When my mother passed away sm
Posted By: trose on 2007-07-26
In Reply to: The family of the deceased... - (sm)
the only thing she had specified was the burial service. My brother and I chose to have donations made to the church (my mother and my family all attended the same church) and the money was specified for youth programs. I recieved many cards, all were addressed to the entire family. They truely brought me some comfort. Personal messages inside are very thoughtful and truely touched my heart I still get them out from time to time and that also helps. I still remember exactly who called a few weeks later just to see how I was getting along, so definitely do that.
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One of Vergie's (Anna Nicole's mother) attorneys passed out. He said he is a diabetic. nm
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Best tip that was passed on to me was -
half price tickets for Broadway shows at ticket place in Times Square- go in the morning and see what they have available for the evening. Not everything available - but we was able to see 2 shows instead of the one I had planned for. There is a nice Marriott right there - pricey but it is gorgeous and very centrally located. We stayed at an older hotel - can't remember it now - we didn't spend much time in the room - daughter was in dance competitions and between practice and performances we only got there long enough to crash. It was really a bargain - clean but small.
My MIL passed away....
right before our 3rd anniversary, so unfortunately didn't get to know her as well as I could have, but she was a very nice lady. Her husband, on the other hand...well, my FIL has been very generous in some respects and in others, he is just a giant PITA. He can be so mean sometimes I could just scream. As he has gotten older, the filter between his brain and his mouth has deteriorated to the point that I think he needs a replacement. 
My husband has an older brother and his sister died 15 years ago  . We all get along well with BIL and his family. Our one nephew is at our house as much as our own kids, which is great. I always lived 2 hours away from my cousins.
My sister also married a great guy and we all go on vacation together with my parents every summer.
I think I'm pretty lucky! 
I'm sorry he passed away, but
you are right - it sounds like he died a very happy horse, cherished and doing what he wanted to be doing.
He was a handsome boy.
When my dad passed away very
suddenly at age 70 we were very sad and went through all the emotions of what you said. It took us a couple of days to realize what dad said to us for all those years before we planned a celebration of his life and everything changed the day we planned the memorial. Everybody grieves in different ways. Some cry, some celebrate the life the person lived.
My dad was a jokester and always said when he passed to just put him in a cardboard box and drop him (for years we were told this). He lived his life like he wanted. When we were planning the memorial for him, as we had him cremated, the funeral director must have thought he met the craziest family ever. I went with my mom to pick out an urn for him along with some other family members. Sitting there going through the brochure and just like reading a book I turned to the last page and just started cracking up, laughing so hard I started crying. I start getting kicks under the table, evil eyes from others and weird looks from the funeral director. They all turn to the last page and there on the back page is this dilapidated cardboard box and they all started cracking up with me. By this time everyone is laughing and crying and mom is saying "should I" - she didnt. That was when everything turned for us. Dad was probably looking down at us laughing thinking that we would do it. He was very vocal for years about how he wanted to go and be remembered and it took that one day to realize that for us.
Food should be passed to the right, or
counter-clockwise, For additional information on dining etiquette, please consult Manners 2000 Volume I Social Graces and Table Manners Video.
I mom passed away last September..sm
I cannot put into words how awful this has been. My mom was only 63 and not sick when she passed. She was my best friend...my entire life. I truely understand what you are feeling. I miss having her here for holidays, birthday parties, and everything else. This year on Mother's Day it had to be the worst day ever, as my birthday fell right on Mother's Day. I hate when people tell me she is in a better place and blah..blah..blah. Why is that better than here with her family where we all loved and cherished her? The only thing I know is that it does not get any better with time. The only thing you can do is take it one day at a time and always remember the love you have for them. I remember my mom everyday and cry for her and love her everyday. My heart aches knowing it will never be the way it used to be. My prayers are for you and what you are feeling. Take Care.
My dad passed away recently too
You say you think it is disrespectful to cremate and memorialize later.
Some things you should take into consideration. Did your cousin pass away far from home? My dad did. In fact, he was 1610 miles from home, on the road, with only my mother there with him. Options were limited.
