When you assume....you are usually wrong..
Posted By: GaPeach on 2006-12-27
In Reply to: Obviously you have never been violated as I was. - DG
as you were in this case...I used to live on a corner lot and when working away from home broken into probably 6 or 7 times, had to have bars put on the windows, stolen from- my son went by the house once and called me and told me he was there as were the police, just broken in on. One time I was at home, the house dark and someone entered the door thinking no one was there. Oh, by the way, had an exhusband who also stalked me for a long time. Please do not assume when you don’t really know about someone else. Unlike others considering being paranoid, just things happened to me like it happens to others- I just got over mine...
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That's quite a lot to assume that because
I don't attend church that I don't worship.
Sounds like maybe you need to do a little more worshiping!
Yes! Thanks very much. I assume I can buy the
wicks and scents from Walmart/Target craft department?
Please do not assume (sm)
That I have "never picked up a Bible or attended church much at all." You would be wrong. I do not believe in judging people and telling people who will go to Heaven and who will not. I wouldn't presume to tell anyone that their loved one will not go to Heaven because of their religion - and unless you happen to be the Second Coming personified, you shouldn't either.
I assume you said...sm
rebellion because she chose to keep her maiden name. We don't discuss that in our family. LOL
you cannot assume
that she is on welfare. Maybe she is. but if so, do you really think that monetary compensation for the babies would hold a light to all she has to do to take care of them now and heart aches to come for the next 20 years? My concern is more for whether she LOVES her children and raises them well than the money and where it comes from.
That's a lot to assume. Everyone has bad days.
Everyone shouldn't be so quick to judge!
Even though I'm not in the mood, I usually give my husband a smile or something. He usually just smiles and then leaves me alone. I think sometimes even if they aren't getting anything they still just want to feel wanted, ego boost, whatever you want to call it. :)
So, since he's divorced twice, do we assume that it
Isn't there such a thing as he divorced the wives? Are you catching my drift? I guess we automatically assume it was "his" fault, and never the woman's? Just a thought. I say just take it slow, but it is so much fun to have that initial spark, and if it continues, then great. 
I'm not sure of specifics, I assume it was
T3, T4 and TSH. Are there others they can check if these are normal? Everything I read says if thyroid usually these levels are affected. I appreciate all of your responses. I'm very nervous.
I am told never assume as you did
because you are usually wrong and such is the case here, and by the way, you are excused.
don't assume a 29-year-old is
responsible, either. My sister still lives at home (27) and my parents do her laundry, tell her to pay her bills, make her supper and clean her room. The age of the sister isn't the issue here.
assume this is true. God help you
and get away from him. get to the women's shelter, in fact, you probably need the witness protection program. he cannot legally drop insurance on the kids with a court order. There has to be someone legal to help you and the women's shelter or crisis abuse hotline knows all the numbers. outside of your kids it does not sound like you would be leaving much behind if you just went with what you could carry. I would take ANY death threat seriously and the fact he is now turning it on the kids is worrisome. Good luck.
Assume the smoking outside will not last. sm
I've lived with smokers. They all say they'll only do it outside. They ALL eventually revert to doing it inside. Especially when you are the only non-smoker. Consider how this will affect you. They may be awesome, but they're awesome smokers.
assume you are talking about sm
Something called big love, it's disgustingly funny, watch it so I know what some will do in the name of the Almighty One. I am a God-loving person but give me a break, please!! Let's just see if wife #4, the waitress gets to join the love fest. Yuk! Double Yik, yuk! Throwing up!
Not true. Don't assume because you store something somewhere
that the person storing it is liable if something is lost or stolen. In fact, I had stuff stolen from a storage facility and they were not liable. Luckily my homeowners insurance paid.
In this case I believe both husbands were at fault. OPs husband because he chose rest rather than being sure that the quads were safe....and BIL because he shouldn't have accepted responsibility for the quads if he didn't feel he could store them safely. Both should take equal responsibility for the loss IMO.
I assume you're single.......
You need to call this guy. Call him at the office with a "question" and see where the conversation takes you.....Good luck!!!
And you assume you are the only woman this has ever happened to??
