When the physician personally calls you, red flag time
Posted By: Life was going so good on 2009-05-27
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I just had an MRA of brain this past week and nephrologist called today, not in and he left his cell phone # for me to call him back. He said an artery showed up as bigger than should be - I asked aneurysm and he said, well he wanted to know about my seeing a neurosurgeon ASAP and he said he would call and talk to 1 he knew (if I did not have one of my choice, nope didn’t ) and get me in just as soon, hopefully tomorrow and then nephrologist called back in about 5 minutes to verify he did speak with the neurosurgeon and appointment tomorrow. Now I have just started to draw my full social security, still working, planning vacations and yes that is pleural and crud!! Maybe good this anomaly caught in time, would hate to stroke out or worse. I had been going to another neurologist, started having some twitches in my face and also nystagmus in my right eye here lately. I was knowing something was up. I will collect that medical license just any day now. Wish me luck with tomorrow....
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Physician called, red flag lady back from visit and on my getting M.D. license
First of all when I called the neurologist's office this morning (this was the appointment my nephrologist had so quickly set up for me last night, himself-) the neurologist's office asked me if I could come on in then instead of waiting for my appointment at 11:30. Oh, lordy me- I just knew it was time to get my affairs in order, write that will, etc.
The physician after my saying about 2 sentences to him asked if I were a physician. The great news is the brain aneurysm is very small (see I also was goggling brain tumor before I went in, you know how some of us are) and he said it was a watch thing, no neurosurgeon would touch it at such a small size. You talk about relief. I told him I could hug his neck. I went in with such fright and that was all basically eliminated. Thanks to each and all who said they had me in their thoughts.
She says if she calls the cops every time he shows up ...sm
he will just be gone by the time they get there. She did pick up the phone several months ago when he put the gun to his head. She said I am calling 911 to come take you to get help. He immediately stopped and sat down and said no please don't call the cops. I am not going to kill myself. I won't do that anymore. Now if he was serious, he would have not cared. He would have said hey I will be dead before they get here. He knew he wasn't going to do it and he didn't want to get hauled off for psychiatric evaluation. THen he started threatening this again on the phone one time and she said ok I am going to have you committed then cause you need help. He said oh no I am not going to kill myself. And for a long time he did not bring it up again. It is for attention.
Stepdaughter calls me "SM" (stepmom), daugher calls me mom. nm
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Red Flag
Red Flag-
You need to get a life and join the 21st century. More Moms and Dads are working these days. Parenting is the hardest job in the world. A child can get into mischief even if you don't work and watch them 24/7. That is part of growing up. There is NO such thing as the perfect parent - no matter how hard we all try. There are going to be broken bones and busted lips. Don't tell me YOUR children never had a cut or bruise under your watchful eye. That is BS and a flat-out lie.
I worked in child abuse as a therapist for 13 years. I have seen the worst of the worse. This is definitely not a case of abuse.
Lilly
Red Flag
A huge red flag to me is that he blames *you* for hitting you a few years ago.
"But he has already told me just a few nights ago that he was never happy with me, was always disappointed and frustrated with who I am, and that this is probably the reason he hit me a few years ago."
Nice.
.."why continue to stay if I will never be good enough?"
I think you answered your own question *wink*
Good luck, and take care of you!
red flag should be up
IMO if the person who told you something about your spouse cannot provide the proof, why would you discount it so quickly. Maybe it's time you started to look for proof. It could be as the other poster said and the person who told you about this could be trying to stir up trouble, but like I've heard before - the wife is always the last to know.
Well, I think Red Flag is outnumbered here.
Oh my goodness-Red Flag - Are you kidding?? (sm)
First of all, even if we didn't go as far as to compare this to truly neglective mothers, think about this. If the mom worked outside of the home and her child was in a child care setting, do you know how closely the child would be watched? By teenagers usually for summer camps at least, and they have many children to watch at once. Kids get hurt all the time. Even a non-working mom cannot sit and stare at her six year old watching their every move all day. If she did, she would be accused of being overprotective and she would never get her housework done, so then, of course, she'd be in trouble for that. The last 20 years or so children have been far more supervised than ever in history! For those of us who grew up in the 70s and 80s, we were outside playing til the street lights came on. For those who grew up in the 30s and 40s - they were out farming and cooking when they were 7 or 8 years old - heck, back then, the 6 year old would have been the babysitter while the parents farmed. People have to make money to survive. A mom working while her child is at home cannot supervise them 24-7. But she loves them and takes very good care of them, working to earn money to take care of them and I am sure setting boundaries and keeping the child in a safe environment. Kids today are soooo much better off than in the past. Be realistic, please!
let's raise the flag *ROFL*.....lucky you....
