When I realized while dating what lousy taste he had, I started buying my own gifts. Been doing it
Posted By: more than 23 yrs now! :) nm No Disappointment on 2006-12-26
In Reply to: Yup, I feel your pain, but I solved things this year. - Laurie
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Lousy layout. Lousy owner. nm
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Realized something else
I called those phone sex numbers again and went through the menu. They are actually datelines where you record your own little greeting and then chat with someone in your area. Just something else to make it even worse.
I just realized that!
Just yesterday I typed up a report in which the patient refused to be weighed! I thought, Jeez, why have I been obediently getting on the scale every time they tell me! Next time they say "You can get on the scale", I'll say, "No, thank you."
Ha! I feel so empowered!
Haven't started shopping yet, but have started saving $$$
Don't have an awful lot yet, but both hubby and I are doing it (separate accounts) so we should have a good amount when we combine. My goal is to start shopping in September after my daughter's birthday and finish by Thanksgiving. That's my goal. I have never reached it! Maybe this year!
And FYI, the thread we are posting in right now was one I started, you started the earlier one. nm
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Yup! I have finally realized it! SM
It's funny because she will always call or instant message my husband or I whenever she needs something! Just a few weeks ago, out of the blue she called and asked if my husband could take her to Home Depot to get some materials because they wouldn't fit in her car and we have a big mini van with a roof rack. I told him not to do it because she is just using us! It's so annoying!
The same thing happened to us when we got our new plasma TV last year! She came over and saw it and said, "Oh I heard those things don't last too long." She always has some sort of rude comment whenever she is jealous! I'm so done with her!
Also, she wanted me to try to get her son's girlfriend a job in transcription. She thought she could do it just because she could "type really fast." I told her that there was no way she would be able to do it if she doesn't have the proper training to learn all of the medical terminology, drug names, etc. Her response was, "Oh, she doesn't need that. She can type as fast as you!" I guess she really is just a jealous, disrespectful person! The sad thing is, she is much older than me! I'm 26 and she is in her 40s! Amazing!
I recently realized
that I cannot compare my family to my husbands. It's hard when you grow up with such different values focusing on basic things like the importance of family and relationships.
MIL was recently in the hospital with heart concerns and they just dropped her off and went home. This is the 3rd time her husband has done this. Atleast this time he called the children. It is beyond me why one of her 3 boys (or their spouses) did not make the 15 minute drive to go sit with her. I would have but I was working and figure if out of all those people no one else could make the effort, why should I turn my life upside-down to do it. I can't imagine anyone in my family doing that, even if it was something routine or scheduled. My sister is the one who told me to let it go.
went out shopping before I realized
I had two different shoes on - one tan, one black. What to do?
went out shopping before I realized
I had two different shoes on - one tan, one black. What to do? But my friend has a worse one. After going to the ladies room her skirt got stuck up into her panty hose so everything was showing in the back. She was out on a street when a guy in a pickup truck alerted her to the mishap.
went out shopping before I realized
I had two different shoes on - one tan, one black. What to do? But my friend has a worse one. After going to the ladies room her skirt got stuck up into her panty hose so everything was showing in the back. She was out on a street when a guy in a pickup truck alerted her to the mishap.
Because I realized it was a bad decision to move here (sm)
I had just had a C-section, we lived in an apartment. He insisted that he do the house hunting. I was at home with my newborn and my c-section recovery. He fell in love with this house and told me all that we were going to do with it. I was worried the road might be too busy but he assured me it was not. I agreed. Then when I realized that I had to have room darkening shades on the windows at night to keep out the car lights and run a fan all night to drown out car noises, and that he wasn't going to fix the termite-eaten pantry or the sagging floor, yeah, I wanted to move. If you call that selfish then you come live here.
I thought of that initially too, but then I realized just
how diabolical we women can be. Maybe she wrote the thank you note because she wanted to plant the seed, to shake it a up a bit because she's hoping the guy will leave the wife for her. She can then always feign innocent to the guy when she gets upset at her for sending the thank you note. "Oh, I just assumed your wife knew about the tip because you wrote a check, so I was trying to cover for you."