Unbelievable. I have gone thru exactly the same thing, abused, mistreated, broken arm, blackened eyes. What does that have to do with forgetting other than possibly all those hits to the head. My children do not motivate me to remember. My dear, loving husband does not motivate me. My loving cats do not motivate me. No one can motivate me to remember, just ain't there. Very responsible person, pay all my bills, run 3 different homes, rentals included, write things down or give to hubby like I said so I won't misplace. I call that pretty responsible. I think no one should assume about another person's life when they really don't have a clue as to what they have been through.
and I assume they have all signed HIPAA
contracts! Sorry about your loss. That is a crowded workstation. Why do my cats think they can sit in my lap while I type?
Why do you assume she married the money?
Jealous much?
I can't speak for her, but I've been married for 13 years and my husband certainly wasnt making 6 figures when I married him. Some people have goals in life, and do things early on in their life/career to help them attain those goals.
Plus, you act as if a 6-figure income is rich and let me tell you, it's far from it (assuming she is on the lower end of that 6 figures as our household is).
I'm not trying to slam anyone, honestly, it just amazes me some of the things people are posting to save money and makes me wonder how they can be content with their job/life if they have to struggle that much. This is still America, the land of opportunity, and we all have a chance to better ourselves if we choose to do so. Granted it is harder these days than say, 10 years ago, but it is still possible. Cripes, there are illegal immigrants living better off than it sounds like some of you are!
Why do you assume we're "behind"? sm
I think you'll find just the opposite to be true. Most of the therapies have come from adult stem cell research done in the US, or by American researchers in collaboration with those from other countries.
More to the point, and I hate to keep having to say this, my original post took no position against ESC research. I only pointed out that it does not appear to hold the promise that those who are grabbing for federal tax dollars would have you believe, that it has had a number of problems (such as seeding people with cancer), AND that it is a grave mistake to open these doors without due consideration for the potential risk to human embryos.
Let's think about this last point for a minute. It seems that this sort of precipitous action is becoming a habit with this administration.
We see this in the precipitous passage of the bailout package without the five days promised to read it.
We see it with Guantanamo, releasing terrorists BEFORE conducting the review that Obama himself promised.
We see it in the debacle of the proposal to Russia to dismantle the missile shield if Russia would help with Iran, which was releasedto the American press before it was discussed with Russia in displomati circles and, as a result, getting a world-class come-uppance when we were turned down like a bedspread by Putin.
I could go on, but this President is proving to be distressingly naive, politically inept, and impulsive. Whether it's throwing $billions at "fixing the economy" without proper safeguards, ESC research without proper safeguards, releasing Guantanamo prisoners without proper review, announcing the date of withdrawl from Iraq months in advance, or releasing sensitive diplomatic information to the press prematurely, the Obama administration needs to grow up and slow down.
One almost has the sense that Obama knows he will only have four years, and if he doesn't become much more measured in his actions, he just might be right.
oooooooh nooooooo....dont assume anything
NOT on line. I went to a party....much like tupperware or candle party. Only women. It was so darn much fun - in fact, I think it was called a *Fun Party*. It was done tastefully, as much as possible considering it started out with this 2 or 3 foot plastic/rubber phallus in the middle of the floor. The hostess explained all the products and how to use them, etc., etc. She even let you try out some samples of things, privately in a separate room if you wanted. And when it came time to order, that was done privately also. If you wanted to tell your friends what you bought, you could. If you didnt want anyone to know, that was up to you.
We did have refreshments and, no, hot dogs were not served.
Come to think of it, we were mostly all transcriptionists there! Ages from 20s to 60s. We all worked together. I guess we MTs are just a fun lovin bunch!!!
Nope - we assume it'll be tough
I think boomers are the last of the "fix it" generations - able to make simple repairs, jump a stalled vehicle, do things "the hard way/old fashioned way" on manual, non-electronic office equipment and machines, tell time on a wind-up non-digital clock.
Many people from younger generations admit they know how to do very little unless it happens to be their college-trained specialty. Things boomers take for granted as normal life skills like
Sew up a rip in clothing or replace a button
Pull a car out of a ditch or change a flat tire
Cook dinner from scratch, and substitute ingredients in a pinch
Do long division on paper instead of a computer, and make change without electronic help
Many who don't know, don't want to learn - they always assume there'll be someone out there they can hire to do it for them. As a boomer I've always been shocked and dismayed at younger generations blithe lack of self-sufficiency. Seems like they don't know how to do anything - and don't want to know.
I guess these are the times when people just assume without knowing...
