When my husband started nights
Posted By: Twitters on 2008-10-21
In Reply to: MTs who have husbands that work midnights sm - country bumpkin
It was his decision to switch to nights and I told him if he did he had to go to bed when he got home and be up when the kids got home from school. Some nights he might take a short nap before he leaves (by short I mean an hour) but that was the compromise we made.
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Haven't started shopping yet, but have started saving $$$
Don't have an awful lot yet, but both hubby and I are doing it (separate accounts) so we should have a good amount when we combine. My goal is to start shopping in September after my daughter's birthday and finish by Thanksgiving. That's my goal. I have never reached it! Maybe this year!
And FYI, the thread we are posting in right now was one I started, you started the earlier one. nm
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working nights
I work nights, 11p-7a and sleep while my child is at school and it works great for me. I have no problem getting up when it is time to go to school for a function and then I lay down with him at night before I have to come to work and it works out great so far.
Last nights leftovers. BTW sm
what is hot water cornbread?
It's on CMT, Tuesday nights at around 9 or 10:00.
Hosted by John Rich. Last season they had Bobby Brown, Carnie Wilson, Maureen McCormack, Julio Iglesias, Jr., Diana Digarmo from American Idol, and some other people I can't remember. They live together and have to write a a country song and perform it before an audience. Julio won.
This season there's Sean Young (crazy), Lorenzo Lamas, Jermaine Jackson, Irene Cara, some girl from American Idol, and two other guys I've never heard of. They all live in a house together to learn to write a country song and then they have to perform it before a live audience.
that will give me incentive on bad nights (sm)
I use mine every night, too, and it's made a world of difference, but sometimes it gets really old wearing it. Remembering such tragic stories is certainly motivation enough for me. My sympathies to you and your brother's family; that's too young to die.
1 to 2 more glasses of wine some nights.
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Why in the world would I have to work nights?
How many people want to work, really want to work nights? First of all, it is very unhealthy for you- do you not know the link between women working nights and breast cancer? Do you not know other illnesses associated with working at night? I have never worked nights, never wanted to, never had to and hope that will always be the case. My gosh, what else do you want to down me for- now it is for not working nights? Ridiculous!
I haven't started yet, but have started my lists.
The only reason I haven't started yet is because of $$$. But I have started some good lists for the kids and the DH. I actually have some good ideas for him this year (he is hard to buy for).
I'm like you, I love Christmas but hate the commercialism of it. We were at Costco a while back looking for Halloween costumes and they already had their Christmas stuff out. They always make me feel like I'm already late on my shopping!
I may do a lot of online shopping this year. It's easier with little ones. My 2yo is more aware this year so taking him with me to buy his own presents is out. Darn!
It always seems that Halloween (my favorite) takes forever to get here, but once it's over, then the holiday rush is on.
Happy Holidays everyone!
Just bought Ŝ Hour Sleep" - used 2 nights - like it a lot (sm)
Bought it at Food Lion. It has valerian root, 5-htp and melatonin and some other ingredients. Works pretty well and I am not tired the next day.
Agree, let him do it, you will survive 3 nights a week - sm
without him. If he can get a cheap enough place it might be cheaper than commuting, and if work would/could help pay for it to that would be great. My DH travels a lot, though it is mostly day driving, his daily drive to work is a min. of 1 hour. When he has to go to the same place for a few days that is 2 hours away, he will sometimes stay 1 night to give himself a break (company pays). He gets a very sore back from all the driving and his left leg bothers him a lot too from whatever position he puts it in in the car. Our first two years of marriage I only saw him on the weekends as he was 2.5 hours away at work (we later moved there); I had no problem with it and still don't. I'd rather have him stay and be alive (accidents happen), then drive home just so he can be here and help me with the kids, etc. Yeah, it gets a bit hectic when he is out of town but I can handle it and so can you.
A&E Psychic Children, Monday nights, NM
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I have a 16yo son. On school nights, he has to be home by 9p. SM
On weekends, midnight. However, he is not allowed to be gone every night during the week. It helps that his girlfriend's parents and I are on the same page and when they are together on a school night, they are at her hourse or my house and that makes it easier to enforce the rules. Plus they do their homework together which is nice. My son when from failing classes last year to make all As and Bs this year. So I try to give him a little more freedom because of the effort he's been giving.
I bowl on Thursday nights so it's take out for the rest of the family - NM
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Grey's Anatomy & Hopkins - Thursday nights. sm
Law & Order SVU and Desparate Housewives. I usually use the DVR and watch them when I get a chance.