Birthdays. Mine was completely forgotten by everyone! June 14, Flag Day. sm
Mom & Dad, longterm boyfriend, best friend, brother, I teach a kickboxing class and last class I randomly said *I will be teaching on Sunday, which is my birthday, so be prepared for a killer workout" - maybe I was hoping for a few Happy Birthdays... not a call, not a card! I kind of cried tonight in the shower... I'm over it now, (well maybe not really!) but should I bring it up tomorrow? I know B-days are for children, but I just wanted to be treated just a little bit special on this day! I've had a hard year with some illness and kind of thought maybe somebody would want to celebrate me! So here I am working tonight - but I think I might have to head out to Dairy Queen for a Blizzard before they close. I think something gooey and chocolatey is needed.
Did that, seeing the physician, that is
and was told the symptoms of detached retina, should I ever have these, were sudden flashes of bright lights and then to get to emergency room or physician ASAP. Floaters, I know, are quite a normal thing in older patients but my question was if anyone had ever had any kind of treatment for these. I have been to a physician, told them what I was having (as have typed on them for years) and not given any kind of treatment for them, just wondering if any others were suggested treatment for them. Thanks
Have you tried asking the physician
your husband is seeing for his disease? Is there a large hospital in your area that may be you could call and ask if there is anything offered online either directly through them or they could suggest a site? I wonder if you Google the rare disease you might find some sites. I think you are right though to gain support online since it is the wave of the future.
I had it done once by a physician, but
was told insurance would not cover them as it was considered cosmetic. I had some on my neck and told them with my collar rubbing them they bled. They took scissors and snipped them off and guess what? I have done them since that time myself. No anesthesia, no antibiotic so figured what the heck, sterilize with alcohol and snip away.
I told the physician
I had them, have typed on this so long knew what they were and sure enough, have. What I am asking is there anyone out there who has had any sort of treatment for them or is this just a bothersome thing that continues. TIA
He has talked with his physician,
I could talk with his physician, have absolutely no issue there, not afraid to discuss nor shamed to discuss any issue with sexual impotency or others. No family physician here for me but that same would apply as above if I had one. Like earlier, love him dearly as he does me. He in fact was telling me earlier (started tearing up just saying it) how much he loved me and would do anything in the world for me. All together now, big ahhhhhhhhhhh.
physician call
I wish you the best of luck and prayers go with you. If it were me, I would also seek a second opinion before undergoing invasive procedure and check for best possible surgeon if needed.
Just back from the physician, told him this would be a
very quick visit, did not want the Synthroid any more and asked for and got the Armour instead. Told him since first diagnosed no difference in any symptoms except none of the intense itching like at first, still weight, dry skin, hair and so on and so forth. I will definitely pay Sallys a visit and get what you are talking about. I believe in trying what others have used and believe in. Thanks!
Maybe FOREVER! That's encouraging. Don't want HRT and physician
said long term HRT is a thing of the past, which I didn't know. Now, they only give them for 3-6 months. Mine went away for a couple of months, but back again, 15-20 a day, but no night sweats. I thought this stuff only lasted a year or so.
If the original physician is her family
doctor they will find out because they always ask for medical records.
No, but it was free for me; a gift from a very generous physician. Oh, and (sm)
it was douched with holy water and blessed by the Pope.
My physician never brought up about hysterectomy, I told him
I wanted to see about this but this situation different. I had ongoing bleding that could not be controlled and then another person in medical field told me how their friend almost hemorrhaged and not being able to stop the bleeding in the nighttime. I immediately called my physician and asked for a hysterectomy. So glad I did. This was in 1986 and loads of typing then on AIDS patients and how blood could be responsible. I did not want a transfusion at that particular time. My view only. No problem with the surgery at all. Now there are other means of controlling but past childbearing, saw no reason to just have the periods.
The physician errors too numerous to count
I wish I knew why people don’t listen- could probably make millions if I found out. I went to have CT scan done 1 day - before having it done I said now that is for so and so- nope, that is not what the order read- read for another part of the body. I then asked them to call the doctors office to verify the part to be xrayed. I cannot help these igits that work out here now. I changed my regular physician because of poor doctoring. I NEVER EVER SAID anything about soft stools. Where he got that from who in the he.... knows? I said she was THROWING UP. Thank goodness not huge mistake there as I did not give her the Imodium but 2 times, otherwise she would have the runs from each end.
I worked for a physician doing overflow work,
made less than $600 for last year, so they did not send me a 1099 because if you make under $600 you do not have to report it and neither do they, so therefore I did not have to claim the small amount I made from them.