I said when I answered her call "She seemed out of sorts, curt reply, telling me to call her back." Well, with all "assuming" that is going on, I assume people are not reading the post as I stated. If she thinks I am angry, I have told her to ask me. A person who assumes is wrong a lot of the time- as you were here.
It's just as rude to assume everyone will want to drop everything to talk to you when you call. n
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Most people would assume mom was cremated and waiting to bury urn
at least that's what I think.
You ead my response wrong, terribly wrong
I am trying to ask what does she think it will help, not being nasty- tell me and I will try this. I would stand on my head and gargle peanut butter if I thought it would help - I wanted to know why a letter? They are thumbing their noses at the courts - commanded to appear- I was there and they werent.
Please don't take this the wrong way
but after reading your note and the way he is "flirting" - sounds like he's thinking below the belt. Unless that's what your're interested in also he could be trouble.
Um, wrong!!!
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what is wrong with you (OP)???
How in the WORLD is playing peek-a-boo with your child ICKY?? Wow, hope you aint a mom..........................
it is very sad, but you are wrong about these
horses being exploited. I have horses. I have been part of the horseracing business and my husband's life was spent riding racehorses. These are very well-taken care of animals, and by nature love to run. They generally work for minutes a day (except on race day) and then are pampered the rest of the time. There are exceptions, but these horses are very much loved by those that work with them. There was absolutely no monetary benefit to keeping Barbaro alive. They could have collected huge amounts of money through their insurance had they put him down right away. They could not breed this horse; Tb's cannot be AI'd. They tried to save this horse because they loved him and he had poured his heart out to run his best. Just yesterday after watching the Sunshine Millions races, i told my husband that they've tried long enough to save him, that it is time to put him down. I agree with that decision.
wrong -- MOST don't end up this way.
Many of these horses go to working ranches, competition of other kinds, like barrel racing, etc. There are also numerous organizations set up by the racing assocation and others to find them homes in the general population. If you really want to know where much of your packing plant horses come from, look at the BLM, wild mustangs. They sell here for $25. yup, even bred mares. So these people that have no heart, buy em and turn them around for a profit at the packing plants. BTW, a feed lot is generally a term for steers in a concentrated lot being fed-up for slaughter, and horses are used there to work the cows.
VERY wrong! What would
you think if you caught your husband in the same situation. It seems to have become an addiction. Stop now cold turkey. Read the 5 love languages book and see if you cannot reconnect with your hubbie or go get some marriage counseling.
Is this right or wrong?
I am a female in my early 40's and I have never been married and do not have children.
With every job I've had, some people feel the need to interrogate me about why I've never been married.
I never bring up the topic myself.
I usually answer, I've never found any one, maybe I will meet someone, etc.
I recently started a new job and have told co-workers when they ask if I've ever been married, I tell them I am divorced.
Now, I barely hear a peep about being single, whether these folks tell me they wish they were single or complain about their kids.
I just think it is rude to ask someone why they have never married. I would never ask someone why they married their spouse.
Is this right or wrong?
It's definitely wrong.
That you're so good in bed that limiting yourself to just one man would be a crime against humanity.
Then ask them, "Which one is YOUR husband, by the way?"
So everyone else was wrong, U only one to get it right? nm
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You are so wrong
As a former teacher, I'm appalled at your ignorance. Teachers start at salaries lower than truck drivers. Of course it varies from region to region, but generally it is about $28k to $29k. Some of these positions require a master's degree or a specialist degree, which is above the Bachelor's degree.
As far as the hours teachers work - they are really never off duty. They have papers to grade, meetings to attend, clubs to sponsors, committees to serve on, parents to phone, write, email, and and websites to update daily. Then, there are the workshops and/or college courses they have to attend to keep their credentials current.
Summer vacation? Who teaches summer school? Who works 1 or 2 jobs to supplement the lack of income for the 2 summer months, to keep up the student loan payments, take a college course or a workshop mandated by the school district or the state dept of education?
Then, there is the fact they aren't allowed to be human. If a teacher is seen drinking in public, smoking in public, or smacking their own child's bottom, they are bound to be pilloried by some self-righteous citizen.
You need to shadow a teacher for a week and then coime back and tell me how easy the job is and how well paid they are.
If it were easy, everyone would be doing it and we wouldn't have the teacher shortage we have.