My ex's mistress called my home phone to thank me for letting him help her move with his truck. She was a friend of the wife of one of his friends. My ex's explanation was "oh, my buddy just talked me into to helping him help a 'friend' move. I had no idea it was a woman. I just got roped into it." Whatever! She was leaving her husband and he helped her move out! Little did the dumb broad know what I had written a suspicious phone number down off my ex's cell phone and when she called my home phone number, that number popped up. She was too stupid to use a different phone or call anonymously! I knew I had him caught.
One other thing I would do, is talk to her ex-husband. Find out why they divorced. Lucky for me my ex's dumb broad had an angry estranged husband who was looking for revenge. He was more than happy to fill me in on everything he knew that had been going on.
It may be that your husband has actually physically betrayed you yet and I hope that's the case for you. But still you need to address his deceit and inappropriate behavior.
In reading my post over, I just realized...
She probably didn't mean anything by it, but if it was meant to be rude, why should I even waste my time on the negativity? I have more important things to spend my time on :) I guess I just posted to help me feel better at the time because I was a little upset as I was surprised and didn't really understand it. Anyway, it isn't really worth my time and shouldn't really matter, and negative people really aren't worth time and energy I don't have to spend on them. Time to go back to work :) Goodnight....
I had the taste for something different sm
last night. Steaks and mashed potatoes with gravy were on the menu. I wanted something different than the usual for a veggie. In my frying pan, I took a spray of nonstick Pam, 2 tablespoons of butter, 1/2 onion and browned the onion in butter. Then, I added a small can of sliced mushrooms and browned those. After that, I added a can of green beans and a can of corn and some black pepper to give it a little zing. I sauteed that until just lightly brown and then we sat down to eat. The veggies were so darn good I ate the whole thing. Shame on me. 
I just realized that they are all lined up in order of their ages!
Max is the oldest (the one on the far left), and he will be 6 on Christmas day. Bailey (middle) just turned 4 this past summer, and scooter (end) just turned 2 this summer.
Sorry again - I just realized you were replying to a message from me, not "me"
Boy, this can get confusing. I thought you were replying to my message. Sorry for the confusion.
taste of blood.....
yea alot of people say that. I have heard it numerous times, but then I see shelters take in hard core fighting dogs & turn them into loving pets & working dogs for the community such as lawdogsusa.org so I believe this is a myth.
Yep that was it....Taste of Home...nm
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I think it is in bad taste and he should be fired from his job...
but I am not sure it is a crime. An 18-year-old knows what she is doing. To be honest, so does a 16 or 17-year-old. I certainly think that he should lose his teaching license, but it really is not sexual misconduct with a minor. She was not a minor.
I haven't started yet, but have started my lists.
The only reason I haven't started yet is because of $$$. But I have started some good lists for the kids and the DH. I actually have some good ideas for him this year (he is hard to buy for).
I'm like you, I love Christmas but hate the commercialism of it. We were at Costco a while back looking for Halloween costumes and they already had their Christmas stuff out. They always make me feel like I'm already late on my shopping!
I may do a lot of online shopping this year. It's easier with little ones. My 2yo is more aware this year so taking him with me to buy his own presents is out. Darn!
It always seems that Halloween (my favorite) takes forever to get here, but once it's over, then the holiday rush is on.
Happy Holidays everyone!
Loss of smell and taste
Thank you so much for responding. It is bothering me somewhat as when I mentioned this to my primary care doctor he didn't seem to think it was something to be concerned with, or at least that was my impression. I will be seeing the ENT doc on Friday and hopefully I can get some answers. I guess I will have to get used to eating food and not being able to enjoy the flavor. I also read on line about smells, spoiled foods, gas fumes, etc. Thanks again and I am glad you are doing well otherwise.
Loss of taste and smell (SM)
Hello all - I was wondering if anyone on this board has ever lost their sense of taste and smell due to an upper respiratory infection and/or chronic sinusitis. This happened to me about 3 months ago and I assumed I would regain my sense of taste and smell but I haven't yet. Any suggestions as to treatment would be greatly appreciated. BTW I will be visiting an ENT specialist soon. TIA
Great taste. My picks also! nm
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LinK - You and I have the same taste in performers.
Julian McMahon as your Avatar? I never miss a Nip/Tuck! How about David Boreanaz? I love Bones, and watch reruns of Angel every morning on TNT!