Secondly, where is the family? All of us kids are on the west coast, my dad's family is in the mid west. As a matter of fact, my mom and dad had just sold their home here on the west coast and moved back to my dad's home town less than one month ago.
Third, who are you to decide what is the best for everyone? Our IMMEDIATE family has lost a father, husband, and grandfather. It is our choice and we are the ones who were informed of his wishes prior to his death, not our cousins, aunts, uncles, etc... How would you know?
I don’t like expired and also don’t like passed on
passed to where? Get this, our newspaper publishes Happy Birthday in the paper to people who have died years before - I did not think you had a birthday, much less a happy birthday after you died.
Gerald Ford passed away, he was 93. RIP.
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Angels passed by our home
only 2 months ago and my dad took his heavenly flight.
Only a God-called grandmother could love you as she did. The only way your grandmother could have ever share such love for you was first being loved by God. Paradise is her home!
My dad had COPD and was diagnosed with cancer in November of 2006 and sent home with hospice with 6 months to live. He passed away in less than 2 months.
He asked hospice to please not let him "smother to death." His last 2 weeks were exactly as you described. I had difficulty watching as he was administered morphine and Ativan because I knew the morphine would suppress his respiratory system even more. He was on oxygen but struggled with every breath. He began to conserve all his energy just to breathe. He was alert but spoke very little. He was given only water via sponge and all medications were stopped the week of his passing. My family and I were by his bedside the entire time, and every day he became more weaker. He asked that we pray that the Lord would come soon, and all this time I'm trying to convince my family that we needed to take a more aggressive approach (IV fluids and blood transfusion). Early morning on the day of his death he became unconscious. There was the most precious, sweet comfort and peace felt by everyone in the room at the exact moment my dad drew his last struggling breath and took his heavenly flight.
As 2 months have now passed, I realize the care he received was appropriate, and hospice was loving and caring. I just wasn't ready to "let my dad go."
May you feel God's presence in the sweet memory of your grandmother. Grandmothers are earthly angels from God.
food passed to the right but if someone is serving
Once, right in the nose and fell down/passed out
for a few minutes. Ouch! It was 25+ years ago by another girl over a boy, but unfortunately she was probably double my weight. My sisters weren't very helpful, they lifted me back up and while I was still stumbling around and seeing double said ''get her!''. Yeah, sure. Even the girl was decent enough to know I couldn't handle any more. So I took the loss :(
congress passed no law in 2005
Introduction
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U.S. and Canada (where DST is observed):The U.S. Energy Policy Act of 2005, passed by the U.S. Congress July 2005, extended daylight saving time in the U.S. by approximately four weeks. As a result, beginning in 2007, DST for the U.S. will start three weeks earlier on March 11, 2007, and end one week later on November 4, 2007, resulting in a new DST period that is four weeks longer than previously observed. These four weeks are referred to in this article as the "extended DST period." Visit MSN Encarta for more general information about DST. Canada chose to follow the U.S. change, in regions where DST is observed.
U.S. 2007 change in daylight saving time:
Previously DST started on: With the new law, DST will start on: Previously DST ended on: With the new law, DST will end on:
First Sunday of April Second Sunday of March Last Sunday of October First Sunday of November
Would have been: April 1, 2007 Will now be: March 11, 2007 Would have been: October 28, 2007 Will now be: November 4, 2007
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I passed around several transcription books -sm
at the beginning of a semester to a class at a business school for the 20+-year-old students to see various TX resources available and afterwards, one book was "missing". I was very surprised. Bottom line: The bookstore was out the book, and I hated the loss for the school. Actually the bookstore was probably out twice for the book if it was afterwards returned to the bookstore for resale by the student who stole it.
Michigan passed it and I support it.
I think anyone who is seriously ill should have whatever is available to help ease their pain. I know it helps with nausea of chemotherapy too. I think it should be decriminalized. People are killed every day by drunk driving or those who go into violent rages or blackouts. Most pot smokers will only get enraged if you try to take away their Dorito's! 
I agree....and pills are just passed out
Like candy anymore. I see people come into the office with a list of meds so long they cannot possibly remember the names... also, even though doctors claim they can prescribe 10 different meds for a patient without interactions, I worry about that. How can they possibly know that, especially when every human being's chemistry is a little different. ??