Did I mention the number of teachers who are assaulted and permanently injured by their students every year? I'm waiting for 60 Minutes to do a story about that instead of the extremely rare but so publicized cases of teachers having sex with their students. Anyone else notice that it's the female teachers who get the publicity? I know a lot more male teachers having sex with their students - of both sex - than female teachers.
Nothing wrong with that-
it sounds like my friend who comes over to my house and hangs out with me and cleans my house for me. Sometimes I give her money when she needs it and I can afford it; Also she drives my other car and I pay the registration and insurance on it. She is unable to work and the amount of disability she gets is impossible to live on.
There's something wrong with her, all right! nm
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Nothing wrong at all with it sm
The Clydesdales live at Grants Farm in St. Louis, a wonderful place to take children. The Budweiser story is rich with American history between President Grant and one of the founders of Budweiser's daughters - we took our 12 and 7 year old on a tour of both Grant's Farm and the Budweiser factory. The horses are beautiful a part of American history dating back into the 1800s. I would guess this box is worth far more than the $20 you paid for it.
My 2 cents.
So what's wrong with that?
How about what everybody uses wrong - me and I.
And it is always her and I or my husband and I or my daughter and I, no matter what the context.
Are you going with Mary and I to the show? WRONG!
She gave a nice gift to my husband and I and the kids?
WRONG!
And everybody does it and it drives me crazy. The RULE is so simple, just drop the first person or reverse it in your head, and there's your answer.
Are you going with.....ME?
Are you going with....me and Mary?
You wouldn't say, Are you going with I? Nor, are you going with I and Mary?
Please, people!
Thank you :)
lol
No you were not wrong, and if it were me (sm)
you better believe I'd be touching his stuff, moving it around, whatever would tick him off the most. Childish? Sure is, but so was what he did.
I think you are 100% wrong on this
The stories we are hearing now are so out there. I was born in the 40s and never, ever heard such crap when I was growing up, young teenage, young adult and so forth and I have always stayed up with the news, etc.I was just complaining of the same this morning about what people are doing now, school teachers having sex with 10 year old, people throwing their lives away for ?? I can honestly say these things NEVER happened in the 50s, 60s, 70s like they are happening now. I have lived these years and remember well. I have been aorund the block and so glad I don’t have young children now. Asking or telling them to move would make no difference with the kind she is talking about. A lot of kids killing now just for you saying anything to them. I, myself, would have called the police and got them to intervene. Saying something only sets you up for something worse.
So what's wrong with being gay? - nm
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Yes, I'm wrong - UR right sm
I overheard a conversation at the butcher's about a weight loss product which was totally mispronounced and the conversation was truly disgusting about the person's side effects. My appetite was ruined. I didn't quite get the name. You are right, it is another product which name escapes me right now. I hear so many that I do get confused. I just wanted to check on these disgusting symptoms. Never mind, thanks!
only way to go wrong with B&B is if (sm)
the girl has perfume sensitivies. Achoo.
I must be doing something wrong...sm
The link seems to work fine in my e-mail, but cutting and pasting ya can't click on and get the recipes...Sorry  Cat
Wrong
My 16-year old son decided that he wanted to go and live with his older sister (who is 29) and she went along with it.....no one ever discussed this with me....just told me what THEY were going to do.....I'm thinking OK if that's what you want to do....fine with me.....So, when he was getting ready to leave....I told him to leave my house key....when I told my mom, she said that I was wrong in asking for my house key....she said that is "your child".....what my feeling is....if you don't leave here...you don't need a key to MY HOUSE......and I guess I have burned bridges somewhere because I just told her what I felt.....and also told her that "I am YOUR child...too, but I don't have a key to your house......DID I DO ANYTHING WRONG FOR ASKING FOR MY HOUSE KEY?????
Nothing wrong with it. You can
always re=issure it later if you deem the maturity and responsibility and/or need is there.
wrong
I did not kick him out.....
wrong
Nothing was ever discussed with me....I guess they did not feel the need to....but the point is....I am his MOTHER....and I have say so....but if this is the way they want to POP IT....they go for it....and she can afford for him to live with her and I don't have to pay anything.....she has a BS degree and Master's.....
wrong
I never said that he is not welcome into my home....what I'm trying to say is if he's not living here and he does not need a key....he is always to come home.....but home is not DO DROP IN......
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