You have very good taste! My fav too, but left a $65 bottle in a
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You sound really young, good taste never
goes out of style.
people mimic good taste, but
I would have been really hacked off about that. I do not like my MIL at all! I would have blamed it on her haha. Ill share one of my many many horrible MIL stories....
When my daughter was little, it took forever for her to get hair. She had said over and over how I needed to get it trimmed. I told her we will but we make a deal out of their first haircuts, and we would do it. We lived 5 hours away. Anyway, my husband and I left our kids with her for the weekend, and when I came back, she had trimmed her hair. I was furious... of course my husband didnt notice and couldnt figure out why my face was 6 shades of red. He asked her about it, and she said "she is my granddaughter."
I have plenty more to share, but I have a job and kids to feed lol....
I agree but his taste in women makes me wonder!
Not at all, I just find that post in poor taste
which obviously you don't which is very telling regarding your standards.
Hand them a lemon to smell and taste and put sunlight on them
Unless you are buying it yourself, yah, there is.
Maybe he has an heirloom ring that has been in his family for generations. Maybe he just really wants to get something you that is a personal expression of his and his alone. If he's buying it, don't look a gift horse in the mouth! It's not about the ring, it's about the marriage...and marriage is gonna be all about compromise. Congratulations on the engagement!
PS--I had to buy our rings and he got to choose what he wanted and so did I.
buying a used car
What's the general rule of thumb as far as negotiating price? How much should I expect the dealer to come down in price on a used car? I stink at this stuff
Yep, been buying here! sm
Never stopped buying. Great time to buy in if you can. Money to be made in the long run. 
Dating
I am married and have been for years, so I don't have much insight into dating anymore, but I would be leary of dating at work, just because if it does not work out, it could be uncomfortable, but other than that aspect of it, have fun and don't be shy.
dating
What bothers me is that you say you recently came out of a long marriage/relationship. I speak from experience when I say it is NOT wise to jump right into something else - take time for yourself and your kids for awhile. JMO
She is dating him.....
not marrying him.
Maybe she was buying food for someone?
If your car is above a certain value, you don't qualify for food stamps.
She may have buying food for someone with their food stamps/food stamp card.
You have to be buying the cheaper
brand because at the QT close to my house, about the cheapest, in Atlanta, the price is $2.40 something for the brand I have to burn.
buying house with BF
Bear with me. I am not judging here as I do not know the circumstances other than you stated you and BF want to buy a house. I am assuming you are young, which to me, anyone under the age of 40 falls into that category! If and when buying a house comes to be, consider hiring an attorney to protect your interest, and your BF should do the same. Buying a home with a BF/GF is VERY scary. Will both names be on the mortgage? If so, what if one dies, becomes disabled, flees to Tibet to do lunch with the Dali Lama? The other is left holding the bag with all the financial responsibilities. The same things can happen if you're married too, but it's harder to legally resolve such issues if you are not married.
I don't mean to rain on your parade here! Just want you to think. Buying a house is so exciting but it's the biggest financial commitment you will ever make. You don't want it to come back and bite you in the butt years down the road.
To save, keep only one credit card and pay it off each month. That saying 'pay yourself first' is tried and true. Open an account and have 5-10% of every paycheck auto-deposited in it. If you don't have it, you won't miss it. Open short-term CDs with your savings. They are risk-free, you can access your money if you truly need it, and you'll get more interest than a savings acct. Do your research, stay away from adjustable rate mortgages,and buy beneath your means. Think of every worst case scenario you can and talk them over with your BF BEFORE you buy. This is your financial future you are about to change. You will be committed to a house/mortgage, but not to each other - legally.
OK - my doom and gloom post is done! Regardless, all the best to you!
buying a house
Wow, this is great info as I am buying a house too. I am wondering about one point though - my realtor did recommend an inspector that I set up an appointment with - is it absolutely necessary to find my own inspector?
buying home
Thanks AnnieM! You gave some great advice and some things to think about that I hadn't thought of.
I would tell her that I was offended and was buying elsewhere (sm)
I have learned over the years to stop wishing in hindsight that I had said what I should say to begin with. She is being rude and thinking you will pay her asking price just to prove to her that you can afford it. She is banking on you being offended and trying to prove to her that you can indeed afford it. That is a sales tactic I have seen used before - don't bite the bait!
