When I (a non-smoker) would volunteer
Posted By: trose on 2007-09-16
In Reply to: Update on birthday party I attended for friend SM - In a cloud of smoke
in one of my children's classrooms I could always tell which children lived in homes where there were smokers. Not only from their clothes, but from their backpacks as well. My parents smoked when I was a child but quit many years ago. Even now I am embarassed by the fact of what I must have smelled like when I went to school. Sorry you had to endure the party, but now you will be able to stand your ground better and make wiser choices for yourself even it someone might be offended.
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If you are not a smoker you will be able to smell - sm
it on him a mile away. Obviously if you smoke you won't be able to smell it, and also the odds are he will smoke too (that is if you do). If you don't smoke it is possible he is telling the truth, as for punishment for having them the obvious answer is to withhold something he loves for a couple of weeks, whether it is TV, or afterschool activities, or video games, or driving if he has a learner's permit. Good luck.
He is both a smoker and a loser...
She's on the pill, has been for around a year or so...I'm also concerned about the psychological impact this will have on her later on down the road. I hate to know she will have to live with this regret, which I know will happen, because I've been there myself.
Note from an ex-smoker
I smoked for for 11 years. I quit 5/23/85 at midnight - cold turkey. I'm not going to sit and tell you whether you should smoke or not. Smokers know better than anyone how bad it is. I have nothing against smokers as long as I don't have to breath it in. I would get no joy in telling people they have a bad habit or its bad for you or cancer, blah, blah, blah (although some people do and I don't understand that at all). I think it is totally rude for someone to lecture anyone on their habits. If it was me this is what I would have said to your friends son. "You know whats more rude than telling someone they have a bad habit to their face, is to look into another person's personal belongings and comment on something that they shouldn't be looking at in the first place". Then if the friend said something to me about talking to his/her child that way, then I would have said my parents taught me to respect others privacy. Anyway...I knew when I smoked how bad it was for me. I knew that cigarettes caused cancer and all that crap, but it was my choice to smoke, just like it was my choice to quit (well actually I quit cos I was tired of arguing with my DH about my smoking). Honestly I do not like smoking at all. I am so against it because of many reasons. The main one being that when I am around someone who is smoking I just can't breath and feel like I'm having an asthma attack or something. Honest to God its like all the air around me is gone. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who smoke that don't care because they say "it's their right". I'm not saying you are like that but there are a lot of people who are. Second I don't like the way it smells and third is...well, it really is bad for you (duh....thought you'd like to know that if you didn't know already - HA HA). Anyway...for anyone to comment on another persons habits (whether good or bad) in my book is rude and they should mind their own business. For the people who do smoke yes there are a lot of obnoxious nonsmokers (I think the ones who used to smoke and quit are worse because they get the "holier than thou" attitude) - which is why I am so against forming an opinion about anyone. I'm sure when you feel the time is ready you'll quit on your own. I myself kept smoking for "spite" because I refused to be forced to quit, but figured my marriage was worth more than the cigs (even though I smoked when we dated those whole 2 weeks). So good luck to you. Try and not let the "butt-heads" get to you. (get it- "butt" heads) HA HA HA. PS - On a sadder note my mom died 3 years ago from lung cancer. Oh it was so awful to watch what she went through, so I really do hope you'll feel the time is right sometime soon to try and stop when your ready. I did quit by eating lots of red liquish (don't know how to spell that - Twizzler licorice - yeah think that's it). I held it in my hands like I was holding a cigarette. I told my DH I was going to gain a lot of weight and he said he didn't care how fat I got he just wanted me to quit smoking. 22 years later I am glad I quit (but it was a struggle for a short period of time - took me a couple months to get through the cravings).
I'm not overweight or a smoker,
and since I'm not an addict, I can see clearly. Smoking makes no sense, which is why people are trying to educate children, who then assume you don't understand the risks and try to educate you. Logic states that if you understood the problems tobacco causes, you would not smoke. That is why kids are kind to you and try to educate you on the subject.