A few nights ago Jane Valez-Mitchell on her show
gave details on the extent of injuries suffered in the recent chimp attack. This woman lost both eyelids, nose and lips and both hands in the attack. They said she may be blind with serious neurologic deficits and is still listed in critical condition. My heart goes out to her and her family. Jane also said that some of the hospital staff are actually undergoing counseling after seeing the extent of injuries.
Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
My DD started at age 4, with sm
combo ballet and tap lessons, I think it was twice a week. The teacher was great, very encouraging, and did not give them more than they could handle. She loved practicing her steps at home. And, my heart be still, the recitals were just, well, thrilling. Adorable girls, in adorable outfits. Flowers galore from all the parents. It was so much fun for everyone. Of course, there were missteps, but they were absolutely charming. She continued until about 11, when she got interested in other things.
I just started again...
I used to do some kind of activity every day a few years ago and then got away from it and the wait has just packed on. So, I am back at it again. I have several Walk Away the Pounds DVDs (if you can ignore Leslie's annoying commentary, they are great) and if it's nice like it was last week here in central PA, I walk about a mile or so. One day last week, I did both. I want to get back into some light weights and also have a beginning yoga DVD.
Don't get me started :)
I have theories on the Jack/Claire connection too.
That was me until I started new job!
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OMG don't get me started!
Even my local newspaper gives me headaches. They're suppose to have proofreaders and have supposedly won awards and such but they definitely didn't get it for spelling. Maybe the ones giving them the awards can't spell either LOL
For example one year during the basketball season they misspelled "guard" the entire year. They would spell it "gaurd". Typos are certainly acceptable once in a while, I even had a typo once (ha ha) but this is an ongoing thing and not just with my newspaper, I see it on ABCnews.com all the time.
Why don't they Spellcheck? It won't catch all errors but it'll certainly catch all the obviously mispelled ones!
Oh don't even get me started.
Your story sounds sooooo much like mine. My husband and I married when his son was 5 or 6 and it was/has been a nightmare being his step-parent. I know my stepson was just a child when his parents divorced and he was probably hurting inside (his mom is a piece of work, that's for sure; she had little to no contact with him all these years).
I think my husband always felt sorry for his son because he was just like your husband--didn't discipline him. He always would justify why his son did something wrong or fix whatever it was himself so that his son didn't have to. His son called me horrible names (mostly when he was a teen), ignored me, said cruel things to me, destroyed things in our house, stole, started a fire from carelessness, and so on. He would lie to you without a second thought.
I had him in counseling for a while hoping it would help. I was at my wit's end. I knew we needed help. My husband never drove his son to the appointments, only I did. Husband never attended. It got to where my stepson was angry at ME for making him go, and eventually I gave up the fight and we stopped (it didn't seem to help anyway).
At one of the counseling appointments he told the counselor out right that *I* was the reason his parents divorced!!! HEllo! I didn't meet his dad until AFTER the divorce was final and his mother had already been re-married! I don't know what dream world he was living in, but it certainly wasn't reality!
Long story short, this kid hated me, and I didn't know how to deal with him. I had kids of my own with his dad and then had to protect them from my stepson because he would act out and hurt them if I wasn't careful.
This kid is now 18, dropped out of high school, and has been arrested. He doesn't get along with anyone, few friends, and still hates me. He still lives in our house and his father STILL protects him, treating him as a "buddy" instead of a parent.
I wish I had advice for you. My only real advice I suppose is NOT to have kids with your husband until you're sure you can make it work, or else you're in for a LOT of years of anguish. This is honestly the biggest issue my husband and I have--his son. It has caused me to run off to my parent's house a couple of times, huge screaming matches, my threatening to leave, and so on.
Lord knows I've tried with this kid, but without the husband's help, it's meaningless.
OH sigh......I could go on all night. Just, well, good luck.
So, I started
the new job today. Drove to my new place of employment. DH also worked today. Got home to DH glaring at the ottoman that Bear ATE.
Bear is not big on my working outside the house, apparently. I wish duct tape came in dark brown ...
that's what started it all
I tried to explain to her that I couldn't get off for a shower up there - and reminded her of what I am up against in terms of money - get this - my gutter is duct taped to my house. SIL accused me of making her cry and making her miserable. Heck - my daughter and I cry at commercials!. I've been crying all morning because of the poster below's cat remembering my cats. After he berated me in a way I don't think any son/daughter or in-law should to a mother I decided I needed an apology before I made any more contact with them. I was even going to take my vacation when the baby came to help cook and clean and do whatever they needed and they knew that. Not like I wasn't giving them everything I could.
The one that SS started.
FURTHERMORE (I should NOT have started . . .)