I'm with you. I can't believe they are buying her story. nm
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Don't think people are buying it!
I have an ex-brother-in-law who is a compulsive liar and whereas we don't call him on the lies, they are a joke to us and we laugh about it later. So to the liars out there, don't think we're that gullible!
Need to know about cheese buying
I do not buy cheese but have 2 people on my list for presents this year that I would love to get some crackers and cheeses for. Do most cheese need refrigeration? I would think some would last longer than others, right? I can make this a 1 stop shop at Trader's Joe so need some ideas, anyone?
renting vs buying
Hi,
After I divorced some years ago, having had my own home at that time, and then having to live in an apartment, I recently opted to purchase my own home. You must weigh the pros and cons of your situation, particularly having children. I hated apt. living!!! You must consider that there will not be much room for your children to play. If they play outside, they will no doubt disturb other renters and consequently have complaints. No matter how good the apartment complex is built, it will always be noisy, no matter what. Being in this business, quiet is imperative and something I never found in an apartment. There is always someone or something to disturb you. You also have no privacy. I lived on a first floor apt. and someone was constantly walking past my bedroom window and patio doors. They cannot help but "peek" in and I hated that as well. I love bright sunshine and fresh air and refused to keep my blinds pulled. I did not feel that I should have to. Also, being a nonsmoker, I found it difficult to deal with those that did, what with their left over smoke drifting into my apt. on a constant day/night basis. I had a "nice" apt. with all the appliances, including washer/dryer, dishwasher, etc, plus a garage. It was nice, but after being aggravated by the 3 in the morning parties going on every weekend and sometimes during the week, and the managers not doing their jobs of shoveling snow, salting walkways, or mowing the grass and picking up other peoples cigarette butts, I opted to buy my own condo. I went with a condo because they do take care of the outside. the inside is your responsibility. yes, you have to replace things if they break or repair them, but to me the cost is minimal compared to the aggravation of living in an apartment. a down payment helps your bottom line, and of course, there are the closing costs, but you also have to consider that you get to deduct your property taxes from you 1040 at the end of the year. Each option has its pros and cons, but with children, i would definately opt for purchase rather than rent. but that's just me. these are just some things to think about. good luck.
Online dating... Have you tried it?
I'm thinking about trying this. What are your experiences? Which ones are the best dating sites? Thanks!
Online dating
Yes, found my husband on Match.Com, dated two years and have been married for 1 1/2 years now. I was very lucky to have found a good honest man. We are in our sixties.
The dating game.
I hate it and that's why I continue to be single and loving it. Knowing the simplistic mind and approach of men to relationships, think of it this way (just to put it bluntly). They are like boys with new toys. If they play too much with the toy, sooner or later, they will set it aside and forget about it. As far as "games," yes dating is a game, a "cat and mouse" game. The cat enjoys inmensely chasing after the mouse. You have to "dangle the catnip" for the cat and let him work for it. If the mouse does the chasing, then it is not fun for the cat. Many men have the same thing in mind while dating "hit and run" (if you know what I mean), as in "why buy the cow, when you have tasted the milk." You have to let him do the chasing. When a woman goes too much after a man, he just sits in his all mighty throne knowing that he doesn't have to do anything, but wait for you to come to him to tell him how much you need him. If he really has any real true intentions, he will call you or write to you wondering what you have been up to. There is nothing worse for a man that not to know what a woman is thinking.
When my hubby and I were dating we
went to a Halloween party and he spent the entire afternoon before the party dipping his hand in wax so it would have layer after layer of wax and look like a dead hand. Then he put on an oversized overcoat, wrapped his head in ACE bandage and wore sunglasses and a hat and really huge moon boots...(this was in the 80's mind you). Then when he got to the party he realized that he forgot to leave a hole open for his mouth so we had to cut one out so he could breathe, eat and talk. It was hilarious. No one knew who he was. It was funny....
Believe it or not a Dating Service
I was sick of meeting losers so I decided to take the chance. We were engaged after three months and married nine months later and will be married for 17 years in September. The first time he introduced me to his friends a week or so later, they told him we were going to get married.
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