Since this is a serious health issue, may be best to speak with the physician...sm
taking care of your in-law. None of us that patient's physician, and warfarin and the medical conditions it treats can be very tricky and dangerous. The best advice may come from the poster whose husband is on the same medication, not from Google. I am not bashing anyone or saying people don't know what they are talking about. We are intelligent people who do have vast medical knowledge, but this type of question really should be handled by the particular patient's doctor, the one who knows all of the history, any food allergies or reactions, etc.
You most definitely should speak to someone if you will even be remotely involved in the patient's care when she returns home. Someone needs to have an objective insight, and sometimes when a family member is sick, the ones closest to them do not understand all the instructions and such, especially someone who sounds really ill. Your knowledge could be very valuable to them.
Don't be afraid to ask the doctors and nurses anything. That is what they are there for. They treated this patient, and they have the responsibilty to make sure the patient gets the best care possible at home to help with recovery. Our thoughts will be with you, and let us know how she is doing.
See link inside--my physician's office recommended this.
http://nuvoforheadlice.com/method_explained.htm
We had to do it twice, but it does work.
Next door neighbor is a Physician's Asst. in local ER. He keeps his black doc bag packed for home
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Daughter is only 3 and she calls me
Me: Momma
Dad: Daddy.
When she gets older I think she will probably call me mom.
I know when I was younger something that would really irritate my mom is when I called her "mother'.
Do NOT take any calls when you are at work.
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Her BF is controlling? Yours calls and you hop in
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There has to be a reason for all these calls
I would think if the payments made on time, paid when they are due- what would a company call that often for? Do you have privy to that account to check it? Do you see the statements? First of all, they have laws about the calls all day long-you can put a stop to that. I have credit cards, my husband has credit cards- we never ever get any calls to ask us to pay in advance. I think something else is going on here.
Does anyone else keep getting phone calls
from 877 numbers and 800 numbers but no identifying info, the phone will say unlisted number, and other times the phone will say 000-000-0000 as the telephone number, and other times it will say private name, private number, and when you pick up nobody is there.
I've been getting these calls 4 or 5 times a day. I let it go through to answering service and nothing. Surely after 3 months of this they would get tired and stop calling.
I really have to figure out how to have these numbers blocked but in the meantime it drives me buggy.
annoying calls
I get them also, especially with all 000, very annoying.
put it to you this way--know a guy in is 40s who still calls it his bobo. NM
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I use only for emergency and quick calls. Pay $100 for yr.
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Nuisance 800 phone calls
Does anybody have ideas on how to stop unwanted phone calls? There is an 866 number that calls literally a dozen times a day, obviously computer generated as I pick it up and no one is there. It's incredibly annoying, not scary or anything. Nobody ever leaves a message, and it has me running to look at the caller-ID an extra twelve or so times a day, just to see that it's them again. Has anybody (or everybody) else had this problem, and how did you deal with it? Thanks!
Husband gets mad and calls me a *itch....
We have been married for 10 years. Lately when he gets mad I am reduced to being called a *itch. When we don't make love, it is because I don't want him. Does not matter what I might do, not cook for him, not turn on the heater this morning when I am supposed to be working.
I am an MT working at home. I have to work a schedule, which I fail to do, so I have to be more stern about what I can and cannot do because I want my job. Being called a *itch---what does that really mean. I do not view myself as a *itch but then no one does. I have read that it is a woman who is extremely disliked, spiteful, overbearing, and I am reduced to this name calling because it is something he wants to call me only because I did not do what he wanted and it made him mad.
He says that he is not in the mental state he should be regarding me working as at home as it is --just not working-- Yes, for years it seems I always work as I try to be with the family and as a result I get behind and have to work every spare moment I get and even then do not make my commitment. Okay, I do get fatigued, maybe depressed, but I love working at home and I know that I have to stick to my schedule. maybe 70% of that is my fault but a lot is from him as well wanting me to do things for him that he can do for himself. like wash his clothes for work, sometimes he does and sometimes he doesn't.
Well the reason for all that is to ask.... does my husband really hate me so much to call me a *itch. What really does he mean? I am not overbearing. I let him do whatever he wants. He did not have to work for years. Now he finally gets a job and he is all high and mighty about me and what I do and don't do. He can improve on things just as much as I can. does that mean you have to yell, scream, rant, and rave because he don't get his way.
He says the way to a man's heart is his stomach. Yeah, I have heard all that but does that mean you have to take it so literal. If we don't make love, it is because I don't want him and then he throws a big hissy. I am a man. My testerone levels get too high! he start punching the wall! okay, maybe we don't have time, maybe I am trying to get caught up on work and trying to balance all things, cooking, cleaning, being with my 1 child and husband and work.
