When an invite says RSVP
Posted By: sm. on 2007-04-07
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It's good etiquette to respond even if you can't make it to the event, right?
Having a debate with hubby about an invite I sent out for a party, and now I feel like I should track some people down to see if they even received the invite. He says they probably did but can't make it. I think that's kind of rude to ignore an invite if someone went to the trouble to mail it you and included an "RSVP by" date.
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I didn't know I was being rude all those times I didn't RSVP when I was not coming. I thought it was just necessary if it was a yes.
You know, if I'm too busy to come to the party, I'm generally too busy to make the phone call and risk getting stuck on the phone. I didn't ask to be invited, so I shouldn't have to call to say I'm not coming. There is no obligation there. You all are silly. :)
I don't RSVP either because
usually the people that send me in an invitation pretty much know I'm not coming. Like you said, I didn't ask for them to send me anything. They should know if they don't hear from me, I'm not showing up. Anybody who knows me would know right away if I was coming to anything they were planning.
rsvp
I don't RSVP if I am not going. I do RSVP if I am going. I do think it is rude to not RSVP and then show up. That would screw up the event planning process for sure. Sorry people, but I have too many other important things to do than spend my time calling about all the things I don't have time to attend.
To All Who Don’t RSVP,
well bless your heart....Here in the south we say that when people do not know any better.
Let her invite who she wants.
She must be so proud and probably wants to see some of these people. JMO. Take it from me, life is too short. Let her invite some people. 
invite her
and just keep trying to move past it. Relationships take nuturing, caring about the other as much as or more than yourself -- lots of effort. You will be blessed in many ways and be happier with yourself. In this Christmas season, it is good to remember esp, that God forgave us, before we even cared about him. Now it is our turn to forgive others and show them the Spirit within.
Pop in the tub with him next time or invite him into the shower with you. Might
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Very rude not to answer an RSVP
If you are attending or not, should show some form of manners. People go to the time and expense to plan for an event, surely have the decency to give an answer.
Always RSVP - I hate it when people don't (sm)
because I always tend to plan for them in case they show up.
My college roommate was from a different part of the country, and she would always write "RSVP Regrets Only." SHe would assume you would be there if she didn't hear from you.
I try to always err on the side of being polite and respond either way.
LHS
it IS MOST rude to ignore any RSVP....got it?
RSVP newest craze sms
My DILs family puts "regrets only" after the RSVP as they don't want people "bothering them" on the phone. I hate this, why invite people you don't like? I love hearing from people. I've been on the other end when 20 people showed up without responding. Hate "regrets only" - lazy!!!
Married 23 years. Never an invite to anything from
siblings in-law. DH's three sibs go on vacation together, hang out, etc. MIL has always been a scared little rabbit, afraid of every part of life, and worries that the breeze might change direction, or that the world may come to an end. Both are equally horrendous events in her eyes.
We'd only all get together when I invited anyone over. Now that I've stopped, I never see them. FIL, who was a really nice guy, died last November. I haven't seen any of the sib-in-laws since then. I see MIL when she needs something, because the other three barely pitch to help their old mother. I'm sure that when she dies, we'll never see DH's siblings ever.
Invite boy to family gatherings and let DH see the
x
Invite everyone to your house to celebrate
your "first" family Thanksgiving together. For Christmas, you could invite them over, OR tell them you have having your own Christmas together and then just stop by for a while at each. You don't have to eat at each place just because you go over.
I don't intend to invite the same people
The way I understand it is the first few parties I have to ask people to host, who in turn invite their own friends, and then hopefully these people (who may or may not be known to me) book shows and then invite another circle of friends. I'm not talking about being the hostess and inviting people into my home.
I know what you mean, though, about the pressure to buy at these things. I went to different 4 parties this week because I had invited these people to my party and they ordered stuff from me.
Why would you send in an RSVP card
for dinner. The answer I would give is NO. I got an invitation to a cousin's wedding, someone I never heard from, her mother (paternal aunt), never heard from her either and I laughed and threw the invite in the garbage. Why would you even think you had to go or even respond?
Invite son's friend for day to they can "train" 1on1,
x
I wish you lived in my neighborhood! I would invite you in for some coffee and a chat!
I've lived in my neighborhood for 22 years, and only four neighbors out of 20 or so even look up and say hello. It's sad. Everyone is so busy, and a few are self-absorbed. I've tried for years, invited people over, simply waved and smiled. Hardly ever an acknowledgement. If you lived in my neighborhood, I'm sure we'd be friends!
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