I am a smoker (until my Chantix kicks in) already sm
lost 14.5 pounds and 14 inches, going for a goal of 25 pounds, that way when I quit, and if I can the average 12.5 pounds, it won't matter. I will still be down in weight and a NONSMOKER. However, I do not smoke in my house, other people's houses or cars. That is just RUDE. I at least have some decency with my smoking
Along with other husband, used to be very heavy smoker
and as a smoker you don’t really know just how stinky the place, your clothes, everything is until you stop. I do not think you will be able to get smoke out of the furniture, walls etc until it is no longer around. I probably would try cat litter, vinegar and water in bowls around the house, airing the home out if you can and I have boiled water and added spices such as cinnamon sticks - sure beats the smoke smell.
Is there a way to get smoker's smell out of a house?
I found this amazing place to live across from the beach (the only reason I moved to where I moved) that is affordable and totally decent. Two male roommates that are totally awesome, i have already been welcomed into their family (they are cousins). The problem is they have smoked inside the condo... I asked them about it and they said they had no problem smoking outside. Two questions: Is it wrong to ask them to? and second, is there even a point if I cannot get that smell to ever go away? I REALLY am trying to look into any possibility because ive been looking for months for something EXACTLY like this, i dont think it comes available often...
Thank you for any suggestions
they volunteer to dance; not where do they get...nm
Do any of you do volunteer work?
I sometimes volunteer at a local elementary school and help with phonics and reading.
It is really lots of fun to help little ones to learn. I have a friend who is a teacher and he says it surprises him that this year very few parents are helping out in the classroom. I just think its lots of fun.
I have also helped with a community clean up. That was fun to get to know others who live in your city/town.
how did you find out? did he volunteer this info?
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I teach English as a volunteer.
While there are immigrants here who do not choose to actively pursue learning the language via formal means, there are many who do. We have a waiting list of up to 12-14 months due to class space restrictions and a lack of volunteers. English is not an easy language to learn, and it takes time.
Looking for good volunteer project for 12 y/o daughter
Does anyone have any ideas for a volunteer project for a 12 y/o girl? or maybe even a group of girls. Most places in our community require you to be 14 for "official" volunteering, but maybe we could just do something on our own. It doesn't have to be Thanksgiving/Christmas related, but that would be okay too.
Thanks for the advice.
I wish I had more time to volunteer more: Call your local sm
Uited Way or Humane Society if you like animals.
Why is a parent volunteer in charge of the ESL child?!? sm
I'm astounded that this task is being left to someone who is not even a teacher, let alone not a specialist. Is this a financially depressed area/school that has lack of funding for such programs? Or a school that normally doesn't have ESL kids and they just don't know what to do with him?
Bless you for trying, I don't have any answers, just a dumbfounded look on my face.
I'm a volunteer nurse at the free clinic
I do medical transcription for money and nursing for free. I've been a nurse since 2001, and I sometimes miss people! Unfortunately, since I've upped my hours at work, I haven't been able to volunteer for the last couple of months.
Doing the free clinic is not like actual nursing work in that there's no backstabbing and pettiness, just appreciation. It's scary, though, knowing what medical problems people have been having for days and have to wait for the free clinic day because they couldn't afford the doctor's office (or the hospital). However, the doctors who do volunteer have the free clinic patients come to their real clinic for free if they have an issue that can't be addressed at the church where the free clinic is located, like drainage of a cyst or something.
Anyway, I wish I had more time for it. *sigh*
Laughing, HARD! Looks like a science experiment...I VOLUNTEER!
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Both my mom and aunt have had very good success with it. My mom, smoker for over 40 years, quit cold
turkey and says Chantix is the best drug out there - she tried everything!
I see that there are mixed feelings about this drug as with all drugs. Works for some and doesn't work that well with others. Sorry to hear about their experience!
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