Yes, I am reduced to yelling right back at him. Everyday I think I am not going to yell, but I do anyway.
Sorry, any advice. I feel we havea shallow relationship now. He gets mad and then I am a *itch. I try to get along with him and watch our shows together, then, later I get yelled at because I made time to watch TV. We make love, I think we are getting closer, and something else sets him off. I realize we have deep issues we have to work out, but I also think getting mad making the other person miserable is not the answer.
What does he really mean when he says I am a *itch now. helpless....
Thanks! My husband calls it porridge and
my 7-year-old LOVES it!!!
My son's kindergarten teacher calls him
that all the time. How old is the child we are talking about and the sex of the child/teacher?
There's just not enough information to give an opinion.
I just use the answer machine to screen calls - sm
if its a recorded call, it doesn't record. If it's a sales call, they rarely leave a message, and if they do, I erase it. If I need to be available to family members, I tell them to identify themselves in the message, and I'll pick up.
I use the answering machine to screen calls too--sm
if it is something important and they begin to leave a message, I will answer, otherwise I won't. Most of the time, they will not leave a message.
The do not call list is helpful, but not for everything. If you really want to take the time, you can answer the phone and before they start their pitch, tell them nicely that you wish to be removed from their call list. They are supposed to remove you. If they call back after that, you can report them to the do not call list and they will be fined for it. Also ask for the name of who you are speaking to. Sometimes two or three different people from the same place have your number and even though you ask to be removed from one person calling, the next may not know that and call you anyway. It took me almost a week of doing this on a daily basis and eventually the calls stopped. It takes time, but it works. oh, heavenly peace and quiet!
Not necessarily, many phone calls may have been made. (nm)
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Love my PJs. DH calls them my "leisure suit." LOL
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withheld cell phone calls
my son keeps getting crank calls on his cell phone all the time. I called ATT and they say there is no way to tell who it is. How can I find out. I know it has to be one of his friends. Now he is actually getting weird messages. Any ideas?? Thanks
hubby calls them 'health food'
cuz of the peanut butter and oatmeal -- he's always "needing" more health food :)
i don't understand why there is not a limit on how many calls can be made from 1 phone. I know D
register are set up to only let you in 1 time by either phone or internet, so why can't AI do this also????
I am sick and tired of the umpteen million calls every day
I am on a DO NOT CALL list and I cannot turn off my phone for another few days until the kids are out of school for the summer (school needs to be able to reach me in case of emergency.)
Today, I have had THREE organizations call me for donations to cancer research.
One call from the National Federation for the Blind.
One call from the National Firefighters Association.
This is a typical day.
I have caller ID but the school number shows private so when these places call and also show private name/number, I answer them.
How many times does one have to say DO NOT CALL ME AGAIN?
Criminy! 
Okay, I'm done venting.
Phone calls are defininely in order here first! Passed
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I hadVonage & experienced choppy & dropped calls. They are much like AOL
and if you do cancel you have to pay a hefty cancellation fee. Never again.
P.S. Before anyone calls me a bad mother or blames me for any of his issues, my other two children
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My father-in-law sends my daughter presents, calls her, etc. BUT
pretty much ignores my son. My son is 16 and my daughter is 8. They are both his grandchildren. He will send a gift to my son on his birthday, for Christmas, etc. same as he does with my daughter. But the presents are usually not equal in price. Then he will call and talk to my daughter and not ask to speak to my son or even ask about my son. He will send postcards when he is on vacation and address them to my daughter with my son's name squeezes in as an after thought out to the side. When he is in town visiting his mother and sister, he will bring my daughter little gifts and call and ask to see her, but usually never asks to see my son.
I don't have a very friendly relationship with my FIL as I divorced his son and the divorce was not an amicable one. However, when my son was little and I was still married, my FIL was very close with my son and treated him similarly to the way he treats my daugther now. It seems as my son has gotten older, my FIL has simply decided he doesn't count anymore. I think some of this has to do with my son being a teenager with a smart mouth who has been very vocal about the divorce, my ex, and his grandpa. My son doesn't get along with his father and he took my side in the divorce.
I really, really, REALLY want to tell my FIL off, but then he'll stop having any contact with my daughter and she's too young to understand everything that's going on. She loves him to pieces, but I'm also afraid that the same thing will happen with her as it did my son -- as she gets older and starts to figure things out and understand and become more opinionated, my FIL my just shut her out too.
It is really just a crappy thing my FIL is doing. If I confront him about he'll just feign innocence and act like he didn't realize he was treating them differently. So maybe my anger is just fruitless anyway.
The original When a Stranger Calls...at the height of my babysitting years. nm
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