Farrah Fawcett has passed away. RiP sm
When I would walk down the halls at my junior high, Farrahs were everywhere, on nearly every boy's locker door. They even called the main hall "Farrahway" because her image was everywhere. I struggled to keep my hair like hers with a curling iron and a few cans of AquaNet a week. She was very much a part of my youth.
RIP, Farrah.
I know exactly how it feels. After Dad passed away, Mom came to live with me permanently.
I have 2 sons, one almost 21 and the other 8 y.o. and I can tell you it is not easy. Some may remember in the old days how some parents would keep their kids in check by scaring the living daylights out of them by telling them stories such as the boogy man, demons, etc. My Mom tried that several times and I did put my foot down, and respectfully but firmly told her that I didn't want her to do this. My 8 y.o. also likes to play with me like yours do, and he did try that with Mom one time and I got the same results, "he hit me, your son is disrespectful." I also told my little one not to "play" with Grandma like he does with me, especially in view of the fact that she does have severe varicose veins all throughout her legs (he calls them the worms on Grandma's legs, but of course never to her face). She also goes about the fat tummy, etc. I told her also nicely that those kind of comments even though not meant to degrade, children perceive them very differently than adults. It has boiled down to the point, that my sons basically doesn't interact much with her. I understand that as the "oldest" in the house, Mom feels she knows how the house should be "run" and what she says is the "law" but she also has to understand that she has come into a "new family." Yes, I'm still her daughter and will always love and respect her, and do everything I can for her. There is just isn't and easy solution. If you tell the children not to interact too much, then they take it as the kids don't like them or your turning the kids againt them. If the children get too friendly, then they are disrepectful and have no manners. Just take it a day at a time, big breaths, inhale and exhale.
Voted for your hospital and passed on info
to the officers of my Civil War Round Table. If I read the map correctly, ya'll are just down the road from the Andersonville National Historic Site. I hope they will either put it out as an E-mail broadcast to the membership or put a blurb in our newsletter. Our big auction to raise funds for battlefield preservation is Friday. I've signed up to make an announcement there. We may be up north, but we do have a contingent of loyal Confederates (smile) and some experience with tornados.
Phone calls are defininely in order here first! Passed
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Mandatory spay/neuter was just passed in Calif -
and although we already have too many laws, if we hadn't passed this one, no one would both to spay/neuter. There are SO many unwanted animals out there - often because people are too lazy, or too cheap, too uneducated about what really happens to most of these animals, (or all of the above). The mandatory spay/neuter doesn't include breeders (who will pay for a license), but helps to close down some of the backyard breeders. I once had a cat that was a beautiful purebred, confiscated from BYB who kept 100's of them in squalid, inhumane conditions.
Animal abuse was finally passed as a felony
and it should be enforced as such...for good reason. These "kids" would probably not think twice about taking a human life. It is well documented that people who will abuse animals will/and do all sorts of other criminal activity. To say they only need counseling and help is not right in my opinion. They DO need counseling, but they also need to pay for the crime they did, period.
Do you not think someone with repeated DWIs probably has a mental problem and has had crap thrown at them as a child? But you would probably want them to serve a sentence. Anyone who engages in criminal activity such as this or repeated criminal activity probably has not had a good upbringing. That does not mean that they do not serve their sentence though.
To compare hollywood celebrities who walk away from DUIs to this case is crazy. If anything, don't let them off cause the others are being let off. Instead, why don't you advocate that more is done in our justice system to assure everyone has to pay for their criminal activity. I do not think 3 years is too much at all. During those 3 years, hopefully they will also get the help they need too.
Daughter just passed her state nursing boards. Whoopeee!!!! (sm)
She worked weekends only while she was in school and had 2 children 8 and 5. Child support was fairly regular to the big tune of $329 a month. She did get state assistance on daycare for the youngest, her friend owned a mobile home and let her use it for free, just paying lot rent. We helped with utilities, clothing, and food. Her sister did the babysitting weekends while she worked and helped out while she studied at night. All in all, it was a combined effort and we are all so proud. She worked hard to get to the point where she can now buy a nice home and support her children on her own. So proud, just had to brag.
