What would you think?

Here's the basics.  Best friend and neighbor from kindergarten through highschool.  Grew apart with college but stayed in touch.  After college I moved out of state, she moved back in state - still stay in touch and email regularly.  I see her every time I am in town, if she is available.  She is got married in November and eloped in Jamaica.  She is having a reception in December.  I planned to come to the reception, take my stepchild out of school, etc. only for this reason and its on a Friday so its a 4-day weekend to drive there.  I am pregnant and not able to travel after the holidays.  My family decided to throw me a shower there that same weekend because I really can't afford to go down again.  They specifically planned it for Saturday night so she would be able to make it after her festivities Friday and any of her family leaving on Sunday.

So I saw her recently when I went for a visit and she said she wouldn't be able to make it to the shower but her mom is trying.  She then gives me a gift, not wrapped, obviously thrown together and tells me that she picked it up quickly on her way to meet me because she won't be able to make the shower.

It's not about money.  When I got married she sent me nothing, not even a card but she was just out of college.  I had planned to give her a $50 gift for her wedding.  I received a $10, maybe $20 baby gift of which 1 outfit is the wrong gender.  She was well aware we know what were are having.  This is my first baby.

My feelings are conflicted on this but the more I think about it, the more upset I get.  I just dont' know what to think.  Is it truely that she is just wrapped up in herself right now and the marriage moment and happily every after and (after almost 10 years) I am over the "marriage" thing being some huge, happy, perfect day and realize there is more to life?  I feel like she could have atleast planned to stop by the shower for 10 minutes and I wouldn't have had adverse feelings about this.  Or she could have even told me she planned to come and then couldn't make it last minute and NOT got me a gift before giving me something so half-a$$ like it's some sort of obligation. 

Sorry this is getting long.  I just can't shake this and need some opinions.  Am I clinging to a friendship that is not there?

• What would you think? - Best Friends Forever?
  • First off, you're pregnant - growing apart
    • I think you hit the nail on the head. - Best Friends Forever?
  • You could have this happen to you sm - my story
  • I have an old friend--or ex-friend really... - Kendra
  • I think the friendship indeed is still there... but - you both have grown apart.
    • I know I mentioned about the gift - Best Friends Forever?
      • I really wouldn't worry about her not coming - sm

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