The cardiologists and hospitalists that took care of my mother quite appreciated that I knew her baseline EF, that she had chf, and could give a very detailed medical history to them and knew what they were talking about when my mother could not give them that info last summer . . . AND when I mentioned to my doc one time that I thought I had restless leg syndrome (which yea, I did) during my pregnancy he said, "how'd you hear about that already? Oh yea, I forgot you're an MT." So it just depends on who ya talk to.
That's what I started doing, too
I had 3 kids in school in various activities at any time of the school year and they were always selling stuff. I finally just started writing a check for $20 or whatever and sending it in. Much easier.
I started WW 4 weeks ago...
I actually NEVER cook. My kids are picky eaters, and they both are picky about different things, so we eat mostly TV dinners.
With WW, you can eat anything. You calculate "points" based on calories, fiber, and fat grams. You get a certain amount of points each day based on your weight. You also get 35 cheat points per week. If you are still hungry, you can earn points by exercising.
In 4 weeks, I've lost 6.6 pounds and I haven't felt like I was dieting even once. I wish I would have done their program years ago.
If you do cook, you can go on their website and use E-Tools to calculate points. You can enter your own recipe into the online calculator, and it will tell you how many points it is.
Right now they have a special where you don't have to pay the initial start-up fee and you get free E-Tools for $40 a month. That's what I'm doing now, and I plan to stay at it until I lose all the weight.
Good luck with whichever program you decide.
Just started Atkins
I started Atkins 2 weeks ago and have lost 9 lbs. Now before someone tries to burst my bubble I know it is mostly water weight. Is anyone else on here using atkins? By the way my starting weight is 390 I am 6ƈ''. Everyone have a great day.
Started to google but when I saw going here and going there
just decided not gonna read all that. First of all I think you and only you make your life happy or sad, good or bad. I do good for others and it comes back to me, always but I do because I want to, not have to. Life is in our hands and ours alone, not our husband, children, other family members.
I'm not the one who started the thread but
I posted a reply on another thread about infidelity. I told the poster that what she was doing was wrong, to take a cold shower and pray about what was doing.
Regina (yeah, she uses her name in her entire email address) emailed me about how wrong I was, don't have a conscience, and stuff.
I saw her name here on this thread.
I'm just telling her to STOP EMAILING ME.
My son started having migraines by 4..........sm
We didn't know that's what was going on at the time, but realized migraines were the problem. He played sports and these things would hit him out of the blue, sometimes brought on by being out in the bright light and just running a lot. We would put him in a dark dark room with no sounds. A cold pack really helped to shrink the vessels and would have to wait it out. An anti-inflammatory like Aleve might work better, but I would check with doc first because of her age. He's 20 now, but still gets one from time to time, mostly brought on by being out in the bright light for a long time, like when he's playing soccer or anything that keeps him outdoors in the light for long periods of time. Stress can bring them on also, even though there are docs out there that still say stress doesn't play a part.......yea, right!!! Obviously, they've never had a migraine. So sorry she's having to deal with this.
to each his/her own...started w/Lexmark 12 yrs ago
and different HP types, first was inkjet, deskjet, and now a laser of theirs (which I love and was very affordable but I chose no color this time as I only need black-white).
Like I said, to each his or her own regarding technical equipment; nobody's right and nobody's wrong. Being online 12+ years, I simply prefer Hewlett Packard printers (only). I would not buy their computer systems though.
Have a GREAT week!
I just started watching B&B
ever since Constantine joined the cast. The writers seem to like these storylines. Something similar happened on Days of Our Lives.
Well, the publicity started before her
and just continues on an apparently nontalented made up Hollywood celebrity. Her grandfather married Zaa-Zaa Gabor and Elizabeth Taylor was married to her paternal uncle so the swirl continues, and to not know Paris I would think is just another person being kept too sheltered.
I have no problems at all getting started
It's the middle and end I have difficulty with. After about half a day, I'm mentally exhausted and can't concentrate. This just started a couple of months ago and been working in MT field for years, but now at home for about the last 2 years. I agree with burnout and boredom. It has to be up there in the top ten list of most boring jobs, don't you think?
Melatonin - just started using (sm)
I just started using melatonin for sleep - had been using Benadryl every night. Guess what? I have had unrefreshing sleep for so long - this stuff has helped me so much. I think I have had a deficiency. I have felt so good two days in a row after using this stuff for sleep. I only slept about 6 hours last night but it was the best sleep I've had in years so I feel great. There are tons of web sites about the deficiency symptoms if anyone thinks they may need it. I just can't believe after all this time a $5 bottle of melatonin from the grocery store has helped me this much!
Any new medications started?
Blood pressure meds can cause all kinds of weird things.
