like he pulled forward 6 "front" teeth into a squared off shape, very prominent. They look very fake--think Miley Cyrus after veneers. I had braces also, by a different orthodontist and my teeth are more "rounded" and natural, if that makes sense. has anybody ever been unhappy with their results??
I have found images on the internet that are similar to our situation; these are not actual pictures of us.
Here's what his look like:
http://www.bracesbysouris.com/images/before_after1.jpg
here's what mine look like
http://www.seapointclinic.ie/images/After003.jpg
I am not unhappy at all.
I see no reason. Right now hubby and I both have jobs, able to buy like we want, vacations in the works, approaching a big b'day for me, gosh I just think life is really good at the present time. I have gone through so much in the past am thankful I have halfway security now and at good point to where I am enjoying my life.
Sounds very much like he is unhappy with HIMSELF!
Hope you do not waste any more time with this guy. There ARE better ones out there.
Just think of how many of them are unhappy in relationships though,
their spouse or SO for someone they co-star with. Im just thinking it takes a very strong person to see or think about the one you love kissing and becoming intimate with someone else, even if it is "pretend", and then to have them say they liked it"? Give me a break, that would be insulting to the spouse or SO - IMO.
I know I could not do it, and I am not usually a jealous person.
Sounds like your unhappy friend........ sm
just got a bad-fitting set of dentures. Has she seen a dentist or denture specialist about this? Hopefully she can get them either adjusted or a new pair. I believe the change in her life would justify the expense more than adequately if she has to hide to eat, etc.
I am not an unhappy person for the most part - sm
I am unhappy about gaining so much weight since I have become a MT, but there are many factors contributing to the issue, not just the fact I sit on my but for 10-12 hours a day.
Are you unhappy enough to leave? Your life is too short...
to spend it second guessing your relationship! It is either good or bad, worth fixing or not... It is your choice. If a man treats a woman like crap and she continues to take it she is also to blame. You can leave you know! There are good men out there, don't settle for less than what you deserve. If you want to be treated poorly those are the kind of man you are going to attract, the lousy ones. Women must stop being the victims. People treat you the way you LET THEM treat you. And those that say stay together for the sake of the children are nuts..especially if you have daughters, look at the example you are setting. I would much rather have a single parent (male or female) who was happy and well adjusted than be in a miserable two parent family where there is no mutual respect and love!
Trolls like this generally are very unhappy people.......... sm
the problem is they don't realize it. She obviously does need people in her life, as evidenced by her posting on this board.
What do you think is the "one" thing that is making you unhappy?
Money?
No girlfriend or boyfriend?
Being lonely?
Hating your job?
Not having your dream job?
Being away from family?
Being away from friends?
Not being in that school environment?
If you had to pick one thing, what do you think is the main cause of your unhappiness?
For me, it is probably not having that dream career....A career helps you feel more secure, worthy, gives purpose, makes you more confident, etc.
yep, regret marriage. been in it way too long to be unhappy and wasting life. nm
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