Estelle Getty of the Golden Girls passed away this morning SM
at age 84 after suffering with advanced dementia for the last several years. What a talent. The Golden Girls is my all time favorite show and I still watch it every day and never get tired of it.
Okay, Utah passed a law permitting college students to now carry guns. sm
I am very for this and think it's a great idea. Now let's see how many colleges in Utah have shoot outs like those in the other states. I bet shooters will think twice about going in and blowing a place up knowing that there are probably many people carrying concealed weapons. I would feel much safer in a Utah college than anywhere else.
Nah, and I NEVER pass on those round robin letters for good luck, money, love, etc. if passed on in
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Whatever my mother-in-law and mother are cooking--lol
we go to my in-laws for Christmas Eve and usually have ham and kielbasa (we are Polish) and then my mom usually has turkey or roasted chicken on Christmas Day
I agree - a mother is a mother and a daughter is a daughter for life sm
despite the problems they had, which i truly believe stem for anna's drug problems. obviously her mom wasn't too bad or she would not have raised daniel for a while. i think the mother wants her buried in Texas so the grave will be close enough that she can go visit it without having to come up with expenses of going to the bahamas to get there. although i contradict that too in poor anna needs to be buried with her son.
mother in-law help sm
Ok, so here is what is going on. My mother in-law fell down some stairs and broke her leg. She did not have insurance. She had not been to a doctor in 27 years. She has been in the hospital for about 4 days. They had to do surgery and things are looking good. She will have to have rehab for a few months, use a walker and so on. Well, guess who they ask to take care of her for the next few months? The "stay-at-home" mom who has all the free time in the world haha (not to mention I have a 3 year old who stays at home with me and a busy 6 year old in school). This would consist of me taking her to the restroom, bathing, changing dressings, helping with rehab exercises, not to mention working 8 hours a day and making sure my 3 year old doesn't climb on her. I feel bad for saying no, but I think that they should feel bad for asking me. She has 5 children. I feel that it is way too much responsibility for me to take on and that it absurd that they asked me. Aren't there facilities where she can go at least for the 1st month? Please help, just need advise.
And for anyone who wants to say "if it was your mother..." Believe it or not, in June MY mother fell down some stairs and broke her ankle. I was at her house every afternoon and we had people come in multiple times daily to check on her. However, the mother in-law is about 25 years older and the extent of the injury is greater. I would have never asked my husband to take care of her and help her do these things.
My mother-in-law
My mother-in-law keeps giving my Longaberger baskets for b-days and Christmas. She loves these baskets and has over 100. She visits the factory several times a year, (about a 4 1/2 hour drive) and often takes the female family members with her. These baskets are beautiful but I am just not a basket person. I don't mean to sound ungrateful, but these baskets are expensive and I have over 20. When I tried to mention to her as politely as possible that I just don't need any more baskets, she told me that she often changes hers out so she can enjoy them all. I would much rather have sheets, bath towels, cookware, or even a gift certificate for dinner. My hubby and I have been married 19 years, have to children, and have a very good relationship with my mother-in-law. She is a fabulous grandmother, but I am really tired of the baskets. Any suggestions?
I also have MVP and so does my mother...
so I don't know if there is a correlation or not between the two...
My mother's cat
looked like it had mange and when I asked the vet about it he said he had never seen a cat with mange. A friend told my mom that cats are extremely allergic to poinsettas and my mother had one sitting in the cat's favorite window. After she threw out the flower the cat got better very quickly. 
It's up to your mother-in-law to keep them in the
them. Your sister-in-law should not even bring them over there anymore in my opinion. If your mother-in-law's gate cannot hold them in for sure, then she absolutely should not watch them.
Your sister-in-law sounds selfish to me, so point out to her that it is unsafe for her OWN animals to be out running free, as anyone would have the right to shoot them if they were on their property threatening them. Maybe then she will care! Plus she (or you mom-in-law) could be sued if the dogs injure or kill someone or someone's animals. Not to mention they would have to live with that for the rest of their lives.