Effexor and others can cause some weird things too for some people. And so can getting off some medications, even if you tapered off at a rate that should have been reasonable.
I hope it doesn't take long before they track down some benign culprit that they can correct.
If it is anxiety, I learned a lot from relaxation training using biofeedback. It was very helpful, so even that can be overcome in a systematic way.
Hubba started also here on Gab
If she is on the other, did not know. Yes, I know the names above, not new to this board, see it frequently, way past schooling for this lady. Thanks anyway.
My mom told us when we started to ask - sm
I was 8 and my older brother 10. My other brother was 13 but he never sat in on these talks, presume he already knew. I remember sitting in the kitchen with her and her telling us how babies were made. I did not fully comprehend until I was about 10 but had the gist of things. I say if they are asking, tell them, it does not mean they are going to run out and try to do it, they are just curious. My 2 know that you have to have sex to make a baby, though they are still not too sure what that is (they are 7 and 9) I have explained in basics to them already though they don't quite grasp it yet, but in time they will understand just as I did. I am doing more the "period" talk now as my 9-year-old is wondering a lot about that.
Even if I started out small
do you think I would need all that legal stuff - licenses, health inspections? At first I was hoping to make money "under the table" so to speak. I don't want to be a large corporation because it would be just me baking so don't think I could handle that much.
No I havent started it yet.
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Just started a few months ago
And I love it. It's very easy to deal with, since you brush on such a tiny bit at a time. I start with the big brush, then use the middle one to go over where I need more coverage. If you have very dry skin, I can see where it might be a problem, but that's not me. I do try to avoid putting it on heavily where I have crow's feet around my eyes, because I think maybe it does make them more prominent.
And don't let that video scare you - they make it look like you'd be putting on 40 coats of this stuff or something. I just use the basic color, some of the warmth and then the mineral veil. I don't think you need anything more.
I started working around 6 a.m.
It's just about 8 now. If it weren't my weekend to work, I would still be in bed, no doubt about it! Not a morning person. Need my ZZZZZZZZs.
I had started thinking
after telling my husband about it, he said that he would have smarted off at her. And obviously after reading what everyone has said, something should be done. I don't know that she is necessarily picking on my daughter, but they had homework the other day to draw a gingerbread man to put up at the school as posters. Well, my daughter worked diligently on hers and it turned out adorable, and the day it was to be turned in, I checked her folder, and there it was. Her homework. I took her to school today and there were other posters up everywhere that other children had done. It is THEIR JOB to double-check her folder IMO. Being only 5, she could have forgotten that it was there! I am definitely going to send a warning letter to the teacher in the morning, before it gets any more ridiculous than it has.
agreed. He's probably the one that got her started
on whatever crap she's been taking. He seems like an enabler, taping her while she was enbriated (huh???...I love the Soup)
I quilt, or I did before started MT.
I made a full size quilt and am hand quilting it. Have PVC frame and love to quilt, but not like I have time now. It is sooo relaxing. I do know people that send them out, however. Would think quilt shop could refer you to someone. You also have the option of tying the quilt, with the little knots of yarn or floss. You can Google this to get an idea how they look. As far as hand quilting, I use the stab method but most use the rocking method. Again google if unclear what these are. A baby quilt is a good size to start on. Machine quilting is tricky cause can end up with a bunch of material at the end of a line of machine quilting. A walking foot helps with this problem. My second mother was a prodigious quilter and was a huge help. If you can find someone to mentor you, maybe through the quilt shop, it would help. Oh yeah, and a quilt quild or club would be a big help. Again, quilt shop should be able to help you find one.
I have one who started out my neighbor
and became my best friend. She just moved about 5 miles away about a month ago and I miss her already. We used to see each other every day and didn't even have to knock on each other's doors. I miss her coming over in the middle of the night when I was working with hot chocolate. We can talk about everything. Our children are best friends. It's definitely not the same with her not right across the street. Our other neighbor said that neighbors can't be friends, but in my instance it couldn't be further from the truth. We're like family. We go out to dinner almost every Saturday night, and our family's have vacationed together. The spring and summer months will be the worst since we used to see each other every day. I'm really lucky to have her in my life. I wish everyone had someone like her.
I started this at age 19 -- 25 years ago
I don't know where the time has gone. So many companies, so many lines. My advise: Break it up, work two hours, then take a bubble bath. Work two more and then go to the beach. Get the kid to bed, then type two more. It's the only way I hold on to a semblance of sanity.
Realize that we are free from people, no boss breathing down your neck, free to go on field trips, free to take a nap in the middle of the day if we so choose. We're able to be there when anyone needs us. The best thing about this mundane, tedious job is the freedom.
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