Having seen my own mother do a 180
since the death of my own dad 3-1/2 years ago and learning the hard way from things that have happened - I would just keep my mouth shut and say nothing and do nothing.
mother . ..
This may not be comforting to you, but I wish my mom (also 80) would do something like that. I think she would enjoy the company, and the activities. We have an awesome ALF here in our town; it's like a mini city!!!! Be glad she is making this decision for you and that you don't have to push her. She may benefit tremendously from this!!!!
My mother once said and she was right...sm
tis better to raise children in a happy divorced home than a miserable married one.
I divorced my kids father and within 3 years, all of us were in a much better place and now, 16 years later, this still holds true!!! This, I swear!!
I really have to believe that my Mother is up there
watching over her grandchildren. She lived for those kids and that truely was one of the things that hurt me the most when she died so suddenly. My niece is leaving for college in Aug. My son got his license and did very well in the state Forensics competition. Little things like that are the things that she would have been so proud of. I know my mother was a christian but I just hope that she is able to see us here on earth. Thank you for your response.
what was his mother like?
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My mother does this to me!
She does it all the time and it's infuriating!!! She interrupts my sentence by finishing it herself and it drives me absolutely crazy. I've asked her nicely, I've asked her rudely, it still continues and I have just given up. She's not going to change, especially at her age. Sometimes when she interrupts me, I'll just stop talking altogether and that's the end of the conversation. Try turning the tables and doing it to your boyfriend incessantly and see if he gets the point.
I feel your pain!!
For Mother's Day...sm
my wonderful DIL made me a CD from pictures of my two sons from tiny baby up to my older son's wedding (my younger son was Best Man). Her choice of music and pictures were all just perfect. I LOVE IT!
I wish my mother would be
I don't think I'd be so hip on her folding my panties, lol, but seriously it sounds like she has very good intentions. My MIL lives out-of-state and I wish she lived closer so I could spend more time with her. We all have our quirks. I would love it if my MIL or my own mother took the initiative to check my children's homework, etc. It would be different I suppose if she lived across the street from you but since she is that far away, I'd let her enjoy herself. Had she gone through YOUR MAIL or something private like that, I would be concerned.
My own mother does this
I have told her especially when H is here especially to knock first. She never seems to get the message through her head. 
mother
Do we have the same mother? You have to be my sister - I have a very wonderful mother. The only problem is, I cannot seem to please her - EVER. She is a person who is constantly doing and giving, so people think she is a saint. Only with me is bitter, hates the Holidays, hates the whole gift thing, decorating, etc. I absolutely love to decorate, but gifts, fancy wrapping, etc. I keep telling myself she won't be here forever, and try to "play nice" but sometimes could just scream "Okay, I get it - I will never be pious enough or frugal enough (unless the Q gets any worse) for you." Anyway, don't feel alone. I feel your pain. Have a wonderful holiday season and if you get any more frustrated, email me - we can trade frustrations.
My mother used this when I was a kid
and I saw some in the store just the other day, smiled to myself, brings back memories.
Of course, he does. But what would your mother
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Mother's Day!
 I met my daughter for lunch Saturday and it was great! Unfortunately she live about 35 miles away and traffic was horrendous. But all worth it of course. Sunday at church and hanging out with some friends - great weekend!
my mother-in-law and I SM
we actually do look alot alike, and people often assume I am her daughter. On the other hand, we are total opposites in personality.
If her mother was like this...sm
Then I guess she just inherited this disposition unfortunately. God knows why they bred this dog if it was this bad that they had to put it down 6 months after having pups. I hate you had that experience. I wish you could have had a good experience with your pit. But I understand.
what my mother always did sm
she sent us outside with disposable tshirts, to suck the goodies out of the pomegranetes. very staining and nasty for kids clothing, but delicious. it was a ritual.
I'm with the other mother...
If you don't like your grandkids, don't baby sit. I have a child, whom I think is wonderful. I resent anyone telling me that I am not parenting the way they would. You raised your kids and it is time to let your daughter do the same. I am sure that she is not trying to ruin her children. How would you have felt if this criticism were coming to you instead of from you?
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